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This isn’t the typical type of post from me today, It’s a somewhat controversial post, that I hope plenty of you can sink your teeth into (do not bite too hard, this is not a debate).
Let me start by saying that I am 5ft4″ and weigh 7st5lb (if you are unsure of these measurments, by all means convert them yourself) and have been the same height and weight for 2 years. Before I hit puberty, I’m pretty sure you would have taken one look at me and said “She is WAY too thin”, and let me tell you, I was. I was 5ft4″ before I even sprouted boobies, hips and bottom and I looked HIDEOUS. I would look in the mirror and despise what I saw.
“why don’t I have boobs like my friends do?” “why do all my bones poke out at every angle?” “where are my hips?” “why am I so skinny?”
I absolutely HATED it. I’d also like to point out, I in no way, shape, or form have ever had an eating disorder, those of you who know me, will know I eat whenever I like and whatever I like. Even then, I ate like a normal 14/15 year old girl. Pizzas, Burgers, Chips, Mcdonalds, Fizzy drinks. I ate no less than the average kid…yet why was I so incredibly skinny? The answer here is simply “Metabolism”. My metabolism is what i’d like to call “super metabolism”. For those of you who don’t know what metabolism is, it’s basically a chemical reaction that happens in all your living organisms to help maintain life, in non scientific forms, the rate at which your body burns calories and breaks down fat. Having a high metabolism means that it is impossible for me to put on weight, and maintain it. My body breaks down fat and burns calories at a stupidly fast rate. Now I know for a fact, that many of you will be reading this thinking “Shut up Zoe, I’d absolutely LOVE to have a high metabolism”..but let me tell you, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Whilst going through my teen stages of being a skinny bean pole, it had serious affect on the way I saw myself and the way others saw me. It’s pretty steriotypical that the fat kid in class doesn’t want to get into a swimming costume or be seen getting undressed for P.E, or get bullied or called names. I felt exactly the same way. I hated having to go swimming as people would point and stare at me for being so skinny, I’d hate having to get undressed and I did get called things and when I tried to put on weight, it was absolutely impossible. It also made me feel like crap. Think the reverse of a diet. I was essentially eating shit, crap, fatty foods to try and put weight on, therefore feeling groggy, tired and miserble.
You always hear about larger people going through a tough time trying to lose weight, slim people can go through just as much of a tough time trying to put it on, but nobody ever really thinks of that.
“Are you anorexic”, “you need to put some weight on”, “You are a bag of bones”, “why are you so boney”, “why are you so skinny”, “get some meat on your bones”, “are you okay?”
All this you would kind of expect from curious school children, but what astonishes me, is that people still ask me these things. People I don’t know. Quite strange as I now have boobs (of a generous size), hips, and wobbly bottom (yes, it wobbles…Just being honest haha) and I have filled out quite noticeably. Yet people still think it’s okay to say these things? Would you say these things to someone who was noticeably larger than the average person?
“Are you obese?”, “You need to lose weight”, “You are a big bag of fat”, “why are you so fat?”, “You need to get some meat off those bones of yours”, “Are you..okay?”
No. You just wouldn’t would you. So why is it acceptable to ask a skinny person questions of the same criteria? Do you think it doesn’t affect them the same way it would someone who was fat?
I was at the doctors 2 days ago, getting my prescription contraceptive pill, and as a standard procedure every few years, they weigh me, and check my height; just so they have the most recent details as possible. I had a different nurse than I normally do, and she made me feel really awkward and a bit, down. She measured me fine,
“Oh, 5ft4, yep, you’re exactly the same height”.
But when it came to weighing me, she made me feel very uncomfortable.
“When was the last time you weighed yourself? Recently?”
“No, I never weigh myself”
“Okay, well, if it’s okay with you, I’m going to weigh you, you don’t have to look”
Now I felt confused. Why wouldn’t I want to look? I don’t care what I weigh, but this nurse clearly thought I did.
“No, it’s fine, I don’t care about looking”
“Okay great…just step on then…hmmm”
“What?”
“You’re the same weight exactly”
“Oh really! Okay”
“Yeh…are both your parents very skinny?”
“er..yeh they are actually”
She was now looking at me with concern.
“Okay, well, your BMI is lower than it should be”
“I know, it always has been”
“Oh okay…well, keep your eye on that”
I then walked away thinking, “had this been someone with a BMI that was slightly over average, would she have asked the same questions?”, would she have asked “Are both your parents fat?”
I hate that we have a BODY MASS INDEX, that we must all live by? Who decides what BMI we should be anyway? Who cares if i’m “slightly” below average, who cares if you’re slightly above it? As long as you feel happy in the skin you are in, is that not all that matters? Yes, I may seem smaller and skinnier than the average person, but I’m happy at the moment. If I put on any weight (which is impossible for me to do anyway) I’m almost sure it would all just go on my face and bottom. If I was to exercise, I’d be even skinnier, which as a result, means I’m incredibly unfit. Seriously, I’ll run up a flight of stairs and need to down a litre of water and catch my breath for 5 minutes. How bad is that?
There are still things I absolutely hate about my body, and they won’t change. I hate my hands. Who wants boney, old lady, veiny hands? haha. I also hate my legs, It’s pretty impossible for me to put on weight, but for some reason, any weight I do carry, is everywhere BUT my legs. Skinny little ankles and shapeless legs anyone? I am however, much more content with the way I am at the moment. I still wish I could be a little bigger, but I have the joy of being able to scoff a whole tub of ben and jerrys and not have to worry. Trust me though, my skin and organs probabaly do not appreciate this, and I’m very unhealthy. You won’t ever catch me eating a bowl of salad or nuts & raisins. I am almost sure my metabolism will not stay this way forever, it will all catch up with me, and then my decade of eating rubbish food, and having little exercise will probabaly result in me waking up and being 10x bigger. Think “Shallow Hal”.
I recently got upset by someone I hardly know, in fact they may aswell have been a stranger, approaching me and saying “Zoe, you are SO skinny”. For a start…how the hell do you even respond to something like that? I think I just stood with my mouth open, wondering what on earth made it okay to say something like that? What was going on in this persons mind? I eventually just walked away. Sometimes saying nothing is the best thing to do. This person then returned to say “You need to put some weight on..no seriously”. C’mon? Really? I was firstly very embarassed, and secondly gutted. Would this person have said the same thing to a fat person? Nope. Because calling someone fat is seen as an insult, but calling someone out to be too skinny…is apparently acceptable? I think commenting on anybodies weight is unnaceptable. Who are you to judge someone by the size of them?
“That person is fat, they must eat nothing but mcdonalds and sit on their arse all day”
“That person is skinny, she probably has an eating disorder and needs help”
It’s really not fair. Nobody ever takes into account genes, metabolism, bone structure, medical problems. There are thousands or reasons people are how they are, and why people are the size they are. The above statements may be true in some cases, but for the majority, it’s probabaly not.
So, is calling someone skinny really acceptable? Or, do you agree with me that it’s just as insensitive as calling someone fat? As as naturally skinny person, I can tell you that it’s not very nice being called out for being “too skinny”, especially as i tried so hard to put weight on, and wanted so desperately to be “of average size” as I was growing up. It’s a bit of a touchy subject but one I wanted to address. I get a weird amount of people asking me my height and weight, and a part of me thinks they are trying to suss out if im underweight in a very sly and kinda creepy way. So now at least i’ve answered that for you…weirdos. ;)
Moral of the story here though, is that I don’t really think it’s ever acceptable to comment on anybody’s weight, skinny or fat. Why should you ever be allowed an opinion on someone else’s body or way of life? You can think it in your head, but the minute you open your mouth it becomes very dangerous, that is of course unless you are opening your mouth to give a compliment, by all means do this. haha. If YOU are happy with the way you look, that’s all that matters, and if you aren’t, chances are you are doing something about it and working towards something you know you will make you happy.
Everybody is different, and nobody is perfect. It would be a very boring place if this wasn’t the case.
♥
i agree
Good article- people always think that being skinny naturally is a godsend, but there are always two sides to the story. I have friends of every shape, and they are all perfect as they are.
I loved reading your post, I feel just like you. I got weighed at school every term and the nurse would keep asking me if i was eating properly even though i personaly thought my weight was okay. I hate my skinny hands too and and can't seem to put weight on my arms or legs! I think it was a really good idea to post about this issue x
actually i have to disagree with you re: the doctor, if you had a high BMI the doctor would almost certainly ask you about your parents weight, because of medical reasons and also the home environment (food in the cupboards, not a great understanding of nutrition etc)
obviously, its not nice for ones weight to be commented on – whether you are over or under weight!
Adele
awesome post zoe! you are beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks! thank you for standing up for all girls of all sizes!
xoxo,
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I always get called 'skinny' and I always say 'No, I'm slim'. Also when I was younger I used to get called anorexic which really upset me as one, it's an illness that lots of girls go through, and too I wasn't starving myself. My dad has a very high metabolism and I clearly got that from him, as no matter what I eat I've never gone above 9st (I'm 5 ft 8) My BMI has always been 'on the line' and I too was told to 'watch it' which is ridiculous. This is an amazing post and really highlights that being questioned about your weight is just as bad to someone skinny as to someone who is overweight.
xo
It's great that you feel confident enough to post on a topic like this, and you wrote it really well.
I'll admit I'm guilty of saying to my close friends "you're so skinny!" but in my case it is a touch of the green eyed monster rather than telling them they need to gain weight or that they have a problem. I know that very slim girls have insecurities just as much as bigger people but I suppose it all comes down to not being comfortable with yourself. Of course, being a bigger girl, I've always wanted nothing more than to be naturally very slim like my sisters and some of my good friends…I exercise and try to eat a balanced diet but I still have a BMI that provoked the nurse to tell me I was 'borderline obese' last time I was weighed. It's very upsetting to be judged like that, so even though I'm at the other end of the scale to you, I totally empathise with everything you have said.
Sorry for rambling, I'm just glad someone had the courage to speak out about this!
Beth @ Baking and Brogues
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Omg i know exactly how you feel! when i was younger everyone would think i had an eating disorder and would tihnk she's way too skinny. And I grew I'm now 5ft6 and weight about 7st 9lbs or less i can't remember. I mean for me I don't feel like I'm under weight! i always get the people saying are you anorexic? I don't even think I'm that slim!! i eat what i want and i just DON'T put on weight, I've been around 7st for so long now that i can't remember. I don't put on weight and i think people making me feel like i'm weird cause i'm slim is annoying, it really puts me down! i think it's the same as calling someone fat..it's an insult and does effect people! I have tried hard to put on weight as i've always wanted some curves. I think i did put a few lb's on and now i have more of a bum but i still get the remarks of being too skinny. I want to put on weight then i might have more boobage hahaha! I Don't know. I think people are ignorant and don't realise it could hurt someones feelings. This is a really great post xoxo
I've had this argument for so long, I hate people commenting on my weight.
I've even had one woman tell me that I will never get a boyfriend because I'm so thin, it's just too unattractive! I was only 17 at the time, and she was a grown woman.
Absolutely shocking that it's acceptable to berate someone for being "too thin".
You are teeny but you look perfectly in proportion. You look anything but anorexic. Many of the people who are hating are jealous…I know that gets banded about so much but nothing turns a women into a pack of Banshees more that a pretty, THIN woman.
I lost alot of weight in my late teens and maintained a 8-10 for a few years. Ate like a pig and any weight I put on dropped off in days by walking the dog and as soon as I've hit my mid 20's it's like I hit a brick wall and it's so hard to get it off.
I completely agree with everything you said. I have the same issue with weight and I get sick of people telling me to put on weight, I would never dream of telling someone to lose it! I hate my skinny, shapeless legs that everyone feels the need to comment on. Wish everyone would concentrate on their own health and leave other peoples' alone! xx
im so glad you wrote this post because im in the exact situation, i have a 'super motabolism' and im hoping ill start to fill out soon, im nearly 17 and i hate my legs too, i live in baggy jeans :( putting on weight is just as hard as losing weight, you're absolutely right! thank you for this post again, really appreciate it <3 xx
My best friend in school has pretty much the exact same measurements as you and she got constantly picked on for being skinny, people used to call her twiggy and yet being her best friend I know she used to eat all the time, more than anyone else I knew.
I've never understood what people thinks gives them the right to comment on anyones appearance, whether it be if your skinny or fat or if you have braces or glasses, everyone looks different and thank god for that because how boring would it be if we all looked the same.
I love this post and I think you are beautiful just the way you are, I hope this post has helped other girls, not just who are skinny but who have been called names because of their physical appearance x
I could have written the SAME things!! i've always been skinny and i lived all the things you wrote! i can perfectly understand you. really. if one day i'll receive some nasty comments on my weight by someone on my blog or twitter i think i'll link this post to them!! and anyway, you're gorgeous and hell knows how lucky you are to have big boobs while being skinny! i'm not so lucky…!
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great post zoe, the sad truth about it is that weight has become such a taboo, and people are quick to assume that skinny people just dont eat anything.
up until i was about 16 i looked like a lollipop, stick thin & massive head haha, i'm so glad i filled out! x
I know exactly how you feel – When I was born, I was dangerously underweight, almost premature size even though I was only born three days early. I had to go to the hospital three times a year to get measured, weighed and have blood taken up until I was discharged at ten because they decided I was naturally small but healthy.
I tried so hard to put weight on in my teens, but have a really tiny appetite so was just ending up making myself sick (in a non-bullimic way obviously). Now at almost twenty, I'm very bottom heavy from my bum to my knees, but with teeny ankles and shins. I also get a food baby whenever I eat anything, but even when I try to just tone my bottom area I end up losing weight everywhere so am in ridiculously bad shape.
I think it's just as hurtful to call out a skinny person as it is say someone is fat. When you call someone fat, you call them fat. But when you call someone skinny in that 'concerned' way, you're pretty much just implying they have an eating disorder so saying there's something wrong with their head.
Judging people by their weight is just the same as calling someone ugly – more often than not, there's nothing anyone can do about it unless they have a spare 30 grand lying around for plastic surgery. Get over it. There's more to life.
Brilliant post, sorry about the essay! xxx
Such a well written post :). I don't think anyone has a right to comment on anybody else's weight, like you said, there could be plenty of reasons why someone is under or over weight other than they don't eat enough/eat too much. Your story about the nurse really hit home for me, my bmi is slightly over and I get the exact same treatment every time I go. So it's definitely not just you!
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Loved reading this post, I think you addressed it perfectly and are also really brave for sharing your experiences. I couldn't agree more, people would NEVER say to a larger person "how much do you weigh? shouldn't you lose some weight?" and it's not at all okay to say it to a petite person either. I was exactly the same at school, I ate as much as everyone else but always seemed to be the last to "develop" haha. It can be frustrating receiving insensitive comments by people who don't really understand what they're talking about but you're beautiful and have a stunning figure, and the people that matter don't care what you weight or eat! :) Sorry for the essay aha. x x
I don't think other people should criticise anyone for what they are, skinny, overweight, whatever. It's none of their business! I know I'm overweight and I have chosen to try and slim down a little, but that is my personal choice and if someone else TOLD me to I would probably react the way you have! It is embarrassing when people tell you what they think you should do, you don't go round telling them what to wear or what haircut they should have so what gives them the right to tell you to put on weight, slim down, etc? Oh it just annoys me…but honestly if you are happy the way you are then excellent and ignore anyone who tries to impose their opinions on you! x
Zoe this is such an amazing post! First of all you look beautiful! As someone who is heavier i get all the judgement but i think to myself..they dont know me at all!
Ive had friends who are really natural slim one was a natural size 0! I think this issue needs to be highlighted and in you writing this post…it is getting the issue out there!
xx
To be honest I think there is a difference in being too skinny and too fat. It's far easier for someone with a slow metabolism to lose weight than for someone like yourself with a high metabolism to put it on. My dad was identical when he was younger, went to the doctor and they tried all manner of things, protein shakes, you name it and he just couldn't put weight on.
You shouldn't feel you have to answer to people who keep questioning your weight, jealousy makes people say horrible things to make themselves feel better.
You're gorgeous, not everyone will accept that but insulting you won't make them pretty and it sure as hell won't make you ugly!
x
I agree, my boyfriend is generally VERY skinny. He is about 5ft 8, but if he was in girl sizes he would be a size 6 at the most. For the last 6 months or so, he has been trying to put weight on (he is sat drinking a protein shake as we speak) and I have noticed how difficult it is.
I also HATE it when people say "she looks anorexic". HOW can you look anorexic? Anorexia is a serious psychiatric condition, so you could be 18 stone but also be anorexic….
As long as the person is happy with their weight then no one else should have a say :) (unless they at danger obviously..)
Amy xxx
This is EXACTLY my story Zoe! I was 5'8 at 13 years old and a size 6 stick insect so I got all the anorexia comments. I don't get it any more thank goodness because in the last few years I have somehow developed an hourglass shape so no one can call me anorexic with hips and boobs the size of mine! It used to infuriate me too though, as you say, it's unacceptable to call someone fat but somehow not skinny. x
Great post Zoe! Up until a year or so ago I was very slim and experienced the same issues at school. Having teachers phone up my Mum because they were concerned that I had an eating disorder(my Mum just laughed and informed them that I ate more than most fully grown men!) and only being able to buy clothes from the childrens section was embarrassing! I get the same at the doctors when they weigh/measure me, remind me to 'watch my weight'. I have now filled out abit and am alot happier with my figure!
I think the only time it is ok to comment on someones weight (even if it will hurt the person) is when you are very close to them and have known them for a number of years. If they drop weight suddenly or also put on weight suddenly then someone close should ask them if they need any help because they may not be getting it if there is a problem. Most people will have someone in their life that can do this for them so if you are not that close person then no they shouldn't comment.
I am suprised a nurse would say that actually, in that line of work she sould know that there is very large variations in BMI and its not a very accurate way of calculating health. Especially if you are exactly the same weight as you were before.
M – Even Artichokes Have Hearts ♥
Here, here. I wrote a post on this the other week too, which caused a bit of a reaction: http://chantellemakeup1.blogspot.com/2011/02/weekly-rant-3-weight.html
I know exactly how you feel, it frustrates me that it's acceptable for people to comment on how 'skinny' you are, without even taking into consideration your feelings. I have battled with my weight for years, never being able to put on weight. Some people say it's a gift from god to not have to worry about what you eat, I agree it's great, I love being able to eat whatever, but I hate that it has no effect. My work collegues every single day comment that I must only eat lettuce. It upsets me that they could think that. It's a really annoying battle that so many young girls must go through, I still am waiting for those mahusive knockers to appear, but in reality I just have to try and love what I have, and what I haven't got. I know my self confidence took a knock when boys in my year group would say they would prefer someone with a bit of meat on them, I couldn't control how I looked, or how much 'meat' I had on my body, and for a while I thought I would never be ideal for any man. Thankfully I have a lovely boyfriend now who constantly compliments me, I feel happy with my body as I can't change it I may aswell be happy with it. I completely understand everything you said, I sat here reading your blogpost nodding at every point. :) Great post Zoe
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Totally agree! This is a subject nobody ever picks up on and well done for posting about it!
I get fed-up of stereotypes!
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Great post, you're totally right!
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i completely 100% agree. i've always been on the bigger side my whole life and it's never really bothered me. obviously some days i get a but down about it but i've always been happy so i don't think there's much reason to change.
at christmas my gran overheard me talking to my cousin (who's a doctor) about a couple of health issues and my gran immediately came over and started blaming everything on my weight and that if i lost a few pounds i wouldn't have these problems etc even though my own doctor said they weren't weight-related at all. it's ridiculous!
as long as you're happy with the way you are then that's all that matters :)) xxx
i'm 5ft3'and 6.6st
and i feel like all pants are made for huge asses
Zoe you are perfect the way you are, everybody’s bodies are different and people should take that into account. Just remember the people who are saying/asking these questions, are probably just jealous or unhappy with their own bodies.
It’s a private matter and as long as you and your family know you are healthy, it really is no one else’s concern. I really do hope this stops now you’ve addressed it xx
I think a lot of people will be happy you've done this blog post! I agree, it's totally rude to ask someone why they are so skinny, just as it is rude to ask why they are so fat! You look totally healthy for your frame.
I do have to say that my GP has pointed about about my BMI being over what it should be when I go to get my pill though, I think they have to say something. On looking at me I don't think people realise I am techinically classed as 'overweight'. My BMI is in the overweight classification but I'm only 5"2 and a size 12 – I don't see myself as fat!
All in all – yes it is rude, but contrary to popular belief… I feel overweight people do get questioned on it just as often!
xxx
great post, i think its pretty important also talking about the skinny people in the world how they feel when they get treated like that. i need to say, i truely love your face! it seems to be always happy
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Great post Zoe :)
I think weight is such a touchy subject, have so much I could say about the situation. I personally think you look great now, you have boobs, you are a small girl, so being your size & your weight doesn't look bad. & I think putting this post out there will help many people.
It's such an up & down kind of thing though, I'm way over weight- Im not happy- this is my fault though, so I could do something about it & then moaning about it makes me feel bad. But at the same time, I still feel shit about some things & how I look, so that isn't okay!
I think being healthy & happy is the most important thing x
I totally agree with your post! Although, in my head im still like 'ugh, i wish i was her, and she could be me!' ; I think it always just comes down to people being insecure in themselves. I think a lot of the people who ask you your weight would be girls who are wishing they were thinner,, i mean i often see people and think 'gosh what a lovely figure I wonder how much they weigh?' which is totally ridiculous because body composition varies SO MUCH between people. My weight fluctuates between the 'healthy zone' and the 'overweight zone'. Which I know, I could probably lose 5kg or so (lazzzyyyy!) but overall I have a very athletic and muscular figure and weighed the same as you when I was 11 (not even joking). That may seem like a lot to you but I was actually a state athlete so was by no means overweight. I also find it stupid when people ask what size others wear.. i mean really what does knowing a number achieve? There are plenty of girls I know who would have a much larger fat% than myself but are 2 sizes smaller.
Overall, I totally agree! I know why I weight what I weigh; i love food and I have a naturally large athletic and muscular figure. And ok, I do wish I had your metabolism! But weight is really irrelevant because someone like me idolising your weight and weighing 20kg less that I do now would be ridiculous! People just need to like what they see in the mirror and know that they are healthy by their own measurements!
Great post, sorry this was long! x
Brilliant post, I wholeheartedly agree with you – it doesn't matter whether the person is skinny or fat it is extremely insensitive to comment on it.
I find doctors can be pretty rude…well nurses especially when it comes to getting pill repescriptions. I'm quite overweight BUT I am doing something about it I have lost a fair amount so far and am pushing on to lose more but I do get fed up of the comments such as "hmmm still very high on the scales" …"yes I am going to a class and I have been losing weight" …."sure you have…are there weight problems in your family?" :|
I think you're perfect the way you are :) besides it's nobody else's business but your own as to how you look, as long as your happy with yourself that's all that matters!
I hope that the comments stop now you've addressed this! :)
xx
I know exactly how you feel. I hate going to the docters to renew my pill etc cos every time I go they give my jib for my BMI. Exactly, who cares if it's slightly under, it's just the way my body is and always has been, I have never tried to diet or anything like that and I eat whatever the hell I want and it has always been under, I can't help it if I have a high metabolism, I don't get why it's such a huge problem! I was even refused the pill once because the nurse said she didn't think it was safe enough for me to take it because of my slightly below averave BMI! :O The cheek! And I have had many a customer at work telling me I look to thin and boney, I'm really not, I that it is pretty rude for someone who doesn't even know me to say that :(
Love the way you look lovely, don't let peoples silly comments put you down :)
Sorry for the absolute essey of a comment :s I just really agree with everything you said! :)
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I had the exact same conversation with the nurse last time I went for a pill check, I'm 5'5" and weigh just under eight stone. That's how I am, I eat like a pig but I just don't really put weight on. She looked at me like I was in the throws of an eating disorder, asked me about my parents, what I last ate, how often I eat. Ugh.
Ignore what other people say about your body, it's nothing to do with them how you look. In an old job I got asked by a woman what size I was, she said "Wow, you're really skinny, what size clothes do you wear?!" but would I ever say "Wow, you're really fat, what size clothes do you wear?!"? Would I heck. It's just plain rude.
I could literally rant about this for hours but I won't ;)
You've written a great, great post and I really hope that people learn from you.
I really, really enjoyed reading this post, you wrote it so well. I am so with you. On the other side of the coin, I get it with my hair and skintone. People always go 'Oh my gosh, you're SO pale, are you ill?'. No, I'm just pale, it's natural. And then people obviously make cruel comments to redheads all the time, and not to any other hair colour, so I totally relate to this post, but in all areas of discrimination.
And of course, you're beautiful my dear!
xoxo
Society views being skinny as the ultimate sign of perfection, so I doubt people are trying to seriously offend you. It is situational though. I do think saying to someone, "you are SO fat!" is different thatn saying "you are SO skinny!" because of how society views the two extremes – very differently. That's not to say it doesn't make it any less difficult for you to go through. Short people get it all the time, as do tall people. Chalk it up to humans being innocently curious, but coming off as very ignorant in the process. And yes, a lot of girls would KILL to be able to eat a whole tub of icecream and not have to bat an eyelash! You look beautiful, and everyone knows it!
what a crackin' post zoe!
I have to take steroids for a bowel condition and they make me really bloated and she you get whats known in the trade as a 'moon face'-sounds attractive right? i get so many people coming up to me and going 'why is your face so round?' and people pointing at me and calling me chubby and i'm like 'excuse me but i have a serious bowel disease and im taking steroids which is making my face massive'…i can't understand why people think its ok to walk up to someone in the street and question them about thier apperance when they have no idea about the in's and out's of someones life. if that person didnt have a complex about thier apperance before they bloody will have now!
anyway, fab post, i think your looking gaw-geous!
xxx
Great post lovely- one I completely relate to. Me & my brother both have a really high metabolism and as a teen I was asked a lot by nurses, people who I didn't even know to put on weight as my BMI was too low. I am 20- 5"8 and weight under 9 stone BUT I eat EVERYTHING and don't believe in diets (yes I know!) and like you never weight myself. But when I was growing up I felt awkward in my own body, no boobs, no curves just straight! Now I filled up a little like you but I still get the odd "your just bones, put some meat on you" comments now and then. My brother is the same, he's only 15 and is 6"1 and skinny. People keep telling him to put on weight, but he simply can't as he is a drummer, sporty BUT eats like any regular boy of his age- trust me he eats 2 desserts a night and bigger portions then anyone I know!
It does upset me that people automatically assume that there is something wrong with you if you are naturally skinny. But who are we to judge.
Curvy, skinny, black, white, asian, tall or short we are only human and are all beautiful in our own unique way :)
Especially you Zoe, your amazing <3 xoxoxo
I agree with you but I think you need to be able to comment on people's weight, and here's why:
If you had a friend and you were worried about her weight, are you really going to sit there and keep your mouth shut when she could be ill and lying to you/her parents about her "fast metabolism" or "small bones".
We can't shove eating disorders under the carpet by not talking about them. Women hide their disorders all too well, so we need to be able to talk about weight frankly. If it helps one person stay alive, its worth it.
Nice post! We shouldn't trust the BMI at all imo.
Hey Zoe! I love this post i totally agree with you. The media these days is no help, they encourage everyone to be critical of other peoples' weight and intrude in others' business without any other consideration to the person except their own narrow perception of physical beauty, which everyone feels they must live up to despite their personal health.
Your post is very refreshing and encourages others to be open minded.
Personally, I would kill for your body type hehe :) Just own it, and theres no way anyone else could hate on you for being happy. Kindergarten basics- they're putting you down because they're jealous!
Lots of love from Australia!!
Natasha xx
This is such a well thought out and well worded post! Society is obsessed with weight now and it has become a really sensitive subject. It's not your fault you're skinny, same way it's not my fault I have big thighs, or that my sister struggles to gain weight. It's all in the genetics, and it seems people have forgotten that. Nowadays if someone is fat, people's first though is 'wow they must be pigs and eat loads of crap!'. It is really unfair how judgmental someone can be about your weight ):
xxx
Until I was about 17, I was very skinny. I would get the odd comment saying I was anorexic but it never bothered me because I knew I wasn't; I ate a ton!
I hated being skinny. There's being slim and then there's being straight up and down, no curves. At 12, I was 4 1/2 stone.
From 17, I filled out and although I'm still slim, I have curves.
I'm now 5 ft 8 and weigh around 8.6 stone.
I'm glad I finally have boobs!
I think society thinks it's acceptable to call some skinny because in the Media, skinny is viewed as acceptable. Super models are skinny so society lead by example. But I agree, a skinny person can be just as insecure about their weight as an obese person. If you're happy, I don't see a problem.
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ZOE, ah you poor sweet thing.
I completely agree with all that you said. People don't take into consideration other peoples' feelings at allllll when they decide to go up to them and tear them apart with their words. AND, if you DID have an eating disorder, how much worse would it make you feel if they asked you those questions? They have NO idea. Definitely on your side, love.
xoxo
So glad you wrote this post! I'm the same, it's not so bad now though because I've evened out, when I was 14/15 people used to call me anorexic which I got quite upset about. I used to go home and eat all the junk food I could get my hands on but it did no good.
The whole BMI thing gets on my nerves as well, doctors don't seem to see the bigger picture.
x
I feel the exact same way. I get just as upset when someone calls me skinny. I'm 5ft7 and in ninth grade I weighed 90 pounds. You would not believe all the shit I got for it. It's really awesome that you posted this.
I was eating junk food for the last half and a year and i lost a lot of weight but that's not healthy for your body. Eating crap doesn't mean you will put on weight, it means your cholesterol, liver, uric acid is going to be worse. I think you should go to the doctor and ask a diet but to gain weight just i case you want to add some kilos :)
I love this post! Im fat, but it all my fault, i don't eat fast foods often maybe once a month we order pizza. I used to skip breakfast and then coming home at 4pm and then throwing on the fridge and eating for the whole afternoon. I hate when people comment on my weight so i understand you.
I agree, although I've never really considered that "skinny" girls go through that type of torment as "fat" girls do. I hate BMI's. I'm slightly above it, have been my whole life and I remember being little at the pediatrician and the nurses/doctors grilling me because I wasn't the perfect BMI for my height. It's not fair, for any of us, whether we're too skinny or too overweight.
oh, that nurse! what a little…
I have a similar body as you, I eat crap and just am very very skinny, have been my whole life. It's comforting to hear someone else with a similar experience.
First of all, what a frickin’ fantastic post. In danger of sounding patronising (I swear I don’t mean to be), you have a great head on your shoulders. Being a blog follower of yours for some time, I THINK you’re nearly 21? Well, I’m 24 and I 100% empathise with you. The only reason I state our ages is because a few years ago I was in EXACTLY the same position. I’ve been on the contraceptive pill for several years and every time I went to get a repeat, my doctor would do my weight as standard (I think they’re actually meant to as well as blood pressure?) and she would always make a “hmmm” type sound before pointing at the BMI chart and informing me I was in the ‘underweight’ category. To which I would tell her the same as you’ve commented on – that I eat VERY well, if not too much on the jaffa cake diet side of things, and that I just did not put on weight. My mother was the same when she was younger; it’s in the genes baby!
Anyhow… fast forward a few years down the line and, actually, I have put on weight. At a steady pace I may add, I haven’t been on a mad woman binge. I have far more junk in my trunk and wobbles on my belly and I’m around the 8 and a half stone mark now. Then again I am a lazy so-and-so who does minimal exercise and my job is your typical 9-5 office-based scenario with little scope for active-ness. What I’m trying to say is based on the fact your body type and habits have matched mine thus far… chances are over the next few years you’ll match up to my size 10 from size 6/8 transition!
xx
totally agree!
i used to get comments like this, unfortunately ive now put on more weight than i'd have liked to lol but i remember i used to hate being told i was too skinny, it was never my fault!
great post :) x
well said! for the record zoe, i think you are absolutely beautiful!
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I think most girls will be able to relate to your post in some way. It seems one of the main reasons people seem to think it's acceptable to make remarks about peoples weight/body shape these days has got a lot to do with the media and their scrutinising of celebrities etc.
When I was in my teens I thought I had a 'super metablism' too, I could eat whatever I wanted and I'd just never gain weight. I was 'skinny', but with big boobs, so 'naturally' I'd get sly digs and comments from concerned (jealous) 'friends' but I always felt I got off lightly because of my boobs. As soon as I hit my 20's, I started to fill out more, and found that I put weight on a lot easier, cue the 'fat' remarks, one girl I knew even asked me once "where are your ankles" implying that my legs were so fat she couldn't even see them…!
So trust me you can't win whatever size or weight you are, because these days everyone is an 'EXPERT'. All that matters is that you're happy in your own skin. It's just took me a good few years and a friend clear-out later to realise it :)
xxxxx
Such a good post, I totally agree! I also have a very quick metabolism and never ever gain weight. Personally it's something i'm happy with and that has no effect on me. I'd like bigger legs too but it doesn't bother me too much. You're so right when you say people seem to think that calling someone skinny can never be an insult. So inconsiderate to make those sort of comments without knowing peoples backgrounds and things. If only the world was full of more people with your same view on this! xxx
I definitely agree. My sister is quite small and people think it's ok to say 'oh you're tiny aren't you?' Firstly what does this mean? Is it an insult? A compliment? Are you supposed to reply? It's like someone is challenging you. Just because being slimmer is celebrated in society people they are automatically allowed to stick their oar in. Bore off.
For anyone to point out your weight for being too "skinny" is probably through jealousy, and when people point out someone for being "fat" it's usually to take the attention away from something they hate about themselves!
Only insensitive, nasty, ignorant and unintelligent people point out what they think to be "flaws" on others.
You look lovely just the way you are. As long as each and every one of us look in the mirror and think "yeah, I'm not so bad after all" whatever your dress size or weight then forget what any other person's opinion is :-)
Dayner @ Mozzypop x
i never thought about that, but i guess you are right. people shouldn't make other people feel bad about things then cannot control :)
That's actually the same with me! But I love it when people say I'm skinny or too skinny, because I know I don't have an eating disorder or anything so it's fine!
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I am in exactly the same boat as you – i have a 'super motablism'. I get weighed often as i go to the hopsital for different reasons. I used to hate getting changed for PE at school and everyone would be like 'you're so skinny i want to be like you'. But all i wanted was a healthy figure.
No matter what i eat i never put on weight so i eat far too much crap. I am so un-healthy but it doesnt show on the outside. I also fear the my motablism will catch up with me one day and i will just grow so much!
Great post & it is really nice to know people feel the same way! xxxxx
You´re 100% right. I think the general obssession with weight (skinny or fat, doesn´t matter) in this society is mental and utterly unhealthy. As long as you don´t fit into all those tables and have the right BMI, you´re weird and you get questioned for either being too skinny or too fat. I´ve never had a problem with putting weight on, but I know a few people who did and I know it´s as bad as trying to lose extra kgs. What could help is eating a lot of proteins and carbohydrates (now healthy ones, honey, dark chocolate, fruit and stuff like that) and exercise a couple of times a week but no cardio! Either reasonable weight lifting or a relaxation exercises like yoga, pilates…swimming should be good as well. just no running, no cross trainers, no aerobics. If you are really concerned then you should maybe think of seeing a specialist. I know it´s pain in the arse but I suppose some of them would be able to help. With proper exercise, you can even influence where is the gained weight going to go. Now I realise this is probs easier said than done but it´s just a little tip.
Overall though, I totally agree with what you said. NO one has the right to comment on someone else weight/lifestyle/whatever. People are obssessed with expressing their opinions but they hardly ever care what impact it´s going to have on the person addressed. It´s all the same old story of people minding someone else´s business.
I´d just say, as long as you´re happy, don´t worry about what people say. Just make sure you stay healthy and happy and all is going to be well x
whatttt girl. no way, you do not have bad legs at all, your figure is totally enviable, and not just because you're skinny, you have good proportions :) xx
I'm by no means fat but also not skinny. I'm just sort of slim/normal sized but I want to be thinner. I hate my legs/thighs and I'm doing anything I can to slim them down. But you're right. I never really considered how a very thin person would feel about their body. I supposed that they loved it because I would love to be skinnier. Girls are always going to dislike their bodies I suppose :| x
definitely agree!
my friend is stunning – every says she's the prettiest girl in the school and i agree with that by a mile. however she has never had a boyfriend because they all think she is 'took skinny', she eats anything she can see and doesnt put on an inch of weight. i think it's so unfair how people can say she needs to eat more or she looks abnormal or something like that. its so thoughtless and just plain rude.
great post :) x
i too have a fast metabolism and i am 14. i think i can relate to your younger self because although i like having a unflabby stomach and skinny legs, i desperately want the shapely boobs of my friends. i am really happy the way i am though :) (for the most part)
great post zoexxx
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i agree that commenting in a hurtfull way about someones weight is simply unacceptable… but i do think that at the doctors office it is acceptable because they SHOULD have your best intrest in mind… maybe she didnt go about it in the right way the reason there are BMI's is not so we all feel bad about where we are in comparison to what they call the "norm" but to be a guide or blueprint to what we want to be around or near ourselves but there are exceptions like genetics and metabolism in which case the most important thing is to just try to be as healthy as you can you may not gain weight but at least you know your taking care of yourself
I know exactly what you mean Zoe, I hate the word skinny, but I get so many comments on blog posts and questions on Formspring asking me my weight, my height and what size clothes I wear. It's really quite odd that people enjoy knowing those things about other people. It isn't nice to be called skinny and get all of the anorexia comments and no, you're right people wouldn't dare comment or say anything if it was someone who was over weight rather than under. One of my best friends is a bigger girl and it's always me that when we're on a night out gets comments such as 'You shouldn't be allowed out looking like that, you look anorexic…' the same person would never turn to my friend and say 'You shouldn't be allowed out looking like that, you're too fat..' People need to realise what they're saying and asking can really hurt and affect people. Great post! x
I completely agree with this! Im naturally skinny as well, and people are always calling me anorexic, or bullemic when i actually have a really healthy diet. I think its so rude when people label you as 'too skinny' or 'too fat' its no-one elses body so its no-one elses business xx
its weird,im going through the exact same thing 'super super metabolism,skinny,teeny,and exactly as you said ''where is everything?!'' and i eat like a horse,but i eat when i want,im then given small portions of food because i 'look' like i eat small portions.and i hate looking 11 when im just hitting 15,i hate it.people always make me feel awkward when they are looking at me like 'your so skinny its not fair' i just dont know how to make them feel better :(
I love this post, agree with you completely. I'm above average for my BMI and only just starting to slowly accept that this is just how I am, no matter what I eat/how I exercise, this is my shape – but when people comment on it, it takes me right back to square one. Lovely post Zoella
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I really loved reading this, great post. I can totally understand where you're coming from, because I was in the same boat as you until fairly recently. I've always been very thin, and it's totally genetic – I used to love to play dressing-up in my mum's wedding dress and it was a perfect fit when I was about 10! I ate what I fancied, but never seemed to put any weight on.
