Zoella

i agree

I loved reading your post, I feel just like you. I got weighed at school every term and the nurse would keep asking me if i was eating properly even though i personaly thought my weight was okay. I hate my skinny hands too and and can't seem to put weight on my arms or legs! I think it was a really good idea to post about this issue x

awesome post zoe! you are beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks! thank you for standing up for all girls of all sizes!

xoxo,

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It's great that you feel confident enough to post on a topic like this, and you wrote it really well.
I'll admit I'm guilty of saying to my close friends "you're so skinny!" but in my case it is a touch of the green eyed monster rather than telling them they need to gain weight or that they have a problem. I know that very slim girls have insecurities just as much as bigger people but I suppose it all comes down to not being comfortable with yourself. Of course, being a bigger girl, I've always wanted nothing more than to be naturally very slim like my sisters and some of my good friends…I exercise and try to eat a balanced diet but I still have a BMI that provoked the nurse to tell me I was 'borderline obese' last time I was weighed. It's very upsetting to be judged like that, so even though I'm at the other end of the scale to you, I totally empathise with everything you have said.
Sorry for rambling, I'm just glad someone had the courage to speak out about this!
Beth @ Baking and Brogues
xx

I've had this argument for so long, I hate people commenting on my weight.
I've even had one woman tell me that I will never get a boyfriend because I'm so thin, it's just too unattractive! I was only 17 at the time, and she was a grown woman.
Absolutely shocking that it's acceptable to berate someone for being "too thin".

I completely agree with everything you said. I have the same issue with weight and I get sick of people telling me to put on weight, I would never dream of telling someone to lose it! I hate my skinny, shapeless legs that everyone feels the need to comment on. Wish everyone would concentrate on their own health and leave other peoples' alone! xx

My best friend in school has pretty much the exact same measurements as you and she got constantly picked on for being skinny, people used to call her twiggy and yet being her best friend I know she used to eat all the time, more than anyone else I knew.

I've never understood what people thinks gives them the right to comment on anyones appearance, whether it be if your skinny or fat or if you have braces or glasses, everyone looks different and thank god for that because how boring would it be if we all looked the same.

I love this post and I think you are beautiful just the way you are, I hope this post has helped other girls, not just who are skinny but who have been called names because of their physical appearance x

great post zoe, the sad truth about it is that weight has become such a taboo, and people are quick to assume that skinny people just dont eat anything.
up until i was about 16 i looked like a lollipop, stick thin & massive head haha, i'm so glad i filled out! x

Such a well written post :). I don't think anyone has a right to comment on anybody else's weight, like you said, there could be plenty of reasons why someone is under or over weight other than they don't eat enough/eat too much. Your story about the nurse really hit home for me, my bmi is slightly over and I get the exact same treatment every time I go. So it's definitely not just you!
xx

I don't think other people should criticise anyone for what they are, skinny, overweight, whatever. It's none of their business! I know I'm overweight and I have chosen to try and slim down a little, but that is my personal choice and if someone else TOLD me to I would probably react the way you have! It is embarrassing when people tell you what they think you should do, you don't go round telling them what to wear or what haircut they should have so what gives them the right to tell you to put on weight, slim down, etc? Oh it just annoys me…but honestly if you are happy the way you are then excellent and ignore anyone who tries to impose their opinions on you! x

To be honest I think there is a difference in being too skinny and too fat. It's far easier for someone with a slow metabolism to lose weight than for someone like yourself with a high metabolism to put it on. My dad was identical when he was younger, went to the doctor and they tried all manner of things, protein shakes, you name it and he just couldn't put weight on.

You shouldn't feel you have to answer to people who keep questioning your weight, jealousy makes people say horrible things to make themselves feel better.

You're gorgeous, not everyone will accept that but insulting you won't make them pretty and it sure as hell won't make you ugly!

x

This is EXACTLY my story Zoe! I was 5'8 at 13 years old and a size 6 stick insect so I got all the anorexia comments. I don't get it any more thank goodness because in the last few years I have somehow developed an hourglass shape so no one can call me anorexic with hips and boobs the size of mine! It used to infuriate me too though, as you say, it's unacceptable to call someone fat but somehow not skinny. x

I think the only time it is ok to comment on someones weight (even if it will hurt the person) is when you are very close to them and have known them for a number of years. If they drop weight suddenly or also put on weight suddenly then someone close should ask them if they need any help because they may not be getting it if there is a problem. Most people will have someone in their life that can do this for them so if you are not that close person then no they shouldn't comment.

I am suprised a nurse would say that actually, in that line of work she sould know that there is very large variations in BMI and its not a very accurate way of calculating health. Especially if you are exactly the same weight as you were before.

M – Even Artichokes Have Hearts ♥

Totally agree! This is a subject nobody ever picks up on and well done for posting about it!
I get fed-up of stereotypes!

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i completely 100% agree. i've always been on the bigger side my whole life and it's never really bothered me. obviously some days i get a but down about it but i've always been happy so i don't think there's much reason to change.
at christmas my gran overheard me talking to my cousin (who's a doctor) about a couple of health issues and my gran immediately came over and started blaming everything on my weight and that if i lost a few pounds i wouldn't have these problems etc even though my own doctor said they weren't weight-related at all. it's ridiculous!
as long as you're happy with the way you are then that's all that matters :)) xxx

Zoe you are perfect the way you are, everybody’s bodies are different and people should take that into account. Just remember the people who are saying/asking these questions, are probably just jealous or unhappy with their own bodies.
It’s a private matter and as long as you and your family know you are healthy, it really is no one else’s concern. I really do hope this stops now you’ve addressed it xx

great post, i think its pretty important also talking about the skinny people in the world how they feel when they get treated like that. i need to say, i truely love your face! it seems to be always happy

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I totally agree with your post! Although, in my head im still like 'ugh, i wish i was her, and she could be me!' ; I think it always just comes down to people being insecure in themselves. I think a lot of the people who ask you your weight would be girls who are wishing they were thinner,, i mean i often see people and think 'gosh what a lovely figure I wonder how much they weigh?' which is totally ridiculous because body composition varies SO MUCH between people. My weight fluctuates between the 'healthy zone' and the 'overweight zone'. Which I know, I could probably lose 5kg or so (lazzzyyyy!) but overall I have a very athletic and muscular figure and weighed the same as you when I was 11 (not even joking). That may seem like a lot to you but I was actually a state athlete so was by no means overweight. I also find it stupid when people ask what size others wear.. i mean really what does knowing a number achieve? There are plenty of girls I know who would have a much larger fat% than myself but are 2 sizes smaller.

Overall, I totally agree! I know why I weight what I weigh; i love food and I have a naturally large athletic and muscular figure. And ok, I do wish I had your metabolism! But weight is really irrelevant because someone like me idolising your weight and weighing 20kg less that I do now would be ridiculous! People just need to like what they see in the mirror and know that they are healthy by their own measurements!

Great post, sorry this was long! x

I know exactly how you feel. I hate going to the docters to renew my pill etc cos every time I go they give my jib for my BMI. Exactly, who cares if it's slightly under, it's just the way my body is and always has been, I have never tried to diet or anything like that and I eat whatever the hell I want and it has always been under, I can't help it if I have a high metabolism, I don't get why it's such a huge problem! I was even refused the pill once because the nurse said she didn't think it was safe enough for me to take it because of my slightly below averave BMI! :O The cheek! And I have had many a customer at work telling me I look to thin and boney, I'm really not, I that it is pretty rude for someone who doesn't even know me to say that :(

Love the way you look lovely, don't let peoples silly comments put you down :)

Sorry for the absolute essey of a comment :s I just really agree with everything you said! :)

:)

I really, really enjoyed reading this post, you wrote it so well. I am so with you. On the other side of the coin, I get it with my hair and skintone. People always go 'Oh my gosh, you're SO pale, are you ill?'. No, I'm just pale, it's natural. And then people obviously make cruel comments to redheads all the time, and not to any other hair colour, so I totally relate to this post, but in all areas of discrimination.

And of course, you're beautiful my dear!

xoxo

what a crackin' post zoe!
I have to take steroids for a bowel condition and they make me really bloated and she you get whats known in the trade as a 'moon face'-sounds attractive right? i get so many people coming up to me and going 'why is your face so round?' and people pointing at me and calling me chubby and i'm like 'excuse me but i have a serious bowel disease and im taking steroids which is making my face massive'…i can't understand why people think its ok to walk up to someone in the street and question them about thier apperance when they have no idea about the in's and out's of someones life. if that person didnt have a complex about thier apperance before they bloody will have now!
anyway, fab post, i think your looking gaw-geous!
xxx

I agree with you but I think you need to be able to comment on people's weight, and here's why:
If you had a friend and you were worried about her weight, are you really going to sit there and keep your mouth shut when she could be ill and lying to you/her parents about her "fast metabolism" or "small bones".

We can't shove eating disorders under the carpet by not talking about them. Women hide their disorders all too well, so we need to be able to talk about weight frankly. If it helps one person stay alive, its worth it.

Hey Zoe! I love this post i totally agree with you. The media these days is no help, they encourage everyone to be critical of other peoples' weight and intrude in others' business without any other consideration to the person except their own narrow perception of physical beauty, which everyone feels they must live up to despite their personal health.
Your post is very refreshing and encourages others to be open minded.
Personally, I would kill for your body type hehe :) Just own it, and theres no way anyone else could hate on you for being happy. Kindergarten basics- they're putting you down because they're jealous!

Lots of love from Australia!!

Natasha xx

Until I was about 17, I was very skinny. I would get the odd comment saying I was anorexic but it never bothered me because I knew I wasn't; I ate a ton!
I hated being skinny. There's being slim and then there's being straight up and down, no curves. At 12, I was 4 1/2 stone.
From 17, I filled out and although I'm still slim, I have curves.
I'm now 5 ft 8 and weigh around 8.6 stone.
I'm glad I finally have boobs!

I think society thinks it's acceptable to call some skinny because in the Media, skinny is viewed as acceptable. Super models are skinny so society lead by example. But I agree, a skinny person can be just as insecure about their weight as an obese person. If you're happy, I don't see a problem.

x

So glad you wrote this post! I'm the same, it's not so bad now though because I've evened out, when I was 14/15 people used to call me anorexic which I got quite upset about. I used to go home and eat all the junk food I could get my hands on but it did no good.
The whole BMI thing gets on my nerves as well, doctors don't seem to see the bigger picture.
x

I was eating junk food for the last half and a year and i lost a lot of weight but that's not healthy for your body. Eating crap doesn't mean you will put on weight, it means your cholesterol, liver, uric acid is going to be worse. I think you should go to the doctor and ask a diet but to gain weight just i case you want to add some kilos :)

I agree, although I've never really considered that "skinny" girls go through that type of torment as "fat" girls do. I hate BMI's. I'm slightly above it, have been my whole life and I remember being little at the pediatrician and the nurses/doctors grilling me because I wasn't the perfect BMI for my height. It's not fair, for any of us, whether we're too skinny or too overweight.

First of all, what a frickin’ fantastic post. In danger of sounding patronising (I swear I don’t mean to be), you have a great head on your shoulders. Being a blog follower of yours for some time, I THINK you’re nearly 21? Well, I’m 24 and I 100% empathise with you. The only reason I state our ages is because a few years ago I was in EXACTLY the same position. I’ve been on the contraceptive pill for several years and every time I went to get a repeat, my doctor would do my weight as standard (I think they’re actually meant to as well as blood pressure?) and she would always make a “hmmm” type sound before pointing at the BMI chart and informing me I was in the ‘underweight’ category. To which I would tell her the same as you’ve commented on – that I eat VERY well, if not too much on the jaffa cake diet side of things, and that I just did not put on weight. My mother was the same when she was younger; it’s in the genes baby!
Anyhow… fast forward a few years down the line and, actually, I have put on weight. At a steady pace I may add, I haven’t been on a mad woman binge. I have far more junk in my trunk and wobbles on my belly and I’m around the 8 and a half stone mark now. Then again I am a lazy so-and-so who does minimal exercise and my job is your typical 9-5 office-based scenario with little scope for active-ness. What I’m trying to say is based on the fact your body type and habits have matched mine thus far… chances are over the next few years you’ll match up to my size 10 from size 6/8 transition!
xx

well said! for the record zoe, i think you are absolutely beautiful!

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Such a good post, I totally agree! I also have a very quick metabolism and never ever gain weight. Personally it's something i'm happy with and that has no effect on me. I'd like bigger legs too but it doesn't bother me too much. You're so right when you say people seem to think that calling someone skinny can never be an insult. So inconsiderate to make those sort of comments without knowing peoples backgrounds and things. If only the world was full of more people with your same view on this! xxx

For anyone to point out your weight for being too "skinny" is probably through jealousy, and when people point out someone for being "fat" it's usually to take the attention away from something they hate about themselves!

Only insensitive, nasty, ignorant and unintelligent people point out what they think to be "flaws" on others.

You look lovely just the way you are. As long as each and every one of us look in the mirror and think "yeah, I'm not so bad after all" whatever your dress size or weight then forget what any other person's opinion is :-)

Dayner @ Mozzypop x

That's actually the same with me! But I love it when people say I'm skinny or too skinny, because I know I don't have an eating disorder or anything so it's fine!

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You´re 100% right. I think the general obssession with weight (skinny or fat, doesn´t matter) in this society is mental and utterly unhealthy. As long as you don´t fit into all those tables and have the right BMI, you´re weird and you get questioned for either being too skinny or too fat. I´ve never had a problem with putting weight on, but I know a few people who did and I know it´s as bad as trying to lose extra kgs. What could help is eating a lot of proteins and carbohydrates (now healthy ones, honey, dark chocolate, fruit and stuff like that) and exercise a couple of times a week but no cardio! Either reasonable weight lifting or a relaxation exercises like yoga, pilates…swimming should be good as well. just no running, no cross trainers, no aerobics. If you are really concerned then you should maybe think of seeing a specialist. I know it´s pain in the arse but I suppose some of them would be able to help. With proper exercise, you can even influence where is the gained weight going to go. Now I realise this is probs easier said than done but it´s just a little tip.
Overall though, I totally agree with what you said. NO one has the right to comment on someone else weight/lifestyle/whatever. People are obssessed with expressing their opinions but they hardly ever care what impact it´s going to have on the person addressed. It´s all the same old story of people minding someone else´s business.
I´d just say, as long as you´re happy, don´t worry about what people say. Just make sure you stay healthy and happy and all is going to be well x

I'm by no means fat but also not skinny. I'm just sort of slim/normal sized but I want to be thinner. I hate my legs/thighs and I'm doing anything I can to slim them down. But you're right. I never really considered how a very thin person would feel about their body. I supposed that they loved it because I would love to be skinnier. Girls are always going to dislike their bodies I suppose :| x

i too have a fast metabolism and i am 14. i think i can relate to your younger self because although i like having a unflabby stomach and skinny legs, i desperately want the shapely boobs of my friends. i am really happy the way i am though :) (for the most part)

great post zoexxx

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I know exactly what you mean Zoe, I hate the word skinny, but I get so many comments on blog posts and questions on Formspring asking me my weight, my height and what size clothes I wear. It's really quite odd that people enjoy knowing those things about other people. It isn't nice to be called skinny and get all of the anorexia comments and no, you're right people wouldn't dare comment or say anything if it was someone who was over weight rather than under. One of my best friends is a bigger girl and it's always me that when we're on a night out gets comments such as 'You shouldn't be allowed out looking like that, you look anorexic…' the same person would never turn to my friend and say 'You shouldn't be allowed out looking like that, you're too fat..' People need to realise what they're saying and asking can really hurt and affect people. Great post! x

its weird,im going through the exact same thing 'super super metabolism,skinny,teeny,and exactly as you said ''where is everything?!'' and i eat like a horse,but i eat when i want,im then given small portions of food because i 'look' like i eat small portions.and i hate looking 11 when im just hitting 15,i hate it.people always make me feel awkward when they are looking at me like 'your so skinny its not fair' i just dont know how to make them feel better :(

I really loved reading this, great post. I can totally understand where you're coming from, because I was in the same boat as you until fairly recently. I've always been very thin, and it's totally genetic – I used to love to play dressing-up in my mum's wedding dress and it was a perfect fit when I was about 10! I ate what I fancied, but never seemed to put any weight on.

My friends thought it was great, but were so lovely and never made a fuss about it, but there were so many people at school who were just VILE. I was called Hannah-rexia for a long time, and I could here people in other years whisper about me as I went past. I hated it, too. Luckily, I've starting filling out over the last couple of years, and finally felt the need to do a bit of exercising here and there.

I still eat what I like though. You can't take my cake away from me…

Amazing post Zoe, I agree with you 100%, it is so unfair that it is seen as socially acceptable to question a skinny person about their wegight but not a fat person! + For the record you'd look bloody gorgeous whether you were a bean pole or a beached whale!<3

To be honest I think your very lucky to have a constant weight, whatever it is. Yoyoing is pretty tough, so staying the same without much effort is good imo.
As for the nurse, as she'd never met you before she was probably worried that you had an eating disorder, and of course those things aren't healthy and can really make people ill. She was probably thinking more about your benefit rather than trying to offend you, as a lot of the time people with such disorders are depressed and can become mentally unstable and suicidal and I doubt she would want that.
Calling someone skinny is seen as a compliment by many, as it's something a large amount of the population strive for. If someone called me skinny id be very happy, because to me it's a compliment and it's the same for many people. You don't really think about it the other way around unless your in a situation like yours. As for 'too' skinny, some people may be worried, and others may be jealous. They may want to be your size, and in you getting bigger it might make them feel better.
I would say don't worry too much. Care more about what your friends and those close to you say rather than strangers because they know nothing. If your worried about being unfit, try doing weights instead of cardio because that builds muscle more than burning fat.
Above all just make sure your happy with how you are :)

Such a brilliant post, I admire you for being so honest and open.
I think you look perfect, i've always envied your figure!
Don't let people get to you, you are who you are and YOU know you don't have a problem :)
xxxx

I have the very same problem. Made junior high/high school really awkward. Everyone just assumed I was anorexic or bulimic even though they saw me eat frequently. It's really insulting when people comment on your weight and I wish people didn't feel the need to do it so frequently. It's funny whenever someone talks about how skinny you are and you mention that you are trying to put on pounds and they get this really knowing 'oh right' look on their face like they don't believe it. Sigh.

i couldn't agree more, i have a ridiculously high metabolism as well! everyone assumes it must be amazing to not have to worry about 'being fat' but its awful being skinny and not being able to do anything about it.
it's so much harder than people think, especially when they constantly ask you if you're eating properly! i would give anything to have a bit of shape and 'more meat on my bones'!
this is such a good post xx

This post has made me smile a lot, I get called 'skinny' pretty much everyday by various people, even if im in town, people just stare at my legs, its very uncomfortable. Im 14, nearly 15 and i have been skinny ever since i remember…

'Megan, i need to take you to McDonnell's and make you eat something' Like i dont eat? i eat more than the person thats saying it, i pretty much eat anything but i eat it way too much rubbish, like you said im very unhealthy too which i dont want to be but if i just eat healthily all the time then i will be even more skinnier than i am now.

Im so glad you posted this, now i know its not only me that is going through with it… Thank you!

Megan x x x

This is a really great post! I can totally relate to a lot. I'm not super-skinny, and I guess I have about an average weight, but there are still a lot of things I don't like. I'm thinner than some of my friends (who are by no means fat) so therefore get made to feel insanely guilty when I complain about my body, just because I'm a little thinner than them. Your right that some people just don't get how hurtful stuff like this can be! I agree that being thin is not the same as being healthy. I do no exercise and eat really badly! Sigh. xx

I know exactly what you mean. I have the same problem. I am naturally slim and people are SO rude about it. It makes me so self concious. In fact, the people I work with make some many comments to me that I have started eating my lunch in my car instead of the staff room as every single day somebody will make a comment. If I said to a fat person 'why are you eating that? isn't that too much food! no wonder you are so fat' then I would probably get fired for bullying but it seems its ok when it's the other way around.

But Zoe you are gorgeous, just hold your head up high and don't let their rude comments get to you!

I love your blog and think this is a great post. I have a pretty high metabolism too and never seem to notice myself gain/lose weight ever, no matter what i eat. Certain areas of my body i hate though, like my wrists. I would love to gain weight on them because i just think they look so skinny and bony. Also, a friend once mentioned that my legs were really skinny which offended me. It's exactly like you said, you wouldn't tell people their legs looked fat would you?

I dont know if you read all your comments, but I havent read any others.
Just wanted you to know i let out a big sigh. I'm 5ft2 and I'm 6 and a half stone.
Your probably thinking I'm brown nosing you to get another follower, but I can tell you that I have always hated the way I look.
My legs are like "birds legs" according to my old boss who decided to tell me that infront of the whole team.

The common one for me is "famished".

Well I'm glad you posted it – word of advice- when people ask if I eat I normally say "have you considered a nose job?" or "have you always had 2 chins"

Yeah, well thanks.
xx

Next time someone asks me these questions, I am sending them to this page. My experience was EXACTLY like yours and I am still getting those ridiculous questions. Thank you so much for posting this! I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets annoyed by those comments!

Ok, this blog post = my life! Almost.

I used to be about the same weight as you but I'm a couple of inches taller and all I ever got from people was "you must be anorexic", "you don't eat properly", "ew you're so skinny". I mean, my best friend at the time was fat and I never bloody said anything about her weight!

Just like you, I used to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted… and basically I used to eat shitloads because I didn't want everyone looking at me and thinking that I was anorexic. I didn't like being super skinny, I wanted to gain weight. Eventually I ended up seeing a Health visitor who recommended that I drink smoothies but I hate smoothies so that didn't really go anywhere…

AND, again, like you, if I ever gained weight it never went on my legs. I hated my thighs, they were so skinny and made my bum look bigger and they just looked really out of proportion.

My metabolism now seems to have slowed down quite a lot and I'm now around 1 and a half – 2 stone heavier. I used to work in a hotel and the kitchen was in the basement so there was endless trips up and down stairs and it really toned and shaped my legs. So maybe you could do step aerobics or something? My thighs have got chunkier and I really feel so much more comfortable. I don't get people asking me constantly if I'm eating properly now and it's so nice. Almost a relief. I still eat whatever I like and I very rarely work out these days.

My boyfriend is quite skinny too and he wanted to gain weight so he asked this man that's into all this nutritional stuff how he could do it and he basically said to eat every two hours… like proper food like pasta, sandwiches, soup, whatever as long as it's not junk… he also said to eat loads of eggs! (He told my boyf to eat 4 slices of toast and 6 eggs for breakfast everyday but that may be a bit extreme…).

Anyway… I definitely think people should think before they comment on how skinny someone is, it can be just as hurtful as calling someone a fat cow! And for the record, I don't look at you and think you're skinny, I think you're 'slim' and that's beautiful. xx

i just wrote the biggest ass comment and blogger 'couldn't complete your request'

basically, i disagree. i think that if your BMI was overweight or above average i'm pretty sure the doctors would ask you whether it runs in the family or not. i couldn't imagine them not asking one 'awkward' question that would potentially save your life when it comes to illnesses that may be caused by the overweight-ness, than leave it without saying anything.

well said! amazing post! i'm just like you and it's hard! that's what i think when someone asks me why i'm so skinny. these people never tell fat people to lose weight it's just not polite! thanks!

This has got to be one of the best if not the best post i have read!!
i agree with everything you said, i always get that and coming from a portuguese background i am automatically expected to be curvey like all the latin women in my family. Its really unfair to call someone Skinny and say stuff like theres no meat there and stuff, i would never dream of calling someone fat and saying theres TOO much meat there, so how is it any different! i do agree with you and i love this post so much, as my whole life i have been the same as you, slim, and have been called names and asked weird quetsions and told to go to the doctors because i must be suffering.. and it still astounds me how much other people care about my weight and my health when they should look to themseleves and see how their doing! I made a post about the same issue a couple of months back here http://anacristinadrv.blogspot.com/2010/07/body-worries.html
because of a situtation that happened, but i generally think you have covered the topic in much more detail and much better then i could!! :) love it! X

Amen, I love this. :) Keep your chin up girl! Us ladies are beautiful no matter what shape we are.

Keep smiling!

@thebrunettegirl – Sorry, but I don't agree with that. My BMI is not "unhealthy" being at "only" 7stone 5lbs, it works out at about 2 points below the average of what I should be (according to fuck knows who), which I believe is around the 18/19 mark, and if this is so, it does not mean I have a potential "disorder". Like I stated in the post, there are thousands of reasons people are the weight they are. It shouldn't all be based on having a disorder, or not having one. You have clearly not understood any of the points I was trying to make and it comments like that, which inspired me write this post in the first place.

@thebrunettegirl, ofcourse it matters, if they did have an eating disorder imagine how they would feel after someone saying that to them. Also coming from someone you don't know it's obvious they aren't asking so they can help they are asking for some sort of personal gain which is completely wrong. My BMI is bordering underweight and there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and you are obvisouly average BMI seeing as you're so bloody high and mighty about it and you have clearly never experienced these comments where as zoe and myself have and just so you know, you're the kind of people she's talking about, basically just small minded.

Kudos to this whole post. Exactly everything you have outlined has always annoyed me, though its never been aimed at me!

I agree that BMI is a load of tosh, and I'm in the medical field myself! My BMI is bang on healthy, but my body fat percentage is higher than it should be – And thats what I'd rather be going by!

xx

i defiantly agree with this zoe, im naturally skinny too but i cant help it :S zxx

I most definitely agree with this. I just wrote a paper on eating disorders and how media influences us. In my paper I stated that we have to stop blaming skinny people and assuming they are anorexic and respect them. But we also should stop calling overweight people obese and categorizing both differently. We are ALL human beings with different body types and we shouldn't categorize anyone because a) they are too boney, or b)they are too thick. This is just the way the world is and it drives me absolutely insane.

I completely get what you are saying about the skinny thing as I had a tall friend who was very slim but she ate more than me at times…People would comment behind her back and to her and she would get really upset which was horrible for me to see :/
But one thing I kind of disagree with you on, is that you say your a fatty and shizz, (I know a lot of people do) but that, to me, is like someone going ohh im such a skinny if you know what I mean? Which could be hurtful to others just as the skinny thing is to you.
But this was a good blogpost as I know from experience how hurtful it can be.

the BMI system is bullshit anyway. an "obese" person could just be really muscular but because they are heavier and maybe "too" short that gives them a higher BMI or in your instance a lower one. it's total crap and needs to be abolished.

everyone should watch the movie "Fat Head" (documentary) it blows the lid off crap like that.

For jay parker read properly! I said that why the doctor would of been concerned in case it was an eating disorder or to do with her genes!!

Zoe, you said above that the doctor said your BMI is lower than it should be you hadnt stated what your BMI is. I never said you had an eating disorder :/ what i was saying was she was probably asking whether it was to do with your genes or whether you might have an eating disorder because you weigh so little.

You have clearly not understood me.

Such a good post! And I entirely agree, who gives you the right to judge and comment anything of someone's appearance? As long as you're happy with yourself then that is really all that matters and nobody should make you think differently about yourself :) xx

I wan to cry!:(
but i'm agree with you!:D
and you can say…
cause baby i was born this way!

Bsos!

Zoe,

First I must say it must have taken a great deal of courage to write this. I know many people who feel like this but don't want to say anything because of the dozens of people who will jump all over them saying the usual "you have nothing to complain about you're thin" spiel. As you said, people never really stop to think about the REASONS behind the situations people are in. You have every right to voice your opinion and I think you did so in a very dignified way.You are beautiful just by being you and hopefully others will see that about themselves too; excuse the unintentional rhyming.

Alyssa

@kissonthechic there are lots of magazines that say celebs are "too fat" that's why some loose weight and then the magazines then say they are "too thin" nobody can win, you should notice that the "curvy" women are a normal, sometime even below, size. I personally think that they weight debate is ridiculous there are people below and above the "ideal" bmi (which is ridiculous in itself) that are healthier and fitter than those who are considered healthy. As long as you are comfortable and healthy be happy with yourself!

*hugs and kisses*
I freaking love that you were strong enough to not only draft this post but click, post! Thats a BIG step you took hunny and I'm so proud to be a follower. I like that you have grown to the point in ur life where u have embraced your size enough to shrug off ignorant nurses like her and rude comments…you ARE beautiful, inside and out. And to me, you look fine

Xisses, Onyxsta
http://say-bleurgh.blogspot.com

Thank you for writing this! I weigh the same as you and I'm an inch shorter 5'3inch. I get asked every day how much I weigh. To the point where, recently someone asked me my size and I was quick to respond "I'm a 6 on top, 8 on bottom" harshly. Then they responded "No, I meant your shoe size". Embarrassing!

I am constantly trying to put on weight but I have a high metabolism too and every time I go to the doctors they are concerned. They are quick to always ask what I eat and whether I need to see a dietician.

I have found that its harder for me to confide with friends, the difficulties of trying to gain weight. They usually tell me how lucky I am and then I feel awful when I see that they struggle to lose weight. I don't want them to think I'm bragging.

Thank you for making me realise I'm not alone in this. Love your blog!

x x x

Reading this was literally like reading my own thoughts! I'm in complete agreement with you!
I'm 5"7 and have always been thin – I suppose I'm lucky in the sense I can eat what I want and get away with it. I stopped eating meat when I was around 14 and have only just started again last month (after around five years) particially in a bid to get a bit bigger.
In the first year or two of Secondary school I had a few comments about my non-existant boobs (but let's face it, I was tall and thin, I was hardly going to have double d's). One particular boy decided to take a disliking to me in year 11 and used to call me 'A cup' (original seeing as though I was a B..pah). After year 11 he left school and about three years later on facebook I added him – he had no tagged pictures of him with friends (because he didn't have anyway). I waited a while so I knew he'd see my pictures (Me + boobs – glasses = not bad) and then wrote 'HAHA' on his facebook wall and blocked him again. Probably not the highest road I've taken but it sure felt good!
Last year in work one of the boys who started when I did said out of the blue "Sarah you're like really skinny." I felt so angry and told him straight that if he said that to someone who actually had something wrong like an eating disorder how what he said would do damage and that he needed to watch what he said! I suppose it came with age that I stuck up for myself and put him in his place, because like you said, he wouldn't dare say to someone overweight "you're like really fat you know that?"

It's posts like these why I enjoy being a part of the blogging community!

Sorry for the essay :) xx

really agree zoe that people don't consider the feelings of slimmer people sometimes. great thought provoking post, sad to hear about the poor treatment by the nurse – i think you are beautiful and hilarious xxx

AMEN Zoe. I have the same thing as you and people tell me not to bitch about how hard it is to gain weight. Because their struggle is so much more important? I also did an internship at a law firm where a 40-something attorney took one look at me on the elevator and said "you're so skinny. i hate you." nice. i have to hear that a lot. I hate being so skinny but there's nothing to do about it so I love your message to just accept yourself and for people to lay off.

I also have had quite a few problems with doctors even though I've always been this way. One had me write down what I ate so she could count my calories later. Laugh's on her. I ate 4,000 that day. More than most grown men. I finally found one who got it.

Seriously, thanks for this post.
xo

Finally! someone that understands me! I'm 15, almost 6ft tall and still growing, and i weigh 115lbs. i absolutely hate it when people say i need to put some meat on my bones or that I need to eat some food! ugh drives me nuts! It's nice to know that there are other girls out there like yourself that struggle with the same crap i do. xoxo, emily

I completely agree. I was the same, and my friends would tease me about it. It really did upset me, and they wouldn't understand. I had a friend who was constantly trying to lose weight ad she would constantly compare her arm to my arm, her weight to my weight, calling me hurtful names. People would say "anything would look good on you", but nothing did. Everything was too big and I had no shape. I'm so glad I've found people I can relate to! xxx

here, here.
that took a lot for you to share with people.
but well done xx

Doctors are terrible with BMI's and what not. Every time I get weighed they go on at me about having too high a BMI but I've been healthy eating and exercising for two years so I'm not unhealthy. They don't hold back with their words either, it's like they don't care of the effect it has on their patients. I've walked out of doctors (and dentists strangely enough) in tears for what they've said, which I don't think is right to be honest.
I agree with everything in your post and wouldn't dream of calling someone slim 'too skinny' or 'bag of bones', I've had friends confronted with those terms and seen how it hurts. Any form of derogative terms are going to hurt people.
It must have taken a lot to write this post, good for you hun
Love Belle xx

I'm sort of the same. I'm not that skinny, but my friends assume I have no problem with my body because I'm not fat. And people say I'm skinny all time time and it does get to me, cos people are basically saying I'm shapeless :L x

This post is so great Zoe & I can totally relate! I'm exactly like you, I've always been skinny (amazingly, I have almost exactly the same measurements as you!) and I'm still the same height & weight that I was when I was 12 (I'm 22 now). I eat absolutely anything I please, I love chocolate & pizza & burgers yet I won't put on weight. People need to realize that some people just are naturally thin and that commenting on other people's weight is not very polite to begin with. THANK YOU for this post Zoe.

awhh haha i love this! i feel the exact same way.. and i still am very skinny and its so annoying when people comment i just want to yell at them and say dont u think i know im skinny! dont you think if i could i would change it! i dont like my body but im learning to accept it cause i dont like to be upset and i know eventually i will thicken up a bit, but its hard to make progress when people constantly comment on it. :) once agian…i love your blog

I can relate to this post so much. Im 5ft 10 and all through my teenage years, right up untill I was around 24 I weighed no more than 8 stone. I was called every name under the sun, I was constantly asked "do you have an eating disorder", "why are you so skinny" "you need to put some weight on" "you look ill" blah blah blah I hear it all. Yet I ate like any other normal person, I just couldn't put on weight. Even when I was pregnant with Anton, I gained 3 stone and lost it again the minute he was born and went back to 8 stone.

Then when I hit my early 20's around 23, my body just started to mature and fill out and I finally started gaining weight. My boobs got a little bigger, I got a nice shape, I got a nice bum. Everything just went right. I think it comes with age hun.

Oh my goodness I'm so thankful that you did a post on this! I did a (much shorter) similar post a few months back. I'm exactly the same proportions that you mentioned and you're exactly right. It is difficult. Plus, it tends to be easier for larger people to lose weight than it is for skinny people to gain weight. We both have to fight our metabolisms regardless. The more skinny people eat the faster our metabolisms burn. Its a blessing and a curse.

I think all of us skinny gals go through the stage where we're super insecure due to lack of feminine curve. As I got older I accepted the fact that I wasn't going to fill out quite as generously like my friends. I try to look at it in a different light. My friends may have the perfect proportioned beach body, but I have the body type of a runway model. It helps keep me positive to find role models who embrace their bodies – pokey bones and all.

i totally know what you mean.
sometimes an extra-quick motab is a hyperactive thyroid… i have a HYPO-active thyroid, but it just makes me really tired. i've never noticed any weight gain… but then again, i'm pretty active.

i think weight is personal.

I agree, though i may not be as skinny as you say you were (I'm 14) It gets kind of tiering hearing "Go eat a hamburger" or went people think i dont eat (to exaggerate it all I'm about 5'6" so that makes me look even skinnier), because the truth is I eat WAYY more that any of my friends but don't ever really gain. Although I think sometimes people mean it as a compliment or even jealousy, honestly it wouldnt be bad to "graduate" from the "itty bitty commity".
Also I get what your saying about it being an insult to the overweight but not to the skinnier, still hurts.

i'm hoping you read this.

i am extremely underweight and compared to my friends i feel like the odd one out. I am 14yrs old and weigh 30kg – considered skinny. WHenever someone asked me my weight and i answer, they always say something along the lines of 'i weighed like that when i was 8' or 'woah ( as a surprise)'.

i hate my figure and somehow i never gain weight. It's really hard for me to find clothes that fit. I've tried eating more and taking vitamins daily and nothing helps. I wish i was normal.

I look horrible in jeans and people say my thighs are the size of their arm. I hate it.

I know exactly how you would have felt and i completely agree. I'm hoping someday, i would have 'sprouted boobs' and a bottom, but right now i feel my body will never do such a thing. WHen i change fro p.e at school, i hide. Or for swimming lessons i go straight for the toilet. I am body-conscious in all sorts of ways and never accept my body. My sister is normal, my brother and my parents…it's just me.

Whenever someone calls me anorexic, i almost cry. The insult brings me down and makes me feel worse about myself. It is not my fault my body is underweight and i've tried my hardest to gain weight. My mother says to eat more to look beautiful and my dad says because i have a flat bottom i'll never become a model ( when people say i shouldbe a model). Why aren't i like everyone else?

i am the most unhealthy in my family, but yet i am the skinniest. It's is embarrassing shopping in 'kids' sections and shopping centres. I know people talk about me when they see my weight. I hope i overcome the fact that i AM normal.

This was such an interesting article. Thanks for bringing light to a topic not often discussed. I completely agree.

– Kimberly

That's so weird, I went to the doctors just the other day and he weighed me and took my height: 5"4 and 7stone 5lbs, he told me to put a stone on in the next month. I cant. Right now, I'm eating a box of jaffa cakes, okay, I have finished the box, I just want to put weigh on so I can have boobs tbh, being 16 and having no boobs isn't easy haha :/

I had somebody come up to me yesterday and ask me why i was so skinny and that i 'need a good sandwich'. I was taunted for being anorexic in junior school and i've been told that i'm not very nice to hug because i'm so bony.
Boys always take the mick out of me for my boobs (i barely fit an A and i'm 15 – awkward.) I used to pretended i'd hurt my ankle on the days where we had to go swimming in PE, because i didn't want anyone to see me in the school's swimming costume with no padding.

Mind you, i do enjoy eating whatever i want, whenever i want – having a fast metabolism definitely has its ups! xxx

This is such an incredible post <3
I'm exactly the same and rarely put on weight. I'm told i'm too skinny yet the rare times I have managed to put on weight i get 'oh, you've put on a bit of weight then' making it sound like a bad thing?!
I have the same 'problem' with my legs – they are too skinny and I would much prefer them to have more shape so I could wear shorts and anything other than a body con skirt.
Weight is far too much of a big deal nowadays. Everyone is either too fat or too thin and it seems everyone feels the need to criticise someones weight.
It's so insensitive when people make comments like that. And unnecessary.
Thank you for highlighting such an important issue.
xxx

I'm glad that skinny women are coming together now to address this issue. I've been bullied all my life for being skinny and it's not fair; people need to be aware. It's the media too, all those articles about "real women" being the shape of a doughnut- what on earth…? we're all real women, thank you.

I think this is a great post; I went to school with a girl who had issues putting on weight and was bullied for it.

That said, I used to be overweight and you do get yelled at in the street, told to go to weightwatchers, asked awkward questions by doctors (all illnesses are as a result of your weight apparently), an old woman told me i shouldn't eat in public on a bus once, a man told me i should try and eat less…..

i think it shouldn't matter what the hell you weigh or what your body type is to make you a) healthy and b) a woman. What should matter is whether you're happy within your body and then perhaps we'll all stop making assumptions and casting asperstions on each others sizes and eating habits.

ps: BMI has fuck all to do with being healthy – Michael Jordan i.e. an athlete is classified as being overweight because of his height & weight. It's such a bullshit scheme.

I'm actually new to your blog, but this post caught my eye (as I see it did many others!). At 5'9 and 110lbs I reallllyyy understand where this post is coming from, unfortunately, I'm in my 20's and the days of waiting for any lovely curves are gone and never came. I'm a perpetual bean pole and constantly ridiculed for being anorexic or bulimic even – when I was younger and not nearly brave enough to speak my mind, I actually quit a job due to being constantly called that even though I've never had an eating disorder – in the same boat as you with ridiculous metabolism. It took me years to feel comfortable at my weight and to be able to fend for myself when the mudslinging starts. I was always amazingly confused as to way it was taboo to joke someone for being fat, but joking someone who is skinny was deemed "okay". It's important to note that at a certain point too skinny or too fat is just not good for one's health – like you, I've eaten a ton of junk because I thought it would help me "grow a booty" but really all it does is make me feel blah, thusly, I was not in great shape due to my excessively unhealthy junk diet, not the weight itself. Positive perception of oneself makes all the difference in the world. I'm a bean pole, I'm proud of it.. tradin' in my candy bars for protein bars and tons of veggies and I feel amazing.

Oh, and you're blog is super fun and cute! keep on keepin' on.
xo kc

Hello Zoe!
My name's Sophie, i'm french (so excuse me if my english isn't perfect ;p) and i turn 22 yrs old in may.

Nowadays i weigh 9st9, and i am 5.5ft (if i'm sure, i've converted those measures lol). But 6 years ago, for the same height i weighed 7st4, so i was very skinny and i hated my body. Some people made fun of me (a boy told me my arms resembled a "breadstick" (ewww a french bread, which looks like a stick..?); afterwards a girl asked me if i was anorexik and she wasn't the only one; my best friend's mother could'nt help telling her (who was a little bit fat but beautiful!) that she should take care and take me for example O_o it was disgusting!!). Thus i TOTALLY understand (except that i wasn't as pretty as you are haha) and i ate, ate, ate and now i have to admit that i feel just beautiful! i know i am stout, i have fat on my thighs, i also have lots of stretch marks, i may be ugly but i don't care, i really accept myself now.

Some say that some specific exercises can help to take weigh (because it helps being hungry, it develops muscles (which is louder than fat) etc…) but when i was skinny i feared to be even skinnier, so….. i don't know!

Last but not least, you are a beautiful girl with a STYLE that lots of girls envy (maybe you also have the money, lucky you lol), and i think LOTS of people allow themselves to say those things to skinny girls because they would LOVE to look like you, maybe some of them really worry (and it can be cute), but lots of them are just JEALOUUUUS, don't forget that ;)

This made me cry because it pretty much summed up my life.
I'm tall (about 5'9") and and just over 100 lbs. In other words, a string bean.
Just the other day my mother asked me if I'd lost weight.. It broke my heart because I hadn't really noticed until she said anything, but she was right. All I had been doing was eating healthier. I don't want to look like a stick figure :( but I want to put healthy food into my body.
I was also recently in a musical at my highschool. I got comments on my figure constantly. Fellow cast members and strangers in the audience came up and told me things like what you've mentioned. So basically I've been feeling pretty down recently.
All my life I've been told to put more meat on my bones. It is hurtful, and it does affect my self image. People need to learn to shut their mouths and keep their thoughts to themselves. Thank you for writing this. Even though it made me cry, it made me feel like I'm not alone. It also gave me a chance to vent about my issues with weight. I can't say these things to most people because then I suddenly become that "skinny bitch" who doesn't know how "good" she has it.
I love your blog
and your youtube videos
Please keep them coming!
:)

I love this!!! My entire life people have been saying this to me whether they be my family friends my doctor or random strangers, It truly does hurt and has added to my depression but seeing this posts lets me know I'm not alone. Thank you sooo much for writing this! :)

Oh, P.S. – EVERYone needs exercise, and there are certain kinds you can do that will build muscle instead of reducing fat. Not sure if you have Curves where you live (workout centers for women only), but strength training-type exercise would probably be right up your alley! Hope this helps!

Attempting to make somebody feel uncomfortable because they're skinny is as wrong as making somebody feel uncomfortable because they're larger. It's also not fair to call somebody in between 'average'. I just don't think there is any point to put labels on everybody – we are all real women with realistic bodies, and every body out there is different. Shapes, sizes, & how they work inside (metabolisms). At the end of the day, people don't realise the harshness of their comments until they are turned around on them.

You've totally hit the nail on the head. I've been feeling like this too for ages.

This was such a good read.

– Kayleigh x

i am exactly the same! I am so skinny & always have been, even though i eat insanse amounts a day.. & i ALWAYS get called anorexic! love this post :) x

that's exactly what's in my mind. I have this fast super metabolism too and I hate it to hear from everyone, oh you're so skinny or you should eat more. I can't stand these comments. When someone says something like that to me, I could slap him in his face. You described this situation so damn good, I thought I could have written this text. It feels good to know that I'm not the only one with this problems. You're so gorgeous!

Great post…I used to be a very skinny child and although I filled out..I know this is bad, but I do kind of wish I didn't fill out quite as much :/
Really interesting points though – I lie reading about this kind of stuff xx

i guess most people don't understand it's as hard for you as it is for those trying to lose weight as most aren't in your position and in today's media all you see is 'thin thin thin' as a good thing, making people think you've tried to remain little.

you look lovely anyway zoe, just petite. be proud of who you are :)

Im the same, im 5ft2 and weigh 6stone6, i eat like a horse, but try as i might i dont put weight on, and when i go the same as you do for your contraception they check me, they even took me off one pill because it was double dose and i didnt weigh enough! i hate how people see skinny girls and automatically think they dont eat, or vice versa with bigger people. What they dont realize is that it hurts just as much to say someones skinny as it does fat x

This is clearly from your point of view and I respect that, but you cannot say a fat person would not be called fat so overtly because you have never experienced that. All I can say is I used to be overweight and everything you've described happened to me then.

This is a great post :) It was exactly the same way for me when i was growing up. I'm 18 now and I'm still very skinny!!! lol. I'm 5'5 and weigh 117. i would like to get up to 125 xD Thanks for your post <3 more people need to realize that skinny people go through the same shit too

I totally agree with this I'm naturally skinny also but I had my lumps and bumps and I recently decided to start getting fit mostly because I felt unhealthy so I went on holidays and did exercise almost everyday. I didn't eat anything different than the rest of my family and we were away for almost three months and when I came back the comments I received weren't exactly what thought. My friends were accusing me of having an eating disorder and to prove them wrong I started eating a lot and I stopped doing exercise. I had felt so good with my body before I came back from holiday and then everyday I started feeling worse and worse and then I ended up putting on more weight then I started and when it came to anyone's comments they were non existent. It was as though when I was being healthy it was ok for people to question what I was eating my weight and appearance but when I put on a lot of weight it was ok even though I didn't do exercise and I ate junk food. Sometimes because everyone else see's a change in you but not themselves they question how it was possible and that you obviously are being unhealthy. People should just leave weight alone because if your happy then you should be proud! And love the way you look no matter what size you are as long as your comfortable in your skin. I'm so happy you brought up this topic thank you zoe =)

I accept what your saying about the people constantly asking you if you’re ok/anorexic/whatever, but when it comes to the doctor, it’s only out of concern. BMI is used to work out whether you’re healthy or not, and just because you’re ok, doesn’t mean someone else isn’t. If they hadn’t asked the same questions and you happened to be anorexic they wouldn’t be a very good doctor. And they probably would say it to someone with a slightly high BMI, it’s there job to let people know if they are at risk.

Ahhh I can relate to this post so well! After years and years of being 5'4" and barely 100 pounds, my body has naturally crept up to a healthy 110 lbs over a period of about 2 years. I went through most of my life trying to gain weight and seeing bones in the mirror, being teased, and having people constantly comment on my weight. The fact is, no matter what size you are its likely you will feel uncertain about different parts of your body. Its human nature. We have to embrace the things we love about ourselves and keep thinking positive.

I am so glad your wrote this post and that there are other people out there that can relate to the struggles of being the "skinny kid". I think it is something that needs to be addressed more in the media because the "skinny kids" struggles shouldn't be more over looked then those of the "fat kids" "gay kids" "socially awkward kids" or "ginger kids" We all have our own battles and no one battle is more significant then another.

Thank you so much for this post. You have no idea how much problems i have at school because of this.. "ANOREXIC!!!" etc. I eat and eat and eat.. bad things for me. I have high metabolism and don't really put on much weight.. Thanks so much for posting this, I enjoy reading you blog loads. Its lovely. It inspires me.

Much love <3

Hey Zoe, I know it's hard to explain things over and over when it comes to questions like "are you ill for being too skinny?" etc, because I was once like that. My metabolism was crazy, I was very skinny and even being asked those questions from people that I barely speak to. I hated it but at the same time I feel good about how I looked. I was skinny for many many years, and enjoying my life of not to bother about gym and exercise.
But I have reached to a point where I am sick of people telling me to put on weight, I googled to find some answer and found there is one illness of having high metabolism. And last year one of my eye is slightly bigger than the other and I did a check up in hospital, doc confirmed that I was having Hyper-Thyroidism. That explained why do I have high metabolism for so long. After taking medicines for a year, my weight & BMI seems be like normal person and the illness has gone. Now I don't have the privilage of eating crap/whatever but still looking fine, instead I have to watch what I eat. Tiny bit of fat in my food will make huge diff on my body.

Neither that I'm trying to scare you, nor saying you are having that "illness", but just to give you heads up if you have the same symptom in the near future do have a check up in a hospital, not clinic.

Sorry if you find this offended a little and completely rubbish.. :(

I totally agree with you, I love my food, and I HATE it when older girls at my work who aren't even big mention that I am so tiny. Then they all start saying it, and it makes you feel small. Especially when they almost make you feel bad for being small. So when I read this it made me happy that you, and so many other people feel the same!

oh my god. finally someone understands. I really don't know how to respond when someone calls me skinny. and being extra skinny isn't anything anyone should really be jealous about. we are the same height by the way :)

This post is really good Zoe! I had the same problems as you growing up, and I'm even smaller than you and weight less. The thing that I hated the most were when in school – every two years we went to be checked by the doctors together. I hated taking of my clothes in front of other people and having doctors I didn't know look at me. They always asked me about my weight and eating habits and never believed me – I got notes to show at home, that they should be worried because I might have an eating disorder. great. And last year I went to one of my doctors because I was feeling sick for over a month and she told me she thinks I'm bulimic. The most annoying are the people who either ask you questions you're not comfortable with, or talk behind your back and guess which eating disorder you have. That happens to me even know, when I'm 20 and have hips and boobs and everything. People really don't understand that sometimes being skinny is as hard as being fat-you just get questioned more, because for a reason I don't understand, it's fine to ask someone about their weight in force them you're advices, if they're skinny. I'm now happy with who I am and I stopped trying to put some weight on. I hope this post of yours will help some girls to do the same and show them they're beautiful no matter what :)

Hi :) I can't really empathize with you on the topic as I have never really been 'underweight' but I agree with you entirely, that people should not be judged by their weight and people shouldn't comment on anybody's weight. This was a great article, I really enjoyed reading it :) xxx

This post is great, I've been through very very hard times with eating, and reading this has helped me :'). don't take any notice of them people who say all them nasty things to you, you know your healthy so does you fam and friends (: xx

You bring up such a great point.

OMG , I feel the same … Everyday people tell me how much I weigh.. and why are people like that once when I was running in p.e we all got exhausted and this girl name Ashley was like I feel bad for you because your soo skinny infront of everyone and like I smile thinking nothing is gonna happen but in the inside I'm crying .. Idk why people put there fingers around my wrist to see how skinny I am .. and the people think I don't eat but I do… I hate when they say do you eat because I see your so skinny and I feel like crying most of the time but when I got my result its say Im underweighted by 4 percent and Healthy .. So people were like how MUCH you weigh I'm like 70 why ? There like oh.. and when I saw there weigh she's 11 and she's 156 pounds. I am 11 years old and I thought I was the only that was being call skinny .. and has these kinda of problem .Anyways we are good like that and the thing is when we get older we'll change.. But thanks for posting it .. (:

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Late in seeing this but it's very interesting. I couldn't agree more, I seem to be a flat chested short rake. I wish I could be taller (my aim is to reach 5ft) and a bit "bigger" if you understand. It's quite hard to find clothes, for example, my friend's sister (she's 11) uses a dog collar as a belt – she's that skinny!
Enough complaining. I guess I'm stuck with myself which I should be happy with. Everyone strives for perfection but what is perfection anyway?!