My friends thought it was great, but were so lovely and never made a fuss about it, but there were so many people at school who were just VILE. I was called Hannah-rexia for a long time, and I could here people in other years whisper about me as I went past. I hated it, too. Luckily, I've starting filling out over the last couple of years, and finally felt the need to do a bit of exercising here and there.
I still eat what I like though. You can't take my cake away from me…
BMI is a load of rubbish. I'm 16 and unlike most others in my year at school, I only filled out and developed a figure last summer. I'm 5ft3 and weigh around 7st8 now but I too used to get asked if I was anorexic/bulimic or if I ever ate!? Great post Zoe, it's good to see someone else is putting out the issue that people actually get picked on for being too thin as well as too fat! xx
Amazing post Zoe, I agree with you 100%, it is so unfair that it is seen as socially acceptable to question a skinny person about their wegight but not a fat person! + For the record you'd look bloody gorgeous whether you were a bean pole or a beached whale!<3
Hi Zoe.
Funny you should post this, as today I went into boots to get myself weighed and measured. I'm EXACTLY the same as you, 5ft4 and 7st 5. My bmi is slightly underweight, and its not by choice, I eat like a pig but I cant seem to put it on.
It annoys me when family or someone goes " oh look how skinny you are!" like it doesnt hurt me. when it does, it is a big deal when a bigger person gets called fat, but people can say I look skinny or like a skeleton? its just unfair. I take after my mum shes even tinyer because of her high metabolism.
"You always hear about larger people going through a tough time trying to lose weight, slim people can go through just as much of a tough time trying to put it on, but nobody ever really thinks of that."
I couldnt put it better myself.
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To be honest I think your very lucky to have a constant weight, whatever it is. Yoyoing is pretty tough, so staying the same without much effort is good imo.
As for the nurse, as she'd never met you before she was probably worried that you had an eating disorder, and of course those things aren't healthy and can really make people ill. She was probably thinking more about your benefit rather than trying to offend you, as a lot of the time people with such disorders are depressed and can become mentally unstable and suicidal and I doubt she would want that.
Calling someone skinny is seen as a compliment by many, as it's something a large amount of the population strive for. If someone called me skinny id be very happy, because to me it's a compliment and it's the same for many people. You don't really think about it the other way around unless your in a situation like yours. As for 'too' skinny, some people may be worried, and others may be jealous. They may want to be your size, and in you getting bigger it might make them feel better.
I would say don't worry too much. Care more about what your friends and those close to you say rather than strangers because they know nothing. If your worried about being unfit, try doing weights instead of cardio because that builds muscle more than burning fat.
Above all just make sure your happy with how you are :)
What a great post sweetie. I agree, I think when someone says "You need a burger" or what not, it's just as insulting as it would be to say to a fat person "You could do without that burger".
In the media these days the models all over are skinny and therefore people jump to the conclusion that skinny is 'beautiful' and presume that making a comment about it, can't insult you as being skinny is more attractive than being obese. Its a silly way for people to think.
I had a friend at school who could never put on any weight and whilst everyone else was getting curves, she was left feeling like a child. It really used to upset her.
I personally think you look amazing. You dress so beautifully and always really compliment your shape.
Next time somebody make a hurtful comment just give them the middle finger mate ;)
xox
Such a brilliant post, I admire you for being so honest and open.
I think you look perfect, i've always envied your figure!
Don't let people get to you, you are who you are and YOU know you don't have a problem :)
xxxx
This is a great post, and as someone on the other end of the spectrum…I'm heavy…I can relate. I have had doctors talk about my BMI, ask if obesity runs in my family, and I had a doctor tell me that I wouldn't have anxiety and panic attacks if I weren't so heavy. You know, because it's not an actual medical condition that effects all sorts of people of different shapes and sizes.
People can be really tactless when it comes to weight. More often then not I get the backhanded, "you have such a pretty face" compliment, which just means too bad for me that my body is hideous.
Whether skinny or fat, people can be cruel. I would love for others to realize that it's really none of their business, unless they are actually concerned. Then by all means talk to me about it, as long as the intentions are good. That doesn't necessarily mean I'll like hearing what they have to say though.
I have the very same problem. Made junior high/high school really awkward. Everyone just assumed I was anorexic or bulimic even though they saw me eat frequently. It's really insulting when people comment on your weight and I wish people didn't feel the need to do it so frequently. It's funny whenever someone talks about how skinny you are and you mention that you are trying to put on pounds and they get this really knowing 'oh right' look on their face like they don't believe it. Sigh.
AMEN! I'm exactly like you, so I can relate to everything you wrote. People used to say all of those comments to me, until they see me eat, and then they get jealous (so they say). I obviously would like to put on a bit of weight, but hey, if I'm healthy, I can't complain… I'm sure I'll put on some weight when I have a baby haha <3
i couldn't agree more, i have a ridiculously high metabolism as well! everyone assumes it must be amazing to not have to worry about 'being fat' but its awful being skinny and not being able to do anything about it.
it's so much harder than people think, especially when they constantly ask you if you're eating properly! i would give anything to have a bit of shape and 'more meat on my bones'!
this is such a good post xx
Such a great post Zoe, really well articulated as well. I've always thought weight and body image related comments are really uncalled for, as you said, its not always something that is out of choice. I've been struggling to put weight on and keep at a healthy weight since November, and this has been a really reassuring read for me.
Being scrutinised by my doctor in regards to my weight is just awful as it is, let alone having it implied that I'm 'not eating'. I really do feel that people should never make assumptions about someone's weight. A girl (I wouldn't say friend anymore!) at Uni is constantly making digs at me for not eating, yet if she knew me at all, or followed my Twitter hahaha, she'd know that I'm doing all I can to get back to a healthy weight!
Sorry about the essay haha, really enjoyed this post lovely! xxxx
This post has made me smile a lot, I get called 'skinny' pretty much everyday by various people, even if im in town, people just stare at my legs, its very uncomfortable. Im 14, nearly 15 and i have been skinny ever since i remember…
'Megan, i need to take you to McDonnell's and make you eat something' Like i dont eat? i eat more than the person thats saying it, i pretty much eat anything but i eat it way too much rubbish, like you said im very unhealthy too which i dont want to be but if i just eat healthily all the time then i will be even more skinnier than i am now.
Im so glad you posted this, now i know its not only me that is going through with it… Thank you!
Megan x x x
yeah i do agree with you to a certain extent – it's not fair for anyone to judge/comment on someone elses body/weight. absolutely NO ONE has the right to make anyone feel bad. however, i DO think it's easier to be 'too' thin than 'too' fat. and that's just because it's socially more acceptable to be thin. it's desirable to be thin, and that's just how it is. i imagine most people would rather have the problem of being underweight than over, y'know?
not saying the negative comments don't upset people like yourself, btw, i imagine it must be awful to be accused of having eating disorders and being told to eat a burger but… yeah. good post :) x
This is a really great post! I can totally relate to a lot. I'm not super-skinny, and I guess I have about an average weight, but there are still a lot of things I don't like. I'm thinner than some of my friends (who are by no means fat) so therefore get made to feel insanely guilty when I complain about my body, just because I'm a little thinner than them. Your right that some people just don't get how hurtful stuff like this can be! I agree that being thin is not the same as being healthy. I do no exercise and eat really badly! Sigh. xx
I completly agree, I'm like this too but to an extreme, I am 5'9" and a size 6 and have been since I was 13! I looked malnurished and sick and I also don't look like my parents sopeople always assumed I was adopted. It completly ruined my confidence. I'm now a model and the industry loves my body but I still hate. I feel like a boy :( x
I know exactly what you mean. I have the same problem. I am naturally slim and people are SO rude about it. It makes me so self concious. In fact, the people I work with make some many comments to me that I have started eating my lunch in my car instead of the staff room as every single day somebody will make a comment. If I said to a fat person 'why are you eating that? isn't that too much food! no wonder you are so fat' then I would probably get fired for bullying but it seems its ok when it's the other way around.
But Zoe you are gorgeous, just hold your head up high and don't let their rude comments get to you!
I'm the same, really skinny (not bragging) but I'm quite tall, I can easily see my rib bones, and my legs are really long (don't mind about my legs though)! But people always say to me, 'You're too skinny' or 'I swear you're anorexic' and it gets annoying, because I eat like a pig, and I live on jaffa cakes! I eat whenever I feel like it and I'll eat whatever, but I can't put on weight because I have a high metabolism.
I think people look at me funny because I don't walk around like other perfectly normal girls going 'I'm so fat!' because if I did my friends would just laugh at me (not in a mean way) because they know how much I eat!
xx
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I love your blog and think this is a great post. I have a pretty high metabolism too and never seem to notice myself gain/lose weight ever, no matter what i eat. Certain areas of my body i hate though, like my wrists. I would love to gain weight on them because i just think they look so skinny and bony. Also, a friend once mentioned that my legs were really skinny which offended me. It's exactly like you said, you wouldn't tell people their legs looked fat would you?
Great post I totally agree with you, its wrong telling someone that they need to eat more or less. It should be nobody’s business what you eat but your own. Weight and body shapes are very sensitive issues to all girls no matter what size they are.
I was told to eat less when I was younger by relatives. Once I hit puberty all the weight just fell off and now I keep getting comments about being too skinny!! Seems like I can never win with some people.
People need to stop and think before they make a comment regarding someone elses body. Everybody has body issues and the last thing they need is someone else making a thoughtless remark.
Esha xx
I dont know if you read all your comments, but I havent read any others.
Just wanted you to know i let out a big sigh. I'm 5ft2 and I'm 6 and a half stone.
Your probably thinking I'm brown nosing you to get another follower, but I can tell you that I have always hated the way I look.
My legs are like "birds legs" according to my old boss who decided to tell me that infront of the whole team.
The common one for me is "famished".
Well I'm glad you posted it – word of advice- when people ask if I eat I normally say "have you considered a nose job?" or "have you always had 2 chins"
Yeah, well thanks.
xx
Wow very long post lol
Interesting and I agree with you, you can call someone skinny but not fat it doesn't make sense. Doctors are always rude with weight. Doctors are very strict with weight when they say you over weight but you look thin and are a small size they just say say you need to lose weight because their health freaks same as underweight. Can't explain what I mean very well but doctors know nothing about weight one told me I needed to lose weight when I get told Im skinny
I never noticed you were skinny I always thought normal weight
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Next time someone asks me these questions, I am sending them to this page. My experience was EXACTLY like yours and I am still getting those ridiculous questions. Thank you so much for posting this! I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets annoyed by those comments!
You have just said all the things I've been thinking for years!
I have always been pretty slim through no fault of my own, high metabolism like you and people constantly say to me 'omg your soooooo skinny' its so awkward, what do you say?? 'er yes I know…'
They always say it in a tone as if I've done something wrong too, really bugs me!
I loved everything about your post, and I completely admire your honesty!!
xxx
Ok, this blog post = my life! Almost.
I used to be about the same weight as you but I'm a couple of inches taller and all I ever got from people was "you must be anorexic", "you don't eat properly", "ew you're so skinny". I mean, my best friend at the time was fat and I never bloody said anything about her weight!
Just like you, I used to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted… and basically I used to eat shitloads because I didn't want everyone looking at me and thinking that I was anorexic. I didn't like being super skinny, I wanted to gain weight. Eventually I ended up seeing a Health visitor who recommended that I drink smoothies but I hate smoothies so that didn't really go anywhere…
AND, again, like you, if I ever gained weight it never went on my legs. I hated my thighs, they were so skinny and made my bum look bigger and they just looked really out of proportion.
My metabolism now seems to have slowed down quite a lot and I'm now around 1 and a half – 2 stone heavier. I used to work in a hotel and the kitchen was in the basement so there was endless trips up and down stairs and it really toned and shaped my legs. So maybe you could do step aerobics or something? My thighs have got chunkier and I really feel so much more comfortable. I don't get people asking me constantly if I'm eating properly now and it's so nice. Almost a relief. I still eat whatever I like and I very rarely work out these days.
My boyfriend is quite skinny too and he wanted to gain weight so he asked this man that's into all this nutritional stuff how he could do it and he basically said to eat every two hours… like proper food like pasta, sandwiches, soup, whatever as long as it's not junk… he also said to eat loads of eggs! (He told my boyf to eat 4 slices of toast and 6 eggs for breakfast everyday but that may be a bit extreme…).
Anyway… I definitely think people should think before they comment on how skinny someone is, it can be just as hurtful as calling someone a fat cow! And for the record, I don't look at you and think you're skinny, I think you're 'slim' and that's beautiful. xx
You are so right!
I always had the same problem as you do.
I was so skinny I had to look between the children's clothing for something to fit me… I hated it! You really are right, we should love ourselves for who we are.
Ps. I'm sorry if my English isn't correct, I'm dutch.
xxxx
i just wrote the biggest ass comment and blogger 'couldn't complete your request'
basically, i disagree. i think that if your BMI was overweight or above average i'm pretty sure the doctors would ask you whether it runs in the family or not. i couldn't imagine them not asking one 'awkward' question that would potentially save your life when it comes to illnesses that may be caused by the overweight-ness, than leave it without saying anything.
I am the same as you, 5ft 4", around 7-7 and 1/2 stone and a size 4. I used to get bullied for being skinny at primary school. I've been the same measurements since I was 16. I had to go for medicals for my work and I was asked "do you eat regularly", "do you make yourself sick after eating". I could have punched her and I wrote a letter of complaint. It hurts that people can't just accept that people can be naturally slim and not have to be starving themselves or on a diet. I have been accused of eating disorders hundreds of times but I have never had one. I eat loads, my whole family is naturally slim. I also once tried desperatley to put weight on, I was drinking protein shakes and eating loads of carbs, oats and meat. Nothing worked though, I just stayed exactly the same. I hate being called skinny, it is the same as calling people fat. I just wish people would accept people for who they are. My Grandma told me "the only people who would dare say things like that to you are only saying it because they are so insecure about themselves" I think she is right. I am now totally happy with the way I am and have stopped trying to put on weight. I realised it was a waste of time and I have better things to do with my life that worry about what size I am.
well said! amazing post! i'm just like you and it's hard! that's what i think when someone asks me why i'm so skinny. these people never tell fat people to lose weight it's just not polite! thanks!
@Fiona – That wasn't the main point of the post, but it's reasurring after reading a few comments that they may ask the same awkward questions regarding weight, whether you're small or large, but not everyone who is "just below/over bmi" are ill, and a doctor would know this. If they were MASSIVLEY below, or MASSIVELY over, then obviously they would ask very probing questions which could THEN lead to helping someone…but I was merely stating just over and just under. x
This has got to be one of the best if not the best post i have read!!
i agree with everything you said, i always get that and coming from a portuguese background i am automatically expected to be curvey like all the latin women in my family. Its really unfair to call someone Skinny and say stuff like theres no meat there and stuff, i would never dream of calling someone fat and saying theres TOO much meat there, so how is it any different! i do agree with you and i love this post so much, as my whole life i have been the same as you, slim, and have been called names and asked weird quetsions and told to go to the doctors because i must be suffering.. and it still astounds me how much other people care about my weight and my health when they should look to themseleves and see how their doing! I made a post about the same issue a couple of months back here http://anacristinadrv.blogspot.com/2010/07/body-worries.html
because of a situtation that happened, but i generally think you have covered the topic in much more detail and much better then i could!! :) love it! X
I have to agree and disagree. Obviously it isn't nice for skinny and overweight people to be commented on in bad ways.
I also feel that when people are skinny they tend to over react too comments about there weight as some people are just interested in whether that person has followed certain diets and exercises, but I do know a lot people tend to have a high metabolism and that is why they are skinny.
I have to disagree with you also on the doctor issue as she must of been concerned when she found out you only weigh 7 stone 5lbs. Your BMI is unhealthy and she probably only asked you about your parents so she could see if it's in your genes and not a disorder.
Amen, I love this. :) Keep your chin up girl! Us ladies are beautiful no matter what shape we are.
Keep smiling!
really appreciated this post! there should be nothing controversial about this subject. Everyone needs to be allowed to be comfortable in their own skin, regardless of their weight/anything else.
thanks for speaking up!:)
@thebrunettegirl – Sorry, but I don't agree with that. My BMI is not "unhealthy" being at "only" 7stone 5lbs, it works out at about 2 points below the average of what I should be (according to fuck knows who), which I believe is around the 18/19 mark, and if this is so, it does not mean I have a potential "disorder". Like I stated in the post, there are thousands of reasons people are the weight they are. It shouldn't all be based on having a disorder, or not having one. You have clearly not understood any of the points I was trying to make and it comments like that, which inspired me write this post in the first place.
Zooeeeeee, you have just told my EXACT story! Doc always askes me if I'm dieting, I was always called 'skinny' names, but because so many people want to be skinny I'm not supposed to be offended??? If I said to an overweight person 'you're so fat, loose some weight' I'd be taken up for bullying or something. I'm 28 now and starting to fill out a little bit around my stomach, but I'm 5ft 8.5 and 9 stone, so still classed as underweight. I hear you love, I hear you :~)
@thebrunettegirl, ofcourse it matters, if they did have an eating disorder imagine how they would feel after someone saying that to them. Also coming from someone you don't know it's obvious they aren't asking so they can help they are asking for some sort of personal gain which is completely wrong. My BMI is bordering underweight and there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and you are obvisouly average BMI seeing as you're so bloody high and mighty about it and you have clearly never experienced these comments where as zoe and myself have and just so you know, you're the kind of people she's talking about, basically just small minded.
I could have written this myself a few year ago! Well done for speaking out, it is entirely ridiculous people think its socially acceptable to just throw these kinda insults around, I'm nearly 6ft so I got things like "Oh your such a lanky skinny giant" yet they'd say it like it was supposed to be a compliment! I did eventually start to put more weight on, infact now I can't eat cheese without it going straight to my hips but hey ho!
Had a very similar experience with the nurse too, completely agree with your point!
Take care xxx
Kudos to this whole post. Exactly everything you have outlined has always annoyed me, though its never been aimed at me!
I agree that BMI is a load of tosh, and I'm in the medical field myself! My BMI is bang on healthy, but my body fat percentage is higher than it should be – And thats what I'd rather be going by!
xx
To alison up there:
6 eggs a day? Thats a really unhealthy amount of cholestrol. 6 eggs a day WITHOUT the yolk – maybe. Also, eating every 2 hours is a trick to keep your metabolism speedy, so thats not really going to help! :)
i defiantly agree with this zoe, im naturally skinny too but i cant help it :S zxx
this post actually made me cry.
im 5ft 6 and 7 and a half stone and i relate to every single little thing you said in that post. i've always always always been skinny throughout my entire life. ive been to so many different doctors pushed from pillar to post at my weight ive had so many different doctors say they think i have anorexia but i havnt just like you have a high metabolisum. i've been bullied throughout my entire life about it too. i remember one day i was wearing shorts to school because it was hot and a boy in my year grapped my ankles and asked what was wrong with me why i was so skinny. its shocking what people can do and say and how much it hurts even doctors accusing you of somthing that you do not have hurts so much. i hit puberty at 16 i was so so so late developing. and now my boobs are bigger than my best friends i have a bum now!! it fits in my trousers!! wahoo! im 19 and still people are so quick to judge you. its so hard being skinny but its life and genes my dad was skinny when he was younger but now he has a rather round belly! i would love to gain a few pounds and even stone! but its so hard to. i love you zoe for doing this post, i relate to it so so so much! i hope people understand how hard it is being skinny and i would never accuse someone of being fat so how can people say to a 'skinny' person are you anorexic?? its so heartbreaking.
I most definitely agree with this. I just wrote a paper on eating disorders and how media influences us. In my paper I stated that we have to stop blaming skinny people and assuming they are anorexic and respect them. But we also should stop calling overweight people obese and categorizing both differently. We are ALL human beings with different body types and we shouldn't categorize anyone because a) they are too boney, or b)they are too thick. This is just the way the world is and it drives me absolutely insane.
This is one of the best posts I've read in a long, long time. Mostly as it struck a chord with me personally – I've always been slim too, and, similarly to you, was ashamed of my body as I saw everyone around me growing, filling out and looking more womanly. At 5'11, I already stand out from the crowd, but my slimness made this ten times worse, and the amount of times people have felt they have a right to comment on my weight and/or height is just uncountable now.
I think people truly fail to realise how upsetting it can be, to suffer explicit judgements on your appearance, judgements that are actually often said in a negative way, whether on purpose or not.
I still get comments, and I still get upset – why can't people see ME rather than my body? Why must I be a weight or height rather than a personality? It's horrid, and I can really really understand where you're coming from in all of this.
You are, of course, stunning, and more importantly [though probably seeming weird coming from a relative stranger] you come across as a lovely person – that's what matters in my book, and should be the only thing that matters to everyone else.
x
I completely get what you are saying about the skinny thing as I had a tall friend who was very slim but she ate more than me at times…People would comment behind her back and to her and she would get really upset which was horrible for me to see :/
But one thing I kind of disagree with you on, is that you say your a fatty and shizz, (I know a lot of people do) but that, to me, is like someone going ohh im such a skinny if you know what I mean? Which could be hurtful to others just as the skinny thing is to you.
But this was a good blogpost as I know from experience how hurtful it can be.
oh my goodness I ALWAYS get things like this said to me and it makes me feel so uncomfortable. especially when people automatically assume I have an eating disorder and god forbid I actually have to pee after I eat because then I'm bulimic. People are ridiculous
the BMI system is bullshit anyway. an "obese" person could just be really muscular but because they are heavier and maybe "too" short that gives them a higher BMI or in your instance a lower one. it's total crap and needs to be abolished.
everyone should watch the movie "Fat Head" (documentary) it blows the lid off crap like that.
I really agree with this post! But I seem to be really weird with eating as I never really get hungry in the day only morning – therefore I'll just eat quite a large breakfast and not really eat anything at school, but one of my friends thought I wasn't eating and then told me I needed to speak to someone about my "eating disorder". She was really rude about and I have to say if I did actually have an eating disorder(which I don't) she would have just made me feel even worse about it. I don't think it's ever really right to comment on someone's overweight – everyone has a set of scales and a mirror meaning they know if they're too fat or too skinny! Great post! x
For jay parker read properly! I said that why the doctor would of been concerned in case it was an eating disorder or to do with her genes!!
Zoe, you said above that the doctor said your BMI is lower than it should be you hadnt stated what your BMI is. I never said you had an eating disorder :/ what i was saying was she was probably asking whether it was to do with your genes or whether you might have an eating disorder because you weigh so little.
You have clearly not understood me.
@thebrunettegirl – I said "just under average". I didn't say that's what you said. What I meant was, why should it only come down to "maybe your doctor thinks you might have an eating disorder". Being "just under the average BMI", your doctor wouldnt instantly assume there was something seriously wrong. I don't appreciate you saying I weigh "so little" either. It's things like that I find contribute to this post. Are you suggesting that weighing 7stone 5lbs is the weight of someone with an eating disorder then?
Such a good post! And I entirely agree, who gives you the right to judge and comment anything of someone's appearance? As long as you're happy with yourself then that is really all that matters and nobody should make you think differently about yourself :) xx
oh my god FINALLY someone talks about this!
The weight debate is so ridiculously one-sided. If the front cover of magazines were 'celebs that are too fat' instead of 'too skinny', then it would be a scandal!
I got a Heat magazine this week and the cover spread is something like 'Yay! Curvy beach bodies!' but if it said 'yay! skinny beach bodies!' everyone would think its a bad example.
Thank you so much for finally shedding some light to all the closed-minded people out there!
I wan to cry!:(
but i'm agree with you!:D
and you can say…
cause baby i was born this way!
Bsos!
When I was younger I had the same problem and my doctor was convinced I had an eating disorder, when he wanted to discuss this with my mum she could honestly say she sees the way I eat, the way I live and I was in no way concerned with my weight.
I then was diagnosed with an "overactive thyroid" which means I couldn't put on weight, where as if someone had an "under active thyroid" they'd have the opposite effect and not be able to loose weight.
I was so sick of having to justify myself that I just stopped doing so, I went on with my life and eventually I did start gaining weight gradually, I'm now a "healthier" weight and actually feel like I want to lose some or tone up but in all reality I've never had to exercise before so I am not very fit after years of netball and stopping and still being very skinny.
You, and nobody else for that matter should have to justify themselves especially their weight to anybody else.. nobody wants to be called "too" anything but the sad truth is.. people will always judge.
Zoe,
First I must say it must have taken a great deal of courage to write this. I know many people who feel like this but don't want to say anything because of the dozens of people who will jump all over them saying the usual "you have nothing to complain about you're thin" spiel. As you said, people never really stop to think about the REASONS behind the situations people are in. You have every right to voice your opinion and I think you did so in a very dignified way.You are beautiful just by being you and hopefully others will see that about themselves too; excuse the unintentional rhyming.
Alyssa
I completely agree with this post. I slightly agree with thebrunettegirl.
I really respect the fact that you made this post, I made a similar one and all of your points needed to be said! Hopefully we can get rid of the ignorance people have when it comes to weight. BMI is one of the most unreliable things in the world, it doesn't take into account dense bones/muscles/metabolisms so I don't even bother with that like you said. I think people should concentrate less on the scales and more on health. (funny me saying that since i eat like a pig) Health>weight.
I have been asked some odd questions by my doctor because of my weight, I don't mind because if it means they could potentially save someone who does have an eating disorder then so be it. Just like if they asked an overweight person whether they do exercise or not. If it could improve the quality of life of another person then I don't have a problem with it. It's their job to prod at us and as annoying/offensive it may be, it could save someone.
x
@kissonthechic there are lots of magazines that say celebs are "too fat" that's why some loose weight and then the magazines then say they are "too thin" nobody can win, you should notice that the "curvy" women are a normal, sometime even below, size. I personally think that they weight debate is ridiculous there are people below and above the "ideal" bmi (which is ridiculous in itself) that are healthier and fitter than those who are considered healthy. As long as you are comfortable and healthy be happy with yourself!
I was actually going to do a post on my experience with my weight issues, but I'm not sure if anyone would be interested, haa.
I used to be REALLY skinny, & have a fast metabolism, but in the last year/year & a half, all that weight's caught up on me, & I've got curves for the first time in my life. In the last couple of days I've realised that I need to start eating healthily & exercising to basically 'tone up', as well as personal medical reasons.
People think being skinny is great, but not when people begin to think you're anorexic even though you eat heaps, :|
xo
*hugs and kisses*
I freaking love that you were strong enough to not only draft this post but click, post! Thats a BIG step you took hunny and I'm so proud to be a follower. I like that you have grown to the point in ur life where u have embraced your size enough to shrug off ignorant nurses like her and rude comments…you ARE beautiful, inside and out. And to me, you look fine
Xisses, Onyxsta
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I'm SO glad you wrote this post and that you brought this issue up, because its something that has bugged me so much for a few years, and its a relief to hear that other people feel the same way I do about this :)
I'm 5ft 6 and 8st 1lb, and it make me angry that even total strangers feel that they have the right to comment on how little I am and say some pretty offensive things, that they would never dream of saying to someone at the other end of the weight scale.
It makes me sick that people think that they may say whatever they like to you if you are slim, and its not offensive, when it bloody well is!
One of my neighbours once said to me 'you look like a pencil with the wood shaved off' and I will never forget it. It was SO rude I was just literally stood there like, did he actually just say that to me? If I had been overweight would he have said, you look like a pregnant elephant? No he would not! Im not anorexic I'm just slim for my height and it irritates the hell out of me that people think they can say what they like to you if your slim, as they obviously think they don't have to worry about knocking your confidence or hurting your feelings. But the fact is, being slim does not automatically imbue with heaps of confidence, slim girls (and even guys) have body hangups and issues the same as anyone else.
The one thing I hate the most is people who say ' you know guys prefer curvy girls' because they think that I don't eat because I think I look better slim and I do that to be more 'attractive'. But its just the way I am. So it upsets me because I can't help how much I weigh if I eat normally (which I do), and I don't see why some people feel like its OK to say things like that to you. If someone was obese they would not say to them 'you know, guys prefer girls with less weight' and so by the same token its NOT OK to say it to someone on the slim side.
So glad you wrote this, and sorry for the super long comment XD
X x
Thank you for writing this! I weigh the same as you and I'm an inch shorter 5'3inch. I get asked every day how much I weigh. To the point where, recently someone asked me my size and I was quick to respond "I'm a 6 on top, 8 on bottom" harshly. Then they responded "No, I meant your shoe size". Embarrassing!
I am constantly trying to put on weight but I have a high metabolism too and every time I go to the doctors they are concerned. They are quick to always ask what I eat and whether I need to see a dietician.
I have found that its harder for me to confide with friends, the difficulties of trying to gain weight. They usually tell me how lucky I am and then I feel awful when I see that they struggle to lose weight. I don't want them to think I'm bragging.
Thank you for making me realise I'm not alone in this. Love your blog!
x x x
This is fabulous post Zoe! It's so refreshing to see the whole body image subject from this angle, I can truly see how someone can get upset for being called skinny. It really doesn't matter what you look like, everyone's beautiful in their own way! And that's what fashion's for, to hide the insecurities and show off our best assets – no matter what they are ;)
And as for BMI, it's all a load of bullcr*p anyway. I remember reading somewhere that when Brad Pitt was filming Gladiator(I think?), his BMI at the time classified him as morbidly obese but it he'd been on a diet that made him gain MUSCLE not fat. It's not really the best indication of healthy weight to be honest and really not worth getting upset over.
Keep up the great work on the blog! <3
xoxo
Reading this was literally like reading my own thoughts! I'm in complete agreement with you!
I'm 5"7 and have always been thin – I suppose I'm lucky in the sense I can eat what I want and get away with it. I stopped eating meat when I was around 14 and have only just started again last month (after around five years) particially in a bid to get a bit bigger.
In the first year or two of Secondary school I had a few comments about my non-existant boobs (but let's face it, I was tall and thin, I was hardly going to have double d's). One particular boy decided to take a disliking to me in year 11 and used to call me 'A cup' (original seeing as though I was a B..pah). After year 11 he left school and about three years later on facebook I added him – he had no tagged pictures of him with friends (because he didn't have anyway). I waited a while so I knew he'd see my pictures (Me + boobs – glasses = not bad) and then wrote 'HAHA' on his facebook wall and blocked him again. Probably not the highest road I've taken but it sure felt good!
Last year in work one of the boys who started when I did said out of the blue "Sarah you're like really skinny." I felt so angry and told him straight that if he said that to someone who actually had something wrong like an eating disorder how what he said would do damage and that he needed to watch what he said! I suppose it came with age that I stuck up for myself and put him in his place, because like you said, he wouldn't dare say to someone overweight "you're like really fat you know that?"
It's posts like these why I enjoy being a part of the blogging community!
Sorry for the essay :) xx
you are so brave to write about this issue. what matters is being healthy and loving your body for what it is! blog is pure amazing xxx
really agree zoe that people don't consider the feelings of slimmer people sometimes. great thought provoking post, sad to hear about the poor treatment by the nurse – i think you are beautiful and hilarious xxx
Please don't put yourself down to make any of those misery guts feel better about themselves. If they are insecure of the fact that are slightly or somewhat overweight – they have no right whatsoever to pick or comment on anyone else. The truth is all these people sit behind their computers picking at everyone else, when they can just as easily hop on a treadmill and fix their own personal situation – you're gorgeous and don't let any of those losers get to you. They comment because they feel threatened by your beauty and feel the need to pick everyone else apart. They will never be beautiful until 1. they work on their attitudes 2. they work on themselves. xx
AMEN Zoe. I have the same thing as you and people tell me not to bitch about how hard it is to gain weight. Because their struggle is so much more important? I also did an internship at a law firm where a 40-something attorney took one look at me on the elevator and said "you're so skinny. i hate you." nice. i have to hear that a lot. I hate being so skinny but there's nothing to do about it so I love your message to just accept yourself and for people to lay off.
I also have had quite a few problems with doctors even though I've always been this way. One had me write down what I ate so she could count my calories later. Laugh's on her. I ate 4,000 that day. More than most grown men. I finally found one who got it.
Seriously, thanks for this post.
xo
I just wanted to leave a comment as someone who struggles with their weight on the opposite spectrum. You mention that it should seem just as unfair to comment on someone who is skinny as someone who is heavy.
I personally think the reason that people feel it acceptable to comment about skinny people is because it is clearly more socially acceptable to be skinny than it is to be overweight. Being skinny is something that most everyone is constantly striving for with this diet or that diet, working out, etc…Being overweight isn't something that anyone seems to strive for. So if you're naturally skinny (something that most people want) of course you'll get comments.
I can assure you, that you would rather walk around maybe slightly underweight and have people making mostly envious comments about you being skinny, than someone who is overweight listening to peoples comments that are not meant with any sort of good intention.
Just something to think about…
Finally! someone that understands me! I'm 15, almost 6ft tall and still growing, and i weigh 115lbs. i absolutely hate it when people say i need to put some meat on my bones or that I need to eat some food! ugh drives me nuts! It's nice to know that there are other girls out there like yourself that struggle with the same crap i do. xoxo, emily
I have to disagree with you on just one issue. It is more socially acceptable to be thin, and often when people comment on your weight (being too thin) it is because they are envious and probably weigh more than you. It is a lot easier to be thin in this generation than to be overweight, even by ten lbs. It is not really fair to say that being thin comes with the same stress that being over weight does. Not saying that it comes with ZERO stress, I just don't think it is fair to compare.
I completely agree. I was the same, and my friends would tease me about it. It really did upset me, and they wouldn't understand. I had a friend who was constantly trying to lose weight ad she would constantly compare her arm to my arm, her weight to my weight, calling me hurtful names. People would say "anything would look good on you", but nothing did. Everything was too big and I had no shape. I'm so glad I've found people I can relate to! xxx
This is probably the most encouraging post I have ever read. People always say, "your so skinny, put some weight on!" to me, and i always eat so much rap, i just don't put weight on. You are beautiful Zoe(:
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xx Leah
here, here.
that took a lot for you to share with people.
but well done xx
i loved reading this post, i hate when people comment on my weight, its uncomfortable and awkward xx
Doctors are terrible with BMI's and what not. Every time I get weighed they go on at me about having too high a BMI but I've been healthy eating and exercising for two years so I'm not unhealthy. They don't hold back with their words either, it's like they don't care of the effect it has on their patients. I've walked out of doctors (and dentists strangely enough) in tears for what they've said, which I don't think is right to be honest.
I agree with everything in your post and wouldn't dream of calling someone slim 'too skinny' or 'bag of bones', I've had friends confronted with those terms and seen how it hurts. Any form of derogative terms are going to hurt people.
It must have taken a lot to write this post, good for you hun
Love Belle xx
This is such a great post that I can totally relate to in both ways. I have always been skinny, a size 6 until I was about 21, I also had a similar experience with a doctor who wasn't so polite as your nurse and flat out asked me if I had a eating disorder, to which I replied no, but he still proceeded to tell me all the problems they can cause as though he didn't believe me. I left feeling upset obviously, because like you I just had a fast metabolism and could eat pretty much anything. Then when I hit 21 it seems it slowed down and I started to put on weight. I am still only a size 8-10 and now people say to me "Oh you've put on a bit of weight haven't you?" Which then makes me feel really self conscious. You can't win either way, so I think you are totally right we just have to be happy with ourselves :)
I'm sort of the same. I'm not that skinny, but my friends assume I have no problem with my body because I'm not fat. And people say I'm skinny all time time and it does get to me, cos people are basically saying I'm shapeless :L x
Amzing post. Well done for tackling something that needs to be said more often. I would never dream of commenting on anyone's size, especially when I'm not so perfect myself.
Everybody is different, people just can't seem to accept that fact.
This post is so great Zoe & I can totally relate! I'm exactly like you, I've always been skinny (amazingly, I have almost exactly the same measurements as you!) and I'm still the same height & weight that I was when I was 12 (I'm 22 now). I eat absolutely anything I please, I love chocolate & pizza & burgers yet I won't put on weight. People need to realize that some people just are naturally thin and that commenting on other people's weight is not very polite to begin with. THANK YOU for this post Zoe.
I feel EXACTLY the same, I'm skinny(healthy skinny) but people ask me all the time; are you eating enough, are you anorexic, … and the answer is NO! I'm perfectly healthy and I eat A LOT, I just don't gain any weight. My mum, sister are exactly the same so was my grandmother
awhh haha i love this! i feel the exact same way.. and i still am very skinny and its so annoying when people comment i just want to yell at them and say dont u think i know im skinny! dont you think if i could i would change it! i dont like my body but im learning to accept it cause i dont like to be upset and i know eventually i will thicken up a bit, but its hard to make progress when people constantly comment on it. :) once agian…i love your blog
i totalllly agreee with you zoe!! everyone used to say it to me like even my friends mums it used to really upset and id go home and scoff my face lol!! i think its very unfair that people think its ok to say look how skinny you are but wouldnt say look how fat you are. I also hate how things are set in writing with the BMI's they dont take into account peoples different body sizes and shapes. i was measured at the gym last year around my waist and my hips and then looked at the chart, the chart said that i had a risk of being overweight :O i laughed so hard because i dont have wide hips the chart obviously shows the waist/hip ratio as me having a big belly instead of small hips! its rediculous! now i am still petite but super curvy and sometimes i wish id embraced my little figure when i had it instead of trying to hide it as everyone commented on how tiny i was!!
lots of love charlie
xoxo
I can relate to this post so much. Im 5ft 10 and all through my teenage years, right up untill I was around 24 I weighed no more than 8 stone. I was called every name under the sun, I was constantly asked "do you have an eating disorder", "why are you so skinny" "you need to put some weight on" "you look ill" blah blah blah I hear it all. Yet I ate like any other normal person, I just couldn't put on weight. Even when I was pregnant with Anton, I gained 3 stone and lost it again the minute he was born and went back to 8 stone.
Then when I hit my early 20's around 23, my body just started to mature and fill out and I finally started gaining weight. My boobs got a little bigger, I got a nice shape, I got a nice bum. Everything just went right. I think it comes with age hun.
Great post! Somebody had to say it. I get called skinny and anorexic all the time. I personally think I am of normal weight for my height which is very short, below average and I weigh more than you! I think people think I'm skinny because I lack curves which I can't help. Id love to have bigger boobs and hips but hey what can I do right? If I were to be heavier I would look plump and feel sticky and groggy like what you said.
As to the comparison you made about how people don't make remarks at a fat person, that's what I say all the time! I also use that on my height. For some reason people think they need to reiterate how short I am and let me know. Well, hello, I see myself in the mirror and I know how short I am jeez. No one says anything about a fat person so why are they targeting skinny and short people.
Amen to your post <3
Oh my goodness I'm so thankful that you did a post on this! I did a (much shorter) similar post a few months back. I'm exactly the same proportions that you mentioned and you're exactly right. It is difficult. Plus, it tends to be easier for larger people to lose weight than it is for skinny people to gain weight. We both have to fight our metabolisms regardless. The more skinny people eat the faster our metabolisms burn. Its a blessing and a curse.
I think all of us skinny gals go through the stage where we're super insecure due to lack of feminine curve. As I got older I accepted the fact that I wasn't going to fill out quite as generously like my friends. I try to look at it in a different light. My friends may have the perfect proportioned beach body, but I have the body type of a runway model. It helps keep me positive to find role models who embrace their bodies – pokey bones and all.
just wanted to point out in response to some comments: you can have an eating disorder at ANY weight. (But being underweight and overweight does make it more likely.)
i totally know what you mean.
sometimes an extra-quick motab is a hyperactive thyroid… i have a HYPO-active thyroid, but it just makes me really tired. i've never noticed any weight gain… but then again, i'm pretty active.
i think weight is personal.
I feel you on this but on the opposite end of the spectrum. I've always been chubby or heavier and it's very frustrating when people think that I completely chose to be this way. Even when I'm at my lowest weight I'm still chubby b/c of how short I am. Right now my weight is higher unfortunately but I'm working on lowering it and yeah. Idk. I just feel you on this whole thing and it's absolute bullshit that people feel they can comment about it whenever they want to.
I agree, though i may not be as skinny as you say you were (I'm 14) It gets kind of tiering hearing "Go eat a hamburger" or went people think i dont eat (to exaggerate it all I'm about 5'6" so that makes me look even skinnier), because the truth is I eat WAYY more that any of my friends but don't ever really gain. Although I think sometimes people mean it as a compliment or even jealousy, honestly it wouldnt be bad to "graduate" from the "itty bitty commity".
Also I get what your saying about it being an insult to the overweight but not to the skinnier, still hurts.
Great Post Zoe!
I think whether slim or fat, people will judge and it shouldnt be the case!
I am a big girl and although you say 'people wouldn't go up to a fat person and say – lose weight' – I have had many comments either to my face or said near me very loudly. Mainly by drunk idiots on nights out, but it is upsetting!! These people do not know me, or know that I am a nice person and would do anything for anyone, they just see I am bigger and to them this means I am the worst person in the world and all human decency should leave the place and they can say what they like!!
Yes I have to admit I have always wished I was skinny etc, but I know how hard it must be for someone like you the same as me, when people feel they can comment on you!
Sorry i have now rambled on hehe xx
i'm hoping you read this.
i am extremely underweight and compared to my friends i feel like the odd one out. I am 14yrs old and weigh 30kg – considered skinny. WHenever someone asked me my weight and i answer, they always say something along the lines of 'i weighed like that when i was 8' or 'woah ( as a surprise)'.
i hate my figure and somehow i never gain weight. It's really hard for me to find clothes that fit. I've tried eating more and taking vitamins daily and nothing helps. I wish i was normal.
I look horrible in jeans and people say my thighs are the size of their arm. I hate it.
I know exactly how you would have felt and i completely agree. I'm hoping someday, i would have 'sprouted boobs' and a bottom, but right now i feel my body will never do such a thing. WHen i change fro p.e at school, i hide. Or for swimming lessons i go straight for the toilet. I am body-conscious in all sorts of ways and never accept my body. My sister is normal, my brother and my parents…it's just me.
Whenever someone calls me anorexic, i almost cry. The insult brings me down and makes me feel worse about myself. It is not my fault my body is underweight and i've tried my hardest to gain weight. My mother says to eat more to look beautiful and my dad says because i have a flat bottom i'll never become a model ( when people say i shouldbe a model). Why aren't i like everyone else?
i am the most unhealthy in my family, but yet i am the skinniest. It's is embarrassing shopping in 'kids' sections and shopping centres. I know people talk about me when they see my weight. I hope i overcome the fact that i AM normal.
I love this post for many reasons.
I'm approximatly 5ft3, and i weigh exactly 99.4lbs. Which is roughly just under 7.5 stone.
The amount of times when i was younger that i got ridiculed for being skinny, i actually started to believe that i had a problem.
Depression runs in my family too, and because of that i get a few months a year where i just don't eat and don't have any appetite, I don't loose weight or anything, but my hair starts to loose it's livleyness. But i've been to the doctor's countless times, and had blood test and what have you. But everything turns out perfectly normal. I've come to the understanding, it's really just my genes. My mum and dad aren't much meat, but i'm taller than them both.
Sometimes people say they'd love to have my legs, but i think that's what i'm most insecure about, because i have such a gap between my thighs when i stand with them together, but i tend not to focus too much on it. Because everyone has flaws in their own eyes.
I've never really been happy about my boob's, as i have a 30" back and i can never find a decently fitting bra because of that aspect, so people say things about those too. But since i started dating my current boyfriend. He's made me feel so much better about my body, because he constantly compliments me. I'm not a fan for compliments, and i take them badly. But it's put my confidence up a large amount.
People, especially strangers, should just start to compliment on the aspects of other people, rather than pointing out, what's possibly is making people lack their confidence.
xo
This was such an interesting article. Thanks for bringing light to a topic not often discussed. I completely agree.
– Kimberly
i hardly ever read very long articles, but this one related to me allot. I to have a high metabolosim and i am 5'3 and 7 and somewhat stones.
I remember going to the doctors a while ago she took my BMI, and sed that i was underweight. Ive heard it before.
Now i do have a large bum , and like a B CUP top half, i am slightly happy but would prefer a little bit more, i am reaching 17 and wondering if i would ever grow more than a b? :(
That's so weird, I went to the doctors just the other day and he weighed me and took my height: 5"4 and 7stone 5lbs, he told me to put a stone on in the next month. I cant. Right now, I'm eating a box of jaffa cakes, okay, I have finished the box, I just want to put weigh on so I can have boobs tbh, being 16 and having no boobs isn't easy haha :/
I know exactly how you feel, i'm the same and i eat so much its not funny. I have a really fast metabolism too. I hate it when people say are you annorexic yes it is just like walking up to a overweight peson and saying wow are you obese?
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I had somebody come up to me yesterday and ask me why i was so skinny and that i 'need a good sandwich'. I was taunted for being anorexic in junior school and i've been told that i'm not very nice to hug because i'm so bony.
Boys always take the mick out of me for my boobs (i barely fit an A and i'm 15 – awkward.) I used to pretended i'd hurt my ankle on the days where we had to go swimming in PE, because i didn't want anyone to see me in the school's swimming costume with no padding.
Mind you, i do enjoy eating whatever i want, whenever i want – having a fast metabolism definitely has its ups! xxx
You have no idea how comforting it is that someone feels the same.
I am not underweight. I've never had a major problem with my body, and it's strange that other people do; at a young age I was called anorexic, all because I was a thin, lanky kid. My parents were like twigs when they were younger, so it runs in the genes. Now, even my close friends make little comments which can really get to me. Even if it’s something little like "Ergh, you're so skinny" how do I react to that?! What’s even worse is when people comment on your eating habits, they always catch you when you're not hungry or full up, and interrogate you on why you are not eating; I eat what I want, am unfit, lazy and happy!
I soooo understand how you feel when people are commenting on your weight, what is it to them anyway? If you're happy with what you are they can get lost (to put it politely.) It has made my day reading this; it’s nice that someone puts the thoughts of hundreds of girls like us for those inconsiderate people to understand.
This is such an incredible post <3
I'm exactly the same and rarely put on weight. I'm told i'm too skinny yet the rare times I have managed to put on weight i get 'oh, you've put on a bit of weight then' making it sound like a bad thing?!
I have the same 'problem' with my legs – they are too skinny and I would much prefer them to have more shape so I could wear shorts and anything other than a body con skirt.
Weight is far too much of a big deal nowadays. Everyone is either too fat or too thin and it seems everyone feels the need to criticise someones weight.
It's so insensitive when people make comments like that. And unnecessary.
Thank you for highlighting such an important issue.
xxx
Hi Zoe, just wanted to say my sister told me about you a couple of weeks ago and ever since then I haven't been able to stay away from your blog/youtube thingy (I'm not a massive youtube-er myself) Everything you've said here is my life! Small body but boobs that came from nowhere and people constantly commenting on my weight. It certainly is nice to know I'm not the only one. Keep it up! xx
I'm glad that skinny women are coming together now to address this issue. I've been bullied all my life for being skinny and it's not fair; people need to be aware. It's the media too, all those articles about "real women" being the shape of a doughnut- what on earth…? we're all real women, thank you.
i THINK I JUST FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU.
I RECENTLY RECEIVED A COMMENT ON MY BLOG FROM WHAT I EXPECT TO BE A GIRL. "DO YOU HAVE AN EATING DISORDER?" YEAH, YOU COULD TOTALLY SEE MY XYLOPHONE, SO I WAS REALLY UNDERSTANDING, I WAS LIKE – FINDING MYSELF JUSTIFYING WHY I LOOK THE WAY I DO.
AFTER READING YOUR POST IT WAS A COMPLETELY WAKE UP CALL TO ME. IT IS NOT OKAY TO ASK PEOPLE THESE THINGS, SERIOUSLY!!!!!
I think this is a great post; I went to school with a girl who had issues putting on weight and was bullied for it.
That said, I used to be overweight and you do get yelled at in the street, told to go to weightwatchers, asked awkward questions by doctors (all illnesses are as a result of your weight apparently), an old woman told me i shouldn't eat in public on a bus once, a man told me i should try and eat less…..
i think it shouldn't matter what the hell you weigh or what your body type is to make you a) healthy and b) a woman. What should matter is whether you're happy within your body and then perhaps we'll all stop making assumptions and casting asperstions on each others sizes and eating habits.
ps: BMI has fuck all to do with being healthy – Michael Jordan i.e. an athlete is classified as being overweight because of his height & weight. It's such a bullshit scheme.
I went through the exact same thing as you.. I am slightly taller, I stand at 5'6 and when I was 14/15 barely weighed 100lbs. I was 105 at 17. and then somehow (I am slightly older than you) at 23 I gained weight I now sit comfortably at 128lbs (that is last time I weighed myself.. I don't do it often) I am now a size 7. I think it had something to do with switching to a lower dose hormone contraceptive (switched from tri-cyclen to tri-cyclen low) I have booty and boobies now :) I think I always looked good.. Honestly I feel as though people are simply ignorant and that the BMI is off.. there are ALOT and I mean ALOT of overweight people and the average is based on your age and height but not your bone structure. There are 3 main bone structures.. ectomorph (thin) mesomorph (medium, bit stalkier than ectomorph) and lastly endomorph (thick and stalky build) Each of these have a different ideal weight to carry on their frame. A health professional should know this. <3 love your blog keep it up!!
I'm actually new to your blog, but this post caught my eye (as I see it did many others!). At 5'9 and 110lbs I reallllyyy understand where this post is coming from, unfortunately, I'm in my 20's and the days of waiting for any lovely curves are gone and never came. I'm a perpetual bean pole and constantly ridiculed for being anorexic or bulimic even – when I was younger and not nearly brave enough to speak my mind, I actually quit a job due to being constantly called that even though I've never had an eating disorder – in the same boat as you with ridiculous metabolism. It took me years to feel comfortable at my weight and to be able to fend for myself when the mudslinging starts. I was always amazingly confused as to way it was taboo to joke someone for being fat, but joking someone who is skinny was deemed "okay". It's important to note that at a certain point too skinny or too fat is just not good for one's health – like you, I've eaten a ton of junk because I thought it would help me "grow a booty" but really all it does is make me feel blah, thusly, I was not in great shape due to my excessively unhealthy junk diet, not the weight itself. Positive perception of oneself makes all the difference in the world. I'm a bean pole, I'm proud of it.. tradin' in my candy bars for protein bars and tons of veggies and I feel amazing.
Oh, and you're blog is super fun and cute! keep on keepin' on.
xo kc
I totally understand where you're coming from. It's like, you're either too skinny or too fat and you can't please anyone. People think that just because being thin is more acceptable in society, it's okay to tell you you're "too skinny" and that you should eat more. I remember a few years ago at my old job (so glad to be out of that place!), these two older ladies commented on my figure (yeah, old people can be just as nasty!) saying how I was so skinny (meanwhile, I was holding Subway in my hand, lol) and then they say, "Well, at least we know she eats". I just thought it was completely rude and inappropriate and it did not make me feel good at all. These people say it in such a condescending manner as if there's actually something wrong with you when in fact, there's absolutely not.
You wouldn't call an overweight person fat to their face and I don't see why things should be different for thin people. They don't know you and if you're naturally built that way. Well, naturally thin or not, it's not their place to say anything, anyway. It's just completely ignorant, and to judge someone on their looks, especially over something they have no control over, is just downright nasty.
I think the media these days tends to focus on "bigger is beautiful" to try and be more accepting of all body shapes, but then girls like us are left out, as if we should feel bad for being naturally thin. It's impossible for me to put on weight too, but I don't care. I've stopped caring about what people think.
You are honestly one of the most gorgeous girls, Zoella, and you should be proud of your petite frame. :) It's also nice being able to eat as much junk as you like without consequences, isn't it?!
Sorry this was so long! It's a subject close to me too. xox
Hello Zoe!
My name's Sophie, i'm french (so excuse me if my english isn't perfect ;p) and i turn 22 yrs old in may.
Nowadays i weigh 9st9, and i am 5.5ft (if i'm sure, i've converted those measures lol). But 6 years ago, for the same height i weighed 7st4, so i was very skinny and i hated my body. Some people made fun of me (a boy told me my arms resembled a "breadstick" (ewww a french bread, which looks like a stick..?); afterwards a girl asked me if i was anorexik and she wasn't the only one; my best friend's mother could'nt help telling her (who was a little bit fat but beautiful!) that she should take care and take me for example O_o it was disgusting!!). Thus i TOTALLY understand (except that i wasn't as pretty as you are haha) and i ate, ate, ate and now i have to admit that i feel just beautiful! i know i am stout, i have fat on my thighs, i also have lots of stretch marks, i may be ugly but i don't care, i really accept myself now.
Some say that some specific exercises can help to take weigh (because it helps being hungry, it develops muscles (which is louder than fat) etc…) but when i was skinny i feared to be even skinnier, so….. i don't know!
Last but not least, you are a beautiful girl with a STYLE that lots of girls envy (maybe you also have the money, lucky you lol), and i think LOTS of people allow themselves to say those things to skinny girls because they would LOVE to look like you, maybe some of them really worry (and it can be cute), but lots of them are just JEALOUUUUS, don't forget that ;)
aaaargh i also forgot! Today i still HATE my arms & hands, my ankles & my feet 'cause they are skinny and, as for me, they look like a skeleton (no i'm not deformed lol but i've fat haha!)
good luck :)
This made me cry because it pretty much summed up my life.
I'm tall (about 5'9") and and just over 100 lbs. In other words, a string bean.
Just the other day my mother asked me if I'd lost weight.. It broke my heart because I hadn't really noticed until she said anything, but she was right. All I had been doing was eating healthier. I don't want to look like a stick figure :( but I want to put healthy food into my body.
I was also recently in a musical at my highschool. I got comments on my figure constantly. Fellow cast members and strangers in the audience came up and told me things like what you've mentioned. So basically I've been feeling pretty down recently.
All my life I've been told to put more meat on my bones. It is hurtful, and it does affect my self image. People need to learn to shut their mouths and keep their thoughts to themselves. Thank you for writing this. Even though it made me cry, it made me feel like I'm not alone. It also gave me a chance to vent about my issues with weight. I can't say these things to most people because then I suddenly become that "skinny bitch" who doesn't know how "good" she has it.
I love your blog
and your youtube videos
Please keep them coming!
:)
Hi Zoe,
i love this post and it did make me think a little more and what you said made so much sense as people can say things, sometimes to hurt you but sometimes they unintentionally hurt you, so this made me realise that everyone needs to watch what they say because you never know how a person is feeling or what they're going through!
Love your blog! x
I love this!!! My entire life people have been saying this to me whether they be my family friends my doctor or random strangers, It truly does hurt and has added to my depression but seeing this posts lets me know I'm not alone. Thank you sooo much for writing this! :)
Good job writing this. It's an important thing to get out there. I'm trying to play catchup today on all the blogs I follow and had to respond to this post. I actually just posted something on our blog along these very same lines, and I bet you'll find a lot of stuff in it that you can relate to. There were lots of comments within the post and underneath it from girls who feel just like you. My main point behind the whole post was that we need to appreciate women of ALL shapes and sizes. You can read it here:
Body Confessions: Think skinny girls have no image issues?
A lot of the people who call you skinny probably THINK they're paying you a compliment because they wish they were and assume everyone who's skinny is happy about it. I'd bet at least some of them are well-meaning when they say it. I'm 11 weeks pregnant and have already been hearing my fair share of weight comments. "I didn't show that early!" "Maybe you're having twins!" It's annoying, but it's just in people's nature.
I'm so glad that YOU are happy with you – that's what counts!!! <3
Oh, P.S. – EVERYone needs exercise, and there are certain kinds you can do that will build muscle instead of reducing fat. Not sure if you have Curves where you live (workout centers for women only), but strength training-type exercise would probably be right up your alley! Hope this helps!
I get excactly the same comments about being to skinny and small. :| but Im just petite and eat loads of crap anyway! hehehe.
I love your blog btw :') xox.
Attempting to make somebody feel uncomfortable because they're skinny is as wrong as making somebody feel uncomfortable because they're larger. It's also not fair to call somebody in between 'average'. I just don't think there is any point to put labels on everybody – we are all real women with realistic bodies, and every body out there is different. Shapes, sizes, & how they work inside (metabolisms). At the end of the day, people don't realise the harshness of their comments until they are turned around on them.
wow,this has really given a a more…fresh outlook on life! It is very true that a lot of people find it acceptable to comment on a large person's weight and confront people that "seem" to be under-weight.Watching your videos on you-tube and looking at the way you've set out your life-style just makes me smile and think "why cant EVERYBODY" be like this zoella! I think your doing great and your right…the best thing to do IS to just walk away….:)
You've totally hit the nail on the head. I've been feeling like this too for ages.
This was such a good read.
– Kayleigh x
this is so amazing. i completely agree, ive gone to the doctors quite a few times and practically every day people tell me how skinny i am, compare wrist sizes and make me feel so small and insignificant. why cant people accept us for who we are and exactly noone would call someone fat to their face so why is it EVER acceptable to be so open about calling someone skinny. x
i am exactly the same! I am so skinny & always have been, even though i eat insanse amounts a day.. & i ALWAYS get called anorexic! love this post :) x
I totally agree! I've always been skinny and when I was younger I was self conscious about it. I'm so glad you wrote about this!
that's exactly what's in my mind. I have this fast super metabolism too and I hate it to hear from everyone, oh you're so skinny or you should eat more. I can't stand these comments. When someone says something like that to me, I could slap him in his face. You described this situation so damn good, I thought I could have written this text. It feels good to know that I'm not the only one with this problems. You're so gorgeous!
Fantastic post!
I totally agree with everything you said!
For me, I think that people have a certain weight they suit. I had a couple of friends who were around 7 stone and a size 6-8. They certainly didnt look like they had an eating disorder. They looked fine. Although I was slightly jealous :)
I dont think people have a right to comment on someones weight, especially someone they dont know.
Personally, I think you look fab! And don't let anyone tell you different! xx
Great post…I used to be a very skinny child and although I filled out..I know this is bad, but I do kind of wish I didn't fill out quite as much :/
Really interesting points though – I lie reading about this kind of stuff xx
I totally agree, I've had the same problem all my life! I really hate it when people are like OMG! I wish I was as skinny as you! and all you want to reply is "no you don't".
This post really touched me as I thought I was the only one who felt like this! I think it's so true what you said about would they say that to a fat person? because it is just the same, and no ones ever perfect in this world, we are always too fat, too thin, too tall, too small etc. I'm so glad that you wrote about this :) <3
i guess most people don't understand it's as hard for you as it is for those trying to lose weight as most aren't in your position and in today's media all you see is 'thin thin thin' as a good thing, making people think you've tried to remain little.
you look lovely anyway zoe, just petite. be proud of who you are :)
I agree with every word in this post!! and btw you are amazing just the way you are <3 :]
Im the same, im 5ft2 and weigh 6stone6, i eat like a horse, but try as i might i dont put weight on, and when i go the same as you do for your contraception they check me, they even took me off one pill because it was double dose and i didnt weigh enough! i hate how people see skinny girls and automatically think they dont eat, or vice versa with bigger people. What they dont realize is that it hurts just as much to say someones skinny as it does fat x
I am so happy you posted this, I thought it was just me :/
And I agree it is so unfair when people are like " wow… you're skinny" They don't understand how insulting it is.
At the end of the day, it's great to be any shape or weight, thank you so much for posting this, I hope it has really opened some people's eyes
<3 xx
This is clearly from your point of view and I respect that, but you cannot say a fat person would not be called fat so overtly because you have never experienced that. All I can say is I used to be overweight and everything you've described happened to me then.
Thank you so much for posting this :) I've just discovered your blog and I'm so thankful I did, only today did I post something a little similar to this about myself, I'm trying to gain weight so I can be healthier and people give me those questions about my weight, asking if I have an eating disorder and don't realise how that feels to have that said about them.
This is a great post :) It was exactly the same way for me when i was growing up. I'm 18 now and I'm still very skinny!!! lol. I'm 5'5 and weigh 117. i would like to get up to 125 xD Thanks for your post <3 more people need to realize that skinny people go through the same shit too
ohhhh when I was younger I felt absolutely the same :) I remember when I was about 16 years old a boy of my class asked me if I was anorexic because of going often to the toilet ..
and I was like.. first thing u mean bulimic and second NO I AM NOT!! He knew me about 5 years and I always was very skinny.. I felt quite bad that afternoon!!! :S
Don't care what people say because every body is different and the BMI sucks :P
Anyway I don't even think that you are that skinny.. I am 1.72cm tall and my weights's 48kg (5ft6 — 7st8lb) =)
I totally agree with this I'm naturally skinny also but I had my lumps and bumps and I recently decided to start getting fit mostly because I felt unhealthy so I went on holidays and did exercise almost everyday. I didn't eat anything different than the rest of my family and we were away for almost three months and when I came back the comments I received weren't exactly what thought. My friends were accusing me of having an eating disorder and to prove them wrong I started eating a lot and I stopped doing exercise. I had felt so good with my body before I came back from holiday and then everyday I started feeling worse and worse and then I ended up putting on more weight then I started and when it came to anyone's comments they were non existent. It was as though when I was being healthy it was ok for people to question what I was eating my weight and appearance but when I put on a lot of weight it was ok even though I didn't do exercise and I ate junk food. Sometimes because everyone else see's a change in you but not themselves they question how it was possible and that you obviously are being unhealthy. People should just leave weight alone because if your happy then you should be proud! And love the way you look no matter what size you are as long as your comfortable in your skin. I'm so happy you brought up this topic thank you zoe =)
I love this post <3 Its really made me think. My boy is way way skinny and i'm always like to him "oh your so skinny" (even if its meant as a compliment and i say how i love his size) but this has made me realise maybe he doesnt like that.
I accept what your saying about the people constantly asking you if you’re ok/anorexic/whatever, but when it comes to the doctor, it’s only out of concern. BMI is used to work out whether you’re healthy or not, and just because you’re ok, doesn’t mean someone else isn’t. If they hadn’t asked the same questions and you happened to be anorexic they wouldn’t be a very good doctor. And they probably would say it to someone with a slightly high BMI, it’s there job to let people know if they are at risk.
Im a new follower and i love your blog and your vids. I defintley agree. Im 14 and very slim compared to people in my family and at school. I always get called anorexic and 'too skinny' and it really upsets me sometimes. So when i read this , i just thought ' finally someone who thinks the same as i do' . You look great and i hope i can be comfortable with myself as you are. :)
Ahhh I can relate to this post so well! After years and years of being 5'4" and barely 100 pounds, my body has naturally crept up to a healthy 110 lbs over a period of about 2 years. I went through most of my life trying to gain weight and seeing bones in the mirror, being teased, and having people constantly comment on my weight. The fact is, no matter what size you are its likely you will feel uncertain about different parts of your body. Its human nature. We have to embrace the things we love about ourselves and keep thinking positive.
I am so glad your wrote this post and that there are other people out there that can relate to the struggles of being the "skinny kid". I think it is something that needs to be addressed more in the media because the "skinny kids" struggles shouldn't be more over looked then those of the "fat kids" "gay kids" "socially awkward kids" or "ginger kids" We all have our own battles and no one battle is more significant then another.
thank you so much for this post zoe, i can honestly say i thought i was the only one going thru this! i am, like u, naturally skinny with a high metabolism. everywhere i go someone just has to stop me and say "my you are skinny girl" "ew you need to eat more" or "why are you so skinny!" to be honest i always thought being skinny was a good thing, isn't that what everyone wanted to be? i use to absolutely HATE my body and tried to do evrything i could think of to gain weight! and like u even after i started filling out people still gave me those rude comments. but now i've grown to love my body, and this is a post that really helped me. thanks (; and keep up the good work!
Thank you so much for this post. You have no idea how much problems i have at school because of this.. "ANOREXIC!!!" etc. I eat and eat and eat.. bad things for me. I have high metabolism and don't really put on much weight.. Thanks so much for posting this, I enjoy reading you blog loads. Its lovely. It inspires me.
Much love <3
Zoey, this post was exactly what I needed to read. I've been under weight for most of my teenage years which was also due to a very quick metabolism but also to do with various health issues (none eating disorder esque).
However, I am 5' 11'' and when you are only 8.9 stone that then for some reason gives people the right to interrogate you to why you are so stick thin? why do you resemble a lamp post? For some reason people think it is their job to tell you how thin you are, not thinking about what that is doing to you. Or actually how much you despise not being able to change it.
Recently I have been able to put on a good amount of weight due to a medication, I now have defined waist for the first time, a more than size able chest and bum that does too wobble with me. For the first time in my life a weigh 10 stone exactly and my body is raking in the benefits.
Thank you for this blog post Zoey, it's made me think a lot about how this all affected me while growing up as teenager.
You're truly beautiful.
Livs x x x
Hey Zoe, I know it's hard to explain things over and over when it comes to questions like "are you ill for being too skinny?" etc, because I was once like that. My metabolism was crazy, I was very skinny and even being asked those questions from people that I barely speak to. I hated it but at the same time I feel good about how I looked. I was skinny for many many years, and enjoying my life of not to bother about gym and exercise.
But I have reached to a point where I am sick of people telling me to put on weight, I googled to find some answer and found there is one illness of having high metabolism. And last year one of my eye is slightly bigger than the other and I did a check up in hospital, doc confirmed that I was having Hyper-Thyroidism. That explained why do I have high metabolism for so long. After taking medicines for a year, my weight & BMI seems be like normal person and the illness has gone. Now I don't have the privilage of eating crap/whatever but still looking fine, instead I have to watch what I eat. Tiny bit of fat in my food will make huge diff on my body.
Neither that I'm trying to scare you, nor saying you are having that "illness", but just to give you heads up if you have the same symptom in the near future do have a check up in a hospital, not clinic.
Sorry if you find this offended a little and completely rubbish.. :(
I understand this but I also feel that some people say it to compliment you. We live in a society that demands a woman to be a size zero or she is "overweight". Women are also expected to be on top form 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I feel this is grossly unfair but leads people to believe "You are SO skinny" a compliment. Which it is most definitely not!
I totally agree with you, I love my food, and I HATE it when older girls at my work who aren't even big mention that I am so tiny. Then they all start saying it, and it makes you feel small. Especially when they almost make you feel bad for being small. So when I read this it made me happy that you, and so many other people feel the same!
Great post! I'm still young (16) and I haven't gained much weight yet but I'm also 7st5lb but an inch taller. It's so annoying when girls either scream about how much they adore your fast metabolism or when they say things like "Are you anorexic" or "How do you stay thin?" and stuff like that. It's so annoying! I wish I could gain some weight! Ugh! That's the end of my rant haha.
Thanks for this post, Zoe! Petite girls! <3
We shall all walk the streets beautiful in whatever size or shape we are.
oh my god. finally someone understands. I really don't know how to respond when someone calls me skinny. and being extra skinny isn't anything anyone should really be jealous about. we are the same height by the way :)
This post made me look at weight in a very different way. I used to make what in my eyes were compliments about peoples weight to my skinnier friends, but your words made me realize not everyone likes being stick thin, and while I may envy my friends figure they might hate me mentioning it. Thank you! x
This post is really good Zoe! I had the same problems as you growing up, and I'm even smaller than you and weight less. The thing that I hated the most were when in school – every two years we went to be checked by the doctors together. I hated taking of my clothes in front of other people and having doctors I didn't know look at me. They always asked me about my weight and eating habits and never believed me – I got notes to show at home, that they should be worried because I might have an eating disorder. great. And last year I went to one of my doctors because I was feeling sick for over a month and she told me she thinks I'm bulimic. The most annoying are the people who either ask you questions you're not comfortable with, or talk behind your back and guess which eating disorder you have. That happens to me even know, when I'm 20 and have hips and boobs and everything. People really don't understand that sometimes being skinny is as hard as being fat-you just get questioned more, because for a reason I don't understand, it's fine to ask someone about their weight in force them you're advices, if they're skinny. I'm now happy with who I am and I stopped trying to put some weight on. I hope this post of yours will help some girls to do the same and show them they're beautiful no matter what :)
I really enjoyed this article! It's interesting, because I never thought of it hurting when someone says that another person is too skinny. Yet, it makes complete sense! If someone if offended by being called overweight then it makes sense that vice versa would be taken into account.
Though I (personally) believe that the people who are close to you should comment on your weight, because being too underweight or overweight can cause serious problems. This only takes effect WITH PEOPLE CLOSE TO YOU though!! Random acquaintances have no right to say anything, because they don't know anything about you. That being said, if I thought my best friend was losing weight at a suspicious rate than I would probably talk to her about, simply because I am worried and I do actually know her and her metabolism etc.
Thanks for the great article!
Hi :) I can't really empathize with you on the topic as I have never really been 'underweight' but I agree with you entirely, that people should not be judged by their weight and people shouldn't comment on anybody's weight. This was a great article, I really enjoyed reading it :) xxx
Great post, but I still want to have a skinny body because I'm fat :|
This post is great, I've been through very very hard times with eating, and reading this has helped me :'). don't take any notice of them people who say all them nasty things to you, you know your healthy so does you fam and friends (: xx
I am slightly overweight and have had trouble accepting myself for a while. I think it stems from being called a prostitute when I was around 15 years old because I developed really early.. and by developed I mean popping C cups overnight!
I am now a E cup and proud! be proud of who you are! Never let anyone get you down!
You bring up such a great point.
One of the best post I've seen. Really great!
xx
OMG , I feel the same … Everyday people tell me how much I weigh.. and why are people like that once when I was running in p.e we all got exhausted and this girl name Ashley was like I feel bad for you because your soo skinny infront of everyone and like I smile thinking nothing is gonna happen but in the inside I'm crying .. Idk why people put there fingers around my wrist to see how skinny I am .. and the people think I don't eat but I do… I hate when they say do you eat because I see your so skinny and I feel like crying most of the time but when I got my result its say Im underweighted by 4 percent and Healthy .. So people were like how MUCH you weigh I'm like 70 why ? There like oh.. and when I saw there weigh she's 11 and she's 156 pounds. I am 11 years old and I thought I was the only that was being call skinny .. and has these kinda of problem .Anyways we are good like that and the thing is when we get older we'll change.. But thanks for posting it .. (:
I TOTALLY TOTALLY TOTALLY agree!
im the exact same! im taller though so i appear skinner than i am as well. its hard to be hapy with your body when others arent! fantasic article.
your an inspiration Zoe!xxoxox
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im the total obisite – you are so lucky x
See, I have chubby fingers – however large or small my body is, my fingers stay fat. I would love to have dainty old lady hands like you!
Late in seeing this but it's very interesting. I couldn't agree more, I seem to be a flat chested short rake. I wish I could be taller (my aim is to reach 5ft) and a bit "bigger" if you understand. It's quite hard to find clothes, for example, my friend's sister (she's 11) uses a dog collar as a belt – she's that skinny!
Enough complaining. I guess I'm stuck with myself which I should be happy with. Everyone strives for perfection but what is perfection anyway?!
~Hannah xx
AWESOME post! I wish every girl i knew could read this. I'm not a skinny one, but it's hard for ppl to understand that we are not all anatomically the same. :p
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ive just started watching your videos and reading your blog, i LOVE this post. everybody needs to know slim people have a hard time too, its not glamourous. im 5 foot 7 and around 7and a half-8 stone, same as you i hated swimming, getting changed at school. i was bullied so much for being skinny and now ive also filled out, also boobs of a generous size hips AND a wobbly bottom! i was asked the other day if i eat enough and if im okay. how are you supposed to respond?
the past year i started eating healthily nd execercising alot, ive put abit of weight on my upper legs and gained some muscle in my arms but thats about it. ive given up trying to put on weight and just decided to eat healthily :)
p.s i love your blog background, so cute! xx
i love this and can totally relate but im still on my way to accepting it i guess..keep it up girl xo
i have never liked or commented on a blog before but this is soo true and thanx god someone is being real about it.. im still in the accepting process but ur blog has really helped..thanx zoe :) xo
You are a real inspiration to me,I am going through with the same situation and there is no one that has ever understood how I feel. I am 5ft3' and weigh 7.6lbs and I am so self concious of my weight. I can't even face myself I feel so skinny and yet there is nothing I can do about it, I eat loads of junk food and done everything to put on weight but it just hasn't worked.
Reading your blog has made me realise that I'm not alone and you have inspired me that I can't help the way I am because I and me and I need to start being more happy because nobody's perfect
from Melissa
Zoe, thank you so much for posting this. Just like you, I have always been underweight and I eat anything and everything I can get my hands on. I almost started to tear up when I read this because its so great to finally have someone understand how I feel! I'm also 5'4 and 100lbs. I also can't take some medication that I need because it makes my weight drop too low and there are no other options. I have people comment on my weight all the time, and when I was still in school I would always hear people talk about how they thought I had an eating disorder. I have even had people in my workplace making bets on my weight! That was very hurtful. And any time that I actually stand up for myself and let people know that the things they say really bother me, they always tell me the same thing: "Oh my gosh, shut up I would kill to say that I needed to gain weight" and it is just so comforting to read this and know that there are other girls just like me who deal with the same thing! You are a beautiful young lady Zoe and keep up the great things that you do!
This post is amazing, its everything iv always wanted to say but never known how to put it. i have THE skinniest legs ever no shape to them what so ever, iv tried everything to make them bigger + nothing changes. I can truly relate to you in more ways than this I have recently been suffering with bad anxiety to the point its making me physically sick + i dont want to leave my house. I just read your posts + its comforting to know that there are other people like me :) thank youu bebe xxxxxx
I'm so glad I stumbled across this post as I'd thought about doing a similar one myself… I too was uber skinny as a child & teen and got all the nicknames of the day. I was also a ginge, which didn't help lol. I now have a little girl aged 7 & people (close friends & family) have made similar comments about her – eg omg look how skinny you are, you're thin as a pin, etc. She just looks at them blankly, but it upsets ME! I don't want it to become an issue for her like it was for me, for her to feel unattractive & self conscious because of her weight. I used to wear several pairs of tights at the same time, leggings under jeans etc – all to try & pad myself out a bit.
Anyway, thank you. And for the record, I did start to become more curvy in my early to mid 20s – and I think you're lovely just as you are!
Nic xx
I am coming from completely the other direction to you, fat, but I totally agree with what you're saying. I know several people who are just naturally slim and can't do a godamn thing about it! I've also seen how they react when people comment saying that they are so skinny.. I can honestly see the hurt and anger in their faces. It is exactly the same as calling someone fat. Why should people be able to comment on someones size, regardless of what size they are?! Chances are nobody is in fact happy with their size.. People suffering from eating disorders are obviously not happy with their size, people who are naturally skinny are not happy with their size, people who are overweight are not happy with their size, women who are pregnant and have put on weight due to it are certainly not happy with their size but you don't see people going up to them shouting fatty do you? What's the difference really? Very well said :) x
I am exactly the same Zoe! I never work out, and i eat like crap and i'm super skinny. My friends are all like "omg i am so jealous of you" but i'm like.. k. no. you don't understand. it SUCKS being judged, and i'm crazy unhealthy and have no motivation to do anything about it because i'm already skinny so i completely understand where you're coming from! So glad someone said this :)
Zoe, I couldn't read a lot of the comments so sorry if this has been covered, as a girl who is a size 14-16 I would love to be soo much smaller. But I don't think I would ever say to someone OMG your so skinny because I would think about how they would feel and if people do say things like that to you. I can assume a lot of it is through envy- and this isn't the same as the whole 'when people bully its just jealousy type of thing' well maybe it is a little. I mean a lot of girls- beacuse of society are so envious of girls who are 'skinny' but because skinny is aparently what is beautiful is, people completely loose sight of reality and even girls who are not too skinny but have great figures still have deep set feelings of I need to be thinner because too skinny is beautiful (not all girls of course im just generalising) the lines do get so confused because if we are all suppose to look like models ( those are the sizes clothes are made for ) then people think they can say what ever they want to you because you should just be greatful- It is wrong but I think if you can view people as envious etc maybe it will help. This is a wonderful post especially for girls who struggle with their looks or size because it helps reinterate that we always think the grass is greener on the other side and girls who would love to be your weight should reflect and realise that comfort in yourself comes from inside first- because mostly we are all just as uncomfortable as each other unless we work on how we feel about ourselves(not the easiest of things i know)!! Maybe then the 'envious' comments will stop too!! Loved the post
I never realised this in such detail, thank you for opening my eyes! Such an inspiring article Zoe!
oh my goodness i am so glad i read this and you posted it, im 16 in april and am about 5"2 and weigh 6st, i am skinny, and i know i am, ive wanted to put on weight for about 5 years and it just doesnt happen. As a result, i hate summer because i hate getting my arms and legs out, and the only place i do is at home. I only wear jeans and always have my arms covered up because im scared of what people think and i myself dont like looking at how skinny i am. I eat as much as anyone else and its so annoying that i cant put on any weight. I have prom coming up in july and am dreading it because i will have to wear a dress and have my arms out. I was in hospital 2 weeks ago and the doctor asked me "are you one of those girls that wants to be incredibly think and so doesnt eat much?" it embarrased me and made me feel very upset. But i am so glad you posted this as it made me feel good about myself! thanks zoe! xxxx
I'm so glad you said this because I have had exactly the same problem all my life. I am and always have been relatively happy with my body, but when you're a skinny teenager and other girls are saying things behind your back or staring at you it can really make you feel insecure.