~Hannah xx

ive just started watching your videos and reading your blog, i LOVE this post. everybody needs to know slim people have a hard time too, its not glamourous. im 5 foot 7 and around 7and a half-8 stone, same as you i hated swimming, getting changed at school. i was bullied so much for being skinny and now ive also filled out, also boobs of a generous size hips AND a wobbly bottom! i was asked the other day if i eat enough and if im okay. how are you supposed to respond?
the past year i started eating healthily nd execercising alot, ive put abit of weight on my upper legs and gained some muscle in my arms but thats about it. ive given up trying to put on weight and just decided to eat healthily :)
p.s i love your blog background, so cute! xx

i have never liked or commented on a blog before but this is soo true and thanx god someone is being real about it.. im still in the accepting process but ur blog has really helped..thanx zoe :) xo

Zoe, thank you so much for posting this. Just like you, I have always been underweight and I eat anything and everything I can get my hands on. I almost started to tear up when I read this because its so great to finally have someone understand how I feel! I'm also 5'4 and 100lbs. I also can't take some medication that I need because it makes my weight drop too low and there are no other options. I have people comment on my weight all the time, and when I was still in school I would always hear people talk about how they thought I had an eating disorder. I have even had people in my workplace making bets on my weight! That was very hurtful. And any time that I actually stand up for myself and let people know that the things they say really bother me, they always tell me the same thing: "Oh my gosh, shut up I would kill to say that I needed to gain weight" and it is just so comforting to read this and know that there are other girls just like me who deal with the same thing! You are a beautiful young lady Zoe and keep up the great things that you do!

I'm so glad I stumbled across this post as I'd thought about doing a similar one myself… I too was uber skinny as a child & teen and got all the nicknames of the day. I was also a ginge, which didn't help lol. I now have a little girl aged 7 & people (close friends & family) have made similar comments about her – eg omg look how skinny you are, you're thin as a pin, etc. She just looks at them blankly, but it upsets ME! I don't want it to become an issue for her like it was for me, for her to feel unattractive & self conscious because of her weight. I used to wear several pairs of tights at the same time, leggings under jeans etc – all to try & pad myself out a bit.

Anyway, thank you. And for the record, I did start to become more curvy in my early to mid 20s – and I think you're lovely just as you are!

Nic xx

I am exactly the same Zoe! I never work out, and i eat like crap and i'm super skinny. My friends are all like "omg i am so jealous of you" but i'm like.. k. no. you don't understand. it SUCKS being judged, and i'm crazy unhealthy and have no motivation to do anything about it because i'm already skinny so i completely understand where you're coming from! So glad someone said this :)

I never realised this in such detail, thank you for opening my eyes! Such an inspiring article Zoe!

I'm so glad you said this because I have had exactly the same problem all my life. I am and always have been relatively happy with my body, but when you're a skinny teenager and other girls are saying things behind your back or staring at you it can really make you feel insecure.

People shouldn't really care what other people look like. If it's not your body so why should you have a say on how it should look?

I am new to blogging and just started my own blog about makeup/fashion/lifestyle. I would really appreciate if you would check it out, maybe give me some feedback- http://viciousspring.blogspot.com
I would love for my blog to become as popular as yours! :)

I totally agree with you!! it annoying how people will jump to conclusions and your right it is honestly no ones business to comment on weight it is a private matter that is no ones concern but your own (unless you do have a eating disorder than that should be delt with by a professional.) but i really thing that your "BMI" is a load of crap, it is the Average range of numbers other people your height and age "Should" be, but that's really not right as you said no ones body is the same, i am above average but only by a little and i have a felling i will always be because of my slow metabolism.

amen. <3

I completely agree. I know how it feels. Often people(and this includes my friends)call me names like 'no boobs' which frankly amuses me in a way. I have boobs but they are small. One of my bestfriends always takes the mic out of me for it. It never really bothered me until my friends and i saw her bra and it was litterally about 2 inches thick! This really frustrated me!!
You might be thinking "well they clearly aren't very good friends then", they are and we get on fine, im not bullied or particullaly name-called at school but it does frustrate me what hypocrites some people are. I am naturally skinny and therefore don't have a large chest but i am only 14 and so they still have time to develop from an AA or small A. My mums a A or small B so i will probably be the same however the weomen on my dads side have quite lage cup sizes.
I really enjoyed reading you blog! <3

Zoe you are absolutely gorgeous i also have a high metabolism and I also use to be as skinny as a rake between 12-14 and I really tried to put on weight but when I turned 15-16 I broadened out so I know how you feel even though I am a boy :) btw did I mention your BEAUTiFUL

I'm so glad you spoke out about this.. I'm naturally skinny too and people are constantly making remarks like 'look how tiny you are' and 'don't you ever eat anything?'

it's made me really self concious and I even took to wearing baggy clothes for a while to make myself look bigger.. if people point out a girl is overweight it's a big taboo, but when you're targeted for being too small people don't see it as a problem!

I am 5ft2 and weigh the same as u do :) totally understand how you feel x

I am SO glad you wrote this! I am the same i think its incredibly offensive when people describe me as skinny, (oh great i have no womanly shape whatsoever…thanks!) in the same way its offensive to call somebody fat! im so glad other people agree with this its refreshing to hear! :) xxx

Coming from a trainee dietician – you are totally healthy!! Ignore BMI (and stupid ignorant people) and just be the way your body naturally wants to be, there's no point fighting it xxx

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Hi Zoe
I have read this post a number of times and i completely understand where you are coming from, i have always been a size 6/8 and have had the comments about eating disorders and anorexia and the o you need to put on weight are you eating properly comments. I find it hard to deal with sometimes and look in the mirror and think is it abnormal to be 5ft 3 and weight 7st 8lb. I really struggle to put on weight but have found that if I'm happy with my weight then that's the way its going to stay. I found that your post really enabled me to see that i am not the only one who receives these comments. Thank you for posting this as i have found it very helpful.
Justine x

Love this post! Exactly how I feel word for word… and I love how this was posted on my birthday. ;)

Thanks Zoe! Just recently found your blog and I'm loving it so far!

Sending you some love & joy from Canada! :D

I know you wrote about this ages ago and I'm not sure if you will ever read this but I just wanted to say thank you for this. I am 28, 5 foot 7 inches and I only way 110 pounds (I'm american so I don't know the conversion!). I can't gain weight for the life of me. I realize that I am, by standard, "too skinny" but like your parents, mine are both skinny so I think it's just my genes. It shocks me the rude comments I get and people literally tell me to "eat a cheeseburger." I have no curves and yes I wish I did but I have become accepting of my size. I thought it would get better the older I get but so far I have had no such luck. I agree, no one should comment on anyones weight….Rude! Thanks again, now lets go eat some cookie dough

This is a brilliant post! I totally agree! I have a weirdly varying metabolism, like seriously. Many people change their whole lifestyle to change their metabolism, yet mine changes all the time, I'm constantly putting on weight then losing it all, it's ridiculous. People always comment saying how I've put on or lost weight as if it doesn't matter and it's not insulting, my weight is always around average and I've never really been actually overweight or underweight, but weight differences are so noticeable on me, I hate it! Wish people realised it's not okay and it's purely insulting!
Louise, xo

http://mystupidreflection.blogspot.com

I have the same thing! and I HATE that people always say to me, "omg, how can you be so skinny, or why can you so much without getting fat!" But it helped alot now, that i'm the only one in the world how has high metabolism!

I think it's stupid that people think you have to be skinny to have an eating disorder – or overweight because you eat too much.
I'm overweight – not proud of it, but it's who I am, I always have been, and for 3 years I was diagnosed with anorexia because of the way my thought process towards food was. I lost a lot of weight yeah – but my BMI still stayed in the "overweight" range.
Just because someone is larger – or smaller – doesn't mean they have an eating disorder or not!

Oh Zoe,
I have the same problem, my metabolism is really fast and I cannot put my weight up.. It's sooo hard live like that, I hate my self, everybody thinks I'm an anorectic but I'm not, I eat everything from vegetable, fruit to McDonalds, KFC… I've got the same height but I'm thinner.. In summer of 14 years I never wear skirts, shorts, nothin when someone can see my legs.. Soo this is

Please excuse my english but I'm just learn English, so I'm soo sorry

PS: At the end I want to tell you: I really love your videos and how are you and your blog, you are the best youtuber, so soo much thank you

<3 Anne

Zoe thanks for sharing with us how you felt, I learned a lot while reading this, you are ablosutly georgeous !! I'm glad you feel better with yourself now I made a post about something related! I love your blog girl!! :)

thankyou for this post zoe- its so inspiring.. and when i feel down about my body i read this(and i feel down every second of my life about my body tbh) i am basically you all over again although i dont have metabolism..its just that im very self concious about my chest area.. im 14 and going to be 15 later this year&it gets me down everyday, i HATE going swimming… i never go with friends, only on holiday! ive been to the beach a couple times this week(lovely weather)nearly everyones in their bikini, and then theres just me and some other people- now, they werent in the bikini because they were self concious about their chest size, but just simply because they didnt have it on them! and then theres me.. i could easily bring a swimming costume but i cant bring myself to it! i see other girls who arent big on top, and wish i had the confidence to wear a bikini going swimming with my friends at the beach or swimming centre! Then my friends ask me to go in the water, and i was like ooh i dont want to get this top wet&one said 'just go in your bra'.. and i couldnt bring myself to do it! words cant describe how self concious i feel about it! so i'd like to thank you for this blog post, because i try to convince myself that there are so many other girls like me- this really helped me, because it makes me feel better knowing that you were like this aswell.. so i can re assure myself things can get better! i never wore tops like bandeau tops, bralets, crop tops which had a lower cut.. ive got the confidence to now&i hope that one day i can go swimming with my friends.. and the only thing that is stopping me is my cup size.. so thankyou once again, it made me feel better about myself!xx

this is a great post! thanks for writing this Zoe:D

I linked this on my blog to get people to read it:P

http://www.themake-upcounter.blogspot.co.uk :D

You've basically summed up everything in my head.
I also hate how the media puts down being thin now like it's bad, There's so much in magazines about celebrities looking stick thin, and how it's not healthy, and how curvy is best. But they forget that there are people out there naturally thin.
For about two years I felt super nervous eating when I went for meals because I felt pressured by people I would go out with, People who had previously made comments like "Have a big portion, you need it." or the same "You must be anorexic." comments, It actually messed up my eating habits, I'd feel so pressured into eating that it actually made me feel sick and stopped me eating.
I just wish there was more recognition that there's nothing wrong with being skinny, just like there's nothing wrong with being curvaceous

I can totally totally relate to this story and to what you are feeling. I am exactly the same, exactly, and I shared the very same thoughts. I also hated my body when I was younger and got comments that still hunt me down. I know that I am perfectly fine and that I am "lucky" but it really would be nice to have somewhat bigger boobs and be fine while taking off my clothes at the beach.

Why are you so skinny is a question I get a lot and never seem to have the right awser, I always get embarresed. But lately I started to react with sarcarsm, like: "I am skinny, whoooow, never noticed, thanks for telling me!!" and they will never have a harsh answer back. Maybe a little tip :) But hey zoë you are really beautyful, inside out! Love you blogs and video's!

I feel really similar to you.. which I rarely do but as we have to same shape of body I also love photography as you do and even have the same camera. Keep up the good blogpost en video's!! Love your hauls.

Zoe, I am 15 and feel EXACTLY the same way as you. One time a girl at school said to me "Amelia you are SO skinny" and pinched my waist, I got so frustrated at her for treating me like that I went "I'M NOT!". So this clearly got her fuming and I got given a whole rant about how hard losing weight is and I should appreciate my genes and I shouldn't be so 'heartless' towards people who feel bad about the bodies & wanting to lose weight. I just went into the toilets and cried for a whole hour, missing my maths class. P.S you are beautiful the way you are.
All the best,
Amelia
xxxxxx

i agree on your points, i have felt this my whole life. always being told i was "too" skinny. i'm 5ft3 and weigh 7 and a half stone. anytime i feel sick or get ill people automatically suspect that i am not eating "properly" (as in not eating at all), like you i eat whatever i want and ALL THE TIME. i'm a food junkie! i was feeling a little faint one day at work (i had a fever the night before so i just wasn't feeling the best) and everyone made a fuss and got a nurse in, the nurse looked me up and down and told me to tell her exactly what i had eaten the day before and that morning (she thought i was anorexic), when i told her my whole meal diary i knew she didn't believe me! she kept hmming and ahhing and slightly rolling her eyes as in "sure!". call me wrong but i thought nurses weren't supposed to be douchebags? i had never felt so low than sat in front of this nurse who was looking down on me, from the moment she walked in she had already diagnosed me.

I love you so much for writing this. So true on all counts! The focus should be on all around health and happiness, not a number on a scale.

I know Im a bit late on this train of comments seems how theyre all dated for 2011, but that is how I exactly feel. I am a 14 and a half year old girl whose 6st(ish) and 4ft1. All of my friends are much taller and more developed than me, and I feel very young and like I have a problem. Theyve all also started their periods and i feel as if I'm never going to start. Everyone is like 'you won't want to start its horrible' but that doesnt make me feel any better I think it would make me feel a bit more feminin once i start and make me feel special(as weird as that may sound).

People are always say 'fat' this fat that, and it just isnt fair nobody apart from us thin, 'metabolism' people(?) understand what its like.

When I was in year 6 one boy asked me if I had anorexia, that made me feel really sad and upset but because I was young I didnt understand it as much. It's very insulting and i completely dont understand why people don't think its insulting and call people names. I don't agree with anythink like that and would never judge anyone on their size.

I am actually very similar to you Zoe. I eat rubbish all the time and never put on fat, i am a size 3 shoe. I can sometimes fit into a size 6 but mostly only childrens sizes(but you are a women, so youve grown so you can fit into a size 6). Your so inspiring for posting this, however long ago it may have been, and your one of my favourite bloggers and youtubers:) I've watched all of your videos:D

http://bethaano.blogspot.co.uk

Ive only blogged a bit but it would mean the world to me if you had a look:D

this has been so nice to read because i went through exactly the same thing except im 5ft7" and now 16 and still dont really have a shape to me apart from my hips :/ people used to say why am i so thin? am i anorexic but my best friend is exactly the same as me apart from she now has a figure.

you are beautiful and lovely and i admire you for writing about this :)

Chloe xxx

chloe-clobo.blogspot.com

Omg I can completely relate. I am about 5'2, have always struggled trying to gain weight and the most I've ever weighed is 111. I then began to lose weight, I know it was related somewhat to stress but even when I wasn't stressed I would have an upset stomach. I weigh 92 right now and can't figure out why I go… well… number 4? everyday, multiple times a day. Hoping to get results soon, but lets just say I always get weird looks from people, sometimes looks of disgust and I absolutely hate it. People judge before they know and it sucks. People always say they wish they were skinnier and that Im so lucky but they really don't understand us. I really appreciate you writing about this! <3

i guess they think this is more acceptable because of all the media- everyone tries hard as they can to be skinny
some may think of that as a copliment and others might just be jealous.
readers asking you what your weight and size is might wanna have the same size/weight!

I, however, agree that it is rude to judge someone by their weight.
as you already said, it's not alway anorexia..

good post, I like the way you point things out and that you post about that stuff, too and not just the "superficial" kinda things

I just found that post on your blog lol its a bit older i guess but i love your videos and you always look so strong and i love you anyways but to read stuff like that is like.. we are one person ^^ all i reaad is like i know what you mean! happend to me!
and i really hate it that all that happend to me and is still happening.. but.. its kinda nice to read that because a pretty and smart girl like you have the same problems.. oh men i hate that :<
♥

I've went through my whole life wanting to be somebody else. Wishing to be skinnier and I always liked the same things as everybody else. Then I met one of my best friends and she helped me not to care what anybody else thinks! Now I embrace how different I am and I'm proud of my little muffin top belly! I got some abuse for liking different things and wearing some pretty crazy clothes at first but I still felt better than I had before.
You're beautiful Zoe! Don't let anybody tell you otherwise <3

Omgosh! You're exactly like me, it's like you're reading my mind. I'm 15 and all throughout my teen years I've always been called too thin. People thought I had a eating disorder, but the truth is I eat more than anyone I know (3 plates of rice mostly everyday!) and sometimes I scarf down a whole feast of food when I feel really insecure.

Whenever people comment on how skinny I am I get really down. Even one of my teacher called me privately and asked me "are you okay? what do you usually eat?" I just stood there, confused and hurt, I was only 11. She was quite fat, shouldn't she know how it feels like when people comment on your weight? Sometimes it really got to me.

But then I realized lots of people would kill just to be like me. Literally, they would puke purposely and starve themselves. So I have learnt just to love and embrace myself. :) <3

Thank you so much so doing this post. I've always been naturally slim and had to brush off comments on my weight from an early age. People don't realise that comments can be really hurtful sometimes and irritating. I really dislike it when strangers can say things about your weight and think that's that okay. Even at work!
I think it's a slight tabboo for 'skinny' people (I hate that word) to say that it's wrong and you shouldn't speak about another person's weight regardless of their size. Anyway I like my body the way it is, and hopefully you do as well because you look lovely.

Can you tell me please, how is your weight? BTW: I love your videos, you are the best youtuber ever! :)

Zoe, i am very happy with this post!
I'm 5ft4 and 7 stone. Calculating my BMI you'd think i'm underweight but looking at my slim parents and history of fast metabolisms you's recognise that it's just the way i am! You shouldn't feel like you have to explain you're weight to people- like, why do you have to go through your family history for people to except that your thin naturally? People have accepted that a larger frame is a build some are born with, and it'a the same for skinny too! The vast majority of thin people are naturally thin, we don't have eating disorders- and if someone unfortunately did, is it something to be so cruel about? In media today people throw anger on slimmer people, models etc. But you are who you are. We should be more acceptant of that fact that everyones different and that as long as you're healthy, there is no perfect figure!(: x

Pippa.x

http://www.lelapinetlapomme.blogspot.co.uk

Wonderful post!

I can relate.
When I was younger I was sort of " flat as a board" you might say.
After I filled out later in life my own grandfather told me " Oh you look much better than when I last saw you.."
I was appalled, but decided not to take to heart.I am content with the way I am now and that is all that matters.

Thank You for sharing your thoughts(:

what a great article that I couldnt agree more with! I had the exact same thing all though school and it could be really tough at times, really makes you feel like crap. Thanks for writing about this! I think you look gorgeous how you are! xx

Firstly, I would like to say that hight wise, I am the same, I am 16 and I am only 5" and I have stopped growing. This is because I have an under active thyroid and have had this since birth. This also makes me have a slow metabalism (?)… although I am not fat, I am not skinny an unlike you all my weight goes onto my thighs. I do eat unhealthily but not to an extent. And lastly, I know how you feel about feeling awkward. People just don't know how awkward it is. This makes me so socially awkward because people always comment saying "why are you so small?" "seriously, your really that height?". Yes I am, and I am taller than my mother, so what? My mum is small, and so is her mum. Get over it.

And also, I love your youtube videos! You also made me start writing a blog so if you have chance please check it out and my youtube, thankyou:) x

(I apologize for commenting on this very late, and not that what I have to say matters much in the grand scheme of everyone's opinions–but!) I agree that people shouldn't just assume that if your BMI is below average that you have an eating disorder or that all skinny people have one because that isn't true. It's a misconception that has bothered me for some time, just how people with a higher BMI aren't thought to have one of the similar mentality. Skinniness can be an indicator sometimes(definitely not all the time) of something going on deeper, conflicting.

While some people can be bothersome to ones day when they ask you, "Are you anorexic?" Or "Why are you so skinny?" I feel that actual sincere concern shouldn't be misunderstood or taken poorly. That if someone is really worried about someone else that it should be OK to ask and make sure. (I really think what you wrote was more about the misconception of skinniness, though.) I think sometimes society puts too little a value on expressing ones concern, that issues can go without someone to speak up and help people with so people shouldn't just ignore everything.

Doctors should keep an eye on someone's weight as it is their job to monitor health and eating disorders really can put a damper on that. I myself have had doctors ask me before, but because of an actual drop in weight resulting in a lower BMI. I have different doctors that don't have my record, so I could see them looking to my family to see if it was my fast metabolism or my own doing–I'm not sure about your doctor's files, though. If they had the record and saw that you have been that weight for quite awhile I don't see why it's an issue if everything else checks out alright. Why does a red flag pop up so quickly in their minds? I see it as a computer with an alert when it notices a small error in the code. The BMI scale being the code of conduct to follow, and the under average bit being the thing that sets off the warning. The doctor, then, should know that they need to heed the warning and make sure that it doesn't fit the criteria of an eating disorder.

Other people can be just curious, or just feed into misconceptions and make things horrible for the self-esteem especially when they ask, "Do you shove feathers down your throat?" out of the blue. Education on what they're asking should be indulged in on their part before asking such a personal question.. and in such a rude manner really is unappreciated. Is this the sort of people you have encountered? I understand your point and agree with you more if people were just making rude comments.

Overall, I appreciated those who were genuinely concerned and helped me.

I've never thought about it like that before, but I'm definitely quoting you in future! I'm 5ft2 and my weight fluctuates between 6.5 and 7 stone, and I always get asked why I'm so skinny. It's infuriating because I try to put weight on but it just won't work, any weight I manage to gain goes straight to my thighs and bum! A couple of weeks ago I was at my 34 year old cousin's house with my mum, and she asked my mum (in front of me) if I was anorexic. I almost cried. Mum just laughed it off and was like 'are you kidding?! she's always eating!' and it's true, I am! Yet no-one seems to believe me because i'm so tiny. Is it wrong that I'm happy with my figure?! I look in the mirror and I'm pleased with what I see. I have a flat stomach, but my ribs don't stick out, and yet everyone seems to think they do – so annoying! So many people ask why I'm so skinny nowadays that I just say 'fast metabolism' and walk away, before I have a big rant like this one, ahaha! Oh well, I guess the world will always be obsessed with weight, even if you're happy with the way you are ;)

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I am so grateful that you have posted this blog, so people can see that being skinny isn't as great as it seems and that we get put down beacuse of our weight and stature.Reading this blog mad me feel like i'm not alone and that other people are going through the same thing. I have the same opinion about people being able to say certain things about smaller females but not larger and I also think it is very unfair and I just want to say thank you for blogging about this, it has made me feel somewhat better about myself.

Lots of Love xo

I totally agree with you.
My friend also has a super metabolism and she got bullied for being so skinny and she wanted to put on weight but she can't. She get's bullied for something she can't change :(

You are beautiful Zoe, in any way :)
Elissa xx

I think you look perfectly fine, don't listen to those other people, they are just making observations and making comments, rise above it x

i wanted to say that i really understand you and i agree with you. Sometimes people need to be careful with what they say.
I used to be very skinny and since i am way too tall my classmates used to call me "Mutant bag of bones", random people at school asked me weird questions and my own grandma asked me if i was anorexic. They just couldn´t understand that i had a fast metabolism but as you said this metabolism didn´t stay that way forever.
As a result of those comments i started eating more and more to see if i could gain some weight. I ate this way until i was 13 and unfortunately or luckily that was when my metabolism stopped being fast and became a normal one. Yeah, i gained some weight and i was like "Yes! nobody is going to bother me because of my weight". What a huge mistake. They now bother me because they think i should have stayed skinny. And its been two years since my metabolism became a normal one.
Something that i learned…You can´t please everyone and you have to accept yourself the way you are even though you will always find something that you don´t like.
I am really happy i found this post, i reaaally love your blog zoe. :)

i agree with you. it is upsetting when people ask if i eat, if i'm healthy, if i work out, if i need help. i definitely do eat, i am healthy, no i do not work out, and i am perfectly fine thank you. i'm sure people think it's a compliment to call someone skinny being as some people have to work really hard for it. but saying the word 'anorexic' just makes me so sad. anorexic is a mental disorder, by the way, and it it by no means a good thing.

zoe, you are so beautiful and one of my favorite people on the internet. i look up to the way you tackled this sensitive topic. :)

This is exactly what I've been going through for ages.

I just stumbled over this post from one of your others. Firstly, thank you so much for posting this. I feel just like you and sometimes feel like the only one who thinks this. I'm 18 and, just like you, am naturally slim. I despise being called 'skinny'. It makes me feel unhealthy and ugly. I eat so much, but never put on weight. I used to hate doing PE, especially swimming like you. I felt like my body was so child-like in a swimming costume, and hated the way I looked. Although I'm now 18, I still haven't really filled out. One thing that does still irritate me is when people say 'I wish I was like you' or 'I wish I had you're legs'. I just feel like saying, 'No you don't, it's not all it's cracked up to be'. However I've now accepted the way I look, maybe I don't really like how I look I'm comfortable in my skin.
When people say things, they think it's a compliment and they probably do mean it to be taken that way, but I don't. Just like you said, if someone said 'you're too fat' to someone who is perceived to be overweight, then they'd be considered rude. But saying 'you're too skinny' to someone slim is okay? I don't understand it.
Again thank you for posting this, it's nice to know someone else feels the same way! <3

I love this post. You took the words/paragraphs out of my mouth! As for me I've been an athlete ever since I was 7 years old, swimming and tennis… so unlike you, I didn't develop nicely on the chest area. I'm not sure if it's denial, but it doesn't bother me that I don't have much of them though, what bothers me is people asking and touching me.

I'm Asian, so I thought, isn't it normal for asian women to be MY size? I'm 5'5 and weighed 90 lbs. I was much thinner when I was 12-15. Now that I'm in my 20's I'm seriously working on putting some weight, currently up 105 lbs in two-year's time. Thing that bothers me is that if I'm naturally this way and my grandparents are naturally thin too why do I have to conform to people's standards? I'm just now realizing how people view other people since all my life high school and college my mind is pre-occupied with sports/novels/anime so I didnt really have the time nor the interest to think about what other people are think or do.

Now that I do, man it's crazier fiction.

You know what, it's nice that you wrote this post and I saw this. Made me feel much more comfortable.