People shouldn't really care what other people look like. If it's not your body so why should you have a say on how it should look?
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hey zoe i just read all of this and i cannot believe that someone feels/felt the same way as i do now, i have had all those things said to me, the first day of school i was asked if i was anorexic. i an 14 and i cant put any weight on at all, maybe i have a low bmi, i have neverchacked butall my family is preety skiiny, i hate how people can tell me to eat more and yet you see a fat kid and it would be 'out of order' to tell them to eat less, people just dont think, love your posts and videos never stop! x
I totally agree with you!! it annoying how people will jump to conclusions and your right it is honestly no ones business to comment on weight it is a private matter that is no ones concern but your own (unless you do have a eating disorder than that should be delt with by a professional.) but i really thing that your "BMI" is a load of crap, it is the Average range of numbers other people your height and age "Should" be, but that's really not right as you said no ones body is the same, i am above average but only by a little and i have a felling i will always be because of my slow metabolism.
I know exactly how you feel, Iv always been a skinny girl with a super fast metabolism. I was bullied so severely about the way i looked that I had to get taken out of school. I was so depressed and hated the way i looked so much that I developed severe anxiety that meant I was scared to go out, talk to people or even answer the register at school. I remember one particularly mean girl who said 'selene if you got any skinnier you would die' and the whole class laughed and I had a panic attack right there in front of everyone.
I have now filled out and constantly get compliments on my figure and i am now beginning to beleive them :) I cant beleive so many girls have had the same experience and feel so much better for finding out :)
I couldnt agree more that people think its ok to say things about skinny peoples weight that they would never say about a larger persons. I also say magazines with massive front pages about how skinny/'fat' some celebrities are and how disgusting it is. its so wrong!
Thanks so much for writing this zoe in such an articulate and moving way i hope it would make someone think twice about judging someone. and any young girl reading this going through what I/we went through, you are beautiful and dont let anyone tell you different, your body will change as you get older I promise :)
regards, selene x
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Hi, iam 17 boy iam very skinny iam 5 foot 8 and weight 48-49 kg. I never had a girlfriend or kiss anyone befor I feel so crab.last 5 years i only went out just wearing a shirt ( even to the shop that Took 1 min from my house) Been only2-3 times. When ever I want to go out I wait till cold weather I so much being like this. Everyday I go on the Internet to find a answer to my problem but they all say eat more protein and lift weight which I tried and didnt work. For the new year my parents brought me gym membership but I only went onece I feel so small To all the other men and even women there bigger than me. I can't carry on like this I fear my hole life going to be like this, no one will love me and die as a virgin so if things didnt get any better when iam 19 I will commit sucide it's better than living rest of my life as a wanker …plz plz plz help me .thank you
I completely agree. I know how it feels. Often people(and this includes my friends)call me names like 'no boobs' which frankly amuses me in a way. I have boobs but they are small. One of my bestfriends always takes the mic out of me for it. It never really bothered me until my friends and i saw her bra and it was litterally about 2 inches thick! This really frustrated me!!
You might be thinking "well they clearly aren't very good friends then", they are and we get on fine, im not bullied or particullaly name-called at school but it does frustrate me what hypocrites some people are. I am naturally skinny and therefore don't have a large chest but i am only 14 and so they still have time to develop from an AA or small A. My mums a A or small B so i will probably be the same however the weomen on my dads side have quite lage cup sizes.
I really enjoyed reading you blog! <3
Zoey, i know exactly how you feel.. im only 13 and i weight 6 stone. all my friends are like giants and im like 4ft 9 something like that. I eat so much crap its unbelievable! i never put wieght on, people dp ask me on occassion "why so silm?" "id dye for your figure" "i wish i never put wieght on" i recently got asked if i was anorexic.. i just laughed it off. i had a conversation with my bestfriend about it and we both ended up crying:/.. the point is it is offencsive and i know people might be concered but if you was ill im pretty sure you would tell your close ones:) its a pain being slim cause everyone can wear adult clothes and i can only just fit into a 6 maybe an 8.. Coming from my experiance you should love your body the way you are and if people question you then ignore them. Everyone is beautiful in there own way but we all still have insercuritys xx
Zoe you are absolutely gorgeous i also have a high metabolism and I also use to be as skinny as a rake between 12-14 and I really tried to put on weight but when I turned 15-16 I broadened out so I know how you feel even though I am a boy :) btw did I mention your BEAUTiFUL
that was so inspiring andheart felt
I'm so glad you spoke out about this.. I'm naturally skinny too and people are constantly making remarks like 'look how tiny you are' and 'don't you ever eat anything?'
it's made me really self concious and I even took to wearing baggy clothes for a while to make myself look bigger.. if people point out a girl is overweight it's a big taboo, but when you're targeted for being too small people don't see it as a problem!
I know this is like a year later or whatever but I love your blog so I've been reading it for a few hours and noticed this. I just have to say THANK YOU for this! My sister and I have always struggled with problems like this.. all the way through high school we had to deal with bullying and people saying "that Rachael is anorexic you know" or "OMG you can't do P.E. if you fall over you'll snap!" One of my friends' mum even called me a skinny bitch and compared me to a rake when I was about 13! I've been saying for years that calling someone too skinny is just as offensive as calling someone fat. I'd never ever call anyone up on their weight, yet people do it to me! I am 5'10 and only just started to weigh 9 stone – it was 7 stone before I grew my chest and my curves. Like you I still hate my legs as they're so stick like and shapeless, I keep having to ask my friends if I look ill skinny when we go out. And now on top of all this there's the whole hate against skinny people and everyone's saying "real women have curves" the thing is real women are any shape! Yes, magazines do have a horrible effect on young people making them want to be skinny but now it's turned around and telling young girls they also need curves! Seeing that in magazines would have just been devastating to me at that age too.
It's just nice to see that people have the same views as me, so thank you so much :)
I am 5ft2 and weigh the same as u do :) totally understand how you feel x
I could have easily wrote this post with the exact same content, story of my life from the 'skeleton in a wig' class swimming remarks even down to the whole doctor/ contraceptive pill experience in which i felt i had to convince the lady i didn't have an eating condition which was very upsetting as im a comfortable size6/8 and when i told my friends they almost rolled their eyes asif i was bragging. I think because the media portray this as an 'ideal' weight people who aren't this weight see it as a blessing and have never had to experience the 40 shop jean shop to find a pair on jeans that doesn't leave a gaping hole at the back where my non-existent bottom should be!
I'm glad there's someone with a similar experience as sometimes i was just made to feel ungrateful xoxo
I am SO glad you wrote this! I am the same i think its incredibly offensive when people describe me as skinny, (oh great i have no womanly shape whatsoever…thanks!) in the same way its offensive to call somebody fat! im so glad other people agree with this its refreshing to hear! :) xxx
I AM EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOU WERE!!! apart from one slight difference im 5"9 :P im 15 in a few weeks and ive pretty much gone through puberty but im still as skinny as anything. i look at myself and even though i have boobs my bones stick out everywhere :/ my hips, ribs, knees and arms are boney and thin. i read your blog and you were EXACTlY the same as me, i eat so much! yet i never gain weight and i have a huge gap inbetween my thighs that i hate!!! i agree with you completely about it being an insult when people call you skinny. i know most people mean it in a good way like "oh your so lucky i wish i was that skinny!" but honestly why would they wish to look like a stick? i am even more insecure because of my height, i tower above all my friends which makes me stand out enough but they all have perfect curvy but slim figures. i also have boney veiny hands which most people must overlook but i cant help but notice them :P some people say id be perfect as a model but when models are known for being anorexic id rather not be one. anyway your blog has helped me a lot i know i wont allways be ths skinny im just young but it nice to know im not the only one :) thank you so much i love your blog and videos :) xx
Coming from a trainee dietician – you are totally healthy!! Ignore BMI (and stupid ignorant people) and just be the way your body naturally wants to be, there's no point fighting it xxx
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I agree so much!
I think it's ridiculous how society can be so ignorant when it comes to different sizes. It's like people don't see that everyone is different and got different bodies that work slightly differently. I get sad every time I see blogposts/pictures/whatever where people are like "I saw this unhealthy/sick/anorexic looking mannequin and I think it's awful blah blah blah". Because, first off, eating disorders are so much more about the mindset than the body itself. A person can be a "healthy" weight and still very sick.
An "ideal body" should be more a "healthy body and mind", than "a body within a BMI-range some random guy once said was good".
You're amazing Zoe!
Hi Zoe
I have read this post a number of times and i completely understand where you are coming from, i have always been a size 6/8 and have had the comments about eating disorders and anorexia and the o you need to put on weight are you eating properly comments. I find it hard to deal with sometimes and look in the mirror and think is it abnormal to be 5ft 3 and weight 7st 8lb. I really struggle to put on weight but have found that if I'm happy with my weight then that's the way its going to stay. I found that your post really enabled me to see that i am not the only one who receives these comments. Thank you for posting this as i have found it very helpful.
Justine x
Thats Sweet!:)
Love this post! Exactly how I feel word for word… and I love how this was posted on my birthday. ;)
Thanks Zoe! Just recently found your blog and I'm loving it so far!
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I agree with you and am like you and I don't think it help's that I dance all the time but thats what I want to do when I am older! People tell me I should stop dancing but I don't want to I enjoy it and people tell me to eat more but I eat all the time, stuffing my face! Some people call me lucky that I am so skinny but I would like to put a bit more weight on.
I know you wrote about this ages ago and I'm not sure if you will ever read this but I just wanted to say thank you for this. I am 28, 5 foot 7 inches and I only way 110 pounds (I'm american so I don't know the conversion!). I can't gain weight for the life of me. I realize that I am, by standard, "too skinny" but like your parents, mine are both skinny so I think it's just my genes. It shocks me the rude comments I get and people literally tell me to "eat a cheeseburger." I have no curves and yes I wish I did but I have become accepting of my size. I thought it would get better the older I get but so far I have had no such luck. I agree, no one should comment on anyones weight….Rude! Thanks again, now lets go eat some cookie dough
I absolutely love this post! I was so glad to find that I wasn't the only one who felt this way. Is there any way I can reblog this on my WordPress and Facebook?
Thank you and keep up the amazing job on your blog!
Cheers!
This is a brilliant post! I totally agree! I have a weirdly varying metabolism, like seriously. Many people change their whole lifestyle to change their metabolism, yet mine changes all the time, I'm constantly putting on weight then losing it all, it's ridiculous. People always comment saying how I've put on or lost weight as if it doesn't matter and it's not insulting, my weight is always around average and I've never really been actually overweight or underweight, but weight differences are so noticeable on me, I hate it! Wish people realised it's not okay and it's purely insulting!
Louise, xo
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i get the same thing all the time. my friends say they wish were as skinny as me but they dont realise that if they were in my shoes they wouldnt still think the same, who said being skinny is being healthy. people ask me are you under weight and they think that dont hurt my feeling, its like they think we are lucky to be skinny or somethink ??? when i get comments like " you dont eat anythink" and "your so boney" when probley eat just as much as them, its hard to be proud of who i am and what i look like because some people want to be like me but other just comment think that they are helping. i was so happy when i saw this zoe because i know there are other getting the same thing. this will sound really strange but you have helped me alot and im always watching your youtube videos and i follow you on facebook and twitter xxx
I have the same thing! and I HATE that people always say to me, "omg, how can you be so skinny, or why can you so much without getting fat!" But it helped alot now, that i'm the only one in the world how has high metabolism!
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I think it's stupid that people think you have to be skinny to have an eating disorder – or overweight because you eat too much.
I'm overweight – not proud of it, but it's who I am, I always have been, and for 3 years I was diagnosed with anorexia because of the way my thought process towards food was. I lost a lot of weight yeah – but my BMI still stayed in the "overweight" range.
Just because someone is larger – or smaller – doesn't mean they have an eating disorder or not!
ugggh ! you are , and im dead serious when i say this , you are soooo lucky that your metabolism is like that . i wish mine was like that . i mean , im not obese or anything but i do have a tummy . and i hate to exercise and i love junk food . . . it sucks . it really does . be great-full !
Oh Zoe,
I have the same problem, my metabolism is really fast and I cannot put my weight up.. It's sooo hard live like that, I hate my self, everybody thinks I'm an anorectic but I'm not, I eat everything from vegetable, fruit to McDonalds, KFC… I've got the same height but I'm thinner.. In summer of 14 years I never wear skirts, shorts, nothin when someone can see my legs.. Soo this is
Please excuse my english but I'm just learn English, so I'm soo sorry
PS: At the end I want to tell you: I really love your videos and how are you and your blog, you are the best youtuber, so soo much thank you
<3 Anne
this is a really great post! Ive had people say the same thing to me, sometimes I eat more than my mum but with a fast metabolism like you, it is really hard to put on weight. Thankyou for this post Zoe!!:D xx
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Zoe thanks for sharing with us how you felt, I learned a lot while reading this, you are ablosutly georgeous !! I'm glad you feel better with yourself now I made a post about something related! I love your blog girl!! :)
I loved reading this post, since I saw myself in every word you wrote. I'm sixteen years old and have always been very skinny, too skinny people would say. Once my school teacher gave me a whole chocolate bar, and said I was too thin. I had never felt so uncomfortable. Also a year ago my ex(!)-boyfriend told me he was always so scared he would break my bones, since they are so visible… You are an amazing person for putting this subject out there, I always thought I was the only one who would eat lots and never gain weight. But I'm happy to know that I'm not alone, and now I know I'm in good company! X
thankyou for this post zoe- its so inspiring.. and when i feel down about my body i read this(and i feel down every second of my life about my body tbh) i am basically you all over again although i dont have metabolism..its just that im very self concious about my chest area.. im 14 and going to be 15 later this year&it gets me down everyday, i HATE going swimming… i never go with friends, only on holiday! ive been to the beach a couple times this week(lovely weather)nearly everyones in their bikini, and then theres just me and some other people- now, they werent in the bikini because they were self concious about their chest size, but just simply because they didnt have it on them! and then theres me.. i could easily bring a swimming costume but i cant bring myself to it! i see other girls who arent big on top, and wish i had the confidence to wear a bikini going swimming with my friends at the beach or swimming centre! Then my friends ask me to go in the water, and i was like ooh i dont want to get this top wet&one said 'just go in your bra'.. and i couldnt bring myself to do it! words cant describe how self concious i feel about it! so i'd like to thank you for this blog post, because i try to convince myself that there are so many other girls like me- this really helped me, because it makes me feel better knowing that you were like this aswell.. so i can re assure myself things can get better! i never wore tops like bandeau tops, bralets, crop tops which had a lower cut.. ive got the confidence to now&i hope that one day i can go swimming with my friends.. and the only thing that is stopping me is my cup size.. so thankyou once again, it made me feel better about myself!xx
THANKS FOR THIS ZOE! i am so self conscious about my bra size, it brings me down everyday- i HATE wearing bikinis, swimming costumes, bralets, bandeaus… i mean..i do wear bralets&bandeaus but i feel so self conscious about it! i get asked so much to go swimming with friends and i dont want to, i cant bring the courage to do it! the only time you will see my rocking a bikini is on holiday. thats it. and the only thing that is stopping me is my cup size, and no one understands how self conscious and horrible it feels! so thankyou for this.. it re assures me that its going to be fine&that theres so many others like me, thanks zoe- thankyou so much xx
this is a great post! thanks for writing this Zoe:D
I linked this on my blog to get people to read it:P
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amazing post Zoe! I think most of us dont have perfect bodies and we'd like to change something about it. But we all ate beautiful the way we are. I'm 7.55stones nd im happy with it.. but I'd be happier if I lost a little mor weight. It's all about doing what makes you happy and have confidance.
You've basically summed up everything in my head.
I also hate how the media puts down being thin now like it's bad, There's so much in magazines about celebrities looking stick thin, and how it's not healthy, and how curvy is best. But they forget that there are people out there naturally thin.
For about two years I felt super nervous eating when I went for meals because I felt pressured by people I would go out with, People who had previously made comments like "Have a big portion, you need it." or the same "You must be anorexic." comments, It actually messed up my eating habits, I'd feel so pressured into eating that it actually made me feel sick and stopped me eating.
I just wish there was more recognition that there's nothing wrong with being skinny, just like there's nothing wrong with being curvaceous
I can totally totally relate to this story and to what you are feeling. I am exactly the same, exactly, and I shared the very same thoughts. I also hated my body when I was younger and got comments that still hunt me down. I know that I am perfectly fine and that I am "lucky" but it really would be nice to have somewhat bigger boobs and be fine while taking off my clothes at the beach.
Why are you so skinny is a question I get a lot and never seem to have the right awser, I always get embarresed. But lately I started to react with sarcarsm, like: "I am skinny, whoooow, never noticed, thanks for telling me!!" and they will never have a harsh answer back. Maybe a little tip :) But hey zoë you are really beautyful, inside out! Love you blogs and video's!
I feel really similar to you.. which I rarely do but as we have to same shape of body I also love photography as you do and even have the same camera. Keep up the good blogpost en video's!! Love your hauls.
I can totally totally relate to this story and to what you are feeling. I am exactly the same, exactly, and I shared the very same thoughts. I also hated my body when I was younger and got comments that still hunt me down. I know that I am perfectly fine and that I am "lucky" but it really would be nice to have somewhat bigger boobs and be fine while taking off my clothes at the beach.
Why are you so skinny is a question I get a lot and never seem to have the right awser, I always get embarresed. But lately I started to react with sarcarsm, like: "I am skinny, whoooow, never noticed, thanks for telling me!!" and they will never have a harsh answer back. Maybe a little tip :) But hey zoë you are really beautyful, inside out! Love you blogs and video's!
I feel really similar to you.. which I rarely do but as we have to same shape of body I also love photography as you do and even have the same camera. Keep up the good blogpost en video's!! Love your hauls.
Gossssssh!! I just typed a whole story about how I can really relate to your story and it all disappeared when I was trying to post it and wasn't logged in into Google. Arggggg.
But what I was telling you is that I am exactly the same as u are, it is almost weird how similar we are. I hate my weight and body and wisssh my food would go to my boobs or but, but unfortunately it doesnt.. I hated to go into middle school and being called skinny, those words still haunt me. But I still hate it to take off my clothes at the pool and have people be suprised how skinny I am.
It is creepy how similar we are (is this sounding weird, haha, i think it does) but we are the same body typ, I also love beauty and we share the same intrest in photography and weirdly enough we have the same camera! But however I love your video's and blog posts, so keep it up Zoë, you are beautiful!
Zoe, I am 15 and feel EXACTLY the same way as you. One time a girl at school said to me "Amelia you are SO skinny" and pinched my waist, I got so frustrated at her for treating me like that I went "I'M NOT!". So this clearly got her fuming and I got given a whole rant about how hard losing weight is and I should appreciate my genes and I shouldn't be so 'heartless' towards people who feel bad about the bodies & wanting to lose weight. I just went into the toilets and cried for a whole hour, missing my maths class. P.S you are beautiful the way you are.
All the best,
Amelia
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I totally understand you, When I was like 13 I was so sad I was so thin, the same thing, felt flat, and not feminine at all. Then, 20 years old, my body change, it was a fast change, and dindn't know how to feel about it, but know, I look like a woman, have curves, and when someone talks about my body they say "proportioned". It's so beautiful to hear. I'm happy to hear you're happy, but I think you should talk to a doctor because it's just unfair that you feel you cannot be healthy.
i agree on your points, i have felt this my whole life. always being told i was "too" skinny. i'm 5ft3 and weigh 7 and a half stone. anytime i feel sick or get ill people automatically suspect that i am not eating "properly" (as in not eating at all), like you i eat whatever i want and ALL THE TIME. i'm a food junkie! i was feeling a little faint one day at work (i had a fever the night before so i just wasn't feeling the best) and everyone made a fuss and got a nurse in, the nurse looked me up and down and told me to tell her exactly what i had eaten the day before and that morning (she thought i was anorexic), when i told her my whole meal diary i knew she didn't believe me! she kept hmming and ahhing and slightly rolling her eyes as in "sure!". call me wrong but i thought nurses weren't supposed to be douchebags? i had never felt so low than sat in front of this nurse who was looking down on me, from the moment she walked in she had already diagnosed me.
i agree on your points, i have felt this my whole life. always being told i was "too" skinny. i'm 5ft3 and weigh 7 and a half stone. anytime i feel sick or get ill people automatically suspect that i am not eating "properly" (as in not eating at all), like you i eat whatever i want and ALL THE TIME. i'm a food junkie! i was feeling a little faint one day at work (i had a fever the night before so i just wasn't feeling the best) and everyone made a fuss and got a nurse in, the nurse looked me up and down and told me to tell her exactly what i had eaten the day before and that morning (she thought i was anorexic), when i told her my whole meal diary i knew she didn't believe me! she kept hmming and ahhing and slightly rolling her eyes as in "sure!". call me wrong but i thought nurses weren't supposed to be douchebags? i had never felt so low than sat in front of this nurse who was looking down on me, from the moment she walked in she had already diagnosed me.
I love you so much for writing this. So true on all counts! The focus should be on all around health and happiness, not a number on a scale.
Oh my days, When i was reading this i seriously felt like you were writing the thoughts ive had pretty much my entire life. I have a stupidly fast motabalism (sorry if i spelt that wrong) and i love sports too, which doesnt help. However, i do eat like a pig.
People are always like: "omg your so skinny!" "are you anorexic?" "Your legs look like their going to snap!" and it kills me inside. Ill admit that when people are making fun of other peoples weight i dont object, but i tend not to join in. its horrible and i hate it.
Just as i hate my weight. i dont like putting my hand up in class because im scared i look too skinny, my hands are boney and veiny too. As are my feet.
And im glad to say that i am begining to come to terms with the fact that i am who i am and if people judge me then.. i guess its their problem. As long as im okay whith how i am, then i dont need to judge others.. or myself
+ thanks so much for posting this, and, in your vidios, i wouldnt have even called you skinny! Everyones perfect in their own ways :)
I know Im a bit late on this train of comments seems how theyre all dated for 2011, but that is how I exactly feel. I am a 14 and a half year old girl whose 6st(ish) and 4ft1. All of my friends are much taller and more developed than me, and I feel very young and like I have a problem. Theyve all also started their periods and i feel as if I'm never going to start. Everyone is like 'you won't want to start its horrible' but that doesnt make me feel any better I think it would make me feel a bit more feminin once i start and make me feel special(as weird as that may sound).
People are always say 'fat' this fat that, and it just isnt fair nobody apart from us thin, 'metabolism' people(?) understand what its like.
When I was in year 6 one boy asked me if I had anorexia, that made me feel really sad and upset but because I was young I didnt understand it as much. It's very insulting and i completely dont understand why people don't think its insulting and call people names. I don't agree with anythink like that and would never judge anyone on their size.
I am actually very similar to you Zoe. I eat rubbish all the time and never put on fat, i am a size 3 shoe. I can sometimes fit into a size 6 but mostly only childrens sizes(but you are a women, so youve grown so you can fit into a size 6). Your so inspiring for posting this, however long ago it may have been, and your one of my favourite bloggers and youtubers:) I've watched all of your videos:D
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This is a great post! I'm 20 and weigh 95 lbs.. and I LOOOVE food. Society is just jealous of the thin people I suppose. I work in a clothing store and when an obese person tells me I'm "Too skinny", I always want to throw back, "Well, You're too fat". How do they not see how rude they are? It's taking me years to love my bony body, but I'm learning to accept it.
Great post girl! You're beautiful :)
this has been so nice to read because i went through exactly the same thing except im 5ft7" and now 16 and still dont really have a shape to me apart from my hips :/ people used to say why am i so thin? am i anorexic but my best friend is exactly the same as me apart from she now has a figure.
you are beautiful and lovely and i admire you for writing about this :)
Chloe xxx
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Just came across this article I realise Im about a year and a half behind, lol, but it really sruck a cord with me so i wanted to leave a comment. Iv been very under weight my whole life, even when I try to put on weight I can only manage a few pounds here or there. The other day my Mum was speaking to a lady who had met me and her only comment was oh the skinny one, whilst saying this she held up her finger and shook it about as if to demostrate my 'skinny' body. I was so horrified and hurt when my mother told me this, why people think its acceptable to comment on a persons weight in such a rude and insensitive manner is beyond me. I totally agree with everything you have said in this article Zoe. Thank you much for sharing!!! Lets all learn to love ourselves, as long as we are healthy and happy weight is not importnant!
Omg I can completely relate. I am about 5'2, have always struggled trying to gain weight and the most I've ever weighed is 111. I then began to lose weight, I know it was related somewhat to stress but even when I wasn't stressed I would have an upset stomach. I weigh 92 right now and can't figure out why I go… well… number 4? everyday, multiple times a day. Hoping to get results soon, but lets just say I always get weird looks from people, sometimes looks of disgust and I absolutely hate it. People judge before they know and it sucks. People always say they wish they were skinnier and that Im so lucky but they really don't understand us. I really appreciate you writing about this! <3
I completely agree with this post! It inspired me enough to write something similar, though about why I hate the word "fat". I wouldn't know enough about being thin to write one on it. I wish the media would stop telling us what's write and whats wrong. We're all different!
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i guess they think this is more acceptable because of all the media- everyone tries hard as they can to be skinny
some may think of that as a copliment and others might just be jealous.
readers asking you what your weight and size is might wanna have the same size/weight!
I, however, agree that it is rude to judge someone by their weight.
as you already said, it's not alway anorexia..
good post, I like the way you point things out and that you post about that stuff, too and not just the "superficial" kinda things
I'm 4 ft 11 ins and 7 st 7 lbs. Aged 45 I've always been a skinny. I've recently lost a few inches off my thighs and tummy 3 lbs to be exact. I've just started to horse ride again after 4 years. Ooooooooooooh and the nasty comments I've received you won't believe. Aren't you thin, haven't you lost a lot of weight, are you eating properly. Horse riding is great for toning up and that's all that has happened. I've been accused of being bulimic because I eat so much. I was having some dental work done recently and my tummy was rumbling and my dentist made a joke about me being hungry and I started to cry and it all came out that some one accused me of being bulimic and I daren't go to the loo after eating anything even if I'm desperate and if I really have to then I take some one with me. That's how people have made me feel. Dentists know when you are making your self sick because the acid makes your teeth rot. When he told that I cried even more because I was relieved The best laugh is that most of the comments have come from women who are middle aged and overweight and have let themselves go. It's very upsetting and I do try not to let it get to me but some times people need to keep their mouth shut. I'm a polite person and would turn round to some one and make rude comments about them being over weight. I feel for all the natural skinnys out there as we given a harder time than you fatties. Oh and heaven help us if we do a bit of excercise. Skinnys unite that's what I say and to all you nasty fatties who make rude comments. Just shut up and mind your own business we are skinny not ill!
I just found that post on your blog lol its a bit older i guess but i love your videos and you always look so strong and i love you anyways but to read stuff like that is like.. we are one person ^^ all i reaad is like i know what you mean! happend to me!
and i really hate it that all that happend to me and is still happening.. but.. its kinda nice to read that because a pretty and smart girl like you have the same problems.. oh men i hate that :<
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I COMPLETELY agree with you on this. I am 5'8 and weigh 8st 3, I have weighed 8st 3 for years now. I am always trying to put on weight, even trying using muscle gain powder as i was told if i didn't exercise, it would just help me put weight on. Nothing.
I have always been incredibly self conscious about my height and weight, made even worse by people going 'God you're so skinny…you're quite tall as well aren't you?', which I have to admit makes you feel as ugly as you can get.
Having just moved to London and meeting new people all the time, I am getting this constantly, the most recent comment being 'Yeah you're really thin aren't you…….not disgustingly thin though.' Now is that a compliment? An insult? An insult disguised as a compliment? Whatever it was, it made me feel extremely embarrassed and self concious.
And don't even get me started on the whole 'real women are curvy' thing!!!!
Sara x
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I've went through my whole life wanting to be somebody else. Wishing to be skinnier and I always liked the same things as everybody else. Then I met one of my best friends and she helped me not to care what anybody else thinks! Now I embrace how different I am and I'm proud of my little muffin top belly! I got some abuse for liking different things and wearing some pretty crazy clothes at first but I still felt better than I had before.
You're beautiful Zoe! Don't let anybody tell you otherwise <3
Thanks for writing this. I have a sloooooooow metabolism so I have to eat very little and people are always freakin' out over my portions of food, not to mention, I'm thin. this was encouraging!
Omgosh! You're exactly like me, it's like you're reading my mind. I'm 15 and all throughout my teen years I've always been called too thin. People thought I had a eating disorder, but the truth is I eat more than anyone I know (3 plates of rice mostly everyday!) and sometimes I scarf down a whole feast of food when I feel really insecure.
Whenever people comment on how skinny I am I get really down. Even one of my teacher called me privately and asked me "are you okay? what do you usually eat?" I just stood there, confused and hurt, I was only 11. She was quite fat, shouldn't she know how it feels like when people comment on your weight? Sometimes it really got to me.
But then I realized lots of people would kill just to be like me. Literally, they would puke purposely and starve themselves. So I have learnt just to love and embrace myself. :) <3
I just found this post right now! I did the exact topic in one of my videos! You're however lucky to have filled out a bit! I'm still the same old haha but I can relate to several things you said. I think we just end up growing thicker skin and see those criticism being ridiculous. Honestly which well mannered human being says those things? Just ridiculous and as everyone has already pointed out! You are gorgey! It's awesome you blogged about this! :) Much love xx
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Thank you so much so doing this post. I've always been naturally slim and had to brush off comments on my weight from an early age. People don't realise that comments can be really hurtful sometimes and irritating. I really dislike it when strangers can say things about your weight and think that's that okay. Even at work!
I think it's a slight tabboo for 'skinny' people (I hate that word) to say that it's wrong and you shouldn't speak about another person's weight regardless of their size. Anyway I like my body the way it is, and hopefully you do as well because you look lovely.
First of all, I like this post and you're a very good blogger :) I'm average weight, but I kinda wish I was thinner. If it makes you feel better, at least you won't grow out of your clothes! I really hate when my favorite pants get too tight and I can't wear them anymore. My friend is like you, and she does calf raises since she doesn't do other types of exercises. Maybe you could try that too.
Can you tell me please, how is your weight? BTW: I love your videos, you are the best youtuber ever! :)
Omg i totally agree, im super skinny too, but im tall… :/
But Zoe you're gorgeous, don't listen to those idiots_
Zoe, i am very happy with this post!
I'm 5ft4 and 7 stone. Calculating my BMI you'd think i'm underweight but looking at my slim parents and history of fast metabolisms you's recognise that it's just the way i am! You shouldn't feel like you have to explain you're weight to people- like, why do you have to go through your family history for people to except that your thin naturally? People have accepted that a larger frame is a build some are born with, and it'a the same for skinny too! The vast majority of thin people are naturally thin, we don't have eating disorders- and if someone unfortunately did, is it something to be so cruel about? In media today people throw anger on slimmer people, models etc. But you are who you are. We should be more acceptant of that fact that everyones different and that as long as you're healthy, there is no perfect figure!(: x
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Wonderful post!
I can relate.
When I was younger I was sort of " flat as a board" you might say.
After I filled out later in life my own grandfather told me " Oh you look much better than when I last saw you.."
I was appalled, but decided not to take to heart.I am content with the way I am now and that is all that matters.
Thank You for sharing your thoughts(:
Zoe, you're so cute and I do agree that harsh comments either way are unnecessary. You also look absolutely lovely how you are! (:
what a great article that I couldnt agree more with! I had the exact same thing all though school and it could be really tough at times, really makes you feel like crap. Thanks for writing about this! I think you look gorgeous how you are! xx
I was never really content with my body. All my life, I've juggled my weight from fat to thin. A couple of years ago, I wasn't fat but I was slightly chubby and I'd think, 'Why do I put on weight as soon as I open my mouth?' But then I started Martial Arts and I am skinnier now, I guess. Recently, I've started feeling much more happier with my body shape. Blog posts, etc. like this one has made me realise that everybody's different and we'll never be 100% satisfied, but we will be happier with our bodies if we just ACCEPT it the way it is. Lovely article :)
Firstly, I would like to say that hight wise, I am the same, I am 16 and I am only 5" and I have stopped growing. This is because I have an under active thyroid and have had this since birth. This also makes me have a slow metabalism (?)… although I am not fat, I am not skinny an unlike you all my weight goes onto my thighs. I do eat unhealthily but not to an extent. And lastly, I know how you feel about feeling awkward. People just don't know how awkward it is. This makes me so socially awkward because people always comment saying "why are you so small?" "seriously, your really that height?". Yes I am, and I am taller than my mother, so what? My mum is small, and so is her mum. Get over it.
And also, I love your youtube videos! You also made me start writing a blog so if you have chance please check it out and my youtube, thankyou:) x
being someone on the other side of the spectrum i thought i would share from my point of view. i agree with you in the fact that people shouldn't comment on others appearances. however, from my personal experience – when I have commented on how skinny someone is it is out of jealousy while people who comment on how overweight I am do it out of disgust.
(I apologize for commenting on this very late, and not that what I have to say matters much in the grand scheme of everyone's opinions–but!) I agree that people shouldn't just assume that if your BMI is below average that you have an eating disorder or that all skinny people have one because that isn't true. It's a misconception that has bothered me for some time, just how people with a higher BMI aren't thought to have one of the similar mentality. Skinniness can be an indicator sometimes(definitely not all the time) of something going on deeper, conflicting.
While some people can be bothersome to ones day when they ask you, "Are you anorexic?" Or "Why are you so skinny?" I feel that actual sincere concern shouldn't be misunderstood or taken poorly. That if someone is really worried about someone else that it should be OK to ask and make sure. (I really think what you wrote was more about the misconception of skinniness, though.) I think sometimes society puts too little a value on expressing ones concern, that issues can go without someone to speak up and help people with so people shouldn't just ignore everything.
Doctors should keep an eye on someone's weight as it is their job to monitor health and eating disorders really can put a damper on that. I myself have had doctors ask me before, but because of an actual drop in weight resulting in a lower BMI. I have different doctors that don't have my record, so I could see them looking to my family to see if it was my fast metabolism or my own doing–I'm not sure about your doctor's files, though. If they had the record and saw that you have been that weight for quite awhile I don't see why it's an issue if everything else checks out alright. Why does a red flag pop up so quickly in their minds? I see it as a computer with an alert when it notices a small error in the code. The BMI scale being the code of conduct to follow, and the under average bit being the thing that sets off the warning. The doctor, then, should know that they need to heed the warning and make sure that it doesn't fit the criteria of an eating disorder.
Other people can be just curious, or just feed into misconceptions and make things horrible for the self-esteem especially when they ask, "Do you shove feathers down your throat?" out of the blue. Education on what they're asking should be indulged in on their part before asking such a personal question.. and in such a rude manner really is unappreciated. Is this the sort of people you have encountered? I understand your point and agree with you more if people were just making rude comments.
Overall, I appreciated those who were genuinely concerned and helped me.
As a recovering anorexic I've put on a good extra ten pounds because I'm terrified of going back to the comments about how skinny I was and how gross I looked being that skinny. If I'm being completely honest with myself I am more comfortable a few pounds heavier than being very thin because I feel healthier but that's my business and not people on the street's. Why we judge people so much on what their scale says is beyond me.
I've never thought about it like that before, but I'm definitely quoting you in future! I'm 5ft2 and my weight fluctuates between 6.5 and 7 stone, and I always get asked why I'm so skinny. It's infuriating because I try to put weight on but it just won't work, any weight I manage to gain goes straight to my thighs and bum! A couple of weeks ago I was at my 34 year old cousin's house with my mum, and she asked my mum (in front of me) if I was anorexic. I almost cried. Mum just laughed it off and was like 'are you kidding?! she's always eating!' and it's true, I am! Yet no-one seems to believe me because i'm so tiny. Is it wrong that I'm happy with my figure?! I look in the mirror and I'm pleased with what I see. I have a flat stomach, but my ribs don't stick out, and yet everyone seems to think they do – so annoying! So many people ask why I'm so skinny nowadays that I just say 'fast metabolism' and walk away, before I have a big rant like this one, ahaha! Oh well, I guess the world will always be obsessed with weight, even if you're happy with the way you are ;)
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I know this is an OLD post, but I've only just discovered your blog just yesterday. I, too, struggle with this and it's quite annoying. Yes, not all Americans are obese, some of us are NATURALLY slim and HEALTHY. So, ignore it and don't feel bad. If you're healthy, then embrace it and work it! :) Cheers from across the pond!
I am so grateful that you have posted this blog, so people can see that being skinny isn't as great as it seems and that we get put down beacuse of our weight and stature.Reading this blog mad me feel like i'm not alone and that other people are going through the same thing. I have the same opinion about people being able to say certain things about smaller females but not larger and I also think it is very unfair and I just want to say thank you for blogging about this, it has made me feel somewhat better about myself.
Lots of Love xo
You think you are insulting you say you're too thin, hopefully mu ami say would be happy. My weight does not affect me much but ami. Hopefully I weight 20 pounds less people would be happy maybe because I'm not recordan I were fat or something.
But like you say well no one is perfect and we have a thousand and one faults and probably will always be there but would be happy if you could fix just this weight. Avegades angry at my house that I do not eat food left but do not want to gain more weight, because very hard for me to lose it.
I totally agree with you.
My friend also has a super metabolism and she got bullied for being so skinny and she wanted to put on weight but she can't. She get's bullied for something she can't change :(
You are beautiful Zoe, in any way :)
Elissa xx
just stumbled upon this, though i've been watching your videos and occasionally looking at your blog for a while.
i agree with you so much, i am neither skinny nor fat but hate many things about my body, everyone seriously needs to stop judging people because they have no idea how the other person feels or what they are going through!!
you're amazing Zoe, keep it up <3
I think you look perfectly fine, don't listen to those other people, they are just making observations and making comments, rise above it x
Couldn't relate to this more, I think you've spoken for every girl with a high metabolism!
i wanted to say that i really understand you and i agree with you. Sometimes people need to be careful with what they say.
I used to be very skinny and since i am way too tall my classmates used to call me "Mutant bag of bones", random people at school asked me weird questions and my own grandma asked me if i was anorexic. They just couldn´t understand that i had a fast metabolism but as you said this metabolism didn´t stay that way forever.
As a result of those comments i started eating more and more to see if i could gain some weight. I ate this way until i was 13 and unfortunately or luckily that was when my metabolism stopped being fast and became a normal one. Yeah, i gained some weight and i was like "Yes! nobody is going to bother me because of my weight". What a huge mistake. They now bother me because they think i should have stayed skinny. And its been two years since my metabolism became a normal one.
Something that i learned…You can´t please everyone and you have to accept yourself the way you are even though you will always find something that you don´t like.
I am really happy i found this post, i reaaally love your blog zoe. :)
zoe you have really inspired me to start writing a blog and not care so much about my weight and try to think about my beauty and my inner beauty thanks for the inspiration!:)
i agree with you. it is upsetting when people ask if i eat, if i'm healthy, if i work out, if i need help. i definitely do eat, i am healthy, no i do not work out, and i am perfectly fine thank you. i'm sure people think it's a compliment to call someone skinny being as some people have to work really hard for it. but saying the word 'anorexic' just makes me so sad. anorexic is a mental disorder, by the way, and it it by no means a good thing.
zoe, you are so beautiful and one of my favorite people on the internet. i look up to the way you tackled this sensitive topic. :)
Thank you for posting your view on this. I honestly know of one other girl besides myself who has spoken out to our friends about this. It's always been hard for myself to live through even the 'bestest' of friends and even my own parents making jokes out of my small size and claiming me to be anorexic and etc. They see it as light hearted jokes, but they don't understand how much it makes me feel insecure. So thank you Zoe : )
This is exactly what I've been going through for ages.
I totally agree and anyway people shouldn't juge you just because your skinny and any way who cares what other people think its what you think is what matters. You are so pretty and so what your skinny it's not my place to say anything about it and your not the only one and people should think about someones feelings before saying anything about their weight and I have people saying to me that they wish they were as skinny as me but it's not that simple its hard because if someone says that then you/I suddenly feel pressured into staying like that. And I personally think you are perfect just as you are and people look they way they look for a reason and that is you genes and you can't change them. I would also like to say that you really inspire me and I wish I could be like you!! Xx
I just stumbled over this post from one of your others. Firstly, thank you so much for posting this. I feel just like you and sometimes feel like the only one who thinks this. I'm 18 and, just like you, am naturally slim. I despise being called 'skinny'. It makes me feel unhealthy and ugly. I eat so much, but never put on weight. I used to hate doing PE, especially swimming like you. I felt like my body was so child-like in a swimming costume, and hated the way I looked. Although I'm now 18, I still haven't really filled out. One thing that does still irritate me is when people say 'I wish I was like you' or 'I wish I had you're legs'. I just feel like saying, 'No you don't, it's not all it's cracked up to be'. However I've now accepted the way I look, maybe I don't really like how I look I'm comfortable in my skin.
When people say things, they think it's a compliment and they probably do mean it to be taken that way, but I don't. Just like you said, if someone said 'you're too fat' to someone who is perceived to be overweight, then they'd be considered rude. But saying 'you're too skinny' to someone slim is okay? I don't understand it.
Again thank you for posting this, it's nice to know someone else feels the same way! <3
I'm so glad I read this post.
I still really young but exactly the same as you were/are, and continually have the same problems. People ask me why I'm so thin and it just makes me embarrassed, I don't know how to reply and there are a good few people who think im anorexic because I'm so underweight. I huge problem I have is clothes, so far the only pair of jeans I have ever found to fit me decently are from Hollister and I simply cant afford to spend £50 every time I need a new pair of jeans. It's such a lovely feeling to know that someone else is the same as me, and I have never found this before.
Thank you Zoe <3
I love this post. You took the words/paragraphs out of my mouth! As for me I've been an athlete ever since I was 7 years old, swimming and tennis… so unlike you, I didn't develop nicely on the chest area. I'm not sure if it's denial, but it doesn't bother me that I don't have much of them though, what bothers me is people asking and touching me.
I'm Asian, so I thought, isn't it normal for asian women to be MY size? I'm 5'5 and weighed 90 lbs. I was much thinner when I was 12-15. Now that I'm in my 20's I'm seriously working on putting some weight, currently up 105 lbs in two-year's time. Thing that bothers me is that if I'm naturally this way and my grandparents are naturally thin too why do I have to conform to people's standards? I'm just now realizing how people view other people since all my life high school and college my mind is pre-occupied with sports/novels/anime so I didnt really have the time nor the interest to think about what other people are think or do.
Now that I do, man it's crazier fiction.
You know what, it's nice that you wrote this post and I saw this. Made me feel much more comfortable.
You're my inspiration Zoe, I have always suffered with my BMI/Weight, my BMI has always been 17.5 and I'm 5'9, I've always been boney, I don't like seeing my bones prong in every direction but my metabolism just wont allow me to put on weight like an average women can.
Also your video on Anxiety/Panic attacks have really helped me, I'm now starting my life properly, I'm doing things I love, I want to start fresh.
Thank you for making these videos Zoe
I just want to hug you. You are seriously the best writer ever. I can relate to this so so so much. I really feel like punching everyone that have ever said to me that I am to skinny.
Some people think that they want to be as skinny as we are and be able to eat whatever you want when they don't know how it feels to always get comments saying that one is too skinny. Shit. I totally agree with you and I am just so happy you wrote this. Thank you Zoe.
Well done for being brave and saying this.
(And speaking as someone who's the other end of the spectrum – the nurse absolutely 100% points out when your BMI is too high. I was about half a stone over what is acceptable for my BMI for my height which is 5'9" – half a stone is not noticeable but I was told to lose weight. So that wasn't just you – BMI is the only index health professionals have and by and large it's a useful and accurate tool.)
I don't think it's acceptable to call someone skinny or fat. Fat is more hurtful as it is considered to be hideously overweight and there aren't many things to do with fat people, whereas models, for instance, are skinny and are looked up to, considered very cool and trendy. My point is, no one would see a fat model and say "ooh wish i was her" or "wow, i'd love to look like her in that dress".
I also have a "super-metabolism", and I absolutely hate it! I have a tiny stomach so I can only eat a small amount at a time, but about half an hour after eating, my body wants/needs more, because it metabolizes my food so quickly. Which means that I eat TONS of sugary junk food, because if I don't get sugar into my system quickly enough, I pass out.
I get alot of people asking about my weight, and when I tell them about my metabolism they almost always say "Oh how lucky". I wish people would see that having a fast metabolism isn't an entirely good thing.
You are a beautiful person, Zoe :)
Belle x
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I absolutely love that you wrote in this post in such a personal yet informational and not whiny way. I think I can see you even more clearly now knowing some of your struggles. I'm not really sure of people would or would not say the same type of things if you were overweight but I definitely agree that neither are really okay.
Stay lovely, Alex.
I just stumbled across your blog and was looking through past articles and found this one.
I am exactly the same, have felt exactly the same feelings and had the same questions and looks as described in this blog. Its great to know that someone else is exactly the same! I love the fact that your blog is huge so hopefully a wide audience will understand that skinny people face the same prejudice as fat people do and that not everyone who is skinny has an eating disorder.
Thanks Zoe, I am now following you and look forward to future blog posts :) Don't forget that all people no matter what their size are beautiful :)
i love this post. I can relate so much to this. Last year I was 5ft and 4 stone. I was stupidly underweight and had no eating disorder at all. The doctors told me that my metabolism was so high it was dangerous and had to physically over eat to put on weight and make sure it stayed there. I had no figure let alone any boobs! I was so unhappy because people teased me for it. I'm glad to know there are heaps of other people who went through the same! xx
That's true. I'm thirteen, I'm 5ft11" and I'm really quite slim. I understand you Zoe, I heard something like "you need to eat", "there's something wrong with you" really often. I remember when my best friend said to me "you're anorexic", I swear, that time I was shocked. I don't understand how people can be so rude for someone. I hundred procents with you Zoe, because I know how you felt and how you feel till now. Basically, I don't care what those people are saying, I feel good with what I am :) Good luck Zoe x
I use to think I was really fat because my 'friend' was calling me fat. So I went on a mega diet, didn't eat anything and threw up (please don't do this I was incredibly stupid!) to try and make myself skinnier. But, to my horror, I was getting skinnier but my throat, head and stomach always hurt, I started fainting and I was getting paler (which is quite worrying because I am usually very pink!) One day I was sitting there and I was thinking 'why am I doing this?'. Just because someone comments on your weight doesn't mean you have to strange for them! So I started eating more again and now I am 13 and I am 6st5lb and 5ft5"(is this normal?) and I am really happy with my weight. Most of my fat goes to my bum and my hips and I have practically no boobs so I am very pear-shaped. And after seeing this blog I felt really proud. You look so beautiful Zoe and you shouldn't listen to anyone who says different. I am happy with my legs, my arms, my stomach and the rest of me to! So even with all the magazines saying that you need to be skinny, skinny, skinny I am perfectly happy! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Zoe, I am just as tall as you are and I weigh exactly how much you do, it's incredible. It's this kind of post that I would write myself, each word. I am constantly being called 'too skinny' and it really bugs me. I eat a great deal of food, I just can't put on weigh though I really want to. Sometimes I am scared to wear leggins because if I do, I have this feeling that everyone's thinking 'wow, she must be anorexic'. Sigh.
I completely understand what you mean! I'm also small, and everything you just said is something I have thought of at one time or another in my life. People don't seem to realize how offensive it is to keep pestering someone about the way they look – they think it's okay just because being thin is more socially 'acceptable'. People use their insecurities to judge others. I used to have no problem with what I ate. I used to eat plenty of junk food. When I started eating healthier, people started saying nasty things about that, too.
You have the cutest figure, and people need to lay off. Thanks for sharing this!
Omg! This is exactly how I feel! I am totally with you on this, agree 100%! This explains and says everything I feel and think. No one thinks its rude but it really is! I love this post, can not disagree on anything you said!
Zoe, This post actually brought me to tears. I recently found your YouTube channel and It lead me to your blog. My whole life I have been called short and skinny…and i hate it. I honestly eat alot in attempt to gain weight and wear high heels any chance i can to appear taller. I am 15 years old and in the tenth grade. I haven't gotten my period yet and I am 5ft2inch, and I weigh 87lbs. I am embarrassed to tell people how little I way. People are always saying things like 'you are so tiny and skinny, you are just SO SMALL' and I get really uncomfortable. I Over the years i have developed my way of coping. Sarcasm. I am constantly being sarcastic, sometimes in mean ways. I don't have a best friend. I have friends, but not a best friend who i can trust with my life. I have never had a boyfriend or a boy ask me out. I always think people are taking about me and then just pretending to like me. I know this all sounds super childish but its how i feel. I really respect you Zoe, i think you are such a strong and brave woman. I hope that someday ican be half as confident as you are to post a blog post like this, and to make videos like you do. I don't know if you will even see this, but if you do, i want you too know, I think you are amazing <3
XOXOXOXO
<3 <3 <3
~~~Brie
Hey Zoé , i totally agree with you . Nobody should judge on how you are on the outside .
But love you how ever you are .
Love you Zoé <3
beautifully written and so true :)
I can completely relate to you and loved reading your post, I'm a skinny Minnie too and I've gone through similar experiences and had people make judgement's on me based on how much I weigh. Even after having a baby I'm skinny and it drives me mad when people make throwaway comments about me being a lucky bitch because I'm skinny after having a kid! Everyone has their insecurities and I think it's completely out of order for someone who doesn't know you well to even consider making a negative remark about your weight. It's difficult at first but you have to try and block out these kind of ignorant people….you know your healthy and well and that's all that matters.
Good on you, Zoe! My dad has the same problems as you, and because he is a guy he gets tons of comments about how short and tiny he is for a man and how he should put on weight – for a long time he di what you did and ate loads of crap and felt bad, but now he has learnt to kinda accwpt it more :)
This post really helped me understand what my dad is goong through!
You put this blog post on a long while ago but i recently discovered you on you tube and found you also had a blog and was just browsing through and wow i can't believe how much i relate to this post, thank you for writting this because i now know that i'm not the only one. The other day my manger at work said…oh carley your looking very thin…some people might find that a compliment i suppose it kind of was…it was just the way she said it and then another man that i hardly knew said that i should eat some more chips. OH SHUT UP i felt like saying to him….i wouldn't call you fat, because that would be mean. Pft anyway thank you for writting this i now feel more confident with my body and think hey it's ok i like being my weight, i don't have an eating disorder.
I love your you tube and blog, it really inspires me and makes me think of starting my own…i just can't think of a "good" name haha.
Thank you for being you..
Carley
beautiful post zoe, it's so true, if someone was going to comment on your weight, they better make sure it's positive. I was once on the verge of an eating disorder, worse bit was i am 13. I personally think i was an alright weight i mean i had the slight concern like anyone would, but it did not bother me much. I soon got comment's by a friend saying that i had chubby arm's and leg's, although it was meant as a joke i did take it to heart (another problem of mine) therefore leading me to not eat alot at all. Soon my parent's found out and so did my friend's it was hard but im doing well on the physical recovery front, but not so much on the mental side of thing's. I reckon people need to start thinking about what they say can affect people alot.
I am so glad I found this post. I might as well have written it myself, this is all so very familiar to me.
Today, I am 22 years old and have got a little bit more curves than a few years ago although I am still what people would call "stick thin". I don't often get comments on my weight anymore but when I do, I get so angry. Deep inside, I am still so hurt and sad over all the negative comments I got when I was younger, especially from the age of twelve to circa eighteen.
"You look so out of proportion"
"Your legs and arms are so long"
"It looks like you're falling apart"
"You're wrist is so thin, it looks like your hand could fall off"
"I can see your bones through your skin"
"You have no bum"
"You look ill"
"You look like you have an eating disorder"
"Are you anorexic?"
"You look so unnatural, who looks like this?"
"You're nothing but skin and bones"
"Go eat a hamburger"
"You look disgusting"
"Aren't going to finish your meal? You certainly need it!"
"You're going to get a salad? You should rather eat something with fat in it"
and I could go on and on.
Once in 10th grade, my new teacher stopped my when I was walking into the classroom and said that I really ought to try and eat more, and that I looked frail and ill.
My mum's sister accused me of being anorexic about 4 years ago. That one really hurt. She's was my favourite aunt and I trusted her and she accused me of having a mental disorder.
When I was eighteen, I though this era of remarks and hurtful comments had stopped. I came to school one day in a short skirt and tights and my best friend at the time was walking behind me and said what she couldn't believe how skinny my thighs were, that is looked so sick and unnatural and I looked ill. I was so hurt that a few weeks later I went to a nutrition specialist and asked her if she could help me gain weight.
I wish I knew how to respond to people when they comment on how skinny I am. Every once in a while, I still get comments like that, especially from people who I've just met. I've learned to not let these comments get to me too much (some people even think they're giving me a compliment when they mention how skinny I am) but I really want to come up with something to say to people that makes them realize that that was a hurtful and inappropriate comment.
Hi Zoe, I don't know if you are responding (or even reading) the replies here, but most people have hit it spot on; you're gorgeous! Not only because of your beautiful figure (which no matter what, I'm pretty sure I would kill for) but for your personality! You are so fun and happy that I would have never thought you have had any issues with self confidence at all!
As the person who was told by my doctor as a child: "you're not allowed to drink apple juice anymore because you weigh too much" I know how it feels to be self confident.
Ever since then, I've never been "overweight" but I've also never been the skinniest! I have always felt SUPER disproportionate as I am very tall and I have a tiny head!
Growing up has been really awkward for me because I've always, always, ALWAYS been taller than EVERY boy in my class. I've been called "teacher" "tree" and even "giant" both to my face and behind my back.
I know that it's completely horrible to compare yourself to others as we are all different, but having the skinniest tallest (well, second tallest)girl in school as my best friend doesn't exactly boost my self love. Some days I am super happy with myself, and others I think that I'm the ugliest, fattest person on earth (over exaggeration of course). I also wonder if any boy will ever love me, but really, I'd rather have a boyfriend who loves me for me and not just my body!
It all comes down to the fact that the "haters" and people who insult you, are probably jealous of you! I mean look how popular you are, on top of being naturally gorgeous, funny and talented! I understand that skinny girls can go through some peril, but just remember, you're awesome!
Love from, Sam xoxo
PS sorry for the novel ;)
I'm so happy there are people like you, because of people like you world changes to better. Thank you for the post, and I'm sure thet it will help a lot of girls out there… especialy teenage ones.
<3<3<3
I know I'm a tad late to the party… But this is like, my biggest pet peeve! The worst is when people put things on their Facebook or Twitter like "Men want a real woman with curves, only a dog wants a bone". Don't know why anyone would try make themselves feel better by making others feel worse. You can't help your size so as long as you're healthy and happy it's nobody's business!
Love the blog and vlog x
I have only just stumbbled across this article… And i agree with everything you said. People commenting on either how skinny or how fat a person is is not fair. I actually suffered anorexia, bulimia and a compulisive exercise disorder for 4 years. Before becomig ill at 14 i hit puberty and found it hard adjusting to the growth of boobs, bottom and natural curves. I was never over weight but took to heart a single comment one stupid boy made in a P.E class. It caused me to completely abuse my body. My lowest weight was 5 stone 3 pound. And you would of thought people saying 'Ur so skinny' is what youy dream of. It wasnt it hurt me just as much as that other comment, but the difference was i couldnt do anything about it. Im now fine, i battled it and i won and i am now a healthy 8 stone 5 pound at 5'4. But still do this day i worry what people think. Both ways, if i go through a stressful and lose weight i panic im to skinny and if i indulge over xmas or my TOM, i panic im getting chunky. Its just in our female DNA… SOmetime i wish we had it easy like guys… They dnt need to worry about boob size, or weight or any of this horrible stuff that seems to destroy many lives. Your beautiful just the way you are, never let anyone tell you different, and deffinately make sure you dont let it almost destroy you. Your life is more presious then a dress size. xx
I agree, Zoe. Well said!
I'm a girl with the age of 14. I am 161cm and weighs 63kg. I can honestly say I'm not happy. I want to go down weight. To 55kg, to be precisely. And I am working on it. By hard workout three times a week, and eating when I have to, not every half an hour. It is sometimes hard. I don't feel fat, I know I'm not, but I don't feel comfortable in my body.
In my class we are eleven girls. I'm the "fat" one. One day one of the girls said to me,
"I'm SO fat!"
She grabbed the little(almost nothing) fat she had on her stomach.
I know she don't really think she's fat. She has a six-pack and showes it of whenever she feels for it. But at the same time as she said that, I kind of felt a bit hurt. I am trying so hard to be OK with how I look, but I can't. So if that girl really isn't happy with how she looks, will I ever?
Anyway Zoe, I hope you one day will be happy with your legs and hands, because you deserve it! You have opened eyes to so many people and made them not feel alone on this wierd planet of ours. Even if you probably never going to read this, but I hope you will, I just want you to know that I love you so much and I have so much respect for you! xx
Sunniva Johnsen 14, Norway
this is exactly what happened to me, and was going to make a blog post on it myself! everyone tells me to stop complaining and theyd love to have my body, but they have no idea that id love THEIR body! i would rather be curvy, its so much prettier, being stick thin its boring i feel like a sheep. I hate people asking me if im anorexic, no, i would never dream of it, im just thin. you wouldnt ask someone whos fat why there so overweight, theres no difference when your skinny! thank you for showing the world EXACTLY how i feel!
Thank you so much for posting this some people just don't understand how hard it can be.
Hi Zoe! First of all, I know that this post was made years ago, but who cares? Posts doesn't have any expiration date anyway.
Your post gave me a lot of hope for myself. Right there when you said, "why don't I have boobs like my friends do?" "why do all my bones poke out at every angle?" "where are my hips?" "why am I so skinny?", it felt like it was me speaking. I am 15 and I know my body would still develop, but being with my friends with wonderful contours makes me feel bad about myself. I have fast metabolic processes too, and my small bone frame doesn't help.
Reading this post opened a light I switched off myself, and I'm really glad that I'm not in the dark anymore. I have high hopes about how my body would develop, and oh! We have the same height =)
Continue helping people like me. Stay pretty and happy. Love youu! =)
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I totally agree. I've had the same problem all my life. When I was 15 in a maths class, I was standing at the front and one girl shouted infront of everyone "You obviously are anorexic, why are you lying?" Why would I lie about something like that? I didn't and never have had a problem, just I used to dance everyday and have a very fast motabolisum. I've finally managed to get my weight right up to my height. Being 5'8" I was always noticeably taller and called a bean pole and lanky all the time. I totally agree about what you're saying, it's just as offensive to talk about skinny persons weight than it is about a fatter persons weight. They should keep their nosey noses out of other peoples business :) xxxx
Hey Zoe,
I think some people have asked about your height and weight so that they can figure out your BMI and try to make theirs the same, to have a body like yours. I know you say that you'd like to put on weight, but I am the exact same height as you, but 10kgs heavier. I used to weigh 53kgs, and gained almost 10 in 2 years, I didn't even notice, until I weighed myself. I have now lost a few kgs, but can't get below 57kgs. I have been going to the gym every day for over a month and eating much healthier and not getting anywhere.
I would love to have your figure, even if you don't want to read that..you're amazingly beautiful and have a lovely figure!
I think many of these girls look up to you and aspire to be like you.
Love what you look like, we all do!
x
This is soo true for me!
Thank you so much for this post <33333333333333333333
I'm actually really happy I read this. I'm 16 and have the same problem. I used to get called 'paper' and would try to wear big baggy jumpers to hide my body from everyone else's. I always felt so insecure, especially through the summer, as it was too hot to hide my body away.
I love you videos and this is my first visit to your blog! So I am 30 and was exactly like you are regarding metabolism AND eating crap and not exercising. It *might* not happen to you that your metabolism slows down and you put on weight, but it is definitely happening to me. Don't do it to yourself! Start trying to eat a little healthier. If you start really slowly now, you will be used to it by the time you "have to" do it. I'm sure you could at least do some strength training and like 20 minutes of cardio a few times a week without dwindling away to nothing — you will just have to eat some more proteins. Regardless of size, you are too beautiful and sweet to not take care of your heart. <3
Zoe,
Thank you SO very much for being brave and posting this. I'm literally the exact same size as you except minus an inch in height and I've been trying so hard to explain this to people I know (and those awkward, random strangers). This post has helped me a lot and hopefully it will help them understand as well.
Lots of love, Megan :)
Very glad someone's sticking up for skinny people for a change!!
Wow. I've never thought about this topic like that, it's a whole new perspective, and now I feel that I was a terrible person for thinking the way I used to: assuming things and judging people. This is probably the best post ever. I never thought that it could be hard for someone who can't gain weight. People always go on and on about people who can't lose weight, but they never think of people like you. I think that's why everyone knows about larger people but people aren't as aware about you kind of situation. This has really opened my eyes. You are such an inspirational person and I think it's amazing you have written this. You are a huge inspiration to me. :)
This is so true! When I was younger a Dr told me people were dying in hospital that looked as skinny as me, I spent most of my teens trying to put on weight so I'd look like my friends. Thank you so much for writing about this, I hope it's an eye-opener for many people.
I can totally see where you're coming from. I'm 16 years old, 5'3 and 46 kg and, as you said, have a "super metabolism". I hardly put on weight despite my utter crap diet and little to no exercise. I don't think I'm going to grow much bigger, length wise and width wise than I am right now. I was called anorexic in the past, and people tell me that I'm "skinny", a comment I can't really find a response to. I've only put on about one kilogram since I weighed myself last year (I don't tend to weight myself often and do not own a weight), and I'm finding my inability to put on weight a little scary. I try to eat as well as I can, so I can stay healthy. I recently worked out my BMI, which told me that I was underweight for my age group. However, both my parents are doctors and are okay with how I am. Sure they may urge me to eat a little more at dinner and a little less lollies, but they're not overly concerned. So I'm trying to stay positive about it and just go with what I've got. I'm really thankful you made this post, as it has made me realise that there are others like me, I thought I just had a really weird metabolism!
I was just flicking through here and came across this. I say to all my friends that you are like my idol, and to know that you also felt the same way i feel now makes you all the more inspiring. I hate the way i look and i get the exact same comments and i just kinda stand awkwardly and smile. IM glad that you wrote about this, as it makes me feel less alone :) xxx
AAAAHHHH THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS POST!!!!! I feel exactly the same way!! It's seen as bullying if you tell someone to lose some weight and we all gotta make sure we don't hurt the fat girls feelings but um hey what about skinny girls?! I've had to put up with soo so so many anorexic rumours for my teenage life and it's not on!! X
I know exactly what you went through and are going trhough. I'm 14 right now and I only weigh 78-85 pounds, I'm 5ft2". All of my friends envy me for being so skinny and all I can say is just don't. I hate it when people call me out for being so skinny and I hate going to the pool and such. I don't feel pretty and I don't feel…feminine. I look at myself in the mirror, disgusted. And no matter how hard I try I can;t change it. I read your post and it really touched me to know that there are other people out there like me and that I'm not alone. Thank you so much just for posting this, I will always hold you near my heart.
Much Love,
~Claudia.
wow. just wow. you don't understand how many times ive wanted to say this to everyone at school. my friends think calling me 'a bag of bones' is the best compliment ever, when really, it hurts.. alot. ive told my best friend about how i go home and cry and she apologized but i know she thought i was being stupid. and the fact that is if i went upto her and said 'you're a lump of fat' everyone would think of me as a bitch. thankyou SO much for posting this, maybe one day i'll show her it and she might understand:) thankyou again for putting it out there. xx
I completely agree with you. I hate the fact that people think it's acceptable to negatively comment on someone's appearance. They have no right to do that and I feel that your article/blog post has shown a lot of people that calling someone "too skinny" is bad and upsetting too. :)
Thank god that someone like you has posted an article like this. I have never really come across anything like this on the internet and I felt strangely "touched" when I read it because I feel exactly the same way. I am a 14 year old girl and everyone I know is constantly telling me I need to eat more or that I'm so skinny and I am really SO SICK OF IT. I didn't really know if things would get any better for me because I really am pretty skinny, being 5'6" and just under 100 lbs but after reading this I have some hope. I love your YouTube videos, you really are such a sweet person, and keep doing what you're doing!
Thanks Zoe :)
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Finally, someone who feels the same way! Ever since I hit puberty I lost all my baby fat and was really skinny. Growing up was hard because people would constantly ask me why I was so skinny and it got to the point where one of my friend's sister used to call me "bones" as a nickname. It's not like I can help it! I ate just as much as the average kid (sometimes even wayy more) and my body would not show it. Fast forward nine years later, I am now 110lbs which is still pretty thin but I've come along way from the 70lb eleven year old that I used to be. Even though people are still telling me to eat more, I'm proud that I actually put on some weight and I just learned to accept the fact that I just take longer to fill out than others.
I had the same problem as you. I was REALLY skinny when I was at school, and I'm still are, just not as much as I used to be. People always ask me things like: Are you anorexic? Why don't eat? The truth is that I do eat quite a lot, everything I want, and yet I don't gain any weight. I hated my body, but as I grew up I learnt to accept the fact that this is who I am and that's not going to change. Though I still get very angry and uncomfortable when people ask me about my weight, it's a delicate subject for and I try to avoid talking about it, even with my friends. People just don't seem to understand how hard it is for both people below the average size and people above it to receive comments on their weight. It's just unacceptable to judge someone by their size.
Anyway, thanks for writing this post :)
Hi Zoe!
I just stumbled upon this specific blogpost of yours, even though I've read your blog and followed you on YouTube for quite some time. I have to say, first of all, that I completely agree with you in what you're saying here. And people will judge you, regardless of weight, size, height, and so on. But let me tell you; eating crappy foods isn't necessarily the option if putting in weight is the goal. Simply eating healthy and lifting weights will help massively. Healthy does not mean salads and water, it means bad-ass clean meals with a lot of proteins and carbs (which you can get through veggies instead of pizzas and burgers and all that stuff), and, of course your healthy fats. I'm not an educated nutritionist, doctor or personal trainer, but I've read about so many people accomplishing weight gain through doing this. No lie! And, I've been experimenting with it myself, so I know it works if I do it consistently. Again, no lie! I'm not recommending you do it, I'm just saying that there are ways. All is not lost. I happen to think you look amazing just the way you are, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. But there are, in fact ways to change the appreance of one's body, be it to lose or gain weight :)
hi zoe, i've had friends who could never gain weight but then after they started exercising, they started gaining muscle and weight! so maybe you needn't be frightened of exercise if you really feel you'd like to start, it would make you feel so much happier and more energetic! (unless you've tried and you really did lose even more weight haha then please disregard my advice)
Yes!! Oh my goodness I am so glad that someone feels the same way that I do!! I have quite often been told that I am too skinny. I am a twin and I am of a small build with a fast metabolism its not my fault I'm not bigger!!
xxxx
We have BMI's to gauge your mortality rate and chance of having problems (cardiac disease, diabetes etc.) I agree that they are a bit off. People with a BMI under 18.5 or even 20 usually have a lot of health issues, just like a person with a BMI over 30. I wouldn't take too much offense with what they nurse said. She was just new to you and your info and wanted to assess your particular situation! That being said, if you are healthy, then that should be more important than numbers!
Oh wow! I think I just realised that I am one of those who say thins like "You are too skinny" "Don´t you eat enough?"…
But I think it´s becourse I am super jealous. I always have to remind myself not to eat too many sweets and I never feel good when oters see me eating.. I do know that this really isn´t nice, but I just can´t help myself. :(
In a way it is abolutelly obvious, that slim people have problems with their bodies as well, but it´s just now (after reading this post) that I kind of realised it.
Thanks for this amazing post! (and sorry if there are millions of mistakes in this text^^)
Love from Germany,
Maike
This post has moved me so much *-* really great.
I know this situation too. Always in school people say to me "you are to skinny"
A year ago I felt bad, but now I put it away.
PS: I love your videos and post. ^^
Thank you so much for writing this article! I feel exactly the same!
I hardly ever go a week without someone grabbing my wrists and saying "Oh my goodness your wrists are sooo skinnyy!" Granted it's rare that someone tells me to put on weight, because everyone i know well knows i don't like being so skinny, and that it's just my high metabolism. I also put weight on where i don't want it ha, on my tummy, so when i say i have a fat tummy i get weird looks and get almost told off for it, but i do have a big tummy, half due to having scoliosis which messed up my whole torso, so I'm also conscious of that.
I'm torn between wanting to eat loads of chocolate and McDonald's and my Mum telling me she was the same when she was my age and one day I'll regret eating rubbish. But it's hard knowing that my size is something that people instantly see and probably think is gross, so it makes it really hard to walk around town and try no to think people are looking at my skinny legs.
Whenever people tell me about my size, i get really worked up, and feel like sating the things you mentioned, about saying the same stuff to people of bigger size, i also just want to slap them and say, "Do you think i don't know my wrists are that size, do you think I'm blind? I've had the same body for a good amount of years, of course i know my wrists are thin!" Thanks again for addressing this subject, i think more people should talk about it because being skinny does not automatically mean eating disorder.
Love your youtube channel and this blog :D xxxx
Hi Zoe!
I know this is a little bit late but I think I can help you. I´ve always been called skinny too, I weight the same as you and I´m 5ft 2". The trick (in my opinion) to gain a little bit more weight is not to consume junk food because it just builds fat and your metabolism will process it very fast. Instead, consume healthy food high in protein and exercise. This will build muscle, not fat. I wasn´t a very sports person, but I´ve been doing the pilates exercises from the Tone It Up girls (you can find them in youtube) and it has helped me a lot. Maybe the first days you´ll feel tired, but later you will start to feel really good and, like I said, building muscle. Also, it will give a very nice shape to your legs, so it´s a win-win :D
I really hope you can read this, and I hope I can help you in some way.
Love,
Dany
I absolutely LOVED this!!! Im 5'3, 14 years old, and 80 lbs (American measurements…convert if you want). Everyone, and i mean EVERYONE, comments on my weight. "Your hella skinny" "Oh she's anorexic" and all this other bull. So many girls come up to me and say "I wish I was as skinny as you!". Its all so annoying! I too have a "Extra Super Fast" metabolism. I eat so much junk food as well, and not an ounce of healthy food :D Im glad im not alone! Thank you so much for writing about this!! Hopefully some idiots will realize that its not okay to call someone "Anorexic" to their face…
Much Love,
Jenna :)
Hi there, you probably won't read this but I'd like to let you know that you really do help people. I watch your videos, and I just discovered your blog. It's so hard for people who grew up in the world we live in to understand the other side of the whole "weight" issue. I'm the skinny girl, and I feel your pain! People just don't realise that their words can hurt. Thanks, keep making videos and blogging, and remember that you're beautiful inside and out!
I'm really glad that you wrote about this. It really is an actual issue. I am 5 foot and 7 inches tall and about 100 lbs. That being said my "BMI" is so low that it is not on the charts. I get that from my dad who grew so tall so fast (6 foot 8 inches) that he literally looked emaciated in some of his childhood photos. People always say "You're so skinny! You're nearly anorexic!" etc. I'm not sure if they think they are complimenting me but either way it really bothers me. I have severe anxiety and a really touchy subject for me is my weight. I am terrified of being anorexic. I know that is ridiculous because I am 110 billion% sure I'm not since I eat whatever I want whenever I want. The issue is I've always had a really small appetite because of the meds I have to take. That coupled with a really fast metabolism makes me quite thin. I hate the word skinny. I also hate my legs, they look like twigs/bird legs. Even my mom calls me that and she sometimes calls me "birdie". I hate my legs. Sadly I have really large hips for how thin and tall I am that I look slightly disproportionate. I also have ridiculously prominent cheekbones so in bad lighting I look like a skeleton. I hate that. I always envy girls that have more meat on their bones.
As someone who's suffered from anorexia for many years (not just self-image issues and a crash diet… i'm talking full on 68 lb, afraid to eat an apple, anorexia), and have had a few near-death experiences because of it, I'm really familiar with people pointing out that I "need" to gain weight.
Like you said, it's rude, very impolite… ESPECIALLY if they don't know you or your life story. If it were your mum or uncle or friend saying it out of concern, it's one thing. But a stranger or acquaintance has no business saying any of it. Unfortunately, people aren't taught that. They are taught underweight or anorexic = choice, and overweight = tragic and out of their control… when, really, it's quite the opposite.
For you, you wanted to get curves and boobs, but couldn't. For me, I wanted to just be 'normal', not be deathly afraid of food, not take my depression out on my body, but I couldn't help it. For both of us, we had issues that were out of our control, but everyone looks past that and just assumes we chose to be that way, and therefore thinks its okay to call us too skinny or whatever. It's sick and wrong.
However, when the nurse was asking all those questions, I think that was okay. It's her job to make sure you're healthy and to ask those questions. If you were overweight, she probably would've done the same thing and ask if the rest of your family were overweight. I'm sure she was not trying to be rude. People with anorexia are very defensive, secretive, and good at hiding their behaviors, so she probably was just concerned, and trying to make sure you were okay… she was only doing her job, so don't feel personally targeted.
But for anyone else to say that, especially to TELL you what to do (i.e. "you should increase your fat intake," "you need a cheeseburger," "just gain a few pounds")… they aren't your doctor, they don't know what your diet is like, they need to eff off!
I think you are gorgeous, your body is amazing! Healthy comes in many sizes (obviously not the extremes), and I find you the perfect size for you. People who say otherwise are either jealous, uneducated, or plain rude. Keep your head held high, be proud, you have a body people would kill for!
Love Kimmy x
Thank you Zoe, I had no idea that slimmer people go through the same thing bigger people do. i see bigger and slimmer girls being bullied every day at school, but I thought the slimmer girls were that insecure than bigger girls are. I will now try to be friends with the girls in my school that are insecure and help them with there problems.
Thank you Zoe,
Amazing Article :)
woow zoe, This is so weird, I feel the exact same way as you do!
but the differance between our two is that I am only sixteen, I hope I'll become the person just like you because I am also 'to' thin and your body is perfect now!
xoxo
'Everybody is different, and nobody is perfect. It would be a very boring place if this wasn't the case.' well said zoe!
Hi. This is my first comment on your blog as I only found it today!! I like your honesty in this post :-) I was a skinny minnie growing up too! I did a similar post to this a few months ago. It took me quite a while to write it but I am glad I did.
http://ashlylondon.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/the-celebrity-secret-to-being-healthy.html
xxx
This is such an inspirational post.
Great post. I'm glad you stepped out of your comfort zone to address this issue, Zoe. Why should other people's opinions matter if you yourself are content with the way you look?
However, you might be over-thinking the doctor part. Possibly, as a doctor, she's worried that you might be having bad eating habits, or whatever. Obviously not every skinny person is going to have an ED, but maybe she was just concerned. Don't overthink it too much.
Thank you Zoe for tweeting this link on twitter. I hate BMI because I'm short and weigh more than I should for my height I have always been in the overweight category. I've put on a lot of weight at university unfortunately so I am well into that category but when I lose weight I will still be there. (this makes no sense- but I hope you get the gist). This definitely need a mention in a new post in your blog! Thank you for posting this. xxx
hey zoe, i loved this post! it's not nice to comment on someones weight because you never know whats going on or what these people think about it. the only thing is that exercising can actually really help skinny people shape their body and make it look fit and filled out nicely instead of skinny :) but still, you are beautiful and you are a huge inspiration!