I just want to hug you. You are seriously the best writer ever. I can relate to this so so so much. I really feel like punching everyone that have ever said to me that I am to skinny.

Some people think that they want to be as skinny as we are and be able to eat whatever you want when they don't know how it feels to always get comments saying that one is too skinny. Shit. I totally agree with you and I am just so happy you wrote this. Thank you Zoe.

I don't think it's acceptable to call someone skinny or fat. Fat is more hurtful as it is considered to be hideously overweight and there aren't many things to do with fat people, whereas models, for instance, are skinny and are looked up to, considered very cool and trendy. My point is, no one would see a fat model and say "ooh wish i was her" or "wow, i'd love to look like her in that dress".

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I just stumbled across your blog and was looking through past articles and found this one.
I am exactly the same, have felt exactly the same feelings and had the same questions and looks as described in this blog. Its great to know that someone else is exactly the same! I love the fact that your blog is huge so hopefully a wide audience will understand that skinny people face the same prejudice as fat people do and that not everyone who is skinny has an eating disorder.
Thanks Zoe, I am now following you and look forward to future blog posts :) Don't forget that all people no matter what their size are beautiful :)

That's true. I'm thirteen, I'm 5ft11" and I'm really quite slim. I understand you Zoe, I heard something like "you need to eat", "there's something wrong with you" really often. I remember when my best friend said to me "you're anorexic", I swear, that time I was shocked. I don't understand how people can be so rude for someone. I hundred procents with you Zoe, because I know how you felt and how you feel till now. Basically, I don't care what those people are saying, I feel good with what I am :) Good luck Zoe x

Zoe, I am just as tall as you are and I weigh exactly how much you do, it's incredible. It's this kind of post that I would write myself, each word. I am constantly being called 'too skinny' and it really bugs me. I eat a great deal of food, I just can't put on weigh though I really want to. Sometimes I am scared to wear leggins because if I do, I have this feeling that everyone's thinking 'wow, she must be anorexic'. Sigh.

Omg! This is exactly how I feel! I am totally with you on this, agree 100%! This explains and says everything I feel and think. No one thinks its rude but it really is! I love this post, can not disagree on anything you said!

Hey Zoé , i totally agree with you . Nobody should judge on how you are on the outside .
But love you how ever you are .

Love you Zoé <3

I can completely relate to you and loved reading your post, I'm a skinny Minnie too and I've gone through similar experiences and had people make judgement's on me based on how much I weigh. Even after having a baby I'm skinny and it drives me mad when people make throwaway comments about me being a lucky bitch because I'm skinny after having a kid! Everyone has their insecurities and I think it's completely out of order for someone who doesn't know you well to even consider making a negative remark about your weight. It's difficult at first but you have to try and block out these kind of ignorant people….you know your healthy and well and that's all that matters.

You put this blog post on a long while ago but i recently discovered you on you tube and found you also had a blog and was just browsing through and wow i can't believe how much i relate to this post, thank you for writting this because i now know that i'm not the only one. The other day my manger at work said…oh carley your looking very thin…some people might find that a compliment i suppose it kind of was…it was just the way she said it and then another man that i hardly knew said that i should eat some more chips. OH SHUT UP i felt like saying to him….i wouldn't call you fat, because that would be mean. Pft anyway thank you for writting this i now feel more confident with my body and think hey it's ok i like being my weight, i don't have an eating disorder.

I love your you tube and blog, it really inspires me and makes me think of starting my own…i just can't think of a "good" name haha.

Thank you for being you..

Carley

I am so glad I found this post. I might as well have written it myself, this is all so very familiar to me.

Today, I am 22 years old and have got a little bit more curves than a few years ago although I am still what people would call "stick thin". I don't often get comments on my weight anymore but when I do, I get so angry. Deep inside, I am still so hurt and sad over all the negative comments I got when I was younger, especially from the age of twelve to circa eighteen.

"You look so out of proportion"
"Your legs and arms are so long"
"It looks like you're falling apart"
"You're wrist is so thin, it looks like your hand could fall off"
"I can see your bones through your skin"
"You have no bum"
"You look ill"
"You look like you have an eating disorder"
"Are you anorexic?"
"You look so unnatural, who looks like this?"
"You're nothing but skin and bones"
"Go eat a hamburger"
"You look disgusting"
"Aren't going to finish your meal? You certainly need it!"
"You're going to get a salad? You should rather eat something with fat in it"

and I could go on and on.

Once in 10th grade, my new teacher stopped my when I was walking into the classroom and said that I really ought to try and eat more, and that I looked frail and ill.
My mum's sister accused me of being anorexic about 4 years ago. That one really hurt. She's was my favourite aunt and I trusted her and she accused me of having a mental disorder.
When I was eighteen, I though this era of remarks and hurtful comments had stopped. I came to school one day in a short skirt and tights and my best friend at the time was walking behind me and said what she couldn't believe how skinny my thighs were, that is looked so sick and unnatural and I looked ill. I was so hurt that a few weeks later I went to a nutrition specialist and asked her if she could help me gain weight.

I wish I knew how to respond to people when they comment on how skinny I am. Every once in a while, I still get comments like that, especially from people who I've just met. I've learned to not let these comments get to me too much (some people even think they're giving me a compliment when they mention how skinny I am) but I really want to come up with something to say to people that makes them realize that that was a hurtful and inappropriate comment.

I'm so happy there are people like you, because of people like you world changes to better. Thank you for the post, and I'm sure thet it will help a lot of girls out there… especialy teenage ones.
<3<3<3

I have only just stumbbled across this article… And i agree with everything you said. People commenting on either how skinny or how fat a person is is not fair. I actually suffered anorexia, bulimia and a compulisive exercise disorder for 4 years. Before becomig ill at 14 i hit puberty and found it hard adjusting to the growth of boobs, bottom and natural curves. I was never over weight but took to heart a single comment one stupid boy made in a P.E class. It caused me to completely abuse my body. My lowest weight was 5 stone 3 pound. And you would of thought people saying 'Ur so skinny' is what youy dream of. It wasnt it hurt me just as much as that other comment, but the difference was i couldnt do anything about it. Im now fine, i battled it and i won and i am now a healthy 8 stone 5 pound at 5'4. But still do this day i worry what people think. Both ways, if i go through a stressful and lose weight i panic im to skinny and if i indulge over xmas or my TOM, i panic im getting chunky. Its just in our female DNA… SOmetime i wish we had it easy like guys… They dnt need to worry about boob size, or weight or any of this horrible stuff that seems to destroy many lives. Your beautiful just the way you are, never let anyone tell you different, and deffinately make sure you dont let it almost destroy you. Your life is more presious then a dress size. xx

this is exactly what happened to me, and was going to make a blog post on it myself! everyone tells me to stop complaining and theyd love to have my body, but they have no idea that id love THEIR body! i would rather be curvy, its so much prettier, being stick thin its boring i feel like a sheep. I hate people asking me if im anorexic, no, i would never dream of it, im just thin. you wouldnt ask someone whos fat why there so overweight, theres no difference when your skinny! thank you for showing the world EXACTLY how i feel!

Hi Zoe! First of all, I know that this post was made years ago, but who cares? Posts doesn't have any expiration date anyway.

Your post gave me a lot of hope for myself. Right there when you said, "why don't I have boobs like my friends do?" "why do all my bones poke out at every angle?" "where are my hips?" "why am I so skinny?", it felt like it was me speaking. I am 15 and I know my body would still develop, but being with my friends with wonderful contours makes me feel bad about myself. I have fast metabolic processes too, and my small bone frame doesn't help.

Reading this post opened a light I switched off myself, and I'm really glad that I'm not in the dark anymore. I have high hopes about how my body would develop, and oh! We have the same height =)

Continue helping people like me. Stay pretty and happy. Love youu! =)

http://everbrilliant.blogspot.com/

Hey Zoe,
I think some people have asked about your height and weight so that they can figure out your BMI and try to make theirs the same, to have a body like yours. I know you say that you'd like to put on weight, but I am the exact same height as you, but 10kgs heavier. I used to weigh 53kgs, and gained almost 10 in 2 years, I didn't even notice, until I weighed myself. I have now lost a few kgs, but can't get below 57kgs. I have been going to the gym every day for over a month and eating much healthier and not getting anywhere.
I would love to have your figure, even if you don't want to read that..you're amazingly beautiful and have a lovely figure!
I think many of these girls look up to you and aspire to be like you.
Love what you look like, we all do!
x

I'm actually really happy I read this. I'm 16 and have the same problem. I used to get called 'paper' and would try to wear big baggy jumpers to hide my body from everyone else's. I always felt so insecure, especially through the summer, as it was too hot to hide my body away.

Zoe,
Thank you SO very much for being brave and posting this. I'm literally the exact same size as you except minus an inch in height and I've been trying so hard to explain this to people I know (and those awkward, random strangers). This post has helped me a lot and hopefully it will help them understand as well.
Lots of love, Megan :)

Wow. I've never thought about this topic like that, it's a whole new perspective, and now I feel that I was a terrible person for thinking the way I used to: assuming things and judging people. This is probably the best post ever. I never thought that it could be hard for someone who can't gain weight. People always go on and on about people who can't lose weight, but they never think of people like you. I think that's why everyone knows about larger people but people aren't as aware about you kind of situation. This has really opened my eyes. You are such an inspirational person and I think it's amazing you have written this. You are a huge inspiration to me. :)

I can totally see where you're coming from. I'm 16 years old, 5'3 and 46 kg and, as you said, have a "super metabolism". I hardly put on weight despite my utter crap diet and little to no exercise. I don't think I'm going to grow much bigger, length wise and width wise than I am right now. I was called anorexic in the past, and people tell me that I'm "skinny", a comment I can't really find a response to. I've only put on about one kilogram since I weighed myself last year (I don't tend to weight myself often and do not own a weight), and I'm finding my inability to put on weight a little scary. I try to eat as well as I can, so I can stay healthy. I recently worked out my BMI, which told me that I was underweight for my age group. However, both my parents are doctors and are okay with how I am. Sure they may urge me to eat a little more at dinner and a little less lollies, but they're not overly concerned. So I'm trying to stay positive about it and just go with what I've got. I'm really thankful you made this post, as it has made me realise that there are others like me, I thought I just had a really weird metabolism!

AAAAHHHH THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS POST!!!!! I feel exactly the same way!! It's seen as bullying if you tell someone to lose some weight and we all gotta make sure we don't hurt the fat girls feelings but um hey what about skinny girls?! I've had to put up with soo so so many anorexic rumours for my teenage life and it's not on!! X

wow. just wow. you don't understand how many times ive wanted to say this to everyone at school. my friends think calling me 'a bag of bones' is the best compliment ever, when really, it hurts.. alot. ive told my best friend about how i go home and cry and she apologized but i know she thought i was being stupid. and the fact that is if i went upto her and said 'you're a lump of fat' everyone would think of me as a bitch. thankyou SO much for posting this, maybe one day i'll show her it and she might understand:) thankyou again for putting it out there. xx

Thank god that someone like you has posted an article like this. I have never really come across anything like this on the internet and I felt strangely "touched" when I read it because I feel exactly the same way. I am a 14 year old girl and everyone I know is constantly telling me I need to eat more or that I'm so skinny and I am really SO SICK OF IT. I didn't really know if things would get any better for me because I really am pretty skinny, being 5'6" and just under 100 lbs but after reading this I have some hope. I love your YouTube videos, you really are such a sweet person, and keep doing what you're doing!
Thanks Zoe :)

Finally, someone who feels the same way! Ever since I hit puberty I lost all my baby fat and was really skinny. Growing up was hard because people would constantly ask me why I was so skinny and it got to the point where one of my friend's sister used to call me "bones" as a nickname. It's not like I can help it! I ate just as much as the average kid (sometimes even wayy more) and my body would not show it. Fast forward nine years later, I am now 110lbs which is still pretty thin but I've come along way from the 70lb eleven year old that I used to be. Even though people are still telling me to eat more, I'm proud that I actually put on some weight and I just learned to accept the fact that I just take longer to fill out than others.

Hi Zoe!
I just stumbled upon this specific blogpost of yours, even though I've read your blog and followed you on YouTube for quite some time. I have to say, first of all, that I completely agree with you in what you're saying here. And people will judge you, regardless of weight, size, height, and so on. But let me tell you; eating crappy foods isn't necessarily the option if putting in weight is the goal. Simply eating healthy and lifting weights will help massively. Healthy does not mean salads and water, it means bad-ass clean meals with a lot of proteins and carbs (which you can get through veggies instead of pizzas and burgers and all that stuff), and, of course your healthy fats. I'm not an educated nutritionist, doctor or personal trainer, but I've read about so many people accomplishing weight gain through doing this. No lie! And, I've been experimenting with it myself, so I know it works if I do it consistently. Again, no lie! I'm not recommending you do it, I'm just saying that there are ways. All is not lost. I happen to think you look amazing just the way you are, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. But there are, in fact ways to change the appreance of one's body, be it to lose or gain weight :)

Yes!! Oh my goodness I am so glad that someone feels the same way that I do!! I have quite often been told that I am too skinny. I am a twin and I am of a small build with a fast metabolism its not my fault I'm not bigger!!

xxxx

Oh wow! I think I just realised that I am one of those who say thins like "You are too skinny" "Don´t you eat enough?"…
But I think it´s becourse I am super jealous. I always have to remind myself not to eat too many sweets and I never feel good when oters see me eating.. I do know that this really isn´t nice, but I just can´t help myself. :(
In a way it is abolutelly obvious, that slim people have problems with their bodies as well, but it´s just now (after reading this post) that I kind of realised it.
Thanks for this amazing post! (and sorry if there are millions of mistakes in this text^^)
Love from Germany,
Maike

Thank you so much for writing this article! I feel exactly the same!

I hardly ever go a week without someone grabbing my wrists and saying "Oh my goodness your wrists are sooo skinnyy!" Granted it's rare that someone tells me to put on weight, because everyone i know well knows i don't like being so skinny, and that it's just my high metabolism. I also put weight on where i don't want it ha, on my tummy, so when i say i have a fat tummy i get weird looks and get almost told off for it, but i do have a big tummy, half due to having scoliosis which messed up my whole torso, so I'm also conscious of that.

I'm torn between wanting to eat loads of chocolate and McDonald's and my Mum telling me she was the same when she was my age and one day I'll regret eating rubbish. But it's hard knowing that my size is something that people instantly see and probably think is gross, so it makes it really hard to walk around town and try no to think people are looking at my skinny legs.

Whenever people tell me about my size, i get really worked up, and feel like sating the things you mentioned, about saying the same stuff to people of bigger size, i also just want to slap them and say, "Do you think i don't know my wrists are that size, do you think I'm blind? I've had the same body for a good amount of years, of course i know my wrists are thin!" Thanks again for addressing this subject, i think more people should talk about it because being skinny does not automatically mean eating disorder.

Love your youtube channel and this blog :D xxxx

I absolutely LOVED this!!! Im 5'3, 14 years old, and 80 lbs (American measurements…convert if you want). Everyone, and i mean EVERYONE, comments on my weight. "Your hella skinny" "Oh she's anorexic" and all this other bull. So many girls come up to me and say "I wish I was as skinny as you!". Its all so annoying! I too have a "Extra Super Fast" metabolism. I eat so much junk food as well, and not an ounce of healthy food :D Im glad im not alone! Thank you so much for writing about this!! Hopefully some idiots will realize that its not okay to call someone "Anorexic" to their face…

Much Love,
Jenna :)

I'm really glad that you wrote about this. It really is an actual issue. I am 5 foot and 7 inches tall and about 100 lbs. That being said my "BMI" is so low that it is not on the charts. I get that from my dad who grew so tall so fast (6 foot 8 inches) that he literally looked emaciated in some of his childhood photos. People always say "You're so skinny! You're nearly anorexic!" etc. I'm not sure if they think they are complimenting me but either way it really bothers me. I have severe anxiety and a really touchy subject for me is my weight. I am terrified of being anorexic. I know that is ridiculous because I am 110 billion% sure I'm not since I eat whatever I want whenever I want. The issue is I've always had a really small appetite because of the meds I have to take. That coupled with a really fast metabolism makes me quite thin. I hate the word skinny. I also hate my legs, they look like twigs/bird legs. Even my mom calls me that and she sometimes calls me "birdie". I hate my legs. Sadly I have really large hips for how thin and tall I am that I look slightly disproportionate. I also have ridiculously prominent cheekbones so in bad lighting I look like a skeleton. I hate that. I always envy girls that have more meat on their bones.

Thank you Zoe, I had no idea that slimmer people go through the same thing bigger people do. i see bigger and slimmer girls being bullied every day at school, but I thought the slimmer girls were that insecure than bigger girls are. I will now try to be friends with the girls in my school that are insecure and help them with there problems.
Thank you Zoe,
Amazing Article :)

Hi. This is my first comment on your blog as I only found it today!! I like your honesty in this post :-) I was a skinny minnie growing up too! I did a similar post to this a few months ago. It took me quite a while to write it but I am glad I did.

http://ashlylondon.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/the-celebrity-secret-to-being-healthy.html

xxx

Great post. I'm glad you stepped out of your comfort zone to address this issue, Zoe. Why should other people's opinions matter if you yourself are content with the way you look?

However, you might be over-thinking the doctor part. Possibly, as a doctor, she's worried that you might be having bad eating habits, or whatever. Obviously not every skinny person is going to have an ED, but maybe she was just concerned. Don't overthink it too much.

hey zoe, i loved this post! it's not nice to comment on someones weight because you never know whats going on or what these people think about it. the only thing is that exercising can actually really help skinny people shape their body and make it look fit and filled out nicely instead of skinny :) but still, you are beautiful and you are a huge inspiration!

I'm so happy you posted this. I'm 20 and unfortunately wasn't blessed with larger breasts or a bigger butt (I think I look like a boy). People in my own family won't shut up about my size. My Grandma is constantly telling me I'm too skinny and it really hurts my feelings. I wish I had a curvier body and I can't help it that I don't. I always see posts on pinterest and other sites saying things like "Bigger girls are sexier" and stuff like that. I know they post those things to feel better about themselves, but it really stings because I don't feel sexy at all. I wish we could all get along and support each other no matter what size the other is. :/

I completely agree with you. I'm 17 years old and I've got a problem with my thyroid. It is too lazy to make enough energy for my body. Because of that the doctor gave me some pills which contained hormons. What happens with that is that due to all that amount of hormons they make my body fatter and look much more unhealthier than I it is. I remenber going to the beach and listening to people taking about my huge wobbly botton. I felt so bad that I went directly to home and stayed there for all the summer. Even my friends started to forget about me because I didn't go to the beach in all the summer. My parents used to get angry with me just because they thought I was being stupid. They didn't understand what I was feeling and that made me feel even more depressed.

Zoe's post made me believe in myself and feel a bit better with my body. Thanks Zoe! I'm sure I'm going to go more to the beach this summer!! Thanks again it means a lot for me ♥

We can thank the media for this. For so long they have romanticised being unhealthily thin. Now bigger women have taken a stand and fought back and the tables have turned and "curves" are in, even those whose 'curves' are actually unhealthy. Everything has to rigidly fit within the lines that society has deemed 'acceptable' and any deviation from within those lines is considered abnormal and therefore must be publicly ridiculed. Someone told me to "go eat a burger" recently, you wouldn't hear someone tell a heavy person to "go take a jog around the park" in the same manner. I'm 5'2 and I weigh just under 7st, thin yes but not unhealthily so. If eating disorders weren't idealised by the media, this whole 'skinny hate' would never have happened. Time for change. (Also, great post Zoe, very informative)

I get this practically everyday and it's really annoying. People assume you don't eat anything, but I eat so much I should be obese, but I'm not. I find it incredibly hard to put any weight on and it's all just down to genetics and a good metabolism-not an eating disorder.

I don't think it's right that people should judge anyone on their weight, because they don't know you or your circumstances or anything.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets frustrated about these things and it's nice to talk to people who actually understand for once :)

why are you getting birth control bills when you're not even in a relationship………. you didn't need to provide that bit of info lol you could have said you were just getting a regular checkup. people probably comment on the fact that you're so skinny because YOU ARE and you saying that you thought you looked hideous for not having any boobs and looking like a pole is really insensitive and rude to people who are naturally like that so it's like you're calling their appearance ugly. i'm sure if you really wanted to gain weight you could go to a nutritionist to get the best advice and sort that out. "why should you ever be allowed an opinion on someone else's body or way of life? " because if they appear too skinny or too fat then it can be a health concern and friends and family would want the best for them so yeah, it's reasonable that they'd bring up someone's weight. the whole purpose of BMI is to tell you whether your weight is healthy or not, not to target your appearance it is to help you out. they are professionals, you should listen.

AMEN! <3

Thank you for writing about this Zoe. I also have a super metabolism. I eat well, exercise, and am 5'9'', all of which do not help my case. I struggle with explaining to my friends and family that their comments on my weight upset me, and it is so encouraging to read that you deal with it as well.
You are absolutely gorgeous, please do not think otherwise! :)

You have no idea how much I relate to this! Everything you said in this has happened to me too. I spent so much time trying to put on weight so people couldn't pass comment and I would be 'normal'. Then I realised as I get older it'll happen and I looked at the positive side, I can still eat a big mac without the worry! Thank you so much for writing this post, it's given me that little boost of confidence! <3<3

Agree. I hate when people says you're so damn skinny what do you eat? "just like everybody else I think?". I have a friend who always says to me that I should eat more because she think I never eat… I often hear that I'm anorectic from her and that I'm skinny as a match. I don't have high metabolism but I can eat almost whatever I want. I don't want to hear from anyone that I'm skinny, acording to me that is just as bad as calling someone fat, it hurts.
I don't need people to say I'm slim, I'm perfectly fine thinking it to my self.
Even though I tell my friends to not say I'm slim they keep telling me that, they think it's a nice thing to say but it hurts.

This is the story of my life. I've been called Flaca (Skinny) all my life as a nickname. You know when people say it in a good way but immediatly they start doing question about my weight is annoying. Especially when they insinuate I have a health problem or eating disorder. That affect your self-esteem !

I totally agree with you! I don't have to go through the same as you but I do feel your pain. I have a friend that says the same as you did in this blog post, but she uses it for a wrong reason….to let me and my other friends know that she is skinny and that we aren't as skinny. It's so annoying because I have an opinion for this issue, the same as you do.
You are strong though and absolutely beutiful!

I am exactly the same as you im 14 and im 4ft something and idk how much i weigh but yh. I hate when people call me skinny because it makes me feel really insecure. A few months ago at school we had to do about 'healthy diets' and BMI and I was one of the only people who didn't do it for themselves because I knew mine would be really low. After that I went home and like ate a load of stuff. It didn't help at all. (I got a few spots though :() another thing that annoys me is because im so small i look quite young so before when i went to see a 12 rated movie i got asked for id and a few random people just laughed at me! i mean seriously! And one of my not so close 'friends' called me anorexic twice when i took my blazer off. this made me feel so insecure i hated it. I hate when there's things on the news about everyone being 'obese' because that is just a really rude offensive word i think. I also hate when people just 'assume' that all i eat is salad or i don't eat anything when really all i eat is junk. Even if i tell someone that they don't believe me- its so stupid. And because im so small i have literally no body shape just boney hand and knees and elbows and everything. I mean i know im underweight and im like if i could change it dont you think i would?!?! im sorry this is really long it just winds me up so much

YES! I love the part where you say BMI is stupid. Our whole class had to check our BMI in my health class because we were studying adolescent growth & I was so humiliated because I am considered obese. It seriously made me depressed for a week and I now loathe BMI.

It's one of the most beautiful post I ever read. I'm really skinny, during my childhood everybody thought i was anorexic or having eating disorder. I'd never the right to complain about me, everybody thought i was weak. Now I'm quite confortable w/ my weight but no one speak about this trouble. Every mag I read speak about how lose weight, or how accept a ''fat body'' but , never about too thin people who have trouble to accept their body. Thanks to speak about it.
I really love your blog. x

I totally agree with this post – for some reason in today's society, we treat obesity so sensitively, and do not stand for it to be criticized – allowing these unhealthy people to be called 'curvy' or get away with special treatment and sensitivity for essentially poisoning their bodies, is toxic behaviour, and really unfair considering how people view those who are thin/skinny or slightly underweight. I am an average weight for my age, but slightly underweight for my height. I work out a lot because I enjoy sports, and eat healthy because it's just the right thing to do, but I am constantly being criticized by relatives, friends, even parents of friends, who say that it is unhealthy behaviour for a young person. There is nothing unhealthy about being a proper weight – it's a good thing, yet society seems to lay heavier negativity towards it than obesity.

I know that's not quite what your post was about, but it kind of touches on a similar issue – great post though!

Thank you for this article! I really liked it! you need to love yourself, I think you're gorgeous zoey.

Not to be rude, but some people might feel awkward going to a nutritionist and asking things like that. Also ,if you read some of the other comments, other people have been to a nutritionist and the advice that they've been given hasn't worked. Some people go on birth control pills to improve their skin condition so she doesn't have to be in a relationship to go on them! Plus yeah it would be right for friends and family to be concerned if someone wasnt eating, but zoe said she's always been this skinny, and that she eats alot, therefore her family and friends would surely know that she had no health problems or anything they need to be concerned about? And even if there was a concern, random people shouldnt feel the need to point it out when they don't know anything about you.

I can understand where you're coming from, as I've been called skinny my whole life too. I think the difference is that when you're skinny, it's generally clear that there's far less judgement being made on your self-control, your eating habits, etc. than if you're overweight. People might say "eat a sandwich", but I always took it more as concern, or in some cases, jealousy. You're the second Youtuber to bring this issue up (first was Jen frmheadtotoe), and while it's an interesting point, it also feels a lot like exacerbating an essential non-issue.

You don't see overweight Youtubers making videos explaining how hurtful "fat" comments make them, because honestly there's a much bigger stigma there than here. There's no doubt you're gorgeous, and to hear you say how you "HATE" being called skinny – it feels disingenuous, because there are so many larger problems that people face daily.