Zoe, the doctor WOULD have asked if you if your parents were overweight as they did with me. I think that bit of the blog post was pretty naive.
I'm so happy you posted this. I'm 20 and unfortunately wasn't blessed with larger breasts or a bigger butt (I think I look like a boy). People in my own family won't shut up about my size. My Grandma is constantly telling me I'm too skinny and it really hurts my feelings. I wish I had a curvier body and I can't help it that I don't. I always see posts on pinterest and other sites saying things like "Bigger girls are sexier" and stuff like that. I know they post those things to feel better about themselves, but it really stings because I don't feel sexy at all. I wish we could all get along and support each other no matter what size the other is. :/
Really great post here Zoe. Personally I think you are beautiful, if it's any consolation ;) It's really refreshing to hear the topic looked at from the other angle. It needs to be done more often I feel! Personally I've got small bones and have always had a small upper body and small head! I worked hard through exercise to shed the bottom heaviness that for me, was getting me down. I love exercise now and it really hit home about you perhaps not being able to stay active as much because maintaining weight would be really difficult. I never thought of that when I wished to be someone to never gain weight!
I can relate to the skinny comments though too. I'm 5ft3/5ft4 and went from being 10st 1 to 8st 6, all through a healthy diet and exercise. But of course people only seem to expect the worse and would immediately think 'bet she's starved herself?' I found this incredibly insulting because I'd worked so hard for over 6 months. My grandma would say 'oooh hope you're not going anorexic!' 'Dont't lose anymore weight'. And would comment on food like 'god what's up with you having a cake' etc. I don't think she realised that it upset me but it did because I knew I was fine and I looked a lot better. People don't seem to take it well when you reach your goal weight and feel proud and happy for once. I'm sure a lot would prefer you to be bigger and unhappy to maybe make themselves feel better.
Anyway I just thought I'd say you're not alone in the skinny comments and bad assumptions! I don't believe anybody is 100% happy with their bodies. Everyone I've ever met dislikes something or would change something about themselves. But that's the body obsessed society we live in! Just find the good things and smile :)
Ellie x
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I completely agree with you. I'm 17 years old and I've got a problem with my thyroid. It is too lazy to make enough energy for my body. Because of that the doctor gave me some pills which contained hormons. What happens with that is that due to all that amount of hormons they make my body fatter and look much more unhealthier than I it is. I remenber going to the beach and listening to people taking about my huge wobbly botton. I felt so bad that I went directly to home and stayed there for all the summer. Even my friends started to forget about me because I didn't go to the beach in all the summer. My parents used to get angry with me just because they thought I was being stupid. They didn't understand what I was feeling and that made me feel even more depressed.
Zoe's post made me believe in myself and feel a bit better with my body. Thanks Zoe! I'm sure I'm going to go more to the beach this summer!! Thanks again it means a lot for me ♥
This is an amazing blog, and everything you say is so true! People really need to stop judging other on the way they look. xo
We can thank the media for this. For so long they have romanticised being unhealthily thin. Now bigger women have taken a stand and fought back and the tables have turned and "curves" are in, even those whose 'curves' are actually unhealthy. Everything has to rigidly fit within the lines that society has deemed 'acceptable' and any deviation from within those lines is considered abnormal and therefore must be publicly ridiculed. Someone told me to "go eat a burger" recently, you wouldn't hear someone tell a heavy person to "go take a jog around the park" in the same manner. I'm 5'2 and I weigh just under 7st, thin yes but not unhealthily so. If eating disorders weren't idealised by the media, this whole 'skinny hate' would never have happened. Time for change. (Also, great post Zoe, very informative)
Really enjoyed reading this post and I completely agree! Whilst growing up, and even since I was born I was very skinny and used to get called 'anorexic' and all sorts of names, even from family – they'd be like 'you're so skinny you need to eat more.' But the fact is, I used to eat A LOT, all the junk foods you've listed here and it does all come down to metabolism. People need to understand that. I too had a recent visit to the doctors and she said my BMI was lower than it should be (and it wasn't even that low, it was at the lowest side of the "acceptable" BMI) which also really got me down. Anyway, I'm 5ft 4" too and I weigh 7st 12lbs, don't listen to others and be happy with who you are, cos that's the most important thing :) thanks again for an amazing and enlightening blog post xxx
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I get this practically everyday and it's really annoying. People assume you don't eat anything, but I eat so much I should be obese, but I'm not. I find it incredibly hard to put any weight on and it's all just down to genetics and a good metabolism-not an eating disorder.
I don't think it's right that people should judge anyone on their weight, because they don't know you or your circumstances or anything.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets frustrated about these things and it's nice to talk to people who actually understand for once :)
Thanks for posting, Zoe.
I wish the world wasn't as superficial as it is.
You are absolutely stunning! Keep on keeping on!!!
why are you getting birth control bills when you're not even in a relationship………. you didn't need to provide that bit of info lol you could have said you were just getting a regular checkup. people probably comment on the fact that you're so skinny because YOU ARE and you saying that you thought you looked hideous for not having any boobs and looking like a pole is really insensitive and rude to people who are naturally like that so it's like you're calling their appearance ugly. i'm sure if you really wanted to gain weight you could go to a nutritionist to get the best advice and sort that out. "why should you ever be allowed an opinion on someone else's body or way of life? " because if they appear too skinny or too fat then it can be a health concern and friends and family would want the best for them so yeah, it's reasonable that they'd bring up someone's weight. the whole purpose of BMI is to tell you whether your weight is healthy or not, not to target your appearance it is to help you out. they are professionals, you should listen.
why are you getting birth control bills when you're not even in a relationship………. you didn't need to provide that bit of info lol you could have said you were just getting a regular checkup. people probably comment on the fact that you're so skinny because YOU ARE and you saying that you thought you looked hideous for not having any boobs and looking like a pole is really insensitive and rude to people who are naturally like that so it's like you're calling their appearance ugly. i'm sure if you really wanted to gain weight you could go to a nutritionist to get the best advice and sort that out. "why should you ever be allowed an opinion on someone else's body or way of life? " because if they appear too skinny or too fat then it can be a health concern and friends and family would want the best for them so yeah, it's reasonable that they'd bring up someone's weight. the whole purpose of BMI is to tell you whether your weight is healthy or not, not to target your appearance it is to help you out. they are professionals, you should listen.
AMEN! <3
I totally understand where you are coming from! I hate getting "you're too skinny" "you need to eat more" (cause trust me I eat enough for 3). But on the other hand I think when doctors say it they really are concerned for your health, and I think eating healthy and exercising wouldn't hurt us Junk food eaters (I'm on a diet of McDonald's and top ramen lol). It could actually help build muscle and then you would have a toned body rather than a bony body, but as you've said everyone is different. And also I think sometimes people point out other people's weight because they are insecure about themselves, so just a little thought…
Thank you for writing about this Zoe. I also have a super metabolism. I eat well, exercise, and am 5'9'', all of which do not help my case. I struggle with explaining to my friends and family that their comments on my weight upset me, and it is so encouraging to read that you deal with it as well.
You are absolutely gorgeous, please do not think otherwise! :)
Oh my God… I've never even thought about that… I can't imagine what that must be like! This was a great post, stay strong! You are beautiful! xx
You have no idea how much I relate to this! Everything you said in this has happened to me too. I spent so much time trying to put on weight so people couldn't pass comment and I would be 'normal'. Then I realised as I get older it'll happen and I looked at the positive side, I can still eat a big mac without the worry! Thank you so much for writing this post, it's given me that little boost of confidence! <3<3
In sixth grade (11-12 years old) I grew four inches… and put on no weight. I was not only awkwardly scrawny, but I was now also super tall for my age. Not only that but I was in that terrible pre-teen stage with glasses, braces, and acne. Eventually I began to fill out a bit and have grown happy with my body (with the addition of contacts, serious face medicine, and the subtraction of glasses) But because of the stupid media, it's difficult to constantly compare a perfectly normal body to the completely unrealistic expectations set be models and celebrities. But I try to keep in mind that no one actually looks like that. We are who we are, and we all deserve to be happy. Everyone need to love their body as it, and Zoe, you are wonderfully terrific.
Agree. I hate when people says you're so damn skinny what do you eat? "just like everybody else I think?". I have a friend who always says to me that I should eat more because she think I never eat… I often hear that I'm anorectic from her and that I'm skinny as a match. I don't have high metabolism but I can eat almost whatever I want. I don't want to hear from anyone that I'm skinny, acording to me that is just as bad as calling someone fat, it hurts.
I don't need people to say I'm slim, I'm perfectly fine thinking it to my self.
Even though I tell my friends to not say I'm slim they keep telling me that, they think it's a nice thing to say but it hurts.
I can relate to you 100% Zoe. I also have a high metabolism and really hate it when my friends pick up my wrist and say "How the hell are you so skinny?!". My weight used to bother me alot when i was in primary school but now i've learned not to care about what others think. I'm perfectly happy the way i am ^_^
I love this post Zoe, I think you made a wonderful point! x
This is the story of my life. I've been called Flaca (Skinny) all my life as a nickname. You know when people say it in a good way but immediatly they start doing question about my weight is annoying. Especially when they insinuate I have a health problem or eating disorder. That affect your self-esteem !
This is the story of my life. I've been called Flaca (Skinny) all my life as a nickname. You know when people say it in a good way but immediatly they start doing question about my weight is annoying. Especially when they insinuate I have a health problem or eating disorder. That affect your self-esteem !
I totally agree with you! I don't have to go through the same as you but I do feel your pain. I have a friend that says the same as you did in this blog post, but she uses it for a wrong reason….to let me and my other friends know that she is skinny and that we aren't as skinny. It's so annoying because I have an opinion for this issue, the same as you do.
You are strong though and absolutely beutiful!
I feel the same way. I am much taller than you, but I am a string bean. My elbows and hips stick out and I have a bony everything. I've been called anorexic by my "friends", I always get comments on how skinny I am, it doesn't feel nice. The worst part is, once my parents said, "Are you okay? Are you sure you're eating enough?". That hit the core. Having your PARENTS say that? I told them that I am perfectly fine. I eat like a person who has been stuck on a deserted island for years. Granted, I might not eat the healthiest food, I eat nonetheless. It is just…not nice.
Zoe, you are gorgeous along with everyone else in the world, no matter their body size or shape.
I am exactly the same as you im 14 and im 4ft something and idk how much i weigh but yh. I hate when people call me skinny because it makes me feel really insecure. A few months ago at school we had to do about 'healthy diets' and BMI and I was one of the only people who didn't do it for themselves because I knew mine would be really low. After that I went home and like ate a load of stuff. It didn't help at all. (I got a few spots though :() another thing that annoys me is because im so small i look quite young so before when i went to see a 12 rated movie i got asked for id and a few random people just laughed at me! i mean seriously! And one of my not so close 'friends' called me anorexic twice when i took my blazer off. this made me feel so insecure i hated it. I hate when there's things on the news about everyone being 'obese' because that is just a really rude offensive word i think. I also hate when people just 'assume' that all i eat is salad or i don't eat anything when really all i eat is junk. Even if i tell someone that they don't believe me- its so stupid. And because im so small i have literally no body shape just boney hand and knees and elbows and everything. I mean i know im underweight and im like if i could change it dont you think i would?!?! im sorry this is really long it just winds me up so much
People saw this to me too! I hate it! My body is so ugly and shapeless! However, I haven't got the nice boobs, hips or bum yet!
YES! I love the part where you say BMI is stupid. Our whole class had to check our BMI in my health class because we were studying adolescent growth & I was so humiliated because I am considered obese. It seriously made me depressed for a week and I now loathe BMI.
This is amazing<3
It's one of the most beautiful post I ever read. I'm really skinny, during my childhood everybody thought i was anorexic or having eating disorder. I'd never the right to complain about me, everybody thought i was weak. Now I'm quite confortable w/ my weight but no one speak about this trouble. Every mag I read speak about how lose weight, or how accept a ''fat body'' but , never about too thin people who have trouble to accept their body. Thanks to speak about it.
I really love your blog. x
My life!
I was recently at a showing of Rocky Horror (and was wearing a corset as per) and this lady who was larger than average (and a complete stranger) called to me from across the room about how skinny I was and how I should eat something. I was wearing a corset! That's the point of a corset! It sucks you in!
Rude.
I totally agree with this post – for some reason in today's society, we treat obesity so sensitively, and do not stand for it to be criticized – allowing these unhealthy people to be called 'curvy' or get away with special treatment and sensitivity for essentially poisoning their bodies, is toxic behaviour, and really unfair considering how people view those who are thin/skinny or slightly underweight. I am an average weight for my age, but slightly underweight for my height. I work out a lot because I enjoy sports, and eat healthy because it's just the right thing to do, but I am constantly being criticized by relatives, friends, even parents of friends, who say that it is unhealthy behaviour for a young person. There is nothing unhealthy about being a proper weight – it's a good thing, yet society seems to lay heavier negativity towards it than obesity.
I know that's not quite what your post was about, but it kind of touches on a similar issue – great post though!
i had the same problem as you all my life. nurses even telling my mother it was her fault because she wasn't giving me enough food (insulting). so I understand you perfectly. now, though, I put on some weight and I'm not that skinny, I would say I'm thin but with curves, as you. But growing up being constantly questioned about your weight is really hard. I started eating doughnuts every evening which made me feel miserable as well.
Thanks for sharing :)
Thank you for this article! I really liked it! you need to love yourself, I think you're gorgeous zoey.
Zoe, I am exactly like you! People say "you're so skinny" "i'd love to be as skinny as you" yet I'd LOVE them to try being as skinny as me. Just for one day. Unfortunately i'm younger than you, so i haven't 'filled out' yet. Its horrible, and i wish everyone else could see what its like for people like us, who cant help being this way. I never go out in shorts, or wear tight trousers because if I do, people will stare and just judge. Its cheered me up to think that there is someone who i look up to anyway who goes through exactly the same thing:) my mum says she was like me until around 27, and then she gained weight, so i guess i have just got to wait some time.
Not to be rude, but some people might feel awkward going to a nutritionist and asking things like that. Also ,if you read some of the other comments, other people have been to a nutritionist and the advice that they've been given hasn't worked. Some people go on birth control pills to improve their skin condition so she doesn't have to be in a relationship to go on them! Plus yeah it would be right for friends and family to be concerned if someone wasnt eating, but zoe said she's always been this skinny, and that she eats alot, therefore her family and friends would surely know that she had no health problems or anything they need to be concerned about? And even if there was a concern, random people shouldnt feel the need to point it out when they don't know anything about you.
I am really skinny too and it upsets me that I had have the 'voluptuous boobs' that my other friends have, my legs are so skinny even skinny jeans wrinkle at the knees and I look silly, I am a fussy eater but I make up for it in the amount of snacks I eat, I always struggle to put on weight and really wish I was more feminine and I had a more 'curvy' or 'womanly' body :(
None-the-less this post helped me alot, thankyou Zoe!! <3 xoxxxooxoxxoxooxox
I can understand where you're coming from, as I've been called skinny my whole life too. I think the difference is that when you're skinny, it's generally clear that there's far less judgement being made on your self-control, your eating habits, etc. than if you're overweight. People might say "eat a sandwich", but I always took it more as concern, or in some cases, jealousy. You're the second Youtuber to bring this issue up (first was Jen frmheadtotoe), and while it's an interesting point, it also feels a lot like exacerbating an essential non-issue.
You don't see overweight Youtubers making videos explaining how hurtful "fat" comments make them, because honestly there's a much bigger stigma there than here. There's no doubt you're gorgeous, and to hear you say how you "HATE" being called skinny – it feels disingenuous, because there are so many larger problems that people face daily.
I can really relate to this post because I used to be soo obsessed with my physical image and weight ( I still am although not as bad as I used to ). I think you could be the most gorgeous girl in the world and still suffer from these insecurities. I really hope some day, I will learn to love myself and my body the way it is. I'm not 'heavy' but I'm not as skinny as I'd like to be either. I hope to find someone who could help me overcome my insecurities, because I have such a low self esteem that it hurts my relationship with others sometimes I think, and I just want the support of someone who can make me feel great about myself. I believe it's every girl's dream to find a partner who makes her feel as if she's the most beautiful they've laid eyes on and just make her feel special so I hope you all learn to one day be content with you appearance and I hope everyone finds that one person who makes them feel special constantly :)
I have this same problem & Thank you so much for writing the words that are ALWAYS on my mind <3 You're amazing! :)
I can relate to this so much. Ive always been small with a high metabolism. I hate it, a couple of weeks back my netball coach blatantly said, and I quote "are you eating?" I was stunned and later really upset. No one understood, they are all enboous of my body but its just getting annoying. I have played goal defence in netball my whole life, I can jump twice as high as an 'average' sized person, my friends always say 'you have to see it to believe it.' But as soon as I step out on the coirt I am judged. It drives me nuts and really saddens me.
Anyway, rant over. Thank you so much for writing this xxx
So true words. And I also I think it was very brave to post this as is it very personal stuff. I am still glad you wrote this post though as someone has to say this :)
Btw we are the same height :D
Do your research before you comment! As MisfitToy said already birth control pills can be used to treat skin, but also for irreuglar and painful periods and it's her blog so if she wants to share she can share! Skinny is a horrible word, just like saying to someone "you're fat" you're chubby" it is unkind! She probably felt 'hideous' because of this because too many people bang on about 'real women' having butts and boobs! Fuck off we're all real women or are us little ones made of plastic or something? Yeh possibly a doctor and occasionaly a very close friend could comment on your weight but strangers or aqquaintances coming up to you and saying "Oooh you're so skinny" and poking you in the stomach is not cool. And erm BMI doesn't take muscle into account so muscly people would therefore be considered obese? Is that right? Um no. Do some research before you come across all high and mighty haha.
This post is perfect. Well done Zoe, you're amazing x
This pretty much sums up my life, people always say i'm lucky that i don't put on weight when i eat so much or how can i not put on weight when i eat so much junk but they never understand how the metabolism thing works, it's so depressing and annoying. I went through a stage where I was ill and put on a lot of weight, to think people were asking me if I was pregnant -_- but hey, you've got to love yourself and those that make you happy about yourself!
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I think you look lovely zoe! I had a friend who was really concerned about being overweight all her life and she started to take it out on another friend calling her anorexic and stick thin, to her face. Her excuse was that it was just 'concern' but she would have been horrified if it had been the other way around. I agree with what you've written, great post! :)
All i have to say is Thank you!,
I feel a lot better that about this subject now i know someone else has had to deal with this like myself. Everything that you have pointed out has happened to me and I hated every moment of it. I felt bullied at school, judged by everyone i knew and i felt like i was not right. Even though your in a completely different country i really appreciate you taking the time to write about this as there are so many people who don't understand or only see one view point.
Much love from Australia :)
I get this all the time and it makes me feel so self concious. This has really inspired me and im so glad im not the only one like it! :) x
This helped me so much! When i was younger, people used to ask me all the time if i was anorexic, and would always be telling me that had to put on weight. A few years later, and i have actually managed to put on quite a bit of weight, especially in my legs(they used to look like twigs – it was horrid!),but im still trying desperately to put on more weight. Thanks again, this article really helped me! :)
Hi! I know this post is old but I just found it and I must say, I was definitely relieved to find someone who is literally just like me!
I am 18, almost 19, weigh 95 lbs, and I have had "super metabolism" my entire life. I'm a natural size 0, and I find it very hard to deal with everyone always saying "oh you're so little" "you don't have any meat on those bones" "you have such tiny legs" "gosh, you're so skinny" and so on..
Calling someone skinny and little, hurts JUST as much as calling someone fat. We can't help our situation, and if we could, we would. I don't want to be so little, but I can't help that I am. I just have to deal with it now and hope that I gain some weight in the future.
I took birth control for two months last year and gained 14 pounds, going from 88-102. I gained it all in a few places: my face especially, my bum, my boobs and a bit on my tummy. I figured out my insurance couldn't cover my particular birth control so my mom decided to stop it all together. In those short two months, 14 pounds is A LOT to gain.
Now its a year later, and I've came back down to 95. I didn't go back to 88 thank goodness, but still, I felt more confident at 102.
Anyways, if you struggle with "super metabolism" like the gorgeous Zoe and I, just know that you're not alone and that it will get better one day, trust me. I was a bean pole in my early teens and I didn't start getting boobs and a bum (I still have hardly any hips) until high school. It won't last forever and just stay positive. Everyone is beautiful, no one can tell you different..
You are my idol Zoella! I totally agree with this. I am in the same position as you and my metabolism is super fast. I weight only 43KG and I'm 15 years old and 5ft2 :( And my bottom half of my body is bigger which I hate! But you are so right. People always tell me that I'm skinny and I find it really offensive. You are amazeballs!
xx
Thank you.
I love this piece. I've been harassed about being underweight since I was 6/7 years old. Like, what the hell do you say to these ignorant people? They're so offensive.
This is a really old post and I am insanely late in reading this. But I just had too. I read this & got a weird feeling of deja vu. As I was reading throw all of this I heard my voice saying it because I have had to defend being thin in the past. One of my nicknames is "bean"; shortened from the veggie string bean because that's exactly what I looked like. LOL. I had developed a complex about being skinny they took me a while to get over because I got picked on so much about being skinny has a kid, in high school, and even up til college. My first year at college I weighed 104 pounds. I'm 5'3 (a tad bit shorter than you LOL) So I was a really little thing. I did a reverse diet too. It took me a while to slow my metabolism down but I did and gained so much it didn't feel right for my height but I was happy to finally have some weight. I decided to eat healthier and I'm maintaining a weight of 130 pounds now. My point of commenting this was because I was actually shocked to see that literally everything I said, felt, and/or told someone about the reason I looked the way I did; someone else said.
Thankyou Zoe for posting this because I've never really seen it from this point of view before, my friends have always been thinner than me and I've always been really jealous of them and I know that isn't good but it really bugs me that while I'm trying my best to lose weight my friends don't care and can eat whatever they want. I never thought of it the other way round, I always thought that they were lucky and that they have it easy because I've never read anything like this.
I think you're so beautiful and I love that you posted this because its really just so inspirational and even though I have never commented o a person's weight I will never again judge anyone for being too thin. x
Hi Zoe,
I'm 16 and a have always been very thin. People used to call me and sometimes still call me : "anorexic, scrawny" and all that stuff. I have always felt very bad but now I just don't care about what people say. A month ago, my P.E teacher told me : "a human being gets to eat". I was so upset… Luckily people like you understand me.
I am starting to get my woman body, boobies and hips and bottom, I'm glad about it and I also think that slim is pretty. Look at Kaya Scodelario in Skins.
xx
My daughter's friend has this same "thin no matter what she eats" issue. She's very thin. It really concerned me when the school nurse, even seeing that she was eating pizza every day for lunch, took her into her office and had her run down a list of questions to determine if she was anorexic! This kid ate all. the. time. Whatever. Meanwhile, no one ever mentions the garbage ALL the kids are putting in their mouths. Thin or no, garbage is still garbage. Here ends the rant. lol
very good post :)
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I know this is so old but i always come back and read it! , i have the same(fast metabolism) when we had a non-uniform day in school about 3 girls came up saying to me – "wow your sooooo skinny!" , i HATE my legs, today someone said to me "jesus your legs are soo skinny & small" i didnt know what to say so i just stood there awkwardly smiling because they are too skinny! i always wear collar tops to cover up my collar bones as they stick out- im the same haha you'll very rarely catch me not eating chocolate or crisps or drinking a fizzy drink!
I know you posted this about 2 years ago but I'm going through the same thing. I'm about the same height and weight as you and people are CONSTANTLY pointing out that I'm skinny. It makes me feel so self conscious and I'd give anything to be curvy or 'normal' sized but I know that it's not going to happen because of my metabolism. I'm so glad that you posted this because I think it will help people that are in the same situation and it will be an eye opener to those that feel the need to make comments about people's weight. Knowing that you went through the same things makes me feel like I can be more confident in myself :)
Team Petite ;) xx
I went thru the same thing, I used to never wear shorts because even though I'm short, i have long skinny legs, and people would and still do, say stuff like, don't you eat, your too skinny, blah blah. And i always felt the same way, would you say that to someone who was over weight? But really, its about becoming comfortable with yourself, and we all need to learn not to judge and focus on every ones flaws or weight.
I think this is the first time I've ever thought about this so in depth.
You're 100% right, though.
Weight is always one of those awkward subjects that it's not really okay for anyone to judge people on.
I'm 5'11 and weigh about 9 1/2 stone, which to me, seems horribly over weight and I can't seem to shift an inch of it. But if I really look at myself in the mirror with a logical head on, I'm just a bit wobbly in places. My boyfriend makes regular little comments about my weight though, even though he's about 5'9 and quite a bit heavier than me. He made a comment just last night about how I probably can't fit into one of his t-shirts.
I've just found out that a hormone imbalance is almost certainly causing me not to lose weight, but he's still as insensitive as ever…
I suppose the moral of the story is that everyone is completely different when it comes to body size. I just wish that the rest of society could recognize it.
I am currently 16 and I'm 'skinny' and apparently 'bony' as well. When I was 13, and also a late bloomer, I was always conscious of my stick-thin legs and very flat chest. I couldn't find any trousers that fit, or anything that could give me some kind of feminine shape at all. I was a little upset and hated it when people came up to me and commented on how I looked like. I think I look better now, and hopefully gain a pound now and then :) But people still walk up to me and tell me that I'm skinny or complain about my weight. The problem is that when I try to tell them that I don't like it when they do that, they still argue that what they say is a compliment (?) Thank you Zoe for writing all this, because it made me realise that others have this problem too and that I'm not alone :)
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for this post. I've always been insecure about how skinny I was..no boobs, stick legs, etc. Tried very hard trying to gain weight (even tried drinking milk twice a day for 2 weeks, and all it did was make me want to barf). Everyone tells me I should eat more…and I'm just like…"I eat even more than you! and you look perfectly nice and healthy while everyone probably thinks I have an eating disorder.. "
i am exactly the same:O
Great post, Zoe. I totally agree. You always look amazing. I have the same problem I get heavier but I never put on weight. And I get taller.
This perfectly describes my life!
You're so good at getting your points across; a very good writer indeed. Regarding the post itself, it made me realise how rude it is for someone to say "you're so skinny!" People take things in different ways, to some this may be quite a compliment, but to others (people with fast metabolisms in particular) it may be very offending.
I am in love with your blog. I've been obsessing over it the last couple of days, but none of your posts have impacted me like this one. I used to be really skinny, until about the 7th grade when puberty hit and God gave me hips. I became really slefconcious because none of my friends had hips, and those who did were much farther along in development then me. They had boobs too and looked like 18 year old girls. I was a 13 year old with awkward hips. Not to mention at this time My hyper mobility decided to make an appearance along with my bowed legs. Basically, hyper mobility is this thing that some people are born with that causes your the socket of your joints to be bigger than normal causing your to be able to move your body more than it should. Lots of athletes have this and it can help you in the long run because then hypothetically you should be able to move more than the average person. This is all fine and dandy until you add in the fact that I am not a super athlete. So my muscles could no longer support my hyper mobile joints resulting in many a doctors visit to figure out why I was in pain. From there I got myself to a point without pain but still I ran different than everyone else and my legs are bowed which means they kind of jut out. It's like a thigh gap for your shins and looks pretty bizarre. I've had it my entire life and so does my dad so I actually like the way it looks, but most people get freaked out when the see them which makes me a bit self conscious. I went from loving my abnormal legs to hating them. To make matters worse my guy friends starting making fun of how I ran. They meant no harm by it, they told me it was cute, but I couldn't help but feel bad about myself. Then as the years went on my metabolism continued to slow and well… I gained about fourty pounds in four years. I would be fine with how I looked if people around me didn't have to point it out. My brothers friend told me I was chubby and, being the girl power believer that I am, it took everything in my not to slap him. DO YOU THINK I HAVE NO CLUE THAT I AM CHUBBY? Do you think that I wake up in the morning and look at myself in the mirror and think "Yeah I like skinny today"? No! Instead I end up crying because of people like him who tell me I'm fat. Jee thanks! I had no clue!
I really just wish people would forget about what other people look like and let it be. As if we are unaware of our weight. As if we don't go to stores and cringe when things are too big or too small on us. As if we don't have panic attacks when we think about going to the beach. As if we don't look in the mirror and think about how we could look better. It's time for people to realize that their comments are not needed. Then maybe everyone would feel a bit better about themselves.
Sorry for the rant…. I just felt so strongly about your post and I tend to be an opinionated person… Thanks for posting this, Zoe.
Much love,
Shelby Lee :)
I thoroughly loved reading this, I found it so easy to relate to. Honestly, your a inspiration to everyone just by being proud of who you are.I constantly get called to skinny but behind my back so I just hear their judgemental whispers and it's just really awkward, what do you do? Turn around and say you can hear them and stand up for yourself or just let them because you know your a stronger person…
Anyways, you are a true role model and I love your blog.
Hey Zoe
You will probably never see this, but i just wanted to let you know you are my role model. I'm 14, and i'm in a healthy weight range, with a BMI of 22. but i wish i could change my body. You are one of very few people that have taught me that its ok to be slightly different from everyone else. to be a slightly different shape or size. Sometimes, when i'm sad or upset, i think of all the inspirational things you have taught me. So now, i'm trying to accept myself. its difficult, but as long as i have your blog posts and YouTube videos, i think i'll get there. Thank you for everything.
Lots of love, Meg. xxx
Exactly what I was thinking!
one of my best friends is naturally skinny, and to an extent where she gets bullied for being so small and people push her around and always poke her bones. she's constantly hiding herself with her arms and hunching over to hide her weight and it's horrible to see what harsh words can do to people of any size. She also, because of her size, has no boobs at all. boys call her unattractive and don't want to go near her :( i agree with your post Zoe, just wish i'd have found it sooner to be able to show her before she got hurt even more :(
Even though this article is from 2011, I´m going to reply to it now.
Zoe, what you´re saying here is so inspirational. Overall I think you're an inspirational person already but after reading this I just can't think of anything else to say than: Thank you. Simply just thank you.
I am a larger girl, and I absolutely don't feel all that comfortable about being larger, though I try to make the best of it. I've got amazing friends who accept me just the way I am. I trust these people with my life. Some of these friends are very skinny girls, none of them is as large as I am. They try their very best to gain weight, I try my very best to lose weight.
Sorry for airing my heart (is that even a proper English expression? I don't know, sorry I'm Dutch.) here. But I need to confess that sometimes I just have these days where I lie on my bed, crying, feeling sorry for myself. Even though I know that there are people with lives much worse than mine, I sometimes feel so miserable. I've been so lucky, all my life. I've never really been bullied ( I've heard some comments, of course) and I always have had friends, but it just feels horrible if you can't follow up with the others on physical levels or if you don't fit in another nice jeans. It just hurts.
Don't get me wrong, I've got my confidence, and I do believe in myself. It just hurts sometimes.
But then again, I've got my thin friends. Even though I've got those thin friends, who really can eat anything they want and really want to gain some weight, I've never really gotten such a good insight on how that really feels as you've given me now. I really respect you for that.
I've always been that person to tell people to be themselves, and to be proud of who you are. I told people that, and I have been proud of myself. Proud of my singing, proud of my acting in the school plays, proud of things, but proud of my body? Never.
Maybe I can start now.
I'm sorry for this block of text. I'm sorry for writing all this. But I just needed to thank you.
So hereby.
Thank you Zoe.
Thank you for being so inspirational.
Not only to me, but also to so many other girls.
Thank you for finally convincing me to maybe even start being proud of my body type.
I cannot thank you enough.
Everyone says this to me too, I wear 3 layers on my legs to make them look fatter even when it's hot (although that rarely happens in London)! I'm glad to find this; hopefully I'll fill out soon :)
xox
This is a great post, but I'm sorry I have to disagree with at one point. I wonder why skinny people thought fat people dont get asked questions about them being overweight. im overweight and i have to face a lot of embarrassment when sometimes people in the mall just came up to me trying to sell slimming products saying im too fat and i need to try the products. each time i saw a doctor they would always say something about me being overweight. when i felt weird about my knee few year ago i went to the hospital and the doctor just sent me away saying i was just too fat and all i need to do was to lose weight and things will slowly be good on me. I had to even ask the doctor, "lets imagine im not fat, lets say im just an average sized girl complaining of instability at my knee, what would you say then?" it was ridiculous how i had to really fight to get examine carefully, met the best surgeon, and spent too much money on that. over time my knee got worse and last year i had to undergo an operation due to knee injury that had been slowly developed since i was a kid, and nothing to do with me being fat. when i attended job interviews some of the interviewees just nonchalantly asked me to slim down first and come again next time. some said i dont have the "corporate look" being overweight so they couldnt take me in. and the list goes on and on….
so the question of "would a larger persons got asked the same questions" as you got, YES they got that a lot. im sure you would never go to someone fat and ask them questions(because you're sweet and too nice to do that) but that doesnt mean other people wouldnt. just like me, i have a lot of skinny friends and have never said anything about their body because i know its just wrong. but there are always other evil people who would do that
i;m the complete opposite of you Zoe, im fatter… people think i should lose weight and lots of people say i look absolutely fine, i eat well but the problem with me is i overeat and i get really hungry… its not fair when people tell you you should lose weight… but at least you dont have to worry about stretch marks :)… you are perfect just the way you are Zoe you are a gorgeous person with a gorgeous heart and i know its not always easy being fat or thin… but remember they are only words!!!
and like you said…"Everybody is different, and nobody is perfect. It would be a very boring place if this wasn't the case."
luv ya
Bella <3
I have the same problem, i live in Sweden, I'm very skinny and have small breasts but I'm now proud of it at the age of 17.
A funny thing in Sweden is that they would have ordered in a size 32 (my size, where very happy for it, because that size is available in Italy and France, so I know it fits perfectly) the smallest of clothes in Sweden right now is 34.
But all became angry and size 32 does not exist. Instead, they made curvy mannequins as an excuse for those who have been affected and angry?!
What about me? I'm happy to be small, I'm a little bit Italian and they are small.
I love all the body shapes because everyone is different.
I am thin, have small breasts and I'm proud of it today, sono Piccolo. I think everyone should be proud of themselves.
hey zoe you inspired me to make a blog of my own!! please go check it out if you get the time http://tianalifestyle.blogspot.com.au/ :) lots of love ti x
I get the same type of comments as you, Zoe. I am really short for my age, well for almost any age, really. I have been in the 5th percentile for height and weight my whole life! I am so glad to have someone like you to help me get through the rough patches <3
Wow. Thank you so much for writing this. I have always been underweight, but it's because of my metabolism. Although not that many people tell me that I need to put on weight, they imply it. I hear things like "Wow. You are SO skinny." all the time. I mean, how would they feel if I went, "Wow. You are SO fat." It's not ok. I completely agree, and I hope that by making this post you have made people realize to not comment about things like that. I hate it when people tell me, "Your legs are so skinny." Or like, "Your legs are the size of my arm." It doesn't seem mean, but it actually is. So, to the world, get it through your head. I AM NOT ANOREXIC STOP ASKING. Again, thank you for writing this.
WOW Zoe, I feel like you're the first person to understand. I'm really skinny too and always have been, people always tell me i'm really skinny and need to put weight, and i've always felt the same way, how rude is it to tell someone that? You wouldn't point it out to a fat person so why would you do it to a skinny person? I find it so rude. I completely agree with you, thank you so much for your post, i feel a lot better knowing someone understands. :)
I'd never thought of it that way Zoe. You have really opened my eyes. I love the way you think. You deserve an award :) xx <3
I feel exactly the same.
I'm 15 now, any my "change" to woman had not come yet. All my friends say things like: you have to eat more, you have to stop doing sport, or even: you make me look fat. I loove them a lot, and they also looooove me, but sometimes they make me feel so uncomfortable. I'm trying to gain weight, but I can't! I would love to gain just a little, but I can't.
People always say that I'm sooo thin and that they would love to be like me. No, they wouldn't. I don't even have boobs!! It's so awkward, I hate it. I like being thin, right, but not that thin. Nobody thinks that they can make me feel bad for their comments, they even think that there are compliments. But there aren't for me. I don't have any problem, and I like myself, but with comments like that they make me feel more and more uncomfortable everytime. I'm scared it can end with a problem, I hope not. But…whatever, I LOVE MYSELF. Like Lady gaga says, baby, you were born this way. Maybe guys aren't into me, maybe I would like to be more beatuiful, but maybe society can change their minds, maybe we can change a bit the world, because I'm sure we are not the problem, THE STEREOTYPES are the problem. Everyone has a stereotype, and it's so stupid. We must end with this. I'm sure nobody is going to read this, but if you do, please reply or just change a bit your world. If everybody can change a bit, it's going to be a big change. Just saying… Thanks for your atention, have a good day and do not forget the ones you love. ^^
I totally understand. Just yesterday a girl in one of my classes was eating popcorn and offered some to me. I said, "no thanks" because I honestly just didn't want any popcorn, but she grabbed my wrist and could wrap her hand around it and was like " I can fit my hand around your writs! Eat!" She had no right to accuse me of not eating enough because she didn't know me at all, and I eat more than any of my friends! If someone was overweight and was offered food and accepted it, do you think she would have poked at their stomach and said "You weight too much! Stop eating!"? Of course not! It just bothers me so much when people assume things about me for being so thin. They could ask ANYONE in my life if it is suspected that I have an eating disorder, and every single person I am at least moderately close with would say "Of course not! She eats like a horse!" I take care of my body and exercise, and although I eat a lot, what I eat is for the most part healthy. Bottom line is, people should not judge with no evidence! Enough said.
I have the exact same problem! D: At least I'm not the only one now :)
Zoe thank you for posting this. I struggle with many insecurities about my weight, and I am generally a pretty confident person. When I was little, people would ALWAY comment on my weight and about how I was too skinny, and that I looked gross, and it really bothered me. Sometimes I would cry every night, because of what people said and the truth is that they probably didn't even know they were doing it. I don't like it when people treat me differently because I am tiny, and I thought this would change when I went to high school becuase I didn't notice it anymore, and I thought I looked normal. But many people have asked me about my weight, and what I eat and it makes me so mad that I want to cry.