I have this same problem & Thank you so much for writing the words that are ALWAYS on my mind <3 You're amazing! :)

So true words. And I also I think it was very brave to post this as is it very personal stuff. I am still glad you wrote this post though as someone has to say this :)
Btw we are the same height :D

This post is perfect. Well done Zoe, you're amazing x

I think you look lovely zoe! I had a friend who was really concerned about being overweight all her life and she started to take it out on another friend calling her anorexic and stick thin, to her face. Her excuse was that it was just 'concern' but she would have been horrified if it had been the other way around. I agree with what you've written, great post! :)

I get this all the time and it makes me feel so self concious. This has really inspired me and im so glad im not the only one like it! :) x

Hi! I know this post is old but I just found it and I must say, I was definitely relieved to find someone who is literally just like me!
I am 18, almost 19, weigh 95 lbs, and I have had "super metabolism" my entire life. I'm a natural size 0, and I find it very hard to deal with everyone always saying "oh you're so little" "you don't have any meat on those bones" "you have such tiny legs" "gosh, you're so skinny" and so on..
Calling someone skinny and little, hurts JUST as much as calling someone fat. We can't help our situation, and if we could, we would. I don't want to be so little, but I can't help that I am. I just have to deal with it now and hope that I gain some weight in the future.
I took birth control for two months last year and gained 14 pounds, going from 88-102. I gained it all in a few places: my face especially, my bum, my boobs and a bit on my tummy. I figured out my insurance couldn't cover my particular birth control so my mom decided to stop it all together. In those short two months, 14 pounds is A LOT to gain.
Now its a year later, and I've came back down to 95. I didn't go back to 88 thank goodness, but still, I felt more confident at 102.
Anyways, if you struggle with "super metabolism" like the gorgeous Zoe and I, just know that you're not alone and that it will get better one day, trust me. I was a bean pole in my early teens and I didn't start getting boobs and a bum (I still have hardly any hips) until high school. It won't last forever and just stay positive. Everyone is beautiful, no one can tell you different..

Thank you.

This is a really old post and I am insanely late in reading this. But I just had too. I read this & got a weird feeling of deja vu. As I was reading throw all of this I heard my voice saying it because I have had to defend being thin in the past. One of my nicknames is "bean"; shortened from the veggie string bean because that's exactly what I looked like. LOL. I had developed a complex about being skinny they took me a while to get over because I got picked on so much about being skinny has a kid, in high school, and even up til college. My first year at college I weighed 104 pounds. I'm 5'3 (a tad bit shorter than you LOL) So I was a really little thing. I did a reverse diet too. It took me a while to slow my metabolism down but I did and gained so much it didn't feel right for my height but I was happy to finally have some weight. I decided to eat healthier and I'm maintaining a weight of 130 pounds now. My point of commenting this was because I was actually shocked to see that literally everything I said, felt, and/or told someone about the reason I looked the way I did; someone else said.

Hi Zoe,
I'm 16 and a have always been very thin. People used to call me and sometimes still call me : "anorexic, scrawny" and all that stuff. I have always felt very bad but now I just don't care about what people say. A month ago, my P.E teacher told me : "a human being gets to eat". I was so upset… Luckily people like you understand me.
I am starting to get my woman body, boobies and hips and bottom, I'm glad about it and I also think that slim is pretty. Look at Kaya Scodelario in Skins.

xx

very good post :)
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I know you posted this about 2 years ago but I'm going through the same thing. I'm about the same height and weight as you and people are CONSTANTLY pointing out that I'm skinny. It makes me feel so self conscious and I'd give anything to be curvy or 'normal' sized but I know that it's not going to happen because of my metabolism. I'm so glad that you posted this because I think it will help people that are in the same situation and it will be an eye opener to those that feel the need to make comments about people's weight. Knowing that you went through the same things makes me feel like I can be more confident in myself :)

Team Petite ;) xx

I think this is the first time I've ever thought about this so in depth.
You're 100% right, though.
Weight is always one of those awkward subjects that it's not really okay for anyone to judge people on.
I'm 5'11 and weigh about 9 1/2 stone, which to me, seems horribly over weight and I can't seem to shift an inch of it. But if I really look at myself in the mirror with a logical head on, I'm just a bit wobbly in places. My boyfriend makes regular little comments about my weight though, even though he's about 5'9 and quite a bit heavier than me. He made a comment just last night about how I probably can't fit into one of his t-shirts.
I've just found out that a hormone imbalance is almost certainly causing me not to lose weight, but he's still as insensitive as ever…
I suppose the moral of the story is that everyone is completely different when it comes to body size. I just wish that the rest of society could recognize it.

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for this post. I've always been insecure about how skinny I was..no boobs, stick legs, etc. Tried very hard trying to gain weight (even tried drinking milk twice a day for 2 weeks, and all it did was make me want to barf). Everyone tells me I should eat more…and I'm just like…"I eat even more than you! and you look perfectly nice and healthy while everyone probably thinks I have an eating disorder.. "

Great post, Zoe. I totally agree. You always look amazing. I have the same problem I get heavier but I never put on weight. And I get taller.

You're so good at getting your points across; a very good writer indeed. Regarding the post itself, it made me realise how rude it is for someone to say "you're so skinny!" People take things in different ways, to some this may be quite a compliment, but to others (people with fast metabolisms in particular) it may be very offending.

I thoroughly loved reading this, I found it so easy to relate to. Honestly, your a inspiration to everyone just by being proud of who you are.I constantly get called to skinny but behind my back so I just hear their judgemental whispers and it's just really awkward, what do you do? Turn around and say you can hear them and stand up for yourself or just let them because you know your a stronger person…

Anyways, you are a true role model and I love your blog.

Exactly what I was thinking!

Even though this article is from 2011, I´m going to reply to it now.

Zoe, what you´re saying here is so inspirational. Overall I think you're an inspirational person already but after reading this I just can't think of anything else to say than: Thank you. Simply just thank you.

I am a larger girl, and I absolutely don't feel all that comfortable about being larger, though I try to make the best of it. I've got amazing friends who accept me just the way I am. I trust these people with my life. Some of these friends are very skinny girls, none of them is as large as I am. They try their very best to gain weight, I try my very best to lose weight.

Sorry for airing my heart (is that even a proper English expression? I don't know, sorry I'm Dutch.) here. But I need to confess that sometimes I just have these days where I lie on my bed, crying, feeling sorry for myself. Even though I know that there are people with lives much worse than mine, I sometimes feel so miserable. I've been so lucky, all my life. I've never really been bullied ( I've heard some comments, of course) and I always have had friends, but it just feels horrible if you can't follow up with the others on physical levels or if you don't fit in another nice jeans. It just hurts.

Don't get me wrong, I've got my confidence, and I do believe in myself. It just hurts sometimes.

But then again, I've got my thin friends. Even though I've got those thin friends, who really can eat anything they want and really want to gain some weight, I've never really gotten such a good insight on how that really feels as you've given me now. I really respect you for that.

I've always been that person to tell people to be themselves, and to be proud of who you are. I told people that, and I have been proud of myself. Proud of my singing, proud of my acting in the school plays, proud of things, but proud of my body? Never.

Maybe I can start now.

I'm sorry for this block of text. I'm sorry for writing all this. But I just needed to thank you.

So hereby.
Thank you Zoe.
Thank you for being so inspirational.
Not only to me, but also to so many other girls.
Thank you for finally convincing me to maybe even start being proud of my body type.

I cannot thank you enough.

This is a great post, but I'm sorry I have to disagree with at one point. I wonder why skinny people thought fat people dont get asked questions about them being overweight. im overweight and i have to face a lot of embarrassment when sometimes people in the mall just came up to me trying to sell slimming products saying im too fat and i need to try the products. each time i saw a doctor they would always say something about me being overweight. when i felt weird about my knee few year ago i went to the hospital and the doctor just sent me away saying i was just too fat and all i need to do was to lose weight and things will slowly be good on me. I had to even ask the doctor, "lets imagine im not fat, lets say im just an average sized girl complaining of instability at my knee, what would you say then?" it was ridiculous how i had to really fight to get examine carefully, met the best surgeon, and spent too much money on that. over time my knee got worse and last year i had to undergo an operation due to knee injury that had been slowly developed since i was a kid, and nothing to do with me being fat. when i attended job interviews some of the interviewees just nonchalantly asked me to slim down first and come again next time. some said i dont have the "corporate look" being overweight so they couldnt take me in. and the list goes on and on….

so the question of "would a larger persons got asked the same questions" as you got, YES they got that a lot. im sure you would never go to someone fat and ask them questions(because you're sweet and too nice to do that) but that doesnt mean other people wouldnt. just like me, i have a lot of skinny friends and have never said anything about their body because i know its just wrong. but there are always other evil people who would do that

I have the same problem, i live in Sweden, I'm very skinny and have small breasts but I'm now proud of it at the age of 17.

A funny thing in Sweden is that they would have ordered in a size 32 (my size, where very happy for it, because that size is available in Italy and France, so I know it fits perfectly) the smallest of clothes in Sweden right now is 34.

But all became angry and size 32 does not exist. Instead, they made ​​curvy mannequins as an excuse for those who have been affected and angry?!

What about me? I'm happy to be small, I'm a little bit Italian and they are small.
I love all the body shapes because everyone is different.

I am thin, have small breasts and I'm proud of it today, sono Piccolo. I think everyone should be proud of themselves.

I get the same type of comments as you, Zoe. I am really short for my age, well for almost any age, really. I have been in the 5th percentile for height and weight my whole life! I am so glad to have someone like you to help me get through the rough patches <3

WOW Zoe, I feel like you're the first person to understand. I'm really skinny too and always have been, people always tell me i'm really skinny and need to put weight, and i've always felt the same way, how rude is it to tell someone that? You wouldn't point it out to a fat person so why would you do it to a skinny person? I find it so rude. I completely agree with you, thank you so much for your post, i feel a lot better knowing someone understands. :)

I feel exactly the same.
I'm 15 now, any my "change" to woman had not come yet. All my friends say things like: you have to eat more, you have to stop doing sport, or even: you make me look fat. I loove them a lot, and they also looooove me, but sometimes they make me feel so uncomfortable. I'm trying to gain weight, but I can't! I would love to gain just a little, but I can't.
People always say that I'm sooo thin and that they would love to be like me. No, they wouldn't. I don't even have boobs!! It's so awkward, I hate it. I like being thin, right, but not that thin. Nobody thinks that they can make me feel bad for their comments, they even think that there are compliments. But there aren't for me. I don't have any problem, and I like myself, but with comments like that they make me feel more and more uncomfortable everytime. I'm scared it can end with a problem, I hope not. But…whatever, I LOVE MYSELF. Like Lady gaga says, baby, you were born this way. Maybe guys aren't into me, maybe I would like to be more beatuiful, but maybe society can change their minds, maybe we can change a bit the world, because I'm sure we are not the problem, THE STEREOTYPES are the problem. Everyone has a stereotype, and it's so stupid. We must end with this. I'm sure nobody is going to read this, but if you do, please reply or just change a bit your world. If everybody can change a bit, it's going to be a big change. Just saying… Thanks for your atention, have a good day and do not forget the ones you love. ^^

I have the exact same problem! D: At least I'm not the only one now :)

so, I know this post was ages ago (I think?) I just saw it, and I thought, that relates to me so much! apart from, I am 5ft8 and 7.8 stone. I am 15 and people at school constantly say , 'omg! you are so skinny!', and now I don't know whether they are saying that in a complimentary way or in a negative way. I always say back to them, 'thanks, but I am trying to put on weight', and they look at me as if I'm mad!! like you Zoe, I just have a speedy metabolism, I am really unfit and I scoff food like there is no tomorrow! haha, but if I do put on weight it goes to my bum and that's it – it's so annoying!! but it's good to know that I'm not the only one with this problem and it should hopefully change and I will hopefully fill out in the future. thanks Zoe :) xx

I just heard about this blogpost and wanted to share my thoughts on it.

I agree with you, almost fully. I am 5'8" and weigh 108lbs. That is just 5lbs heavier and 4 inches taller than you, Zoe. So, imagine your weight stretched out even more! As well as the fact that I have very small boobs (proportionate) and basically no bottom. I do have hips, however, so that gives me a bit of shape. I have a BMI of 16-18, which means that I am underweight.

Now, I'm 21 years old and have had this body for forever. I've been about the same weight since the 9th grade of high school, but didn't stop growing until I was about 18. I've heard PLENTY of people ask me if I was anorexic or bulimic, if I ever ate, and how I stayed so skinny. My answer is the exact same as yours. "No, I just have the metabolism of a 5 year old". They would then ask if my parents were skinny (mom is, dad is not). But that's always been pretty much where they would drop it and accept my answers.

I do find those questions to be insulting questions, but I do not however take offense to them. It may just be my personality, but I find that people are just naturally curious and I accept that. It may be that they themselves have aspirations of becoming skinnier and want to know if I'm on some fancy diet or something that they can do. It could also be that they're genuinely concerned for me, but I just right it and we move on. I find that the best way to deal with the types of questions that you get all the time, and that I get too, is to just answer them.

I do have some advice for you, though. Work out!! Exercise! I never exercised just like you haven't, and am/was terribly unfit. Then I started to go to the gym and take a Piyo class (pilates/yoga, it's AMAZING). And I've found that I haven't lost ANY weight whatsoever. I have just gained muscle. My legs and arms and stomach have never been so defined. The only thing that you need to stay away from is doing too much cardio (treadmill/elliptical) because that burns fat faster than it builds muscle.

This has been long, and you may never read it, but I thought I may aswell.

Become confident in your FULL self. I wouldn't change a single thing about myself. I'm perfect for myself, and that's what matters most.

I feel as though I'm a bit late in jumping on the bandwagon, but I have been really struck by this post.
Like you, I have always struggled to put on weight, but recently it has been really eroding my confidence. I feel that the media has played a part in this, despite the fact that many believe that it is newspapers and magazines who promote slim figures. However, as someone affected by this, I have noticed that tabloids describe naturally slim celebrites as 'worryingly thin' or 'skeletal', provoking online comments of 'she's disgusting' or 'she needs to eat a burger'. People don't seem to realise or appreciate that people can be naturally thin. I have read dozens of articles about how women should feel secure in their bodies, and how they don't have to be skinny to feel beautiful. Whilst these articles are succesful, they are tailored to those who feel overweight, not under. They therefore exclude those of us who are naturally slim, making us feel as though we do not count and, consequently, worse. I, for one, feel disheartened being told my figure is the same as a 12 year old boy, or that I'm not a 'real woman' because I don't have curves.
However, reading your blog post has really cheered me up, Zoe. I'm only young, so I have time to learn to accept my figure and accept myself for who I am, but I really feel that your blog post will help me get there. It is not often that I feel comfortable in my own skin, especially when surrounded by so many other beautiful and confident girls. I'm so glad that you wrote this post as it has shown me that there are others out there like me who understand what it's like, and that I am not totally alone. Thank you, Zoe.

I'm in the exact same position, I can totally understand. People ask, "Why are you so skinny??" "What do you eat or NOT eat??" But I eat like a normal person, in fact, I eat plenty because I love food. I just have a faster metabolism rate, just like you. Some people compliment me, but others just question.. but I never really did anything to MAKE myself skinny, I wouldn't think of anorexia! Of course, I too wish I put on a bit more fat (hehe) but I don't believe anyone should put you down for being skinny. That doesn't automatically make you a stupid person who tried to look like a model and went wrong. I'm so glad you are proud of who you are, Zoe, that's what is amazing about you.

I think you are perfect the way you are! <3

~Avalon

I totally agree with you Zoe! Don't worry people who do that are just jealous of you! If they really believed you had an eating disorder they would just feel sorry for you, and say nothing – leave you in peace.
But the fact that they are saying something to you means they know your just one of the lucky ones with the "skinny gene" and they are jealous!
Next time someone says "OMG, your so skinny" know that the translation is: "Its not fair, I wish I could be skinny like you and this makes me feel bad, so I'll pretend there's something wrong with you, to make myself feel better"

I seriously love this post! I just followed you because of it! :) Love the blog and I am so tired of people always making snide comments about how I am so thin and they were never my size nor could they be. I think it is so rude for anyone to ever make a comment to anyone regarding their weight because the doctor is the only person who should express concern towards anyone's weight. For all they could know, someone very skinny could be on chemotherapy or something and not telling anyone they are sick. Some people are just born thin, and some people just change over the years and end up thinner than they were when they were younger. Anyways, if overweight people ever had a skinny person telling them that they shouldn't eat because they are too fat, they would knock that skinny girl right over on her butt probably! Well, I look forward to more posts and think you are gorgeous! Have a good day! xx Pip

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This post is so nice and made me think about how my sister feels. She is soo slim and sometimes I wish I could be like that. She eats loads of food and puts on no weight.But maybe its not good, she looks alot younger and smaller because of it and cant fit into most clothes. I am really going to be considering how she feels more now because of this. Thanks!!!

This is one of the most truthful and accurate posts I have ever read. I have had the same issue all of my life, and I'm still waiting to 'fill out'. I'm 16 and have always been small for my age. I can totally empathize with you and all who have posted in the comments, being called 'skinny' and 'bag of bones' is just hurtful as calling someone 'fat'.

I really appreciate you writing this post Zoe, thank you so much :) x

I know the feeling! I totally agree. once in school i got this random girl asking me if i was anorexic! where ever i go people look at my legs and i'm just like keep your eyes to yourself! buying clothes is hard because my legs look hideous in short dresses and i like like a'twig' 'skeleton' in skinny jeans! like what do you want me to wear BAGGY granny trousers all day every day of my life just because i cant put on weight!!! and i hate it when some are like i want to be as skinny as you, or how are you so skinny and it's just soo annoying because they don't know how hard it is to buy clothes that look nice on you! but you look gorgeous in everything and are beautiful!

your blog will and probably already has shut peoples mouths!!! xxx :)

I think lots of teenage girls are put under pressure to be skinny because it's the 'right size to be' and it's not seen as an insult if someone goes "Oooh, you're so skinny!". I know plenty of people will have heard this but Marilyn Monroe was considered the sexiest woman of her time and she wasn't that slim so I don't think anyone should be put under pressure to look a certain size, ever.

I have exactly the same issue:) thank u sooo much zoe u helped me a lot <3

Hi zoe, I have read your blog and read a couple replies, I am 47, 5'5" & weigh in @113 lbs consistantly, no kids, no boobs, no hips…rather boyish. After years of hating my body type & people's comments about it, just like you I finally came up with a remark. I tell them I have worms! Boy you should see their faces! Then I just laugh out loud and ask if they would like some! It works perfectly, not only do I think it is hilarious but thet never say anything about my weight again! Keep your spirits up Zoe, it really is a blessing in so many ways! Sincerely, Renee

This was such a fresh way of writing about the whole situation. So glad I read this! You look beautiful, Zoe. You should be proud of what makes you you. :)

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I know exactly what you mean Zoe! It's basically the same for me and thanks for posting this because its really helped xxxxxx

Just reread through this blog post for the third time and every time I read it, it gets me a bit emotional. How stupid could a person be to be so blatantly rude and ask questions like that? What does it even matter to them? It doesn't matter at all. I am of average weight for my height and age but I have really big thighs. Now the reason I have big thighs is because they are all muscle due to the fact that I do Kung Fu. But people are constantly reminding me of them. A girl once said to me "We need to get some meat off those thighs." She said that straight to my face. Why does it matter to her that I have strong, muscled legs. It doesn't. Just like you said, we should all learn to love each other for the way that we are. I think everyone is beautiful no matter their shape or size! ^_^ xxx

I appreciate that you've written this as it's a very difficult and touchy topic to tackle. I'm 5'1 & 1/2 and am typically around 90lbs most of the time. According to the doctor I should be 100-110 I believe based on BMI. I think it's absolutely ridiculous to try to lump everyone of a certain height to a certain weight etc based on a scale. Everyone's body is different and there is a different baseline for healthy for everyone. I might be skinny but I eat just about everything and anything and find I barely gain while if I get sick I lose weight very quickly.

Sometimes when I meet people they comment that I'm so skinny and am I anorexic and that I should eat more. It's quite frustrating that people assume things about me which are far from true. I've learned to just let those comments slide off of me now and not bother myself with them. I know my body best and that's what's most important.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who's dealt with this issue.

I'm going through a similar situation, except I'm overweight. Although, most people don't say anything to your face when you're overweight, they sure love to talk about it behind your back (even though they know it'll get back to you). They love it even more if they can actually make fun of you and laugh at you, acting as if we can't see it. I'm very self-conscious when it comes to wearing cute clothes, because it never looks good in my opinion. One day, however, I was wearing a cute summer dress, and I felt really pretty. I simply didn't care that day that it might not look good on me, I loved wearing it either way. Then, out of the corner of my eye I spotted a group of two girls and two guys basically laughing their arses off at me. They even pointed at me, and probably thought I didn't see it. I've never worn that dress since. (Wow, that sounded really dramatic, there :p) Anyway, the point is, it almost seems like we're fighting a pointless battle. I really don't understand how some people think it's okay to laugh at others because of their looks, or to comment about it. Just live your own life and leave ours bloody well alone. That's what I think, really.

I've actually now decided to go in for a Gastric Bypass Surgery, because I've been dealing with this for more than fifteen years (that's more than half my life!). It has been scary making this decision, and I haven't really told many people, but I'm just excited to finally start living my life.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that, even though I wish nobody would have to go through such an experience, it's still nice to know that I'm not going through it alone!

Also, your post has finally made me realise that the girl who bullied me in secondary school probably wasn't really happy with herself, and took it out on me because I always 'seemed' happy and confident in myself (even though I wasn't: I just faked it). So, thank you for that!

I weigh the EXACT same as you, Zoe, but I'm a whopping 5'7"

I look like a pole and I get so many "compliments" which is really jsut people sussing out if I have an ED, which I don't.

I know how you feel im a teen and im really skinny and i just turned 5 stone which is good for me. I eat mIre than what my friends eat and they even admit it. But i never put on weight. My arms are really skinny and i hate taking my jacket off in public because im afraid of what everyone will think. Most people in my class understand about itand they say they are jealous but i tell them they are fine as they are. But the people who i thought were my friends call me a stick. I was looking through my friends contacts and i saw my name and next to it said 'the stick'. I was so hurt that i just left them i didn't talk to her for ages. It really hurt my feelings and made my confident levels go right down. I never really cared about how skinny i was until now. I looked at myself in the mirror and i cried for the rest of the night. But the one thing that hurt me the most when a really good friend of mine said 'you're so skinny your like a stick you need to go on a diet' i couldn't believe what she said and she said it to my face. Then she went and asked everyone else in the class if they thought i needed to go on a diet. I was so upset. My legs are skinny as well and i hate them. I hate changing before pe i do it 5 minutes before anyone comes in the changing room. Because its summer, i decided to wear shorts and go to town and everyone said that i looked really nice which boosted my confidence. I agree with this post so much and people need to understand that its not always fun being skinny

thanks for posting this, it made me feel much better about myself..I am a skinny person too, and i don't like it. Maybe i would like it if people would stop calling me a very skinny girl. I have a very high metabolism and i hate that people don't understand that i'm not anorexic and i never was. So..thank you again for posting this, you really made me feel much better :)..and sorry if i made some mistakes but my native language isn't english.

I don't know if you've tried it before and had bad consequences, but exercise can actually be very helpful in gaining weight- it's not about getting thin, it's about getting healthier.

I'm so glad someone has addressed this! I have the same thing, where I am skinny because of my metabolism and I eat like a pig, but people called me anorexic. People don't realise that skinny people can be self-concious too! I dont like the boney-ness of my body and it makes me quite uncomfortable sometimes.

Thanks Zoe!

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2 years too late, but just came across this! I was exactly the same and I remember crying to my mum about it and her saying 'everybody comes in different shapes and sizes'. I'm still underweight, but I'm happy with myself.

I've always said my metabolism will give up one day and I'll wake up on a broken bed, haha!

Everyone is beautiful, you just have to look for it :)

You don't know how much this post helps. A lot of the things you said about when you were younger are happening with me. I've always been really skinny: it's in my genes and I have a fast metabolism as well. Part of me is glad I do because I can eat all the crap I want;) but part of my hates being so skinny. I agree 100% with everything you've said because most people don't realise how hurtful they are to people who are skinny by making comments like that. When I was in year 7 and had just started high school, a girl asked me 'are you bulimic?'. At that age I didn't even know what that was and had to ask my mum, and when I found out it really, really hurt me. It made me feel insecure about my body and made me worried that I am in fact too skinny – a worry I still suffer with now. But anyway, I only made this account so I could say thank you to you for understanding and making me feel like I'm not the only one. xxx

I totally agree with you, you've got all my support :)
Alice♡

1) I'm not arguing but the point about having a high metabolism not being all it's cracked up to be, I disagree with because although you may think "i'm too skinny", People with low metabolisms have a harder time in life. A low metabolism means my friend and i (i have a low metabolism)could eat the same diet and do the same exercise but i could never be as skinny as her. I'm not trying to be rude but i don't like when people complain i'm too skinny (as in look-wise not health-wise because if your too skinny that you have health problems then you have a right to complain)because people who are overweight get made fun of and can't do as much in life but skinny people a lot of the time are praised and people are jealous of them!

2)I do not agree calling someone skinny is an insult because it is positive because in society skinny is beautiful and fat is negative and considered ugly.