Just yesterday I was working at this music school, and one of the kids there came up to me and said "Are you anorexic? You're SO SKINNY you have like a little crater in between your collarbones, go to mcdonalds, seriously!" and I felt like dying.
so, I know this post was ages ago (I think?) I just saw it, and I thought, that relates to me so much! apart from, I am 5ft8 and 7.8 stone. I am 15 and people at school constantly say , 'omg! you are so skinny!', and now I don't know whether they are saying that in a complimentary way or in a negative way. I always say back to them, 'thanks, but I am trying to put on weight', and they look at me as if I'm mad!! like you Zoe, I just have a speedy metabolism, I am really unfit and I scoff food like there is no tomorrow! haha, but if I do put on weight it goes to my bum and that's it – it's so annoying!! but it's good to know that I'm not the only one with this problem and it should hopefully change and I will hopefully fill out in the future. thanks Zoe :) xx
Oh my god yes! thank you for writing this i get this so much!!People have been awful to me because i have a smaller clothing size than most people, its not my faultI'm a total twig!!
BMI is a load of shit anyway its a very inaccurate way of measuring stuff, you're gorgeous anyway take no notice!! x
I just heard about this blogpost and wanted to share my thoughts on it.
I agree with you, almost fully. I am 5'8" and weigh 108lbs. That is just 5lbs heavier and 4 inches taller than you, Zoe. So, imagine your weight stretched out even more! As well as the fact that I have very small boobs (proportionate) and basically no bottom. I do have hips, however, so that gives me a bit of shape. I have a BMI of 16-18, which means that I am underweight.
Now, I'm 21 years old and have had this body for forever. I've been about the same weight since the 9th grade of high school, but didn't stop growing until I was about 18. I've heard PLENTY of people ask me if I was anorexic or bulimic, if I ever ate, and how I stayed so skinny. My answer is the exact same as yours. "No, I just have the metabolism of a 5 year old". They would then ask if my parents were skinny (mom is, dad is not). But that's always been pretty much where they would drop it and accept my answers.
I do find those questions to be insulting questions, but I do not however take offense to them. It may just be my personality, but I find that people are just naturally curious and I accept that. It may be that they themselves have aspirations of becoming skinnier and want to know if I'm on some fancy diet or something that they can do. It could also be that they're genuinely concerned for me, but I just right it and we move on. I find that the best way to deal with the types of questions that you get all the time, and that I get too, is to just answer them.
I do have some advice for you, though. Work out!! Exercise! I never exercised just like you haven't, and am/was terribly unfit. Then I started to go to the gym and take a Piyo class (pilates/yoga, it's AMAZING). And I've found that I haven't lost ANY weight whatsoever. I have just gained muscle. My legs and arms and stomach have never been so defined. The only thing that you need to stay away from is doing too much cardio (treadmill/elliptical) because that burns fat faster than it builds muscle.
This has been long, and you may never read it, but I thought I may aswell.
Become confident in your FULL self. I wouldn't change a single thing about myself. I'm perfect for myself, and that's what matters most.
I feel as though I'm jumping on the bandwagon a bit late now, but your blog post has really struck me.
Like you, I have always struggled to put on weight, a problem which (surprisingly to many) really gets your confidence down. I feel the media is partly responsible for this. I've noticed people say that the media encourages 'skinny' or 'anorexic' figures, but being naturally like this myself, I have never seen this as the case. By trying to make their readers feel better about their weight, tabloids slam naturally slim people, calling them looking 'worryingly thin' or 'skeletal', and people leave comments on article telling them they need to 'eat a burger' and put on some weight to stop looking so 'disgusting'. Reading articles like that is so disheartening and does nothing for self-esteem. It feels as though people are unable to recognise that some people have naturally high metabolisms, like you and me, and therefore find it difficult or even impossible to put on weight. Being told you have the 'figure of a 12 year old boy' or you're not a 'real woman' is just upsetting.
Reading this article has made me feel so much better about myself. I have been struggling with self-image for a while now, and reading how you have been treated with the same comments as me makes me realise that I'm not alone. This post is so encouraging – I feel like I actually have the possibility of coming to terms with my weight and my appearance now. Thank you so much!
I feel as though I'm a bit late in jumping on the bandwagon, but I have been really struck by this post.
Like you, I have always struggled to put on weight, but recently it has been really eroding my confidence. I feel that the media has played a part in this, despite the fact that many believe that it is newspapers and magazines who promote slim figures. However, as someone affected by this, I have noticed that tabloids describe naturally slim celebrites as 'worryingly thin' or 'skeletal', provoking online comments of 'she's disgusting' or 'she needs to eat a burger'. People don't seem to realise or appreciate that people can be naturally thin. I have read dozens of articles about how women should feel secure in their bodies, and how they don't have to be skinny to feel beautiful. Whilst these articles are succesful, they are tailored to those who feel overweight, not under. They therefore exclude those of us who are naturally slim, making us feel as though we do not count and, consequently, worse. I, for one, feel disheartened being told my figure is the same as a 12 year old boy, or that I'm not a 'real woman' because I don't have curves.
However, reading your blog post has really cheered me up, Zoe. I'm only young, so I have time to learn to accept my figure and accept myself for who I am, but I really feel that your blog post will help me get there. It is not often that I feel comfortable in my own skin, especially when surrounded by so many other beautiful and confident girls. I'm so glad that you wrote this post as it has shown me that there are others out there like me who understand what it's like, and that I am not totally alone. Thank you, Zoe.
The people say me that all the time! and i hate it!
But, what can I do?
I'm in the exact same position, I can totally understand. People ask, "Why are you so skinny??" "What do you eat or NOT eat??" But I eat like a normal person, in fact, I eat plenty because I love food. I just have a faster metabolism rate, just like you. Some people compliment me, but others just question.. but I never really did anything to MAKE myself skinny, I wouldn't think of anorexia! Of course, I too wish I put on a bit more fat (hehe) but I don't believe anyone should put you down for being skinny. That doesn't automatically make you a stupid person who tried to look like a model and went wrong. I'm so glad you are proud of who you are, Zoe, that's what is amazing about you.
I think you are perfect the way you are! <3
~Avalon
It made me wanna cry because this is so true and I'm totally agree. Who are we to judge people? It's not fair at all.
I totally agree with you Zoe! Don't worry people who do that are just jealous of you! If they really believed you had an eating disorder they would just feel sorry for you, and say nothing – leave you in peace.
But the fact that they are saying something to you means they know your just one of the lucky ones with the "skinny gene" and they are jealous!
Next time someone says "OMG, your so skinny" know that the translation is: "Its not fair, I wish I could be skinny like you and this makes me feel bad, so I'll pretend there's something wrong with you, to make myself feel better"
I feel the same way. I feel so sad when people say im too skinny, They say it with disgust. But I cant help it! Like you, I hate it when people think its fine to call someone skinny but not someone fat. Grr! ;)x
I seriously love this post! I just followed you because of it! :) Love the blog and I am so tired of people always making snide comments about how I am so thin and they were never my size nor could they be. I think it is so rude for anyone to ever make a comment to anyone regarding their weight because the doctor is the only person who should express concern towards anyone's weight. For all they could know, someone very skinny could be on chemotherapy or something and not telling anyone they are sick. Some people are just born thin, and some people just change over the years and end up thinner than they were when they were younger. Anyways, if overweight people ever had a skinny person telling them that they shouldn't eat because they are too fat, they would knock that skinny girl right over on her butt probably! Well, I look forward to more posts and think you are gorgeous! Have a good day! xx Pip
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i know you might not see this comment; but i think you are the perfect size, many people would dream to have your body, you are beautiful inside and out. you are an inspiration to many others such as myself.
stay strong and don't let jealous pathetic people get to you. xo
This post is so nice and made me think about how my sister feels. She is soo slim and sometimes I wish I could be like that. She eats loads of food and puts on no weight.But maybe its not good, she looks alot younger and smaller because of it and cant fit into most clothes. I am really going to be considering how she feels more now because of this. Thanks!!!
Zoe just when I thought that I couldn't love you anymore than I do already, I come across this little gem! This post spoke volumes to me, it's almost like you were speaking as me? haha
I'm so glad that you've published this and I hope that it gets others to understand and open their minds. I feel I can really strongly relate to you after this and if I could like this post a million times then I would!
Thank you for posting this Zoe, it's definitely a topic that needed to be dealt with and I see you as a huge inspiration!
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This is one of the most truthful and accurate posts I have ever read. I have had the same issue all of my life, and I'm still waiting to 'fill out'. I'm 16 and have always been small for my age. I can totally empathize with you and all who have posted in the comments, being called 'skinny' and 'bag of bones' is just hurtful as calling someone 'fat'.
I really appreciate you writing this post Zoe, thank you so much :) x
I hate having such skinny wrists and legs and arms and being so short. I'm only 154cm and I hope I haven't already had my growth spurt. I'm tiny in every way possible which makes my stomach out of proportion. I have chrons disease so I can't help it and people always complain about being fat or about how lucky I am to get out of PE at school because I can't run because I'm so unfit because of my Chrons and how I'm so skinny. Well I can't help it and it sucks!
I know the feeling! I totally agree. once in school i got this random girl asking me if i was anorexic! where ever i go people look at my legs and i'm just like keep your eyes to yourself! buying clothes is hard because my legs look hideous in short dresses and i like like a'twig' 'skeleton' in skinny jeans! like what do you want me to wear BAGGY granny trousers all day every day of my life just because i cant put on weight!!! and i hate it when some are like i want to be as skinny as you, or how are you so skinny and it's just soo annoying because they don't know how hard it is to buy clothes that look nice on you! but you look gorgeous in everything and are beautiful!
your blog will and probably already has shut peoples mouths!!! xxx :)
Hey Zoe! I loved this and it cleared it up, i was always told by classmates as well "you need to put some weight on your too skinny" for about 5 years. It used to confuse and annoy me, why would they care what i weighted? Course now that i have put on weight, the comments stopped and i dunno i weigh 56kgs i think, and aren't too happy, id like to be 53kgs, just because i want to look as best as i want to be, and be more confident about myself :), but for the longest time i was 49kgs or under and i don't ever want to be under 50, it just brings back memories. But yeah, cya :) from Ashleigh, big Aussie fan x
I think lots of teenage girls are put under pressure to be skinny because it's the 'right size to be' and it's not seen as an insult if someone goes "Oooh, you're so skinny!". I know plenty of people will have heard this but Marilyn Monroe was considered the sexiest woman of her time and she wasn't that slim so I don't think anyone should be put under pressure to look a certain size, ever.
Finally someone said this! I agree 100% with what you're saying! People think its acceptable to call people too thin (usually out of jealousy and insecurity) but wouldn't dream of approaching the topic with an obese person! You're gorgeous just the way you are :) Keep up the good work Zoe xx
I have exactly the same issue:) thank u sooo much zoe u helped me a lot <3
I know this is an old post, but I went through the same thing growing up. Always the girl who was so skinny. Not only do you feel weird and uncomfortable, but I feel like it puts major pressure on you to stay skinny. I've not only felt bad for being to skinny, but also for gaining weight. Vicious cycle I tell ya.
Hi zoe, I have read your blog and read a couple replies, I am 47, 5'5" & weigh in @113 lbs consistantly, no kids, no boobs, no hips…rather boyish. After years of hating my body type & people's comments about it, just like you I finally came up with a remark. I tell them I have worms! Boy you should see their faces! Then I just laugh out loud and ask if they would like some! It works perfectly, not only do I think it is hilarious but thet never say anything about my weight again! Keep your spirits up Zoe, it really is a blessing in so many ways! Sincerely, Renee
I stumbled over this while reading your blog (obviously!) and I have to say that this was exactly what I needed to hear today. My body is completely average but when I get into good shape and eat well, people start thinking that I have a problem and need to eat a cookie or put on a few pounds. I like to be healthy and fit, it makes me feel amazing! I completely agree that everyone carries their weight differently. Be it stick thin or bigger boned, you never know somebody's genetic makeup, lifestyle, and body type. Thanks for the post, Zoe! I am glad that I am not alone in not loving to be called "too thin".
-Darcy
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This was such a fresh way of writing about the whole situation. So glad I read this! You look beautiful, Zoe. You should be proud of what makes you you. :)
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I know exactly what you mean Zoe! It's basically the same for me and thanks for posting this because its really helped xxxxxx
Your an inspiration Zoe! Im 15 and have really struggled with my weight due to my muscle wasting disorder, although being disabled does not effect me people saying how 'anorexic' I look makes me feel terrible. I hate how rude some people can be as I also have a fast metabolism, therefore I have neither muscle nor fat. I know I am 'skinny' and 'bony' but I dont have the option to gain weight as I have been trying to do since I was 13. You have made me realise that it doesnt matter if you are 'skinny.'
Thank you for inspiring me Zoe!
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Just reread through this blog post for the third time and every time I read it, it gets me a bit emotional. How stupid could a person be to be so blatantly rude and ask questions like that? What does it even matter to them? It doesn't matter at all. I am of average weight for my height and age but I have really big thighs. Now the reason I have big thighs is because they are all muscle due to the fact that I do Kung Fu. But people are constantly reminding me of them. A girl once said to me "We need to get some meat off those thighs." She said that straight to my face. Why does it matter to her that I have strong, muscled legs. It doesn't. Just like you said, we should all learn to love each other for the way that we are. I think everyone is beautiful no matter their shape or size! ^_^ xxx
I LOVE that you wrote about this! I have been faced with theses kinds of annoying people my whole life too. I have had many strangers approach me and make stupid remarks 'Hey stick insect' 'You should really eat more' etc. It made me really insecure about myself and I also dreaded getting into a bikini as I was the 5'10" boob-less, bum-less stick during High School.
I'm so glad that I have filled out a bit in all the right areas :) yaay!
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I appreciate that you've written this as it's a very difficult and touchy topic to tackle. I'm 5'1 & 1/2 and am typically around 90lbs most of the time. According to the doctor I should be 100-110 I believe based on BMI. I think it's absolutely ridiculous to try to lump everyone of a certain height to a certain weight etc based on a scale. Everyone's body is different and there is a different baseline for healthy for everyone. I might be skinny but I eat just about everything and anything and find I barely gain while if I get sick I lose weight very quickly.
Sometimes when I meet people they comment that I'm so skinny and am I anorexic and that I should eat more. It's quite frustrating that people assume things about me which are far from true. I've learned to just let those comments slide off of me now and not bother myself with them. I know my body best and that's what's most important.
I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who's dealt with this issue.
I know you wrote this ages ago, but I just wanted to say that you have put into words so eloquently what I've been feeling for years. I always feel really awkward when people talk about their weight, as if I have no right to be unhappy with my weight, which isn't true. So thank you so very much for writing this :)
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I'm going through a similar situation, except I'm overweight. Although, most people don't say anything to your face when you're overweight, they sure love to talk about it behind your back (even though they know it'll get back to you). They love it even more if they can actually make fun of you and laugh at you, acting as if we can't see it. I'm very self-conscious when it comes to wearing cute clothes, because it never looks good in my opinion. One day, however, I was wearing a cute summer dress, and I felt really pretty. I simply didn't care that day that it might not look good on me, I loved wearing it either way. Then, out of the corner of my eye I spotted a group of two girls and two guys basically laughing their arses off at me. They even pointed at me, and probably thought I didn't see it. I've never worn that dress since. (Wow, that sounded really dramatic, there :p) Anyway, the point is, it almost seems like we're fighting a pointless battle. I really don't understand how some people think it's okay to laugh at others because of their looks, or to comment about it. Just live your own life and leave ours bloody well alone. That's what I think, really.
I've actually now decided to go in for a Gastric Bypass Surgery, because I've been dealing with this for more than fifteen years (that's more than half my life!). It has been scary making this decision, and I haven't really told many people, but I'm just excited to finally start living my life.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that, even though I wish nobody would have to go through such an experience, it's still nice to know that I'm not going through it alone!
Also, your post has finally made me realise that the girl who bullied me in secondary school probably wasn't really happy with herself, and took it out on me because I always 'seemed' happy and confident in myself (even though I wasn't: I just faked it). So, thank you for that!
I totally agree with that! But you're so gorgeous zoe and i would love to look like you, stay strong x
I weigh the EXACT same as you, Zoe, but I'm a whopping 5'7"
I look like a pole and I get so many "compliments" which is really jsut people sussing out if I have an ED, which I don't.
Hi Zoe,
Its like this article read my mind, im fourteen years old, have had a lot of trouble with my very skinny body, ive been called a stick before by my own best friend, and once someone announced my weight to the whole class, all I can say is I cried for days wishing I never had this disgusting and ugly body. Everyone knows I eat like a pig, yet my high metabolism restricts me from putting on any weight, which is sad but its life and this is me. IM SKINNY. AND IMM PROUD TO BE. Ive been pushed over a lot, jus coz Im smaller than the others, I have HATED every time I wear a bikini on holiday, and I wouldn't dare change openly in front of my own friends, which is why I resort to hiding. My weight is my biggest insecurity, it has led me to shying away and hiding myself, which is bad, for a fourteen year old girl. This article made me realise a lot; there are people out there just like me. And zoe, I watch ALL your videos and admire you and you inspire me, and for someone to have gone through the exact same thing as me, and for her to be you, is the greatest feeling ever :) you have taught me to LOVE MYSLEF, I have aunties that ask me everyday, "when are you gonna put on some weight?" but they don't fricking understand, it just like you said – asking someone "when are you going to lose weight?" its horrible. And I may deal the rest of my life with these questions, but I can simply say, I WONT, I DONT HAVE TO. IM HAPPY WITH MYSELF, MY LIFE AND NO ONE CAN CHANGE IT. You have taught me to love my body and love the skin im in, I also get some eczema occasionally, which also has a massive impact on my security and happiness. But I am learning to love myself and my skin.
Thank you ZOE, for being the best inspiration to someone, you are special to me and all your loveable fans.
btw, I want to meet you, I live in the uk myselfXOX
I know how you feel im a teen and im really skinny and i just turned 5 stone which is good for me. I eat mIre than what my friends eat and they even admit it. But i never put on weight. My arms are really skinny and i hate taking my jacket off in public because im afraid of what everyone will think. Most people in my class understand about itand they say they are jealous but i tell them they are fine as they are. But the people who i thought were my friends call me a stick. I was looking through my friends contacts and i saw my name and next to it said 'the stick'. I was so hurt that i just left them i didn't talk to her for ages. It really hurt my feelings and made my confident levels go right down. I never really cared about how skinny i was until now. I looked at myself in the mirror and i cried for the rest of the night. But the one thing that hurt me the most when a really good friend of mine said 'you're so skinny your like a stick you need to go on a diet' i couldn't believe what she said and she said it to my face. Then she went and asked everyone else in the class if they thought i needed to go on a diet. I was so upset. My legs are skinny as well and i hate them. I hate changing before pe i do it 5 minutes before anyone comes in the changing room. Because its summer, i decided to wear shorts and go to town and everyone said that i looked really nice which boosted my confidence. I agree with this post so much and people need to understand that its not always fun being skinny
Wow! Just stumbled onto this after reading some of your other posts – so true! I'm 168cm and 55kg, which isn't ridiculously thin, but I get comments a lot. I actually get tired of reading magazines where they comment about having pictures of 'real women' (e.g. plus size models). I mean, really? I'm a real woman too, and I shouldn't have to feel like any less of one, just because I have a ridiculous metabolism. I don't starve myself either – I eat everything and anything, and then some, and I rarely exercise (which can't be good for me). Just because I have a smaller body size doesn't mean that I am of any less value. What is really important, besides loving who we are, is just flat out being healthy. If I was 120kg, I would be unhealthy. If I am my normal size and eat the way I do and never exercise, then I'm unhealthy. However, that's my challenge. It's my body. Having someone say, "Wow, you need to put on some weight" isn't the most encouraging use of the English language. Much love xx
thanks for posting this, it made me feel much better about myself..I am a skinny person too, and i don't like it. Maybe i would like it if people would stop calling me a very skinny girl. I have a very high metabolism and i hate that people don't understand that i'm not anorexic and i never was. So..thank you again for posting this, you really made me feel much better :)..and sorry if i made some mistakes but my native language isn't english.
I totally agree zoe! you are so pretty just as you are
i just started a beauty blog and i'd really like people to check it out! xx
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I don't know if you've tried it before and had bad consequences, but exercise can actually be very helpful in gaining weight- it's not about getting thin, it's about getting healthier.
I couldn't put it better myself! I've got such a weird body shape. I've got my low metabolism from my dad which means I am quite chubby but my mom has got an incredibly fast metabolism and her bones stick out a lot and for some reason I've inherited her very pointy bones. I've got countless people ask "why do your collar and shoulder bones stick out when your so fat?" I can see it from both sides of the scale and its so horrible. I really feel for you, I know it must have been hard to write this on the Internet. Your such an inspiration and there's no need to worry what people think:)
Love ash xxx
I'm so glad someone has addressed this! I have the same thing, where I am skinny because of my metabolism and I eat like a pig, but people called me anorexic. People don't realise that skinny people can be self-concious too! I dont like the boney-ness of my body and it makes me quite uncomfortable sometimes.
Thanks Zoe!
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You are an amazing inspirational person,thank you xx
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2 years too late, but just came across this! I was exactly the same and I remember crying to my mum about it and her saying 'everybody comes in different shapes and sizes'. I'm still underweight, but I'm happy with myself.
I've always said my metabolism will give up one day and I'll wake up on a broken bed, haha!
Everyone is beautiful, you just have to look for it :)
I have experienced the same and still do. People keep telling me that i am so skinny, oh you've become so think and I'm like when was i fat. As you said, it is the same as being fat and obese. I find it extremely difficult to put on weight the same way bigger people find it difficult to loose.
I cannot exercise much either because then i will loose more weight. I can loose weight like anything. Same as you i have high metabolism and it is extremely difficult to put on some flesh on my body.
Now, I kind of ignore when people call me skinny because it's just not worth wasting my time on bunch of people who i care a damn about.
Naaj xx
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You don't know how much this post helps. A lot of the things you said about when you were younger are happening with me. I've always been really skinny: it's in my genes and I have a fast metabolism as well. Part of me is glad I do because I can eat all the crap I want;) but part of my hates being so skinny. I agree 100% with everything you've said because most people don't realise how hurtful they are to people who are skinny by making comments like that. When I was in year 7 and had just started high school, a girl asked me 'are you bulimic?'. At that age I didn't even know what that was and had to ask my mum, and when I found out it really, really hurt me. It made me feel insecure about my body and made me worried that I am in fact too skinny – a worry I still suffer with now. But anyway, I only made this account so I could say thank you to you for understanding and making me feel like I'm not the only one. xxx
I agree with you. As long as you are happy, no-one has the right to judge how you look or how much you weigh. These are personal things and in my opinion you are beautiful <3
I totally agree with you, you've got all my support :)
Alice♡
Wow Zoe, I just love reading your blog posts and watching your videos. You are such an inspiration to me, so positive, and I just wanted you to know how much I appreciate your work. I look up to you, and you are one of my favorite role models. (Next to Louise) I always feel better after reading what you have to say. :)
Sincerely,
Megan
1) I'm not arguing but the point about having a high metabolism not being all it's cracked up to be, I disagree with because although you may think "i'm too skinny", People with low metabolisms have a harder time in life. A low metabolism means my friend and i (i have a low metabolism)could eat the same diet and do the same exercise but i could never be as skinny as her. I'm not trying to be rude but i don't like when people complain i'm too skinny (as in look-wise not health-wise because if your too skinny that you have health problems then you have a right to complain)because people who are overweight get made fun of and can't do as much in life but skinny people a lot of the time are praised and people are jealous of them!
2)I do not agree calling someone skinny is an insult because it is positive because in society skinny is beautiful and fat is negative and considered ugly.
P.S. sorry for ranting and i was not trying to be rude! :)
P.P.S. I love Zoe and i was not hating! Xx :)
wow, i feel so lucky to have come across this. I think you, and also Louise, are both so inspiring in talking about wieght. xx
Really well written post! I would say that I agree some of my friends are really skinny as well and on the other hand I have a few who are a bit "over average" and I think they are wonderful no matter what!
But I just think society thinks it's okay to be skinny than obese because skinny is considered "easy" to do something about when it sometimes really isn't!
I really do think you've got a great point there!
Christina xx
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I have had the exact same problem my whole life (as well as panic attacks & anxiety – mb connected?) and have suffered the same stuff you have. I even went to a dietitian who, instead of offering advice nicely, accused me of not eating, and when my Mum backed me up said my Mum must have a skewed view of a decent meal (needless to say I told her where to go and never went back.) I filled out a bit as I got older, but never got the whole boobs thing(gutted) but I have maintained around 8 stone for about 6/7 years now (at 5ft7.) But everyone ALWAYS comments "You're so skinny" how is that ok?! I hate it. Thank you for this blog so I don't feel so alone. :)
Hi Zoe, I feel the exactsame way as you do and the thing is my friends all thinkits okay fro saying "look how skinny she is!" or "I think you might need to go to the doctors" I am 5ft4 not so sure how much my weight is but I no I am slightly underweight and my wrists and ancles are so small (which makes it quite hard to find bracelets) thanks for this video it made me realise sod what people think about the way I look because I am happy and that is all that matters! xxxxx
thanks for helping me :)
Thank you so much, ive struggled with that too. Ever since I could remember I was know as that skinny chic, or that skinny girl, and my sister would say that I have the body of a little boy. Literally no (boobs) Nd no bum (pancake flat). My sister had curves and when ever she would wear something that is so cute I would try it on and I looks horrible and baggy and no shape at all. So I always told people that i wanted to gain weight because I am to skinny, and my friends would think that i Am bragging about being thin. And eventually when someone would say I'm to skinny I would say ,"your to fat." And i get called mean for it because they think being skinny is a good thing. And one time I got in an argument with my best friend and she called me "anorexic" I was so pissed I never talked to her again. I dont think people understand that being skinny isn't always so fun. And today I am 16yr, 5ft8in and 103lb and i cant gain any weight even after all the doctors supplements that i have been taking. I can only buy my pants from holister because that is the only store that has my size ( double zero) for my height, I have long chicken legs, and a gap so big between my legs you could fit a bus through it and wrist so small I cant wear most bracelets. I know I sound really stupid saying this, but this has really touched me, I hate being superskinny if I was just normal skinny ok but I look anorexic which is really hard because, one time a teacher followed me to the bathroom after lunch because she thought I was going to throw up my food, and asked me if i needed to see a counselor. I wanted to cry so bad. Everyday I felt akward because I didn't know how to work with being super skinny and tall so I would bend my back to be shorter and and doubled my pants so i would not look so skinny, because the school I went to most guys only liked girls with big bums and boobies. So you could imaging why I was so insecure about how I looked. I would stuff my bra and double my pants but that didn't help at all. But i really just learned to deal with it and I do wish to some day gain at least 20-25 lb I'd be ok. But until then.
I totally agree! I used to get called anorexic bitch in primary school and I constantly get asked if I have an eating disorder, ironically because of that I have developed a slight disorder and anxieties. I also hate it when people start comparing themselves to me, which can be just as bad. I get people (who sometimes can be good friends) coming up to me asking why can't they be skinny like me, which makes me feel so awful. I love this blog post, it's so great to know that someone feels the same way about this :) Thank you Zoee!!!
^^ I agree with you, and secondly you also imply negative connotations about being on the pill. I am on it and I am not in a relationship and there is nothing wrong with that. As MisfitToy said, there are other reasons for being on it, I have to be on it because I have a blood condition as well as other things. The fact that you are uncomfortable with that information is pretty immature
I feel you Zoey.. I go through the same as you, although I have yet to stop growing.. I am 153cm tall and weigh 38.6kg (my BMI is acceptable in school) All my life I've been told I was to skinny even by my mom.. People would tell me to eat more and to gain more weight. But I eat like alot when im out with my friends and I love eating anything unhealthy like you XD … But im also like super lazy and if LOTS OF FOOD + not much exercise.. won't it mean adding on a little weight but apparently I never seem to gain as much as 2kg more.. I have high metabolism too! well at least thats what I think :) but I have learnt to embrace it and Im happy in my own little shell..
Your writing skills are superb! I can read what ever you write anytime. Also what you write about is very 'aware', not like make up and stuff but real subjects that make people think about their actions.
I am also subscribed to your channel on youtube and i am petite like you.
You've made me open my mind to the weight situation in people.
Thank you
I only just found this haha, but I've always been bony too and I eat LOADS (not unhealthily) and I have always had very very skinny arms and legs, especially my wrists and ankles. I remember they used to weigh us at school and I got a letter saying my BMI was 0, the smallest on the chart. It's good to know I'm not the only one with extremely fast metabolism! :)
I am 13 and I get asked all those questions everyday. once this guy said to my face, "do you have cancer or anorexia?" I started crying but my bestfriends were there for me. I'm just glad that I'm not the only one who thinks it's unacceptable. P.S. Love your blog! And congrats on #Zalfie c;
I have the exact problem. My legs are mainly bones and same with my arms. I eat food like no other and my metabolism just started catching up haha but i learned to love it. Its a diffirent body type and for many years i wanted the strong calfs and the perfect fingers but like i said, my bony vainy fingers are just part of me haha im also 5'4 haha thanks for writing this blog! its comforting that someone goes through the same things that i go through.
I'm sure the doctor would, but not in the same way, not rude.
I totally understand what you're saying here, Zoe. When I was in middle school, people would tell me every day, "Ellen, you're really skinny." It was kind of awkward. What are you supposed to say to that?
When I was 15, my metabolism suddenly slowed down and I quickly gained weight. Now, I had people telling me they noticed I gained weight, which wasn't nice to hear either. You can't win.
People are going to comment on your body, whether you are too skinny or too fat, just because it deviates from "average". The best thing to do is just accept it. What helps me accept it is working out, so I guess that's where we're different.
So I get that I'm two years too late but I just read this article and it really touched me. I wanted to email you so I could be more open but you only have a business email so this will have to do. :)
Im 17 years old I am 5'5.5ft and I weigh about 115lb.I have been skinny my entire life and it was effected my life as much as someone who was overweight. People always labeled me as that "skinny" girl and when I was younger I didn't really mind. But at a got older around 12yr old it really started to hurt. I was "bony" and "poky". I was told I looked like a stick. I was super flat and had no curves. It hurt because all my friends were growing and I was still flat and thin. I used to hate how skinny I was and wish I could gain weight. I ate junk food too and NEVER exercised. And even after I hit puberty nothing really changed. Its only been in the last couple years 16-17 that I now have some hips, barely B cup boobs and a small perky butt (mostly from exercising) People still call me skinny and say I have no curves which hurts a lot, but im learning to accept my body. So I just wanted to say I understand and wish more people would be considerate about skinny people. I love you Zoe, always keeping it real :)
Nobody's perfect. We can embrace our imperfections! God made us the way we are!! Embrace your inner and outer beauty!!
I completely agree! I'm 13, and I have to put up with it too! :( I hate having a high metabolism.. people always say things like: "bet you starve yourself" "hmm.. I'd hate to be like you" "why are you anorexic?" everyone thinks that being skinny is a good thing, and then you get bombarded with these insults… Not many people think about what it's like to be naturally skinny.. :(
Being someone who is constantly stuggling to get into the 'healthy' BMI bracket, I actually DO get those same questions. I love my body the way it is, sure I want to be healthy and so want to loose some weight to make sure I'm healthy, but I love my curves otherwise. So it is incredibly hard to be reminded CONSTANTLY that i'm a bit heavier than I should be etc etc. I don't think it's any different either way, doctors should be more sensitive when talking to young girls about their weight either way! It is no better to be overweight than underweight, both are things that you will probably be aware of and could use less judgement and constant reminding of!
Stay beautiful, Zoe :)
It's like you're in my brain! I actually really appreciated this post – it's amazing to know that someone has gone through exactly what I'm going through and made it out the other end as someone who, seems to me, so lovely :)
ive always been really skinny and for my whole life people have made fun of me. But I never in my life have called someone fat. So why is calling me anorexic or lanky acceptable? It isn't but people just brush it off as okay. But I have learnt to just accept it because I can't change it, though it is still annoying or upsetting when people say that to me.
I've only just seen this post, but I agree. It's not right to say these comments to people. Although things are a bit different for me I feel similar, I think I am a normal size and weight. The whole BMI thing annoys me as well, my BMI is JUST below overweight (I'm not too familiar with all the terms but basically I am just within the bracket of being "heathly" or the "average" BMI). So you would think that there was nothing wrong and I look fine. (I think I look alright, not great but fine) but I am not healthy in the sense that I don't exercise or eat heathly.
My problem is that I am also of Asian Oriental decent. In Asian countries everyone loves to be skinny and it's not even healthly skinny, just skinny and because I am not, they see me as "fat" and I find it really upsetting. This is because unlike how you mentioned in this post that someone wouldn't make comments about people being overweight. In Asia they are very outspoken about it, for example my family will always make comments about my weight/ the way I look. It is the FIRST thing that comes out of their mouths. Not "Hey, how are you?" like a normal greeting/ conversation opening but "wow, you've gotten fatter" or "you gained weight" and it annoys me because I am not fat (in my eyes) and it doesn't help my already low self esteem.
In some ways you think, ok since they are family they are just looking out for you (in their kind of way) but then when we go out for meals with everyone (family friends – to me some are strangers) they will also comment or just say things that imply they are not happy with my weight – by saying things that basically mean "yea I think your daughter needs to lose weight" and this is across the table! It bugs me a lot and I feel so judged all the time because of it, but I think because their comments annoy me I just think "screw you! I am going to stay the way I am because you've said that!" lol I hate people telling me what to do and I'm stubborn because of it! :P
But at the end of the day it's like what you said, if you're happy about it, it's fine and I KNOW that I am not fat! So to me that is all that matters, I would however like to become more fit. I am exactly the same in running up the stairs and feeling completely exhausted afterwards! :P haha
Oh Zoe I know you probably won't see this BUT I just have to reply!!!! I can recognize me in EVERY SINGLE thing that you wrote!!!!!! I feel EXACTLY the same. I have also been skinny all my Life and got comments about it but I don't have any eating disorders. It's just who I AM! And it can be really hard sometimes and I have also asked myself the question thousands of times: "is it ok to comment to a skinny person but not on a fat" And EVERYTIME my answer is no. But at the end of the day, all that matters is what I THINK about myself and that I am HAPPY with it. I'm getting better but still ONE comment can make me fall… But I won't stop keep going, I'll always keep climbing no mater how deep I fall!!
You're my role model thanks for being you <3 You go girl! Much love from Sweden, Emma
Oh Zoe I know you probably won't see this BUT I just have to reply!!!! I can recognize me in EVERY SINGLE thing that you wrote!!!!!! I feel EXACTLY the same. I have also been skinny all my Life and got comments about it but I don't have any eating disorders. It's just who I AM! And it can be really hard sometimes and I have also asked myself the question thousands of times: "is it ok to comment to a skinny person but not on a fat" And EVERYTIME my answer is no. But at the end of the day, all that matters is what I THINK about myself and that I am HAPPY with it. I'm getting better but still ONE comment can make me fall… But I won't stop keep going, I'll always keep climbing no mater how deep I fall!!
You're my role model thanks for being you <3 You go girl! Much love from Sweden, Emma
Such a great post Zoe. Until you mentioned it, I didn't really think about how hurtful being called skinny can be. But I can totally see where you're coming from. If you have no control over it and you would like to have a few more curves it must be so upsetting. It is indeed as offensive as calling someone 'fat'.
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Wow! Zoe, this is one hell of a good post! I hate the idea of a BMI because who are they to just label someone like that! It really is amazing how you have addressed this issue from the other side of the scale because calling one fat or obese is as hurtful as calling one skinny or anorexic. I, for one, think that if you are happy in your own skin or if you are working towards something that will also make you happy then who are doctors and nurses to stop you!They think by telling you, you will try and watch yourself but really, they are all implying you to either starve yourself or eat unhealthy foods and wait to put on the pounds! As long as you feel happy then to hell with what everyone else thinks!
P.S I love your YouTube channel!!:)
I love this blog post! i don't mean it in an oh iam excited to read about "skinny" or "fat"people, because trust me. i know what it feels like. i have been dealing with weight, body image, buying clothes, wearing clothes issues my entire life. But mostly now. My own mother calls me fat and i can't do tumbling, cheerleading, or ballet because i have to wear a leotard and i am "too fat" to wear one. My grandma hints to me when she she's a slice of pie in the fridge, and says "oh, i can't eat it, or i will be fat like Denise!", they are constantly telling me to go workout because i am too fat and that i shouldn't wear this or wear that because i "look fat in it." It's so hard to take because i have and am dealing with an eating disorder, i am still battling and i dug half way out of the pit already all on my own, obviously without them because they don't give any support at all. Zoe really helped me understand and once again, internalize some things. Thanks Zoe;)
Couldn't agree more with you zoe! Even though I'm not very thin or very 'fat', I still don't feel very comfortable because society puts so much pressure on everybody to look 'perfect', whatever that means. I love you zoe! You're such a big inspiration
This is unreal how I suddenly found this post just as I was feeling really low about all this. Youve made me see that Im me and no one can change that! I absoloutly HATE my metabolism its crazy how fast it works and makes me all skinny urgh. a massive problem I have though is my collar bones sticking out so bad, eveyone just pokes them like what the hell is going on?
seriously it annoys me so much aswell when people are like 'omg your soooooo skinny…' its not a compliment ATALL so why say it!
Anyway, zoe i totally understand where your coming from on this post and i absoloutly ADORE you! if only you would see this *sigh*
Your such an inspiration to me and many others :*
love you zoe!!
I have an extremely slow metabolism and that, is also, rubbish! I sometimes just stare in the mirror and wander what it would be like to be super skinny. A lot of my friends are petite and have lovely figures, thigh gaps etc. however, they seem to look at it as a bad thing. It's easy to say I wish I had high metabolism but you never really realise that it may be difficult for some people. One of my friends was telling me how incredibly rubbish it is to be called 'anorexic' and be stared at and judge, she often questions me about would you rather be called anorexic or fat. Hard situation, I guess.