P.S. sorry for ranting and i was not trying to be rude! :)

wow, i feel so lucky to have come across this. I think you, and also Louise, are both so inspiring in talking about wieght. xx

I have had the exact same problem my whole life (as well as panic attacks & anxiety – mb connected?) and have suffered the same stuff you have. I even went to a dietitian who, instead of offering advice nicely, accused me of not eating, and when my Mum backed me up said my Mum must have a skewed view of a decent meal (needless to say I told her where to go and never went back.) I filled out a bit as I got older, but never got the whole boobs thing(gutted) but I have maintained around 8 stone for about 6/7 years now (at 5ft7.) But everyone ALWAYS comments "You're so skinny" how is that ok?! I hate it. Thank you for this blog so I don't feel so alone. :)

Thank you so much, ive struggled with that too. Ever since I could remember I was know as that skinny chic, or that skinny girl, and my sister would say that I have the body of a little boy. Literally no (boobs) Nd no bum (pancake flat). My sister had curves and when ever she would wear something that is so cute I would try it on and I looks horrible and baggy and no shape at all. So I always told people that i wanted to gain weight because I am to skinny, and my friends would think that i Am bragging about being thin. And eventually when someone would say I'm to skinny I would say ,"your to fat." And i get called mean for it because they think being skinny is a good thing. And one time I got in an argument with my best friend and she called me "anorexic" I was so pissed I never talked to her again. I dont think people understand that being skinny isn't always so fun. And today I am 16yr, 5ft8in and 103lb and i cant gain any weight even after all the doctors supplements that i have been taking. I can only buy my pants from holister because that is the only store that has my size ( double zero) for my height, I have long chicken legs, and a gap so big between my legs you could fit a bus through it and wrist so small I cant wear most bracelets. I know I sound really stupid saying this, but this has really touched me, I hate being superskinny if I was just normal skinny ok but I look anorexic which is really hard because, one time a teacher followed me to the bathroom after lunch because she thought I was going to throw up my food, and asked me if i needed to see a counselor. I wanted to cry so bad. Everyday I felt akward because I didn't know how to work with being super skinny and tall so I would bend my back to be shorter and and doubled my pants so i would not look so skinny, because the school I went to most guys only liked girls with big bums and boobies. So you could imaging why I was so insecure about how I looked. I would stuff my bra and double my pants but that didn't help at all. But i really just learned to deal with it and I do wish to some day gain at least 20-25 lb I'd be ok. But until then.

^^ I agree with you, and secondly you also imply negative connotations about being on the pill. I am on it and I am not in a relationship and there is nothing wrong with that. As MisfitToy said, there are other reasons for being on it, I have to be on it because I have a blood condition as well as other things. The fact that you are uncomfortable with that information is pretty immature

Your writing skills are superb! I can read what ever you write anytime. Also what you write about is very 'aware', not like make up and stuff but real subjects that make people think about their actions.
I am also subscribed to your channel on youtube and i am petite like you.
You've made me open my mind to the weight situation in people.
Thank you

I am 13 and I get asked all those questions everyday. once this guy said to my face, "do you have cancer or anorexia?" I started crying but my bestfriends were there for me. I'm just glad that I'm not the only one who thinks it's unacceptable. P.S. Love your blog! And congrats on #Zalfie c;

I'm sure the doctor would, but not in the same way, not rude.

So I get that I'm two years too late but I just read this article and it really touched me. I wanted to email you so I could be more open but you only have a business email so this will have to do. :)
Im 17 years old I am 5'5.5ft and I weigh about 115lb.I have been skinny my entire life and it was effected my life as much as someone who was overweight. People always labeled me as that "skinny" girl and when I was younger I didn't really mind. But at a got older around 12yr old it really started to hurt. I was "bony" and "poky". I was told I looked like a stick. I was super flat and had no curves. It hurt because all my friends were growing and I was still flat and thin. I used to hate how skinny I was and wish I could gain weight. I ate junk food too and NEVER exercised. And even after I hit puberty nothing really changed. Its only been in the last couple years 16-17 that I now have some hips, barely B cup boobs and a small perky butt (mostly from exercising) People still call me skinny and say I have no curves which hurts a lot, but im learning to accept my body. So I just wanted to say I understand and wish more people would be considerate about skinny people. I love you Zoe, always keeping it real :)

I completely agree! I'm 13, and I have to put up with it too! :( I hate having a high metabolism.. people always say things like: "bet you starve yourself" "hmm.. I'd hate to be like you" "why are you anorexic?" everyone thinks that being skinny is a good thing, and then you get bombarded with these insults… Not many people think about what it's like to be naturally skinny.. :(

It's like you're in my brain! I actually really appreciated this post – it's amazing to know that someone has gone through exactly what I'm going through and made it out the other end as someone who, seems to me, so lovely :)

I've only just seen this post, but I agree. It's not right to say these comments to people. Although things are a bit different for me I feel similar, I think I am a normal size and weight. The whole BMI thing annoys me as well, my BMI is JUST below overweight (I'm not too familiar with all the terms but basically I am just within the bracket of being "heathly" or the "average" BMI). So you would think that there was nothing wrong and I look fine. (I think I look alright, not great but fine) but I am not healthy in the sense that I don't exercise or eat heathly.

My problem is that I am also of Asian Oriental decent. In Asian countries everyone loves to be skinny and it's not even healthly skinny, just skinny and because I am not, they see me as "fat" and I find it really upsetting. This is because unlike how you mentioned in this post that someone wouldn't make comments about people being overweight. In Asia they are very outspoken about it, for example my family will always make comments about my weight/ the way I look. It is the FIRST thing that comes out of their mouths. Not "Hey, how are you?" like a normal greeting/ conversation opening but "wow, you've gotten fatter" or "you gained weight" and it annoys me because I am not fat (in my eyes) and it doesn't help my already low self esteem.

In some ways you think, ok since they are family they are just looking out for you (in their kind of way) but then when we go out for meals with everyone (family friends – to me some are strangers) they will also comment or just say things that imply they are not happy with my weight – by saying things that basically mean "yea I think your daughter needs to lose weight" and this is across the table! It bugs me a lot and I feel so judged all the time because of it, but I think because their comments annoy me I just think "screw you! I am going to stay the way I am because you've said that!" lol I hate people telling me what to do and I'm stubborn because of it! :P

But at the end of the day it's like what you said, if you're happy about it, it's fine and I KNOW that I am not fat! So to me that is all that matters, I would however like to become more fit. I am exactly the same in running up the stairs and feeling completely exhausted afterwards! :P haha

Oh Zoe I know you probably won't see this BUT I just have to reply!!!! I can recognize me in EVERY SINGLE thing that you wrote!!!!!! I feel EXACTLY the same. I have also been skinny all my Life and got comments about it but I don't have any eating disorders. It's just who I AM! And it can be really hard sometimes and I have also asked myself the question thousands of times: "is it ok to comment to a skinny person but not on a fat" And EVERYTIME my answer is no. But at the end of the day, all that matters is what I THINK about myself and that I am HAPPY with it. I'm getting better but still ONE comment can make me fall… But I won't stop keep going, I'll always keep climbing no mater how deep I fall!!

You're my role model thanks for being you <3 You go girl! Much love from Sweden, Emma

Wow! Zoe, this is one hell of a good post! I hate the idea of a BMI because who are they to just label someone like that! It really is amazing how you have addressed this issue from the other side of the scale because calling one fat or obese is as hurtful as calling one skinny or anorexic. I, for one, think that if you are happy in your own skin or if you are working towards something that will also make you happy then who are doctors and nurses to stop you!They think by telling you, you will try and watch yourself but really, they are all implying you to either starve yourself or eat unhealthy foods and wait to put on the pounds! As long as you feel happy then to hell with what everyone else thinks!
P.S I love your YouTube channel!!:)

Couldn't agree more with you zoe! Even though I'm not very thin or very 'fat', I still don't feel very comfortable because society puts so much pressure on everybody to look 'perfect', whatever that means. I love you zoe! You're such a big inspiration

I have an extremely slow metabolism and that, is also, rubbish! I sometimes just stare in the mirror and wander what it would be like to be super skinny. A lot of my friends are petite and have lovely figures, thigh gaps etc. however, they seem to look at it as a bad thing. It's easy to say I wish I had high metabolism but you never really realise that it may be difficult for some people. One of my friends was telling me how incredibly rubbish it is to be called 'anorexic' and be stared at and judge, she often questions me about would you rather be called anorexic or fat. Hard situation, I guess.

thank you so much zoe, this has really helped me and i can relate to everything, i'm 14 and really really skinny, like people always give me odd looks and boys from my school call me too skinny. i've always been the skinniest out of my friends and only recently have i really started being conscious of it, with all the pressure of being 'perfect' and having big boobs nowadays. when i walk to places by myself in shorts or leggings i constantly worry if anyone is looking at me and being discusted by how skinny i am.. lots of people have called me 'discustingly' or 'dangerously' skinny without realising how much it upsets me. so thank you so much for writing this, i know it was two years ago but i just found it and i really appreciate knowing that i'm not the only one who's is/was like this :)thank u xxx

I'm totally agree with you, Zoe!
I'm 110lb (about 8st) and 5ft6". I have 32A size boobs and a 36" butt (a generous one for my frame I think) oh and I'm almost 23 and hit puberty 9 years ago.
When somebody says something about how thin I'm, I feel free to tell them what I think about their body =) They usually respond with silence. And when during a lunch break at the university people look at me with some strange unfriendly expression while I'm eating a big bread roll (my fave), I tell them to envy silently, and continue eating.
I would say to all thin people out there…stand for yourself and do not let anybody laugh at you or say bad things about you!

OMG ZOE i'm 15 right now and I'm literally so happy I found this post because it basically explains everything i feel. This whole summer I've been actually trying to gain weight but it seems as though i really can't no matter how much i try. I've also always thought the exact same thing as to why it's even acceptable to call someone out on being too skinny when they wouldn't ever do it to an overweight person. They don't understand that it is an insecurity and DON'T YOU THINK THAT I KNOW THAT ALREADY?

I get you, people are like that with me even my best friends are like "Anna are you anorexic" and I tell them all the time no but they still ask me

I have never thought that those who are skinny have self conscious problems like heavier people. I myself have struggled with accepting how I look since third grade. I always compared myself to other girls. Now that I look back, I realize that I wasn't an obese child like I had thought I was. I was just chubby. On the other hand, my sister was like you. She had a very high metabolism and could eat anything, but not gain an ounce. I was jealous of her. Now I wonder if she felt like you do. I always thought skinnier people loved their shape. I have been the person that tells someone they are skinny occasionally, but only because I'm so aware of my image compared to others. I hate to think that you or anyone else has felt bad about themselves because of their weight. I should listen to my own advice, but the mirror keeps that from happening. Just remember God made you and he doesn't make any mistakes. You are beautiful and loved by millions.

I loved reading this post. Sooo glad to know I'm not the only one that eats wheelbarrow loads and still ends up being a size 6 and keep being told to eat more pies!

Best post ever! I've always been a skinny kid and everyone was always saying how I needed to put on weight and stuff and it really did hurt! This kinda thing still happens in my class, girls are always pointing out someone in our class who is 'skinnier than average' and makes them feel bad about themselves for it, it's really horrible.

Zoe! Wow thank you so much, I am naturally skinny and bony too (super metabolism sucks, right?;)) I am constantly being told how skinny I am and it's so rude! Respect for writing this! P.S love your videos xxx

I think one explanation for people commenting more freely about a skinny person is just jealousy – you have a body type that others wish they could have, which isn't the same for larger people, so it seems more like a compliment than an insult. Jealousy could also be in play when someone says something obviously rude – they could be attempting to make themselves feel better about their body by pointing out or exaggerating the flaws with your body, while in reality they wish they looked more like you. That doesn't make it right though. The same thing happens with bigger boobs – for some reason it's ok to comment on how giant a big girl's boobs look or to point out that they'll sag or that they look more slutty (pro tip: no, it's not ok). Thanks for posting this.

Zoe, you are absolutely right! Nobody is perfect. Everybody looks different, has different body, weight and height. Nobody can say to as: you are so fat, you are so skinny. My body is only mine and if I like it and I feel good in my skin, nobody shouldn't judge me.

And I love you Zoe! You are so pretty. I like so much watch your videos on yt and read your blog. :)

I went through a really bad time of being anorexic, it was horrible and i could'nt believe what was happening to myself. I dropped to 3 stone exactly. But after 18 months i started to put on weight , i now weigh 6st 4lb and am pretty happy with my weight. However people awlays say to me 'how are you so skinny?' 'you are skin and bone' 'skinny minny' when evidently i am not. People need to understand being skinny can be down to anything and need to stop asking questions or saying remarks. Skinny/Obese people would'nt say things to you about your 'normal/average' weight, so why is it okay for you to say things to them.

I know this is an old blog but what the heck. If you have super metabolism then i have Super-Duper Metabolism. I'm a guy 5ft 11inch and am just over 9st… WTF

I love you so much Zoe. This kind of post is what makes you different from other Bloggers/Youtubers. And this is what I love about you.

+My cousin is ecxactly like you! Her metabolism is so high she just eats all day and night long and my 7 year old brother can carry her! So, we come in all shapes and sizes, and we are all unique.

I am exactly the same! Atm I am 8st 1lb , 5ft 3" and very pleased! Up until I was twelve I was 3.5st but i ate like a pig. When I was about 13, I began shaking, getting very dizzy and nearly passing out on a regular basis which wasnt much fun. my friends all thought i wasnt eating, and were always looking down their noses at me which made me feel bad about myself. I went to the doctors who said i was below the healthy BMI and my blood sugars were low, so I had to take blood sugar tests twice a day. Even though i was eating more food than my parents, i couldnt keep any of my weight on and lost 2st when i was ill. we went back to the doctors again and this time my blood pressure was so low they rushed me into hospital because they thought my heart was failing! then after nearly 20 different blood tests to try and find out what was wrong with me, it turns out i just have a high metabolism and i find it really hard to put weight on.I find that eating a lot of food, not necessarily healthy all the time and exercising keep me a healthy weight, even if i am still thin :/ I am happy with the way i look even if i do get comments from people asking if im anorexic or if the clothes i wear are kids clothes(??) thanks Zoe for letting me know i am not the only one :)

I recently lost about 30 pounds which was where I needed to be healthy, and suddenly people started making comments about how id be invisible if i lost anymore weight, and it really depresses you!!! I just kept on thinking "i tried so hard to lose my extra weight and no has apprecited it other than my doctor"

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I get asked this so much, literally the most annoying thing ever. So glad i've been stalking your blog and found this post! :) xx

This has really helped me :) x

Zoella I love you so much, seriously you are the most amazing beauty guru on YouTube (: Most of them are just dumb, fake girls who cake on makeup and don't seem to care about their fans, but you and a select few others actually display things more than just exterior beauty that really make you such a role model. Although I've never been bullied about weight, I used to have horrible, HORRIBLE acne, and the sad thing is I'm only 13, and people said horrible things to me everyday. It's mostly cleared up now but the scarring, physically and mentally, is still there. I can't thank you enough for how inspirational this article is, your viewpoint on not commenting on someone's weight really goes to any sort of physical trait, such as big ears, shitty skin, etc. I love you so much and please continue to be yourself and make amazing YouTube videos!

i feel the same way Zoe,but personally i think you look amazing! x

I agree. I get that all the time and I just tell them "Im Scandinavian" as some kind of excuse to stop them asking questions. I still get weird looks though and people saying they "wished they had a body like mine" they really don't…
You are beautiful Zoe! Never forget :)
Emma xx

i have been trying to find someone just like me x i am also very skinny and hate it most people would want to be but i agree they just dont understand, and people can think there complimenting when there saying.

"wow your so skinny" "how do u get that thin"

but it just makes you feel worse knowing people do notice. im 14 and i guess some people think i try to get skinny too like girls in magazines, everytime i try to put on weight it doesn't work. so glad i found someone with the same problem as me – i know that sounds mean but i thought id never find someone like me x

I just found this and I actually cried because I am the exact same way. People always say "you're so skinny" or "i wish I was as skinny as you" or joke and say things about me being anorexic but I just have an extremely high metabolism where it is impossible for me to gain weight. I try so hard by eating so much and things with extra protein and tablespoons of peanut butter before bed but nothing ever changes. I'm like the 15 year old you being unhappy with their body and its hard. This made me feel a lot better though!
Love you Zoe <3

Can't believe I've only just read this, honestly just gained so much respect for you by reading this. I completely agree with you. I think the reason for this, however, is because people seem to think that it's very easy to put on weight so they think if you're skinny it's because that's the way you want to be however some of the time it's simply because that's the way they are, but I think you're very brave for posting this and there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look. You have to remember that the people that approach you and say these horrible things about you are only the minority and you have plenty of people, including myself, supporting you and loving you. Although I can not relate myself it's touched me and I thank you for posting this and giving others a different view on something so serious like this. I think people have a pretty distorted view on society and weight has become some massive thing in which you are made to feel that you have to be a certain way and if you're not then you're not beautiful which of course isn't the case. The most beautiful people are the ones with a smile on their face, living their lives. Just remember, looking through the comments on this post, for every bad comment you get regarding your weight you have 100 comments supporting you and complimenting you.

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I recently went to a check up at my GP, and since my normal doctor retired, I had to go to a different woman. As soon as I walked in she asked when was the last time I had weighed myself. Similar to you, Zoe, I told her I dont normally keep track of my weight, and that it tends to fluctuate between 45 and 47 Kg. She then proceeded to weigh me and measure my height. According to her, I am severly underwieght and I need to eat more. That was ok, I could deal with that comment, A lot of people had told me that before (although I actually do Eat like a pig!) but what upset me the most was when she asked me whether I was specifically keeping myself skinny in order to ruin my chances of giving birth in the future. FIRSTLY IM ONLY 17 YEARS OLD! SECONDLY IVE BEEN SKINNY SINCE BIRTH! I wanted to slap that b*tch across the face. She was very unproffesional in the way that she addressed the issue, and it left me in tears. Needless to say, I am not going back to that doctor again.

oh my gosh this post is so relatable! I have the exact same thing, my BMI is lower than 'it should be' and my sister calls me anorexic and thinks i have an eating disorder, even my parents occasionally ask me if i've been eating properly.. and it sort of gets to you. But the thing is i am completely comfortable with my body and how skinny I am, like there are things I would change but, I feel healthy. Even though I eat like shit haha.. but then when someone mentions it, i'm like oh… right ok… thanks for pointing that out.

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i love this post Zoe! this has also happened to me before, i went into my local doctors to have a review on my tables and i ended up getting measured and weighted as my doctor thought i was under weight, it really knocks your confidence and i come out thinking "Why did he do that? is there something wrong with me?" and not many people understand this! x

This is such a good post Zoe. I can totally relate to you because I was very skinny when I was a child and I remember being told so a lot. One girl used to call me matchstick everyday! Then when I was a teenager I was still quite thin (but probably in a good way – a size 8-10) and I remember these ladies at work made up a rumor that I was bulimic. They said I must be because I ate so much food and still remained thin! I look back and laugh at it all now, but it wasn't very nice at the time. When I got to about 30 (I'm 33 now) I put on weight and am now a size 10-12. Anyway you're a stunning girl. xxxx

This is the most inspiring piece of writing I've ever seen and i am a bit over weight and i am doing something about it, but this has also helped me look at how lucky i am really lucky and that a lot skinnier people are feeling the same as me. I also agree completely that no one should judge anyone about their weight as everyone is different, I've been called "fat" in the past and yet the people that are saying this to me are not always so perfect themselves xx You are gorgeous the way you are and i am glad you touched upon this subject as it is very important and more people need to be aware of this xx

YES!!! A million times, yes. I've wanted to say something like this my entire life. I was always "underweight" and scrawny growing up – some of the boys in my Jr High gym class made a game out of trying to push me over while we jogged around the gym. So, I feel you.

I finally filled out to what I thought was "average" in high school though, generous bust and all. But it took until I got pregnant and had a baby this past year to realize…I was (and still am) pretty tiny. I'm completely happy with my body though, and am relatively healthy, so I can't complain about that…I hope you can grow to love your body too :) it really is liberating. Freaking hard, but it is so worth it once you're on the other side.

The thing that bothers me, though, about size and weight and all, is the clothing industry and sizes! I mean, obviously there are people like you who can wear the coveted "size zero" jean – but I am a solid size 10 in jeans and dresses and all. I can't buy shirts smaller than XL either due to my bust. Yet I still get comments on "how skinny" and "tiny" I am…all the time! So why do women covet these teeny tiny sizes, when they won't necessarily look their best if they were that small? Or if their bone structure won't allow them to be that small???? ugh fashion. I love it and hate it at the same time.

Anyway. This is ridiculously long. And you already have so many lovely comments, so you may not even read this one. I should just write my own post on my own blog with my own rantings and ravings on the subject ;) you are awesome, and I am so happy you shared these things with the world!

I totally agree with that post, I have always been a skinny girl like you, all my mother family are skinny too and I hate when people start to say things about you without knowing nothing, like: You don't eat enough, you don't eat anything, but I eat a lot and somedays I'm always hungry so I'm always eating and people say you have a disorder bla bla bla And I love to know that I'm not the only person with the same problem :)

this is a really good article i've never really considered whether calling someone really skinny is appropriate or not but now i'll be sure to take more notice and I agree that its wrong to judge a skinny person as being ill or having an eating disorder of some sort without question. this is an inspiring blog post and I think you and all other people are beautiful no matter what shape or size :) bit clitche sorry

this is exactly like me :O
sorry if im commenting on a really old post but I went on a little bit of a zoella binge, and read and watched a trillion videos and blogposts of yours haahaa! youre an inspiration and absolutely gorgeous.

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i thought skinny people with "super metabolism" are the happiest people on earth for being able to eat everything and not gain weight but u have shown me otherwise. i have the same problem but in reverse im a fat girl and yes to answer u we do get all the comments and name callings that you listed above and it hurts.
thank u zoe for showing us that everybody is beautifu in their own way :)

Hey Zoe,
Well i just wanted to tell I have the same problem, only i'm not exactly extremely skinny, my ankle and wrists etc. are extremely skinny and it sometimes hurts for me to do handstands in gym and stuff. My friends always used to ask me why my wrist was so small and why my fingers were so skinny. I dont even know why and i dont know what it is, but i know this isnt a problem. I just hate it because i can't wear bracelets properly and stuff around my wrists. I know how you feel but in a different way. thank you for this and you just need to know you are perfect! <3

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Id just like to answer your question (if they would ask that for a fat kid) yes they would, i dont know what its like in England (i live in Brazil) but here, they do ask. I'm fat, and I'm not saying it bc i want complimments and stuff, i am really fat and ober weight and they always ask me if my parents are fat and those things…
I love you sooo much bye!

The amount of times I could relate to this post is more than I would like and it really really really bothers me when people comment on my weight like this too because I take it as an insult since I can't control it. Most people almost always ask if I've had an eating disorder when they first meet me or say that I look unhealthy and I need to eat more but what they don't know is I WISH I could put on the weight and look normal. Even when my friends say they wish they were as skinny as me, I always say no they don't because it isn't fun having people assume you're anorexic. What they don't understand is that it hurts just as much when you insult someone for being underweight than when you insult someone for being overweight. Thank you so much for posting this because I've always felt alone on this topic and I could never really talk to anyone about it since everyone just complains about me complaining about being skinny. So thank you from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Wow Zoe I feel a lot better I'm just like you soo skinny any people say " oh my god your so skinny" and my legs are like sticks and my hands are bony… I don't like it

Thank You Zoe for writing this, I am exactly like your 14 year old self going through this at the moment, I just turned 14 and am no where near as big as any of my friends or most of my class, I am quite tall and have long legs which makes it almost impossible to find jeans (Topshop is the only place I find any that fit me properly) and it is really good to read through that other people understand what its like. I have been called all those sorts of things when I eat as much as any of my friends, easily, and I don't think many people understand how much it hurts,as they think that is a blessing being skinny, but it really is not! I really look up to you and thank you so much for helping me feel a little more confident in my body xx

People would always call me anorexic, particularly boys, even when I probably ate more than them! So nice to see lots of other people commenting saying the same thing:)
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Thank you so much for posting this Zoe. This describes me perfectly. I never know what to respond when people say "how are you so skinny?" I'm a naturally very thin girl and thankfully have finally put on some weight, but I still get these questions and I don't think people understand how that kind of question affects some one. Thank you again Zoe. I love you so much, you're my role model. <3

I really agree, a touchy subject for many people. in my opinion you are perfect the way you are and shouldn't be confronted by such spiteful comments, don't let them bring you down, you are beautiful and everyone would agree. i love you, such a inspiration to all of us♥♥♥

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Zoe I feel exactly like you. People call me "too skinny" and even call me names of offending diseases. I totally agree with you. No one should ever say or judge someone by its weight. Tbh my tears are kinda watery after reading this post :')

Thanks zoe! You make me feel better about myself :)
I'm 5ft 6 and weigh 159 lbs. no one believes me when I tell them my weight.
It doesn't really show, but it makes me fell like a fat pig compared to ALL my friends since they're skinny, but they keep thinking they're fat! Stupid, I know. Anyway right I feel terrible and I'm trying to be healthier (better foods, more exercises…)
Soory about the rant!
Love you and never forget it ;)

Zoe I know exactly how you feel! i was in hospital when I was younger for dehydration and the doctor asked my parents if i was anorexic they replied that i wasn't (he must of not known that i knew what it meant to be anorexic). In primary school my "friend" always told me that I was too skinny and I hated it. At the start of the first year at secondary school every boy and girl got their height and weight taken down and the woman that measured me asked me "have you always lived in this country?" I didn't know why she asked this but I asked my friends if they got asked the same question and they didn't. I having problems with my heart recently and so I had to go the the hospital for a check up so they had taken me to get my height and weight. I was below average on both. I had walked in to the doctors room and he was talking to my mum but I was right beside her. He said that I have gained since my last recording when I was eight ( I am currently 13) but I am still below. I have only finished around 10 meals in my whole life and when I do my mother and I am so proud. I asked my mum why I am skinnier than all the other girls in my year but she just said that I have a "super fast metabolism" but she never lets me look at my baby health record book and I am worried that I had previous health problems. xoxoxo

I have the same problem as you Zoe, I've always been very skinny and stIll am. other people just don't get it, they always keep asking if I'm okay or do I ever eat anything I'm 100% sure that I am healthy just as I said before people don't get it they always assume that I'm anorexic. And let me just say i eat ALOT but I don't put any wight on and that really sucks. <3

I agree with you about the doctor, it's totally different than a stranger commenting on your weight. It's part of a doctor's job to monitor your health; if they don't think you are a 'healthy' weight they are expected to investigate is further, whether you're over or underweight. Perhaps this doctor didn't go about it very well but she wasn't trying to make you feel uncomfortable – she was just voicing her concern. Considering the increasing prevalence of eating disorders and also the difficulty in detecting them (because those suffering from them generally cover them up very well or are in an extreme form of denial) doctors have to be careful. If they missed something serious they would not only feel terrible but also potentially get in trouble.

Thank you. Im 12. I weigh 80-85 lbs. I HATE changing in the locker rom. Everyone stares. All the girls look at me andsay ugh youre so lucky. Ihave no boobs. None. All of my friends do, and they weardresses and can shop wherever they want. Im still a size 12 in girls. Every always says omg your so lucky I wish I was as skinny as you!
No, you dont.
Ive been called anorexic, bulimic, E.T. , a "pretty litle skeleton wih hair" . It HURTS. I didnt ask to be this thin, I just am. I eat everything, but have a "super metabolism" I hate it when everyone stares, I never want to wear a bathing suit because I have no boobs, so I still wear little kid ones. Ive never even bought a juniors swimsuit. I cant! I hate it when people tell me "eat more!" I cant. Its absolutely impossible for me to gain weight, ive tried. If you ever say I want to be thin like her! You probably dont. Think about it. Its awful. And so embarrassing. I cant even wear bras. Yeah, im in 7th grade. I have to wear tank tops. K im done.

Thank you. Im 12. I weigh 80-85 lbs. I HATE changing in the locker rom. Everyone stares. All the girls look at me andsay ugh youre so lucky. Ihave no boobs. None. All of my friends do, and they weardresses and can shop wherever they want. Im still a size 12 in girls. Every always says omg your so lucky I wish I was as skinny as you!
No, you dont.
Ive been called anorexic, bulimic, E.T. , a "pretty litle skeleton wih hair" . It HURTS. I didnt ask to be this thin, I just am. I eat everything, but have a "super metabolism" I hate it when everyone stares, I never want to wear a bathing suit because I have no boobs, so I still wear little kid ones. Ive never even bought a juniors swimsuit. I cant! I hate it when people tell me "eat more!" I cant. Its absolutely impossible for me to gain weight, ive tried. If you ever say I want to be thin like her! You probably dont. Think about it. Its awful. And so embarrassing. I cant even wear bras. Yeah, im in 7th grade. I have to wear tank tops. K im done.

I couldn't have written this better if I tried. You managed to capture my entire life's struggle in one post haha! I have actually tried taking up exercising to put on muscle weight and it is working, but not quickly by ANY means. I am also 5'4 but STRUGGLING to get past 96 lbs. I also hate my veiny hands and bony legs. I like myself now, but can't wait to get a little more junk in the trunk. I am glad I don't have to give a damn about counting calories though ;)

I'm over two years behind the times and only just started reading your blog but this struck a chord!

Totally agree! I went through secondary school being a skinny little beanpole – kids asking me "are you anorexic?" and I was there in the dinner hall thinking, "I'm scoffing a disgusting, greasy school burger and I'm just about to have a slush puppy – what are you on about?" Then it's like "Oh, are you bulimic then?" and I'm there thinking, "how could I be bulimic? I have a general vom-phobia!"

I was always being told I needed to put on weight – then, when I hit about 16 I suddenly found that none of my school uniform fitted – I suddenly had big boobs, a 'ghetto booty' (named Shenaenae by my friend) and hips and thighs. Now, aged 26, I go to the doctors to get my pill. The nurse has to weigh me, obviously – and she tells me that my BMI is just on the 'curvy' side of normal. I need to watch it, apparently. Bearing in mind I am 5ft5, weigh about 9 and a half stone, size 10 (thanks to my trusty bum and boobs!) We literally cannot win. We are naturally slimmer then get told we are too skinny. Then, we fill out and put on weight, so we're a healthy weight and get told we need to 'watch it'. The nurse told me I had to eat smaller portions. It's not as if I pig out, I NEVER eat all my dinner and hardly eat at work because I don't have time. Women in particular are ALWAYS either too skinny or too fat. It's ridiculous. You look fabulous (and yes, I wish I could get away with patterned trousers like I'm sure you can!) and you should just be accepted for that. Brilliant post :)

I have the same metabolism and people have always judged me for it, and I have become very self conscious, even though I know I shouldn't let it get to me.It's hard to let it go, although some people may think they are being complimenting me by saying "Oh, you're so skinny", when all I want it to be a healthy weight. Because of this metabolism, I am VERY flatchested for somebody of my age and it makes me very low when someone comments on it, even if they are my friend.

I just thought I would say this as it made me just think of myself as I read your article. :3

I am quite skinny but so is my mum. My dad is quite fat and he always says I'm too skinny and always pokes my ribs. I am a perfectly normal weight it's just I don't have much fat on my belly it's all on my thighs and my cheeks.

Thank you Zoe, this just made my day. I may be older than how you were when you were having the same issue, but I do experience the same things. Thank you for talking about this. Keep on blogging, youtubing, instagramming, tweeting, and smiling. I love you!

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I love the way you wrote this! You're so articulate and explained this so well. I've dealt with people telling me I am too skinny to be a singer (this happened in high school when I thought I wanted to study vocal performance in college) and I've had people tell me I am simply too thin in general. I've let the voiced opinions of others just slide off my back but I wish, at times, that people would simply keep those opinions to themselves; why do I need to be someone else's definition of beauty and not my own?

I totally agree with you, I am like you, skinny but eating much. My friends wonder how I can be skinny because I eat so much. And I have been called all those things, people think it's okay and do not realize it actually hurts. I think it's great that you posted this it's a very lovely post.

And everybody looks lovely in their own body, you to Zoe :)

this made me feel allot better I am not skinny but not over weight but this just made me feel loved

I've seriously felt like this all my life…
i remember being 10 years old in grade 5 in primary school hanging out on the monkey bars with my friends and each one went across and said something they didn't like about themselves "i hate my legs…. i'm so fat…" you get the drift, and then they looked at me because i hadn't said anything (due to the fact that i was a thin as a stick) and said "well you know what Carli, you're anorexic." It was one of the most traumatising experiences, i remember going home to mum hysterically crying yelling at her saying "you don't feed me enough (which is rubbish) and that's why i'm anorexic.(yep that's right i actually believed i was anorexic) That was pretty much the beginning of my bad relationship with my body, i hated the fact that i was skinny and i can totally relate to not wanting to go swimming, and getting undressed for P.E in front of people, you're on edge wait for someone to make a comment about your knobby knees, or skinny legs. Only now that i'm 17 have i filled out with boobs and a bum, and am finally happy with my weight, it was obviously a natural thing that i needed to wait for. But people don't understand how being called skinny is just as horrible as being called fat. I hate it when i watch my friends go through the most unhealthy diets and fitness regimes to become the one thing i tried so hard not to be (skinny).

Thank you so much for posting this Zoe, i hope there are young 'skinny' girls out there who realise they're normal after reading this.

Thankyou for this post Zoe – I adore you for this! I am naturally skinny and I too have a super metabolism! I honestly wish I was a littler bigger! I really wish sometimes… wait all the time – that I knew you, and that I could talk to you in person. That is honestly my dream! You are beautiful Zoe – be proud of who you are! xxxxxxxxxxxxx

i have the same problem, and i eat all the time and i never lose or gain and weight from it. i have a friend who is a bit bigger than me and she always talks about how she wishes she was my size, and how she is so fat and hates her body. i never think to comment because i never know what to say to her to make her feel less crappy, and she never lets anyone help her. one day my friend and i were at a restaurant together, and im scarfing down huge bites of my hamburger, while she barley even touches the food in front of her. since im hungry all the time, i ask her if i can eat her food if she wont eat it herself (as a joke, and she knew that) then she started getting really weird with me. she started saying things like "are you anorexic? do you vomit after every meal, or something? how do you stay so skinny? you should get some help if its really an issue. i wish i could be your size, though." as she was asking me these questions, the entire time i was thinking about how i have a high metabolism, and i can't really help my smaller size. i sit there for a minute not really speaking, and she looks at me like i am overreacting. i then explain to her my situation, and how i got bullied in middle school and high school because of my size. she says exactly this "i wish i had a high metabolism! you are so lucky to be skinny." i then payed for my meal and went home without saying anything to her after that.

I actually started to cry, reading this and watching your video. I have had the same problems for like.. forever. I've been lucky though, people haven't said it straight to me, but I can see that they are looking at my skinny legs.. Well, just wanted to say thank you, this actually helped and gave my confident a little boost! Love u Zoe <3

I am sooooo skinny to and I see where you r comming from. Like you I don't have an eating disorder nor can I put on weight.
People are always saying why are you soooooo skinny!? Or Why don't you put on some weight?!
I mean who in there right mind thinks that's okay?!#@!
I always feel alone at school even my best mate comments on my size…
At least i know you got through it and are okay
Xxxxx
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I have a broken tooth ZOE and I hate when the children at my school ask me, WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR TOOTH? Whenever I just tell them it is how it is they go in the corner of the room and start making fun. Just to ignore their rude behavior I started writing blogs. :) and I feel it helps me ignore their comments… U inspire me a lot.

one time in one of my classes a girl yelled out "JESSICA HOW MUCH DO U WEIGH" and everyone in the class including thee teacher looked up and starred at me waiting for my answer. i replied with "its extremely disrespectful for u to ask me that" and she said "oh i thought it was ok because ur so skinny". that was one of many moments iv encountered cuz of how small i am and its not fair i have feel so awkward and self conscious about my body. thanks for this video and the anxiety one sense i suffer from anxiety as well. means the world to me to know that im not alone and someone else felt the same way i do now. your the best Zoey, thank you.

Hey Zoe! Chances are you won't see this, but I wanted to comment because I've been through this exact thing. The sentence that got me the most was when you said you can't exercise because you'll lose weight. My GOODNESS do I know that feeling! But, in saying that, over the past year I've gotten into exercise (swimming in my case) and I haven't noticed much change in my weight at all (I don't weigh myself either, but I mean just from looking at me haha). What I have noticed is that exercising actually makes me feel better about my size, I can be skinny and be kind of strong in the pool and that feels great! (I don't know about you, but I used to get so upset over the feeling of feeling so weak and tiny and useless). I guess, because you give so much inspiration to everyone else, I wanted to write a comment that might inspire you somehow.

If you don't want to exercise and you're happy with that, of course don't worry about it, but don't be afraid of exercise because of the size you are. I'm tall and skinny and used to eat so much crap in hopes that it would help me gain weight. It took me AGES to start treating my body properly, but I think it's starting to help everything, including my mood, self esteem and studies. You are beautiful and don't be afraid if getting fit is something you want to do! :) I guarantee your body will thank you and not punish you. If anything, your appetite might just increase a little bit, haha!

Lots of love,
Asha

Could not agree more. In middle school and high school, all I ever heard about myself is that I was too skinny. From doctors, from strangers, and I by no means had an eating disorder. My metabolism was crazy, I was in constant movement from cheerleading, and I was just skeletally smaller, not to mention that I was 4 foot 10 inches basically up until 10th grade when I suddenly shot up 7 inches. It made me feel so bad about myself, and yet, I couldn't say anything because people considered it a "compliment."

I'm so glad you wrote this, being born with one arm – and being a fellow youtuber it's crazy how people think it's ok to make the comments they do- fair enough if they want to comment on it or ask a question, but they way some people say it really annoys me- especially when they comment on the Darcy Cole's collab with me and my sister- don't spam her account with nasty comments on my arm- it's not fair to anybody. Rant Over haha! But basically I really enjoyed this post!

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I'm certainly not happy with my weight, so would anybody else. But, the thing is, be happy with the way you look or do something about it! :) Zoe you are so inspirational! KEEP IT UP!

Zoe, I know exactly how you feel. Some people don't think before they speak. I absolutely HATE it when people tell me or my friends that we're too skinny. They would clearly not say anything like that to someone who's a bit overweight. Even my family says ridiculous things like that, and they're the ones who should know what to say and how to act. I don't think I'll ever forget half of my family telling me how skinny I was or how boney my ribs were 2-3 years ago. They all told me to eat more, even though I was eating normally and regularly. I just can't believe that someone can even say that to a person. Think before you speak, you may never know how easily you could affect someone and break their self esteem. Great job, Zoe, loved your video with Louise! You're an amazing inspiration :)

The main problem with this post is she is talking about how you shouldn't judge people for their weight but she clearly would, anyone would. I'm overweight but i still judge people who are heavier than me. I know i shouldn't but that is how people are now trained to think. Also i understand that people are in different situations but personally if someone said to me why are you so skinny, it would be the biggest self esteem boost because skinny is seen as positive compared to fat or overweight as negative. .

This really made me think about things. Zoe you are so beautiful! Be strong <3

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I've had similar things happen to me and it's horrible, I agree with you completely and I'm so glad you've addressed this problem because people don't understand that just because they're not calling you fat they are still upsetting people. Thank you <3

I loved this. I just started watching your videos a few days ago and absolutely fell in love. I've been "skinny" my entire life and even when I first met my boyfriend he has asked me if I had ever had any type of eating disorder. I'm 5'10" which is pretty tall for a girl around here and I weigh 125lbs. I have always been in that range and I have filled out quite a bit since meeting my boyfriend (2009). Occasionally I'll gain 5lbs but then it's gone within a week. I also try to exercise a lot hoping for maybe muscle weight but that doesn't even work. I'm so glad you posted something about this, it really does wonders for my self esteem regarding my weight. I think you're beautiful and perfect the way you are as well as any other girl. I wish weight wasn't so much of a factor when it came to people.

So thank you so much Zoe, from the bottom of my heart, you are wonderful.

I've always been made fun of for being "over weight" but the problem is im only 12 and im perfectly normal size I've developed quicker than everyone else and also I have naturally big shoulders coz I am a swimmer and gymnast.im apparently fat even though im not im just well developed and it annoys me when people are like wow do some exercise but I literally never stop exercising and it made me so depressed so reading this blog post really touched me so thank you Zoe x

I completely agree with all of this, and get it every so often from people.. I've gotten used to it but still, it does make you feel bad about yourself…

Sadly I still dont have boobs :( but that's fine cos I actually thought that it would hamper getting a bf but it doesn't…. but I do still want it. And it IS so incredibly hard putting on weight D:

I loved reading this Zoe! I am in the exact same position and it doesn't make me feel good…I am 14 and just like you were..Thanks for telling me everything will be okay!!

This is an amazing post and I totally agree with it. You probably won't read this but there was a scary moment in my short life that I thought I was fat and tried to lose weight but I've never needed to lose weight but because of your blog post I now know that I am skinny and I need to stop thinking about my weight and just be the happy healthy young girl I am

Wow that was just my life in a blogpost!

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Lots of people ask me why i'm so skinny and i always tell them that its not my fault that i'm skinny. I eat loads of food on a regular basis and i just have high metabolism so all my fat burns of quickly. Its not always the best to look skinny and i try to put on weight but it doesn't always work.

Just don't forget; you're beautiful no matter how much you weigh :)

completely agree with all of this. I just don't get why people are so judgmental and rude. I always used to have people making snide comments about how skinny i am and I have always been insecure about my weight, even as a child. I hid in baggy jumpers and stuff t one point in an attempt to make me look fatter. I don't do that now but still I feel self-conscious and hate any comment about my weight, weather i'm fat or thin. I realy don't understand people sometimes.

Thanks for this post Zoe. I relate to everything you've written. I have people who think its okay to bash skinny people. Its all over now, like facebook shares that say "Men like meat, only dogs like bones" RUDEST THING EVER. I completely despise people with this mentality. Its horrible to insult or call out a fat person but acceptable to do it to someone skinny?

two years late to reply, haha. But this post just made my heart all happy :'). I'm skinny with a fast metabolism too & my friends stare at me in disbelieve when I say I don't like my body. I want more shape, want to be more toned, I have very small boobs and the legs of a stick figure drawn in first grade. To top it all I am incredibly white, I want a little tan. I am only complaining here, sorry, but just this is all the things I don't like and your post made me realize I am fine just the way I am :) thank you x

I know what you mean, people always say to me, 'your legs are so skinny' or 'I want your body', I personally dont know how to respond to them, I hate my legs as like you I can't gain muscle and am really weak, I have to go to a physio and do exercises to help build muscle. I have an extremely fast metabolism and am always hungry, people look at me and say 'how can you eat that much and still be a twig' it doesn't help the fact that I feel really self conscious and have been battling an eating disorder. It also makes me feel bad as my anorexic and bolemic friends always compare their weight to mine. I hate being thin quite a lot of the time.

So glad you said this because i have the exactly same thing as you.. people always ask me why are u are so skinny? Makes me feel like there something wrong with me… i'm happy the way i am But o do wish i could put on weight because of what people are saying about me.. even after i had my son i still when back very thin i really do hate it :/

My whole life i've been called all of these things. Most recently I went to a party at a girl friends house. She had invited 2 girls that the other 4 of us havent met before. One of these girls were so mean to all of us, but especially me. We were playing a drinking game and got talking about twerking. This girl didnt know what it was. So I said I cant do it, but i will try to give you an idea of it is. And then she said "Obviously you cant do it because you have no ass!!". I didnt even know what to say. Ive had dinner with this girl that all. I dont know her and she dares to say this to a friking stranger? I geuss she didnt realize what saying that meant to everyone else than her. Because I could have babelled on about her fat ass, but I didnt because you just dont say that kind of stuff. Its been 2 months and it still bugs me that I didnt tell her off for saying that. I should have asked her "why whould you say such a thing?" cause who really benefits from saying that? Its just mean.
In general I dont think people have any idea of what it makes slimmer people feel like. I've had like you people that I know at school questioning me about me having an eating disorder? I mean come on!!! Have ever looked at my lunch bag? Even if my lunch was a whole days food it would still be waaay more than what an anorexic eats.

I completely understand you, but some people might mean it as a compliment.. I mean, you also have people who really don't want to be mean, but words just come out the wrong way…

i always get called skinny, its kind of in-between because I've been called both skinny and fat, so i don't really don't know what i am. People always ask me why are you so skinny, and Go eat a burger and all that type of stuff, i sort of just stand there, i mean i get it its meant to be a compliment but it sometimes hurts, being a person who gets bullied so much it just seems like they're trying to make you feel horrible about yourself, i guess i never really thought of it the way you did, but now that i do, i guess i could say that i do get offended by them.

I am slightly underweight, and i can't say I'm proud of that but I've heard all sorts of comments on my weight and size. You cannot imagine the amount of times I've heard " Omg why are you so skinny" Wtf you have a thigh gap you skinny bitch" Go eat". and some times i just don't know how to feel about it. They hurt me and make me feel like I'm not normal and theres something wrong with me. I don't have an eating disorder but i do have a migraine that literally kills my stomach, and makes me not eat as much, and i probably do have a high metabolism.

Anyways enough with my depressing shit., I LOVE YOU. xoxo

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Really enjoyed ready this post! I am guilty for asking someone how they were so skinny but only out of jealousy. I think it's times like these where it's best to 'think before you speak'. I know I need a different approach if I am trying to compliment someone by using the words 'slim' or 'petite' instead.

If you are happy in your own skin, then who cares what anyone else has to say?

I've never really thought of it this way, but I COMPLETELY agree!
I'm only a bit taller than you, and about the same weight. I've always gotten similar comments on how "skinny" I am, and it really bugs me and I never really knew why.. this really pin points it.
My mom actually has a thyroid condition that runs in the family. I've got to take care of myself to make sure that my metabolism doesn't get even higher than it already is, and that I don't develop the same disorder that my mom has.
I do feel that it's really insensitive of people to comment on anyone's weight like that.. they can't tell just by looking at you what the reason may be.
This really makes me wonder if I'VE ever commented on someone's weight in this way! Even if it were meant as a compliment! I'll be sure to carefully word my compliments from now on :)
Thank you so much for this post (although it was quite long ago now..) and the video you made with Louise recently. I enjoyed them very much and they were very uplifting! :)
You're beautiful Zoey and I hope you will always be so happy with yourself and continuing to help make others feel happy about themselves too :)
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It is amazing that finally someone complained about it, i have NEVER, EVER juged anyone neither for being fat nor skinny, and I think that it is very brave for you to do a blog post about the topic, I am proud that you did that and that you accepted your physical looks, you look as good as anyone could look :D

This is literally me, when I walk past sometimes i hear people say 'shes too skinny'
This has helped me to realise that i'm not the only on.
Thank you

Well said! This essay just came out in the Globe & Mail, and echoes your analysis quite nicely. Give it a read: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/facts-and-arguments/in-a-culture-obsessed-with-weight-theres-a-downside-to-being-skinny/article16185986/#dashboard/follows/

Just wanted to say, in case you still want to gain weight, that fast foods aren't the way to go. I I'm currently working on gaining weight with a nutrition (like you, I've always been seriously underweight.), and have to stop eating so unhealthy, since it's really not the way to go. Working out is also a big part of gaining weight, since muscles weigh more than fat. Ofc, running a mile a day won't be beneficial, but some muscle training could really help. Other than that, good meat is pretty much the way to go (which I hate, wanting to be a vegetarian if it wasn't for how much harder it would be to gain weight without meat), and nuts as a snacking. It is hard though, and I'm really not sure if I'll be able to do it, since forcing down food really isn't comfortable. I've heard a lot of people successfully gaining weight using those energyshake-thingys that people on diets use as a meal replacer, only instead of replacing meals, they drank it in addition to what they usually ate. I just.. think it's worth a try. I'm getting kinda sick of people thinking I have an eating disorder. It's so tiring always feeling you have something to prove, and every time I get full before I eat whatever I'm eating up, I feel really selfconcious about others thinking it's because I have an eating disorder. It's so crazy and unnecessary. Thank you for writing this post, btw, I really think it's important that people hear about the other side of the issue, since the media generally just covers the side that wants to lose weight.

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I couldn't agree more. When I was a teenager I was also skinny and a lot of people (even friends of mine) would ask me if I suffered from an eating disorder. No, I've never had any kind of eating disorder, I've always eaten whatever I wanted to. Nevertheless, people wouldn't stop asking me that kind of questions, which made me feel a bit down and uncomfortable. That's why I'm so glad you posted this, thank you so much for trying to raise people's awareness =) (Sorry if there is any orthographic or grammatical mistake, English is not my native language)

I think that you are absolutely gorgeous, Zoe! And I think that you are so truly inspirational <3 :*

My friend has that, and I didn't even realize until recently because boys in school started commenting on it. I understand now how it could be offensive, because at first I didn't understand the big deal of being called skinny or bony. My friend met with a boy she liked on a date and he didn't speak to her again because he said he noticed how skinny she was, which is horrible. She eats loads (it's hilarious) but doesn't put on any weight, and it's seriously annoying when someone comments on how she's too skinny and think it's okay because it could be considered as a compliment.

PREACH.

I read this post now at a time in my life where I am constantly suffering from people commenting and assessing my body and everything I eat and do. I am also teeny tiny and always have been. I was bullied in primary school and even called fat when i was CLEARLY the major opposite, but as a kid I didn't understand – I took all these comments to heart. The skinniness and all the judgements continued though high school because I ate healthy and smaller portions to others. I used to be happy and love sport and friends and family and life :) But i was so brought down by these people and their treatment of me that I slowly became depressed and developed many mental and body issues, resulting in several breakdowns. Once I reached the end of your post I was so comforted that someone else understands and realises my struggles and has also been affected by these nasty comments. I know that i will never be the same and these "breakdowns" will keep happening, as will the comments and the stares and the judgements. Reading about your experience, I am reassured that it is possible to overcome these obstacles and that I will be able to love my body and every moment in my life. Seriously, thankyou for posting this – It was life changing.
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I feel absoulutley the same I am in my teens I have just started getting boobs(awkward) andi feel like a twig and I am extremely insecure about it I get called anorexic nearly everyday of my life and I absolutely hate it! xxx

This post is one of the best I've read. But some people are very stereotypical.
The things you said were very accurate. I also have high metabolism and people look at me like they've seen a ghost sometimes. They ask me, "Why are you so skinny? Oh my god." It's just very disturbing. It's just like asking someone the opposite, like you said. So I definitely, strongly agree by 100% percent. Thanks for telling this to the world.

your an amazing person stay the way you are and be proud of your self :)

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I completely agree with you Zoe, I am 14 years old and i have a very fast metabolism like you. Calling somebody really skinny is just as offensive as calling somebody really fat.

You're gorgeous Zoe, be happy with who you are
I'm 5ft4 and weigh a little over 6st I get the same comments as you have, just gotta brush it off and don't let it bother us! x

I love that you posted this. I am just 16 (i've stopped growing and filling out) I'm 170cm (5'7") and about 60kg, but i have a naturally thin build, but with some weight on me so i have a healthy figure (my thighs and hips aren't great). But this has really changed my perspective on the way others judge and it has taught me to love who i am, even though i'm not perfect. I am who i am, no one is like me: I'm unique. Thanks Zoe <3 love you!

Zoe, I don't get it. You have a perfect body! And some people including me can't eat whatever they want, and struggle everyday by people calling them fatso, whale, all sorts of horrible names. I'm sad because I can't wear whatever I want because I'm insecure about how I look in them. And I'm scared no boy will ever find me pretty because for most people skinny=perfect, it's sad but it's the world we live in. Some people have to starve themselves to get skinny and make themselves throw up and it's horible, I'm on a diet right now and it's hard being tempted not to eat what I want. Then I see my friends that are skinny and eat more then i do and it's realy hard seeing them so care free about what they eat and then I have to work so hard for it.

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I really enjoyed your article Zoe! I had the same problem growing up. Now, my metabolism is slower, and I do need to exercise(not that that matters haha), but I am still on the thin side. My own mother constantly asks me how much I weigh- well I don't know. &i shouldn't have to worry about that as long as I feel content about the way my body is. I think people are more often envious when someone is thin and want to make you feel down because of their own bad feelings about them-self so they reflect that undeservingly back onto you. It's very hurtful& definitely gives you that sinking feeling. if anyone who read this does that, they need to stop. You cannot say that to people especially when you have no sense of their situation. I love this article, thank you for sharing again! ❤️

Thank you a lot for this post… it just basically explains the whole of me. I eat a whoe lot, but I still don't gain weight, and so now it always gets me into arguments with my parents… I try to make them proud, but I also want to be average… to people who think it's nice being skinny, it's not. It's a whole shitload of crap.

I feel like I wrote this blogpost. I recognize myself at 200% (even more than that) in it. I don't know how you succeed to be more selfconfident about your weight and your body. I am 19 years old and I am still not confident with my body. Indeed I am taller than you and skinnier: 92.6 lb for 5ft6.93".
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Hey zoe! I know this post was a long time ago but im new to your blog and this post really got to me because i can relate to it. Im a little bigger than most people my age(im 13). Im 5'7" and dont know how much i weigh because i dont look at the scale but i know im overweight and i have broad shoulders and big thighs and i really loved this post. Ive always been comfortable with my body but recently people have started to comment on it and when i saw your post it helped lift my spirits. Thank you so much for writing this and i love your blog and youtube channels!! Bye!! :)

Hey, Zoe!
Your post is so inspiring. I have always adored how you handle the fact that you are genetically skinny in an extremely professional way. Body image is always a hard thing for young girls to deal with, especially with the image the media presents to them. A lot of YouTube Beauty/Fashion gurus are pretty skinny, and this can cause a lot of young viewers to feel pressured to be this skinny. I also like how you explain that it hurts to be called "skinny" as much as it hurts to be called "fat". Many girls deal with this issue on a day to day basis, and with people like you explaining to the world that being skinny is not everything, can make this a much easier thing for girls to handle. Everyone should be proud of the way they look, and know that body fat doesn't define them. Thanks for this inspirational post Zoe!

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im skinny too also because of a "super" metabolism. i try to gain weight but cant and i really hate it . i constantly wear baggy pant and jacket to coverup (i live in a trpoical country so…imagine the heat). my "friend" once said that it was scary and asked if im anorexic, which im not :( this post literally brought tears to my eyes… Love you zoe!!

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Zoe, I hoestly agree so much, but as an "average" weight girl. I feel as if there is no happy medium for me. Honestly, for me, perception is the only thing that is noticed. I am only what other people see, even if I had self-esteem, I would still be a perception.

People who are 'too skinny' often say that it's exactly the same as being called 'too big', but it's not. And the only reason I have for this is that society has deemed skinny as 'good' and big as 'bad'. Society wants you to be skinny, not average. Being 'too skinny' is only slightly different to 'skinny', whereas 'overweight' is quite different to 'skinny'. So calling someone 'too skinny' is sort of like 'slightly bad' and 'too big' is like 'very bad', at least in the eyes of society. You said that you wish you were a bit bigger. People who ARE overweight wish they were A LOT smaller. Like you said, you can eat all you want and not have to worry. People with slower metabolism don't get this same joy. They HAVE to eat healthily, even if they don't particularly enjoy it, because if they don't, it's much easier for them to get bigger. I know a lot of people won't agree with this, but you really wouldn't understand unless you have been called 'fat' yourself. But apart from that, yes, being called 'too small' and 'too big' are both extremely offensive.

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I just read this post… I totally agree to that! I used to be very skinny, too when I was younger. In 2011 (haha when you wrote that post ;-)) I went to NZ for 3 month and I gained 5 kg (11lb) and I finally had a booty I liked (haha) and hips and I finally looked "like a woman". I was really happy that I gained that weight! Until this year I still got those 5kg on and I was still happy with that but I was unhealthy at the same time. I was weak and didn't have any muscles at all. That's when I decided to do sth so I started doing pilates and eating healthy (you can eat a lot and still be halthy hehe) to gain some muslces (and in that case also to get rid of some of the fat) but I didnt wanna loose weight, just getting fit and healthy. When I told some people they were like: why do you need to do that? you are so skinny anyways…I never really knew what to respond, though it is actually pretty easy: I dont wanna loose weight or I don't wanna get skinnier, I just want to be happy, live healthy and get stronger, what is wrong with that?? So what I am trying to say is, that I really agree with you and I don't know if you have tried that yet, but maybe you could start doing pilates and following a meal plan that will help you gain weight while still eating healthy. Because as you said, you felt tired and miserable by trying to gain weight through eating fast food, so maybe if you eat a lot of proteins and things like that you might gain weight and feel better :) I hope it will help! xx

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Interesting perspective, I get it from the opposite side of you, being 'overweight'. I was actually into the doctors recently because I know something is wrong with me, and all she seemed to care about was me loosing weight… I have tried recently to just get myself in shape, and forget about weight, if I were you, I'd try it to. I also get out of breath with stairs and know it is not fun, and that isn't a weight issue, no matter what people say.

But the thing I find interesting, is that although you are beautiful, and very skinny, you aren't even as proportionately skinny as a lot of models, which is who a lot of people base beauty on. Hence, if we were all that size, wouldn't everyone wonder if something was wrong with us? Just wrong I think.

I have a bowel problem too and have taken steroids for about 5 months now. I feel so insecure when I go anywhere. The worst time was when I was going on holiday and the passport control man looked at my picture and said: 'Is this you? You look very different.' The picture was taken before I started steroids and my face was round and fat at the time but he had no right to say that. I know I looked chubbier but it was obvious it was me still. It made me very upset and I continued to have comments about how much I'd changed. The worst part was, for the first 3 or 4 months of taking the steroids I didn't even realise what people were talking about, I hadn't noticed the change myself! Naturally when I found out I was very embarrassed and didn't want anyone else to see my face. I actually secretly stopped taking my steroids for a few weeks because I wanted to go back to my 'normal self'. My mum couldn't believe these people would make me feel this was to go the extremes of risking my illness. Sorry for just rambling about my personal problems, it's just nice to see someone who understands. Zoe that was a great post and I 100% agree.

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Thank you so much for writing this post, it makes me feel so much more confident about myself. When I was little I was a normal size, but when I was about 7 everybody seemed to think that being overweight or normal sized was Bad, and so to fit in I started eating less. I have never regretted something so much. I became one of the skinniest and just when I thought I might fit in, people started calling me anorexic, telling me that I should eat more and constantly calling me skinny, I became very self conscious and never talked about my weight. I ignored all comments but sadness and pain just built up inside of me. Since then I have found it almost impossible to gain weight or even grow. I still get comments about my shape and size, but thanks to your posts I can feel better about myself.
I agree it is just as bad to call someone 'skinny' as it is to call someone fat.
Once again, thank you so much!

I agree with every word you say, i am 14 soon to be 15 and i am extremely thin. Boobies? Nope. I get called names: Anorexic, Bullemic and just plain horrible stuff. I eat alot of crap and i enjoy it! :)
I hate getting bullied because of my weight. Everyone is bootifull and bodysize shouldnt matter as long as you healthy! Love you Zoe, a true Inspiration yo are! xx

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i can definitely understand.
all my life i've been called skinny that i'm already used to it, i just hate how comfortable people are when pointing out that someone is skinny. i really want to gain weight but with my fast metabolism its just so hard to do that.
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I'm quite a petite person and recently my bones have become more apparent especially my collar bones despite my eating and physical exercise habits remaining the same. I hate how people can define anorexic as your bones being apparent- it's very insulting. I also hate how people like my mum believe I don't eat when I'm left alone even though I do. It's not something you can always control, especially certain attributes like thigh gaps which some people call disgusting.

I 100% agree with you! I am also a petite girl and when I was in primary school and now that I am in high school the comments have just gotten worse over time and I don't think people realize how much it actually hurts. It makes people so self conscious about there weight. I don't have an eating disorder and actually eat a lot of food and I think its horrible when someone you hardly know say something about your weight, they have no right to do that and make you feel like you have a problem when you don't.

Today's media plays such a big role in today's society and people especially young people see all these big stars being slim and makes people think it is a good thing. No matter what size you are if you are slim or over weight as long as you feel comfortable then no one should judge you for that.
I think everyone should read this and actually realize that they way they say things can really offend people, even if they do mean it in a nice way it may not seem nice to the other person.

Zoe you are such a beautiful and inspiring person and you should be so proud of how far you have come and who you are! I absolutely love this post and I am honestly so glad that someone has actually said something about this because it is a very big problem! X

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I am 15 now and reading this gave me a lot of hope as you are beautiful! I feel exactly how you felt, it was like you were describing my life! (I know this post is old ;))

You are very beautiful and your happiness certainly should not depend on weight, so good for you! The one thing I did have a problem with was when you said exercise would make you skinnier. I think this depends on the kind of exercise. I have been lifting weights for about 9 months and have seen my body go through a transformation. You can see my strength (not in a masculine way, a healthy way) however I have not experienced a great fluctuation in my weight. What has happened is that my chub has turned to muscle. I am not saying you need to do this at all! You are super gorg and an incredibly marvelous person! I just wanted to set the record straight that exercise should not be portrayed as a bad thing considering that being active is incredibly great for the body (big or small). Keep on being Zoe <3

I'm really glad I saw this, it makes perfect sense to me, and I (and my best mate) feel exactly the same about all of it. We've both been small all our lives, it's just how we are, and I was in cheer leading this past year and it bothered me how much people cared about what you looked like or what people you hung out with. Some of the girls had more weight than others, and some had less, but it shouldn't even matter should it? I mean in the end it doesn't matter if you were small or big. Your size doesn't define your heart, and that's what people look at .. Or I thought it was.

i understand, i'm very skinny too and I hate questions like: ''Do you eat?'' .. it's not too good to be skinny, it's hard. people shouldn't say thinks like that. thanks Zoe, someone understands me ♥

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I'm really skinny as well. But, my friends all think they are fat when they are really an average size. We tell them that everyday but they just don't see that. One friend even has become a vegetarian and eats very healthy. I eat crap. Legit. I honestly just have a really high metabolism, like you. The worst thing though is they always compare themselves to me. That makes me feel like I'm the cause of their reasons to think they are fat. I tell them everyday that everybody is different. One of the friends constantly says your so pretty, I wish i was you and all that good stuff. When, honestly it just makes me feel awkward and bad. I'm also extremely tall, which only adds to the problem. They say I weigh 5 pounds more than you and i'm shorter. It's just that im extremely skinny and it is honestly not my fault. I always look at myself and see how scrawny I am and can't help wondering if only I was a pound or 2 heavier. I'm happy with my weight but make other people displeased with their own. It's just a big confusion. But, in conclusion everybody is different. It doesn't matter how skinny, tall, fat, or short it matters how we think of ourselves. Self-esteem is beauty. That's my hypothesis at least.

Well..I am not Slim like you all….I am I am a larger than all of you and I have been called Fat many times
I find that extremely upseting and i feel so damn angry at myslef that i go home and cut…starve my self but nothing really happen i am still a unhealthy person…

Zoe You look awesome Don't listen to what others say !!!!!! I love you and i think people who watch or follow do too <3 <3 Lots of Love !!!!!

I know! I get called anorexic but I'm not – I'm just naturally thin. And then you try and put on weight… I couldn't have put it better myself. Thank you Zoe :)

I get called anorexic on a daily basis, even by my friends! I think it is a stupid question to ask and I agree, you wouldn't just go up and call someone fat…. its just rude….. Love you Zoe, everyday I see you, you make the day 20,000,000,000,000,000x better!

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I think you're right. Commenting on somebodys weight is just NOT acceptable. But today's society thinks that if someone's skinny, it's a good thing… It's just horrible to live in a world like this.:(

YOU UNDERSTAND!!!! I'm abnormally tall, which I think is pretty similar, but people tend to a) think its so great to be tall, b) ask me to be at the back all the time and c) ask me why im

I agree, I am skinny and short.
Recently I was at a friends house with 2 other friends.
I was talking to one about how hurtful it is when someone calls u skinny
And she agreed, however my other friend said sorry
If i ever call u skinny, I mean it as a compliment, I thought that's fine
But also I thought, is it really a compliment….

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I absolutely agree. I'm 15 and I'm 5ft7 which is considered tall but I'm quite thin and many people during school would walk up to me and say "Your skinny" and then smile and I'm just thinking"why would you say that" but, I just awkwardly say "thanks". I wish I was bigger and I wish I had a bum and bust but I don't have much at all. Its really annoying. I have huge hands and feet because of my major growth spurts and I wish I could grow tall and wide. My body just isn't proportional (ex. My huge hands and tiny wrists).
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I completey agree with you. I have the same problem except I am a bit chubby.
People sometimes comment on my size( ones that I find offensive) and that brings me down and makes me feel a bit insecure. But after reading this blog post I feel a million times better and I know now those comments won't bring me down.

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I have recently watched the video you did on this topic with Louise (a little late I know! Oops!) after watching it I had to find the blog post and give it a read! I have found it very insightful. I wanted to talk about an issue that I have that in some ways is similar to beig called skinny and finding it offensive. Within my friend group I constantly get told I look 'busty' in particular clothing, I do not have a abnormally large bust but I do find it offensive when that is all people have to say to me! It really makes me hate that part of my body, as to me I just feel as though I can't wear certain items of clothing (such as hight necked tops) as I feel too uncomfortable as I can't help thinking about what others think! I have however found both yours and Louise's videos and blogs comforting to read. This has really helped me to be more comfortable in my own skin. Thank you xxx

thank you for writing this piece. I am in the exact same shoes as you, and I agree with every word. A woman came up to me in a shop while I was with my two daughters and said "you are very thin." And then went on about how thin I was, in front of my children. A total stranger who doesn't know me, know that I live on good delicious food, I found it completely inappropriate that people feel they have a right to comment on skinny people, it hurts and it is unacceptable.

I think it might be different in the UK, but I can't count how many times I've been made to feel bad for my size (as someone who is an overweight American). Mind you, I'm 15, and the majority of the comments I'd gotten about my weight happened in childhood, some of them coming from adults. My primary care doctors would always ask me what my favorite food was in sarcastic tones, thinking I'd say french fries or candy. I didn't eat well, but I certainly wasn't packing in the fast food as most people assume when you're an overweight child. Parents didn't know how to censor themselves, either. When I was probably 10 or 11, I was on a carnival ride with one of my friends. This ride was designed to squish the people sitting on the same seat together. I was bigger than she was, but at this point, it couldn't have been by more than 20 or 30 pounds. Her mom quite snarkily suggested that I ride on the inside the second time around so that her daughter didn't get hurt. Her daughter had no problem with the way that we were sitting, and if I remember correctly, she even offered to get on the inside. I should've known that I didn't need to listen to her or her mother's insults (they were both obsessed with weight) as this girl had always bragged about how stick thin she was and told me that I couldn't do the gymnastics that she could because of my chubbier legs. I've always had people in my life who had absolutely no problem making me feel small to boost their self esteem. I'm in a much better environment now and have managed to lose 30 pounds, but for all of those years, I would eat my feelings, much the same way a skinny person trying to put on weight would do. People just don't understand that offensive words won't make an overweight person hop on the treadmill and do a juice cleanse. It's just not the way it works.

I think that everyone needs to stop having an opinion about what everyone else looks like! It's the most awful and destructive type of insult that one could receive to be told that you're 'too skinny' or 'too fat' and too many people are willing to dish it out. Some people even think that they're 'doing you a favor.' I think that a lot of people need to learn some socialization skills!

this one never gets old! Everytime i feel down i read this post. Unfortunately I have been struggling with ED for the best four years. At first i was too fat then when I finally lost weight I was "too skinny" and even "too healthy" for others regarding my habit habits. I have now gained a bunch of weight back being at my highest weight and people are now telling me to lose weight. This is ridiculous. I have finally found out one of the reasons why i gained weight and it's something related to my ovaries. So completely out of control that has nothing to do with being healthy and following a diet. Argh I hate people for caring so much about appearance and making others, like me, feeling like complete s*it!

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Its also the same with height aswell, im quite tall around 5 feet 9 (i dont know the units, sorry,) and people say to me 'oh my god, your so tall'. Would you say that to someone shorter than you? No, i dont think so. It makes me feel conscious of my height and even though im quite happy with it, it still makes me feel slightly abnormal.

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I am exactly the same as you! And suffer with the same problem. I'm sixteen and only 5ft and 6 stone, so that means I am not on the same medical 'sentile' as other girls my age. Instead I'm on the same sentile as the average 12/13 year old. I fit a womens size 4 and if I'm lucky I might get a small size 6 garment sometimes, whereas all my friends are anywhere between a size 8-12 in clothes! However I try not to let it get me down! I'm happy and proud to be the way I am. Obviously I have flaws and things I'm not happy about with my body, but what the heck! I dont care anymore as I know there's nothing I can do about it! Plus, all my friends say I'm the perfect height for tall guys, as every tall guy likes a petite girl they can protect! ;) So cyber high-five girlfriend! Here's to not being so-called 'average'! Short and 'skinny' girls unite :D ILY <3 xxx

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Yes i agree, i used to get this sometimes but sometimes it felt like all the time…people grabbing me by the wrist and showing me the large gap between my wrist and their thumb and middle finger.Luckily i chose to ignore them and say their fingers were just long!haha.Although this was not everyone, most of these people were arrogant and judged people by comparing you to themselves.My friends always supported me and said "you are what you are,it's not looks it's personality"-wise words!

Wow! So inspirational! I suffer from the same kind of abuse and i really appreciate how brave you are putting this out on the internet! I love and am inspired by your persistence to fight for equality. Good for you zoe!

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I am only 5ft1 tall and people keep telling me I'm short from a day to day basis.
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…and it really hurts my head as well y'know… and then ofcourse you still have to be polite to them even if they just made you feel miserable.

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Hi buddy! This post is written quite better! Reading throughout this post reminds me of my best friend! I would forward this post to him. About You Home Care

I 100% agree, I'm super skinny and the matron at my school keeps coming up and squeezing my arms saying 'you go to lunch don't you?' 'Have another biscuit, you need to add to the insulation of your body' 'don't worry about your weight, sometime soon you'll put it all back on…' I hate it, what you say is absolutely true and it was nice to hear it from our side of the story! Thank you so so so much for helping me realise there are other people like me out there, it feels good to know I'm not alone❤️ From Cleo xxxxx

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I completely consider all you said, that skinny problems causing issues of extra-weight, to stop my unhealthy foods usually could possibly get slim skin once i want. fitness

I'm tall slim and I eat a lot I'm glad someone is going through the same. One of my friends calls me freakishly skinny but id never thought of it as an insult before

such an amazing, powerful post. People forget that everyone has their own stories – we need to be less judgmental of ourselves and others! I really needed to read this, even if for my own reasons <3

Same i agree 100%. i personally am slightly overweight and i have been called fat numerous times and it really hurts. i have also heard people call others skinny and scrawny and i reply to them how would you feel to be called that? shut the hell up!

I am 5'5'' and 7.6 stone… hate it

Zoe I love this post! I am fourteen years old, and I am probably an average weight, possibly a bit over so I don't personally relate to this post, but I know people who would. I think that everyone should read what you've written because I think a lot of people are oblivious to the fact that what they are saying could actually be hurtful. I think that people shouldn't comment on weight at all, because whether you are thin or wide, tall or short, you are beautiful. Having said that, I think that its whats on the inside that counts.

You are beautiful Zoella, and I know that there are so many people out there who agree with me. And thank you for sharing this with us, it must be difficult because its so personal, so thank you. At the end of every week I will always sit down and watch your videos, because they make me happy :D Its what gets me through the week.

first of all, I wanted to say I completely agree with this article. but I don’t know if it’s because I’m from a different country (I’m french) or for something else, but here no one ever called me names because I was too skinny or anything (1,73m, 50kg). It is true that when I was 14 some boys made fun of me because I had no boobs (and still don’t), but it was only once. It did bothered me a lot back then, but I just know it was because I was such an easy taget to make fun of. Otherwise, people are mostly impresse (well, if they even bother noticing I am skinny) as I can eat as much as I want.
What I want to say is, there will be always people making fun of you, for a reason or an other, but being skinny doesn’t have to be an issue, and personnally I am proud of how I am and accept my body as it is

Hi Zoe! I am 4 foot 7.5 (every .5 counts :)) and I weight 55.5 lbs. I was born with a growing disorder called Russell Silver Syndrome and I am super short and also super skinny. On my bus ride home from school one day this girl was asking why I was so skinny and if I had an eating disorder. I was upset because it’s not my fault and I try to gain weight just like you did by eating all that crap. I feel like people judge me all the time. Also I’m 13 years old and just starting to show slight a bit of boob (barely anything). I have not yet really grow to much. I have bone hips, super thin legs (I’m very insecure about them) and thin arms. I always feel so small around other people. In pictures I always look so thin and super short compared to my friends. The worst part is that both my parents are really tall ( 5 foot 10 and 6 foot 2 ). I am also a triplet and when I stand next to them I feel like I’m not even the same age as them. Its a terrible feeling. Being so small and fragile limits a ton of sports that I would like to try but my parents don’t want me getting hurt. Also clothing is a big problem. Somethings are so baggy on me. Your blog really helped and I related to you so much!

Hi Zoe, me and one of my very best friends feel the exact same way all the time. Some comments are really nice but calling some one skinny is an insult. Finally some one feels the same as what we have been saying through the whole of high school. 😊 xxxx

I love this post because I can totally relate I’m 14 and I’m not even 5 foot yet and I have size 3 feet. Reading this post always makes me happy and makes me realise that I’m not the only one feeling this way and that there are others who are small and slim(not skinny)like me. Thankyou Zoe!!!!! You have made a massive difference in my life and I’m so glad I found your video with Darcy on my recommend section. Love you and never change xxxxx

I feel exactly the same way. I want to really thank you so much for this post as I am 15 nearly 16 and have the height and weight of a 9 to 10 year old (my 10 year old brother is nearly the same height and weight as me!!) My height is 4″10′ and my weight is 6 Stone 3 . When I was younger it didn’t find it so bad, but now being a teenager with all my friends going through puberty, and me well still looking like I’ve just stepped out of primary school it’s very difficult for me. I was very insecure about my body, I never have liked to go swimming or do any sport really because it means that people will have to see me in skin tight clothing or see me in a way i don’t want them to. I also suffer with several health conditions that limit what i can do and how i go about doing day to day activities, these conditions mean that i can’t do certain sports, therfore meaning that i can’t put on weight.
This has really made me feel better about who I am and has made me realise that it’s not how we look, it’s who we are on the inside. 😊 . Thank you again Zoe this has helped me so much. Love you Xxxxx

OMG! I know just how you feel I am crazy thin and I am literally scared of myself I mean I have Pizza twice a week I eat chicken etc. But I am still stick thin. At least I now Know I am not the only one…

I’m 24 and this is everything I’ve always felt and never known how to put into words. Thanks so much, Zoe! <3

Hi Zoe I think the people that comment on people’s weight are bullies. They judge you by the way people look, and that is really nasty. So you haters just back off, ok.(btw I’m 11)

I absolutely love this post, I’m skinny and I eat a lot, yet my friends stepmum thinks it’s okay to say I have an eating disorder?! I most certainly don’t, I eat more food than all of my friends, it’s just silly how people think that calling people anorexic is an okay thing.

Hi Zoë
I’m Carmen and live in the Netherlands. I’m 158 cm and thats is a thing that i really dont like. What i also dont like is that i have got short legs and thick upper legs but since i was young i always have these legs. My upper body is just normal but the thing is people think that I’m fat and i hate that because i know that that Is not richt. I’m running and i watch my food ( i’m also rating fat things domeinen ) .People draw to quickly aan opinion and nowadays by the internet we have “rules” for the perfect body. For example: you need a big ass, big boobs, skinny long legs. I think that the internet is just make us uncertain but we make each other also certain. And how cliché this sounds we need to accept each other for inner. Every single person is built different, i have got short legs, thick upper legs, skinny upper body. But you got skinny legs and all those things and i think thats beauty starts with to accept yourself and let the world know that they are need to accept you like how you are. Zoë i also want to say keep up with YouTube, i love your videos.

Lots of love from The Netherlands
Xoxo Carmen

I understand how awful being skinny can be.I am so skinny and I really hate it.One day,I was at school and my teacher started asking me things like ”Why are you so skinny?” ” What do you usually it?” ”Have you been anorexic?” and then my friends started talking about how skinny i am like ”Wow you’re right”.
I am 15 and I am afraid of going to the beach because bikinis look weird on my body because of how skinny I am.
This blog really helped me realize that it doesn’t matter how I am if I am healthy.And I do feel healthy.

I’m 13 I’m 5’3 and I’m almost 9 stone. I feel so fat

I totally agree Zoe! It’s so rude when people call you skinny! I have been ‘skinny’ all my life and no matter what I do, putting on weight is a major mission. It just doesn’t go on. If I get sick (like the summer I got a wicked stomach bug and lost 4kg) it takes months to get anywhere near where I was. My Mum is the same, my daughter is the same. If we all just stopped commenting on other people’s weight, the world would be much nicer! Such a great post from a perspective that isn’t often talked about (My daughter and I LOVE watching Zoella and ‘Zalfie’ videos. Thank you for making the world a friendlier and more positive place )

I’m 13 and I’m 5ft5 and weigh 6stone12. My hip bones stick out and so do my ribs and also my shoulder blades. I’ve been trying to put on weight for the past 5-6 weeks but nothing’s happened. I am fairly tall and have size 6-6.5 feet. I would really want to talk about it with my friends but I don’t want it to seem like I’m bragging about being skinny. The thing is I eat more than most of my family. I just wanted to tell you your not alone and I would love to have a figure like yours xxxx