I feel like finally someone understands. In my school they call me anorexic and they say that probably I have eating disorders when actually I've been like this ALL my life. What people don't realize is that those comments hurt and that you shouldn't judge on anybody by their looks, we should just love how we are and accept the fact that everyone's different :)
thank you so much zoe, this has really helped me and i can relate to everything, i'm 14 and really really skinny, like people always give me odd looks and boys from my school call me too skinny. i've always been the skinniest out of my friends and only recently have i really started being conscious of it, with all the pressure of being 'perfect' and having big boobs nowadays. when i walk to places by myself in shorts or leggings i constantly worry if anyone is looking at me and being discusted by how skinny i am.. lots of people have called me 'discustingly' or 'dangerously' skinny without realising how much it upsets me. so thank you so much for writing this, i know it was two years ago but i just found it and i really appreciate knowing that i'm not the only one who's is/was like this :)thank u xxx
I completely agree. My class once had a science lesson in which we learnt about being healthy. Our teacher showed us pictures of both anorexic and obese people. One of my so-called friends then decided to say 'you look like her cos you're so skinny,' loud enough for the whole class to hear. I went beet root red and started tearing up, but the worst part was, she thought it was perfectly alright. People need to understand that maybe being skinny isn't all that good and these comments hurt. Much love, Mary xox
I'm totally agree with you, Zoe!
I'm 110lb (about 8st) and 5ft6". I have 32A size boobs and a 36" butt (a generous one for my frame I think) oh and I'm almost 23 and hit puberty 9 years ago.
When somebody says something about how thin I'm, I feel free to tell them what I think about their body =) They usually respond with silence. And when during a lunch break at the university people look at me with some strange unfriendly expression while I'm eating a big bread roll (my fave), I tell them to envy silently, and continue eating.
I would say to all thin people out there…stand for yourself and do not let anybody laugh at you or say bad things about you!
Wow I experienced the same situation. You typed out exactly how I felt when I was in my teenage years and me right now in my young adult stage. I hate my boney body so much but I love to eat. Putting on weight is a struggle for people like us, who are high in metabolism.
All I'm trying to say is thank you for this post and love you! Keep doing (eating) what you like and whatever makes you happy!
Love you
xoxo
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OMG ZOE i'm 15 right now and I'm literally so happy I found this post because it basically explains everything i feel. This whole summer I've been actually trying to gain weight but it seems as though i really can't no matter how much i try. I've also always thought the exact same thing as to why it's even acceptable to call someone out on being too skinny when they wouldn't ever do it to an overweight person. They don't understand that it is an insecurity and DON'T YOU THINK THAT I KNOW THAT ALREADY?
Hi, I understand what are you talking about. I have the same problem whole my life. My parents are both very skinny and my sisters to. Since I started school everybody were telling me that I am too skinny and anorexic, and because I have very pale skin they were also telling me that I look like drug addict. I totally agree with you nobody never asks fat people questions like that because they think they will hurt them but unfortunately they can't see that being called too skinny, anorexic, bag of bones etc. actually hurts as much as being called fat. :/
I get you, people are like that with me even my best friends are like "Anna are you anorexic" and I tell them all the time no but they still ask me
That was really nice, I do love your blog posts, they make me feel really happy and like I want to go an live my life. Thank you!
I have never thought that those who are skinny have self conscious problems like heavier people. I myself have struggled with accepting how I look since third grade. I always compared myself to other girls. Now that I look back, I realize that I wasn't an obese child like I had thought I was. I was just chubby. On the other hand, my sister was like you. She had a very high metabolism and could eat anything, but not gain an ounce. I was jealous of her. Now I wonder if she felt like you do. I always thought skinnier people loved their shape. I have been the person that tells someone they are skinny occasionally, but only because I'm so aware of my image compared to others. I hate to think that you or anyone else has felt bad about themselves because of their weight. I should listen to my own advice, but the mirror keeps that from happening. Just remember God made you and he doesn't make any mistakes. You are beautiful and loved by millions.
I wholeheartedly agree with you Zoe! Some people are just too ignorant, I mean I'm 4ft11" and weigh 44 kg, which is considered appropriate, but that doesn't mean that I look skinny either! It's all about bone structure, genes and metabolism just like you said!
I loved reading this post. Sooo glad to know I'm not the only one that eats wheelbarrow loads and still ends up being a size 6 and keep being told to eat more pies!
I don't know about anyone else, but I myself am quite overweight. I am 5ft3 and 9st12lb and unlike what you'd think people actually do come over to me and ask the fat equivalent to the questions they ask you…
Best post ever! I've always been a skinny kid and everyone was always saying how I needed to put on weight and stuff and it really did hurt! This kinda thing still happens in my class, girls are always pointing out someone in our class who is 'skinnier than average' and makes them feel bad about themselves for it, it's really horrible.
Zoe! Wow thank you so much, I am naturally skinny and bony too (super metabolism sucks, right?;)) I am constantly being told how skinny I am and it's so rude! Respect for writing this! P.S love your videos xxx
Zoe! Wow thank you so much, I am naturally skinny and bony too (super metabolism sucks, right?;)) I am constantly being told how skinny I am and it's so rude! Respect for writing this! P.S love your videos xxx
I have the same problem. People approach me on the streets ands ask me if I'm anorexic. And you wouldn't go up to someone in the street and just say " are you obese?" People always wish to be skinny, but being skinny is as bad as being fat. It doesn't feel nice to be skinny. I can't look in the mirror without feeling disgusted in myself and my body. I'm glad you posted this, however long ago it was. It's opened mŷ eyes and I bet it has affected many others.
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I think one explanation for people commenting more freely about a skinny person is just jealousy – you have a body type that others wish they could have, which isn't the same for larger people, so it seems more like a compliment than an insult. Jealousy could also be in play when someone says something obviously rude – they could be attempting to make themselves feel better about their body by pointing out or exaggerating the flaws with your body, while in reality they wish they looked more like you. That doesn't make it right though. The same thing happens with bigger boobs – for some reason it's ok to comment on how giant a big girl's boobs look or to point out that they'll sag or that they look more slutty (pro tip: no, it's not ok). Thanks for posting this.
I really appreciate this, Zoe. I'm naturally a bit overweight and I really struggle with it. Especially when people make comments about it, even in a subtle way. I guess I never really thought about it on the other side, if I was 'too skinny'. I've always seen it as a wonderful thing to be skinny, considering the people that are usually get more compliments than I do. But now I've been able to see that even if a girl is skinny, they still have insecurities and don't like their body. And as much as I wish that I was 'too skinny', it isn't me and I should appreciate the body I was given. So thank you so much for opening my eyes.
Zoe, you are absolutely right! Nobody is perfect. Everybody looks different, has different body, weight and height. Nobody can say to as: you are so fat, you are so skinny. My body is only mine and if I like it and I feel good in my skin, nobody shouldn't judge me.
And I love you Zoe! You are so pretty. I like so much watch your videos on yt and read your blog. :)
Hi Zoe!! I recently started watching you on YouTube because I've seen you in Louise's videos and I absolutely love you! You're so gorgeous and adorable inside and out, and it never ONCE crossed my mind that you are too skinny. I agree that it is totally inappropriate to make assumptions and negative comments about others, especially strangers! People can be so thoughtless and rude.
I did want to say though that exercise wouldn't make you skinnier. In your case it would just build muscle and strengthen your heart and lungs and what not. Unless your doctor says otherwise, if you want to exercise, go for it!
I went through a really bad time of being anorexic, it was horrible and i could'nt believe what was happening to myself. I dropped to 3 stone exactly. But after 18 months i started to put on weight , i now weigh 6st 4lb and am pretty happy with my weight. However people awlays say to me 'how are you so skinny?' 'you are skin and bone' 'skinny minny' when evidently i am not. People need to understand being skinny can be down to anything and need to stop asking questions or saying remarks. Skinny/Obese people would'nt say things to you about your 'normal/average' weight, so why is it okay for you to say things to them.
one of my fav blog posts! this needs to be shared more.
I know this is an old blog but what the heck. If you have super metabolism then i have Super-Duper Metabolism. I'm a guy 5ft 11inch and am just over 9st… WTF
I agree,
I can't say I'm the same, but I am desperately trying to put weight on. I'm not the skinniest person I know but hi can see my ribs through my skin. Not very clearly though :-) My friends are always saying to me, ure so small ure so skinny you only weigh so much. And I want them to know that everyone has insecurities, and just because the are slim not skinny, they do not have the right to adress me as one of the skinny b*****s! So yh
I love you so much Zoe. This kind of post is what makes you different from other Bloggers/Youtubers. And this is what I love about you.
+My cousin is ecxactly like you! Her metabolism is so high she just eats all day and night long and my 7 year old brother can carry her! So, we come in all shapes and sizes, and we are all unique.
I know that this was written a long time ago but i happen to have stumbled upon this just now,and i can't tell you how happy and relieved i am that you have written this. I am in the exact situation you described above right now, and it is awful. Nobody understands how horrible it is to be so skinny, and all my friends and most girls in my year are in the average size bracket, whereas i am as far from it as possible. I am severely underweight, even more so than you were zoe,(not to say your experience was any better than mine) but to give you an idea of how 'super' my metabolism is, i am 5ft8 and i weigh less than you do.I cried at how happy i was to have seen that someone else has been through this, and i'm not the only one. Even though my best friends are all awesome and amazing people who don't care how much i weigh, i do feel lonely sometimes because nobody understands what it is to have a high metabolism and i can't really talk about it with them. Its very hard to cope with boys as well, because they do not understand how i can be so skinny without having an eating disorder and they talk about it a lot and it makes me very uncomfortable. Boys do not like skinny girls, and i hate to be reminded of this so often, even by my close guy friends. So many people think i have an eating disorder when i eat just as regularly and as much as other people of my age and i'm very greedy and snack a lot as well. However, if i'm eating with other people, i always feel pressured to eat loads of junk and much more than i actually want, just so it looks like i'm eating more than a normal person would. I only do this because if even for a second i take a break from my meal, or say i'm full up, or don't finish my food, even if i happen to have eaten more than other people have anyways, i always get funny, concerned or pitying looks. I hate it and no one understands. This is why this post is so important to me and i thank you so so much for giving up a considerable chunk of your personal, private life, because i know you do this alot and it must be very hard and scary to do it. In sharing this part of your life you have however helped a lot of people, myself most definately included. It is just good to know that someone understands, because that is my main problem, that nobody gets it. They don't get how i can be so skinny and not be depressed, anorexic or bulimic, and as much as they say 'yeah, yeah, we know you have a high metabolism' i can still see them giving me worried looks when i don't have an absolutely massive meal, or say i'm not that hungry, just like any normal person would. They still ask me 'how do you stay so skinny' like they're trying to suss out if i have an eating problem or i diet or something. I cannot gain weight, and haven't been able to for many years because of my metabolism and have always been skinny and people just don't get that. It especially makes it worse as i am so tall, and i'm still growing taller, but i'm not putting on weight. When people come up and ask me 'why are you so skinny?', do they think i like being bony, having old woman hands, being a lanky beanpole, having tiny boobs, bony hips and a flat bum? Do they think i like being insecure around boys and intimidated by other girls? They just don't get it, but this post has helped me so much to know that other people understand, and hopefully, it well get better and i'll maybe get a bit more average-ish (or as close to it as i can be) when i'm older.
Thank you so much Zoe x
I am exactly the same! Atm I am 8st 1lb , 5ft 3" and very pleased! Up until I was twelve I was 3.5st but i ate like a pig. When I was about 13, I began shaking, getting very dizzy and nearly passing out on a regular basis which wasnt much fun. my friends all thought i wasnt eating, and were always looking down their noses at me which made me feel bad about myself. I went to the doctors who said i was below the healthy BMI and my blood sugars were low, so I had to take blood sugar tests twice a day. Even though i was eating more food than my parents, i couldnt keep any of my weight on and lost 2st when i was ill. we went back to the doctors again and this time my blood pressure was so low they rushed me into hospital because they thought my heart was failing! then after nearly 20 different blood tests to try and find out what was wrong with me, it turns out i just have a high metabolism and i find it really hard to put weight on.I find that eating a lot of food, not necessarily healthy all the time and exercising keep me a healthy weight, even if i am still thin :/ I am happy with the way i look even if i do get comments from people asking if im anorexic or if the clothes i wear are kids clothes(??) thanks Zoe for letting me know i am not the only one :)
i agree :) people have reasons for being how they are, im the same only i get asked if i have a reason im fat, but then the doctor tells me im underweight so i dont get it :\ but i think that you dont look 'Very skinny' and you dont look 'underweight' in all honesty you look fine and stunning :) xx so ignore everyone who thinks else wise haha because they are only jealous haters :) xx
I recently lost about 30 pounds which was where I needed to be healthy, and suddenly people started making comments about how id be invisible if i lost anymore weight, and it really depresses you!!! I just kept on thinking "i tried so hard to lose my extra weight and no has apprecited it other than my doctor"
Zoe, I am so glad you had written about this, even though this was 2 years ago. I am in the exact same position. I am small and skinny and I absolutely hate it. But the way you look or what size you are can't be changed. I look in the mirror every day hoping to put weight on. One of my friends even commented on my weight saying 'you're too skinny'.. I felt like saying, so there is a specific look to be normal is it? But I didn't reply I just looked at her in shock! And I know there isn't! People always ask me how old am I, so I tell them 15, and 9 times out of 10 I get 'Are you serious? You look about 11' which really puts me down! :( This post really touched me! Zoe I look up to you so much! Not just because your a really popular youtuber but because of the way you act, and your not afraid to show off your legs even though you sometimes say that you don't like your legs in some of your vlogs, I feel exactly the same but i should learn to love my body and seriously you have given me confidence, i'm sure im not the only 15 year old girl who feels like this and I bet so many girls feel way better after reading this! X
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I read this and literally started crying. I am 5'4" and have never been able to weigh more than 105. I completely agree that people are out of line to comment on anyone's body figure. Things people say can remain as scars. Few examples, one of my customers at work today offered to give me his plate because I looked like I was starving, and then laughed. I shrugged it of. A week ago, a server refused to take my plate from the table because she said I was too thin and needed to eat more. This translates to me as "You look sick, eat something." There is nothing I can do to gain weight. It is a battle to maintain my weight.
The best point in your post, who cares how much you weigh as long as you feel good. Thank you for sharing this for everyone to read.
I get asked this so much, literally the most annoying thing ever. So glad i've been stalking your blog and found this post! :) xx
I've been waiting for someone to say this for a long time, I know I've always wanted to. Ever since I was very young I've thought there was something wrong with me and wondered why I wasn't like everyone else, although now I understand that I'm completely normal. It was just other people that made me feel like I wasn't. People should really realize that it's not okay to tell a skinny person to "go eat a couple cheeseburgers" any more than it's okay to tell someone who's overweight to get off the couch and go for a run. I've been tall, skinny, and bony my whole life and it hasn't been easy. I thought I was the only one who was like this! I know I'm a little late to reading this blog post but I just wanted to say how glad I am you wrote it and I hope you read this comment so you know that you made me feel better! :)
This has really helped me :) x
I think you`re right :) For example my father always points out how fat I`m and it hurts me :(
Zoella I love you so much, seriously you are the most amazing beauty guru on YouTube (: Most of them are just dumb, fake girls who cake on makeup and don't seem to care about their fans, but you and a select few others actually display things more than just exterior beauty that really make you such a role model. Although I've never been bullied about weight, I used to have horrible, HORRIBLE acne, and the sad thing is I'm only 13, and people said horrible things to me everyday. It's mostly cleared up now but the scarring, physically and mentally, is still there. I can't thank you enough for how inspirational this article is, your viewpoint on not commenting on someone's weight really goes to any sort of physical trait, such as big ears, shitty skin, etc. I love you so much and please continue to be yourself and make amazing YouTube videos!
I have been saying the exact same thing for years. I hate the fact that I am "skinny" and when people feel the need to tell me how slim I am they are usually so rude about it and it's actually offensive. Lovely post, even if it is a touchy subject :)
i feel the same way Zoe,but personally i think you look amazing! x
Wow Zoe that was really insightful. One of my good friends has always been skinnier then me (i know its high metabolism, an all) and for the longest time I was so jealous. Then, idk, one day I just looked at myself and though "hold on! i like me! i love me! i was given this body for a reason, it's the only one I'm ever going to have (unless I get in a freak accident and pull a 'Freaky Friday' haha) s why not accept it and love me the way I am. And I do. Everyday I say one thing I like about myself (bony wise and personality) and just doing this has really boosted my confidence. Of course some days I feel like crap ("god i wish i had her flat tummy…") but who doesnt have those days, I just remind myself that I am the way I am, and I am healthy and active and thats all that matters!
Sorrt for the ramble :)
I agree. I get that all the time and I just tell them "Im Scandinavian" as some kind of excuse to stop them asking questions. I still get weird looks though and people saying they "wished they had a body like mine" they really don't…
You are beautiful Zoe! Never forget :)
Emma xx
I literally get these comments every single day, from random people I've never even met before. It's rude and really hurtful, it angers me so much I end up wanting to shout or do something violent, but normally I just walk away. Even friends of mine who know this is a hurtful subject constantly comment on how "ill" I look, and I'm above the healthy weight for my height! I just look "too skinny" I'm so glad you've posted this because this is literally the subject that annoys me more than anything else. I hope a lot of people see this!
i have been trying to find someone just like me x i am also very skinny and hate it most people would want to be but i agree they just dont understand, and people can think there complimenting when there saying.
"wow your so skinny" "how do u get that thin"
but it just makes you feel worse knowing people do notice. im 14 and i guess some people think i try to get skinny too like girls in magazines, everytime i try to put on weight it doesn't work. so glad i found someone with the same problem as me – i know that sounds mean but i thought id never find someone like me x
I've always been the exact same. People can be quick to judge and don't seem to think about how their words may effect you.
I just found this and I actually cried because I am the exact same way. People always say "you're so skinny" or "i wish I was as skinny as you" or joke and say things about me being anorexic but I just have an extremely high metabolism where it is impossible for me to gain weight. I try so hard by eating so much and things with extra protein and tablespoons of peanut butter before bed but nothing ever changes. I'm like the 15 year old you being unhappy with their body and its hard. This made me feel a lot better though!
Love you Zoe <3
I hate it so much when people say to me that i am skinny! i am tall too but it's not nice that people say: u are so tall and skinny…
Can't believe I've only just read this, honestly just gained so much respect for you by reading this. I completely agree with you. I think the reason for this, however, is because people seem to think that it's very easy to put on weight so they think if you're skinny it's because that's the way you want to be however some of the time it's simply because that's the way they are, but I think you're very brave for posting this and there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look. You have to remember that the people that approach you and say these horrible things about you are only the minority and you have plenty of people, including myself, supporting you and loving you. Although I can not relate myself it's touched me and I thank you for posting this and giving others a different view on something so serious like this. I think people have a pretty distorted view on society and weight has become some massive thing in which you are made to feel that you have to be a certain way and if you're not then you're not beautiful which of course isn't the case. The most beautiful people are the ones with a smile on their face, living their lives. Just remember, looking through the comments on this post, for every bad comment you get regarding your weight you have 100 comments supporting you and complimenting you.
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I understand how you feel about being "too skinny" to everyone else and always hearing other peoples comments about it. I'm 5'1 and 93 pounds, people always ask me if I eat.
I recently went to a check up at my GP, and since my normal doctor retired, I had to go to a different woman. As soon as I walked in she asked when was the last time I had weighed myself. Similar to you, Zoe, I told her I dont normally keep track of my weight, and that it tends to fluctuate between 45 and 47 Kg. She then proceeded to weigh me and measure my height. According to her, I am severly underwieght and I need to eat more. That was ok, I could deal with that comment, A lot of people had told me that before (although I actually do Eat like a pig!) but what upset me the most was when she asked me whether I was specifically keeping myself skinny in order to ruin my chances of giving birth in the future. FIRSTLY IM ONLY 17 YEARS OLD! SECONDLY IVE BEEN SKINNY SINCE BIRTH! I wanted to slap that b*tch across the face. She was very unproffesional in the way that she addressed the issue, and it left me in tears. Needless to say, I am not going back to that doctor again.
wow! i totally agree! awesome text. :)
in my eyes you are perfect <3 i love you :)
oh my gosh this post is so relatable! I have the exact same thing, my BMI is lower than 'it should be' and my sister calls me anorexic and thinks i have an eating disorder, even my parents occasionally ask me if i've been eating properly.. and it sort of gets to you. But the thing is i am completely comfortable with my body and how skinny I am, like there are things I would change but, I feel healthy. Even though I eat like shit haha.. but then when someone mentions it, i'm like oh… right ok… thanks for pointing that out.
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It's the way society has unfortunately become, so many people think fat = ugly and skinny = beautiful. That's why people think it's acceptable and some even think it's a compliment to tell someone how skinny they are because in the world of eating disorders it's what people want to hear. It's not right at all! Beauty isn't about your height or your WEIGHT. Beauty is about who you are inside. I must admit though I've never thought about how self conscious thin people can feel before and how offensive being called thin can be because I'm not exactly thin myself so have never been called 'skinny'. Thank you for making me see another side to things and you're so beautiful the way you are Zoe, never change! <3
i love this post Zoe! this has also happened to me before, i went into my local doctors to have a review on my tables and i ended up getting measured and weighted as my doctor thought i was under weight, it really knocks your confidence and i come out thinking "Why did he do that? is there something wrong with me?" and not many people understand this! x
I just stumbled upon this post, and I loved it!
It's so nice to see someone writing about this topic freely and openly :)
So thanks you Zoe!
This is such a good post Zoe. I can totally relate to you because I was very skinny when I was a child and I remember being told so a lot. One girl used to call me matchstick everyday! Then when I was a teenager I was still quite thin (but probably in a good way – a size 8-10) and I remember these ladies at work made up a rumor that I was bulimic. They said I must be because I ate so much food and still remained thin! I look back and laugh at it all now, but it wasn't very nice at the time. When I got to about 30 (I'm 33 now) I put on weight and am now a size 10-12. Anyway you're a stunning girl. xxxx
I've also been asked why I'm so skinny. The funny thing is I am just average size and it always puts me by surprise when someone says that I am skinny. That's not how my body type is. However, I've had people come up to me saying how lucky I have that I have to have bf or they wish I had my life, etc. What's makes me upset is when they say my life is better than theirs. And it's quite frustrating for me because my life has its downs and I know people wouldn't want to experience those downs. I just wish they were thankful for all the good things they have. It just makes me sad. :(
You are lovely and beautiful inside and out Zoe. :) You always will be! I hope you're having a great September so far!
This is the most inspiring piece of writing I've ever seen and i am a bit over weight and i am doing something about it, but this has also helped me look at how lucky i am really lucky and that a lot skinnier people are feeling the same as me. I also agree completely that no one should judge anyone about their weight as everyone is different, I've been called "fat" in the past and yet the people that are saying this to me are not always so perfect themselves xx You are gorgeous the way you are and i am glad you touched upon this subject as it is very important and more people need to be aware of this xx
YES!!! A million times, yes. I've wanted to say something like this my entire life. I was always "underweight" and scrawny growing up – some of the boys in my Jr High gym class made a game out of trying to push me over while we jogged around the gym. So, I feel you.
I finally filled out to what I thought was "average" in high school though, generous bust and all. But it took until I got pregnant and had a baby this past year to realize…I was (and still am) pretty tiny. I'm completely happy with my body though, and am relatively healthy, so I can't complain about that…I hope you can grow to love your body too :) it really is liberating. Freaking hard, but it is so worth it once you're on the other side.
The thing that bothers me, though, about size and weight and all, is the clothing industry and sizes! I mean, obviously there are people like you who can wear the coveted "size zero" jean – but I am a solid size 10 in jeans and dresses and all. I can't buy shirts smaller than XL either due to my bust. Yet I still get comments on "how skinny" and "tiny" I am…all the time! So why do women covet these teeny tiny sizes, when they won't necessarily look their best if they were that small? Or if their bone structure won't allow them to be that small???? ugh fashion. I love it and hate it at the same time.
Anyway. This is ridiculously long. And you already have so many lovely comments, so you may not even read this one. I should just write my own post on my own blog with my own rantings and ravings on the subject ;) you are awesome, and I am so happy you shared these things with the world!
YES!!! A million times, yes. I've wanted to say something like this my entire life. I was always "underweight" and scrawny growing up – some of the boys in my Jr High gym class made a game out of trying to push me over while we jogged around the gym. So, I feel you.
I finally filled out to what I thought was "average" in high school though, generous bust and all. But it took until I got pregnant and had a baby this past year to realize…I was (and still am) pretty tiny. I'm completely happy with my body though, and am relatively healthy, so I can't complain about that…I hope you can grow to love your body too :) it really is liberating. Freaking hard, but it is so worth it once you're on the other side.
The thing that bothers me, though, about size and weight and all, is the clothing industry and sizes! I mean, obviously there are people like you who can wear the coveted "size zero" jean – but I am a solid size 10 in jeans and dresses and all. I can't buy shirts smaller than XL either due to my bust. Yet I still get comments on "how skinny" and "tiny" I am…all the time! So why do women covet these teeny tiny sizes, when they won't necessarily look their best if they were that small? Or if their bone structure won't allow them to be that small???? ugh fashion. I love it and hate it at the same time.
Anyway. This is ridiculously long. And you already have so many lovely comments, so you may not even read this one. I should just write my own post on my own blog with my own rantings and ravings on the subject ;) you are awesome, and I am so happy you shared these things with the world!
I hate how my family members and relatives would always comment on my build. Like "you're so skinny". They don't even seem to find it offensive. Honestly they should try putting themselves into my shoes. I'm getting so frustrated with their comments
I totally agree with that post, I have always been a skinny girl like you, all my mother family are skinny too and I hate when people start to say things about you without knowing nothing, like: You don't eat enough, you don't eat anything, but I eat a lot and somedays I'm always hungry so I'm always eating and people say you have a disorder bla bla bla And I love to know that I'm not the only person with the same problem :)
I totally agree with that post, I have always been a skinny girl like you, all my mother family are skinny too and I hate when people start to say things about you without knowing nothing, like: You don't eat enough, you don't eat anything, but I eat a lot and somedays I'm always hungry so I'm always eating and people say you have a disorder bla bla bla And I love to know that I'm not the only person with the same problem :)
this is a really good article i've never really considered whether calling someone really skinny is appropriate or not but now i'll be sure to take more notice and I agree that its wrong to judge a skinny person as being ill or having an eating disorder of some sort without question. this is an inspiring blog post and I think you and all other people are beautiful no matter what shape or size :) bit clitche sorry
It's so strange the way society judges us on our weight and overall looks. I'm almost the complete opposite of you in this sense Zoe, I was 13 with a stone for each year a few years ago, but fortunate to bypass to-my-face comments (or unfortunate as you may see it – bitching :/), but the feeling of judgement by others and unhappiness in ourselves is exactly the same. It's a touchy subject, however when you are larger, everyone knows you have a weakness, and believe you're the opposite of the 'ideal'. When you are slimmer, most are jealous, and comment because they believe that slimmer people have it easier as it is more acceptable in society today. The most important thing is do what makes you happier and more confident, and believe that you are beautiful, because you are. Zoe, you're amazing for addressing these issues and I'm so happy that I stumbled across your blog, please keep doing what you are because it brings a little light into a lot of peoples days :) Alex xx
this is exactly like me :O
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I agree with you Zoe. I feel like today it seems like it is everybody's business and right to tell everyone how to look, and especially girls and women. It's getting really annoying that people preach about "you should be who you are" and still can't let any one else be the way they want.
I am insecure about some things about my body but I am still happy with who I am. But if someone would come and tell me to change I would get really upset as I have built up a self-esteem that keeps me on the right track and as you said, who are they to tell you who you should be? I think as long as you feel good and are happy no one should interfere and try and change you.
I have friends who are skinnier than the "average" and feel the exact same thing as you and they get really emotional talking about it. Everyone should read this blog post and just take in the information and be careful of other peoples feelings.
i thought skinny people with "super metabolism" are the happiest people on earth for being able to eat everything and not gain weight but u have shown me otherwise. i have the same problem but in reverse im a fat girl and yes to answer u we do get all the comments and name callings that you listed above and it hurts.
thank u zoe for showing us that everybody is beautifu in their own way :)
I can relate SO much to this. My whole childhood and my teenage years (which I am still in the middle of) I have been asked ''Why are you so skinny?'', ''You are lucky to have stick legs.'',''Wow you are SO skinny!''and ''Are you anorexic?''. Even my teacher has called me a bag of bones in front of the whole class, thinking it would make me feel happy or satisfied of my body. And every year we go to the school nurse to get a check up, and they always say ''Your BMI is very low. Are you eating enough?''. I don't think people realize how embarrassing it is and how much it hurts to be called 'skinny' or 'bony' or 'model thin'.
Thank you so much for making to post, it made me feel a lot better.
Hey Zoe,
Well i just wanted to tell I have the same problem, only i'm not exactly extremely skinny, my ankle and wrists etc. are extremely skinny and it sometimes hurts for me to do handstands in gym and stuff. My friends always used to ask me why my wrist was so small and why my fingers were so skinny. I dont even know why and i dont know what it is, but i know this isnt a problem. I just hate it because i can't wear bracelets properly and stuff around my wrists. I know how you feel but in a different way. thank you for this and you just need to know you are perfect! <3
xxxx Whatsername
First of all I think you're beautiful. I think that you are hilarious and I love that you can be one of the guys and still be considered beautiful. Had to say that. Haha.
As I was reading your post I do agree that awkwardly pointing out anyone's weight is not necesssary and it really shouldn't matter as much as it does.
You kind of played both sides of the fence in this blog post comparing fat people vs skinny people and the problems that they face when it comes to comments about weight. I have problems with my own weight and struggle with an eating disorder (yes I am overweight and have an eating disorder so there goes the stereotype that only skinny people have eating disorders)and people do say things to me all of the time. My doctor once asked me out of nowhere if I wanted to go see a nutritionist (before I was diagnosed with ED) and I'm like well this is awkward. I have had doctors always ask about my parents and always question my weight. Literally doctors try to tell me that the reason behind most of my problems is my weight so I just stopped going. Also, I am always that person that people go to if they are starting some new fitness routine and they're like "aww wanna join this with me, or wanna eat healthy together"? Like no, thanks for asking and slyly telling me I should be the one that goes with you because I need it.
There really can't be an argument made that skinny people have it harder than fat people or vice versa. Either way its some awkward shit and everyone that is not in the socially acceptable weight zone gets comments no matter if they are skinny or fat.
I love you! and you are beautiful just the way you are. :)
Id just like to answer your question (if they would ask that for a fat kid) yes they would, i dont know what its like in England (i live in Brazil) but here, they do ask. I'm fat, and I'm not saying it bc i want complimments and stuff, i am really fat and ober weight and they always ask me if my parents are fat and those things…
I love you sooo much bye!
i too used to be super skinny until i turned like 14 (now i do gain weight, but not easily, ideal situation :)), the worst for me was when a doctor was looking at my weight statistics and asked me whether i used to have anorexia. i told her no, but i could CLEARLY tell she didn't believe me. she just went 'ookay if you say so…' -.-
nowadays for me the equivalent comment is 'wow are you twins?! you look sooooo similar, there's no way to tell yuo two apart!!' i have a identical twin, which is something i absolutely hate! i hate looking like someone else, i hate always being 'one of the twins' like i'm not a person on my own at all… and i hear this every. single. bloody. day.
i think these kinds of things bother a lot, when it's something you're already insecure about… i'm also 5'11 so i get comments about that too a lot but at least people usually follow up with the 'you could be a model' which could be taken as a compiment xd
i just don't see why people feel the need to comment on other peoples bodies in the first place? if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything!
The amount of times I could relate to this post is more than I would like and it really really really bothers me when people comment on my weight like this too because I take it as an insult since I can't control it. Most people almost always ask if I've had an eating disorder when they first meet me or say that I look unhealthy and I need to eat more but what they don't know is I WISH I could put on the weight and look normal. Even when my friends say they wish they were as skinny as me, I always say no they don't because it isn't fun having people assume you're anorexic. What they don't understand is that it hurts just as much when you insult someone for being underweight than when you insult someone for being overweight. Thank you so much for posting this because I've always felt alone on this topic and I could never really talk to anyone about it since everyone just complains about me complaining about being skinny. So thank you from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
I know the feeling…I am skinny and super short, and I am always told that I need to grow or gain weight…I'm glad I found this…I love ya Zoe!!!!!
Wow Zoe I feel a lot better I'm just like you soo skinny any people say " oh my god your so skinny" and my legs are like sticks and my hands are bony… I don't like it
Hi, I agree with you about it not being fair being called "too skinny" it doesn't make you feel better and it's just plain rude but the BMI is there for a reason because people who are massively overweight or massively underweight can die because of that. And the nurse was probably just doing her job to care for your health especially since nowadays so many people are pro-ana (which is horrid) but I can definitly see why you would feel awkward (I'm not attacking you since I simply love your blogs and videos :) ).
Also. doing sport wouldn't make you lose weight but fat (which you don't need) but it would build up your muscle and muscle weighs more than fat so maybe if you started getting fitter (can you say that?) then you would weigh more. Please don't bombard me with hate comments or whatever I'm just stating my opinion and trying to be helpful
Thank You Zoe for writing this, I am exactly like your 14 year old self going through this at the moment, I just turned 14 and am no where near as big as any of my friends or most of my class, I am quite tall and have long legs which makes it almost impossible to find jeans (Topshop is the only place I find any that fit me properly) and it is really good to read through that other people understand what its like. I have been called all those sorts of things when I eat as much as any of my friends, easily, and I don't think many people understand how much it hurts,as they think that is a blessing being skinny, but it really is not! I really look up to you and thank you so much for helping me feel a little more confident in my body xx
You are beautiful the way you are Zoe! :)
People would always call me anorexic, particularly boys, even when I probably ate more than them! So nice to see lots of other people commenting saying the same thing:)
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Thank you so much for posting this Zoe. This describes me perfectly. I never know what to respond when people say "how are you so skinny?" I'm a naturally very thin girl and thankfully have finally put on some weight, but I still get these questions and I don't think people understand how that kind of question affects some one. Thank you again Zoe. I love you so much, you're my role model. <3
I'm so glad you made this post because i have the same issue, people always say to me 'why are you so skinny?' and make me feel really low about myself and how I look. People just don't understand how it can hurt or insult someone commenting on their size, 'fat' or 'skinny'
I really agree, a touchy subject for many people. in my opinion you are perfect the way you are and shouldn't be confronted by such spiteful comments, don't let them bring you down, you are beautiful and everyone would agree. i love you, such a inspiration to all of us♥♥♥
AMAZING article!!!
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Your metabolism is more than just "the rate at which you burn food". That is a common misunderstanding of what your metabolism actually is. What it really is, is your hormones. By eating a ton of crappy food and sweets that have chemicals in them, you can "confuse" your metabolism into storing fat (or burning it, in your case). But that's just my two cents.
Zoe I feel exactly like you. People call me "too skinny" and even call me names of offending diseases. I totally agree with you. No one should ever say or judge someone by its weight. Tbh my tears are kinda watery after reading this post :')
Dear Zoe,
I know this was posted ages ago and that this might sound a little odd, but I just wanted to say that you've really made me feel better about myself, I'm 13, 5ft4 and (like you did) have absolutely no hips, boobs or anything for that matter. I wont go into too much detail but before I read this post I used to look in the mirror and absolutely hate myself, but now I feel lots better about myself and find it much easier to invision a time where I will actually have hips, boobs etc.
You're my inspiration and I hope you never stop blogging and posting videos :)
– Neve xoxo
Thanks zoe! You make me feel better about myself :)
I'm 5ft 6 and weigh 159 lbs. no one believes me when I tell them my weight.
It doesn't really show, but it makes me fell like a fat pig compared to ALL my friends since they're skinny, but they keep thinking they're fat! Stupid, I know. Anyway right I feel terrible and I'm trying to be healthier (better foods, more exercises…)
Soory about the rant!
Love you and never forget it ;)
I know how you feel many people had said that to me, I'm happy to hear that someone else knows what its like. Your not the only one and I agree so much as to what your saying. xxxxxxx:)
Zoe I know exactly how you feel! i was in hospital when I was younger for dehydration and the doctor asked my parents if i was anorexic they replied that i wasn't (he must of not known that i knew what it meant to be anorexic). In primary school my "friend" always told me that I was too skinny and I hated it. At the start of the first year at secondary school every boy and girl got their height and weight taken down and the woman that measured me asked me "have you always lived in this country?" I didn't know why she asked this but I asked my friends if they got asked the same question and they didn't. I having problems with my heart recently and so I had to go the the hospital for a check up so they had taken me to get my height and weight. I was below average on both. I had walked in to the doctors room and he was talking to my mum but I was right beside her. He said that I have gained since my last recording when I was eight ( I am currently 13) but I am still below. I have only finished around 10 meals in my whole life and when I do my mother and I am so proud. I asked my mum why I am skinnier than all the other girls in my year but she just said that I have a "super fast metabolism" but she never lets me look at my baby health record book and I am worried that I had previous health problems. xoxoxo
I got teased in school for being chubby but now I look ok because I'm 5''10 height. I wished I could just be small and eat whatever I want but I feel your pain because I really like having some curves and I can get fit and be healthy whereas you can't. In Ireland a lot of girls have zoes body type and I always hated them for it but now I see I might not be so bad
I have the same problem as you Zoe, I've always been very skinny and stIll am. other people just don't get it, they always keep asking if I'm okay or do I ever eat anything I'm 100% sure that I am healthy just as I said before people don't get it they always assume that I'm anorexic. And let me just say i eat ALOT but I don't put any wight on and that really sucks. <3
I agree about the doctor issue. They have to investigate anyone they thing is an unhealthy weight, be that over or underweight. Perhaps she didn't go about it in the right way but it is part of a doctors job to monitor your health, she's not trying to make you feel uncomfortable, just voicing her concern. If she didn't and missed something she would not only be gutted but potentially get in trouble. Considering the increasing prevalence of eating disorders they need to be observant and always err on the side of caution.
I agree with you about the doctor, it's totally different than a stranger commenting on your weight. It's part of a doctor's job to monitor your health; if they don't think you are a 'healthy' weight they are expected to investigate is further, whether you're over or underweight. Perhaps this doctor didn't go about it very well but she wasn't trying to make you feel uncomfortable – she was just voicing her concern. Considering the increasing prevalence of eating disorders and also the difficulty in detecting them (because those suffering from them generally cover them up very well or are in an extreme form of denial) doctors have to be careful. If they missed something serious they would not only feel terrible but also potentially get in trouble.
I never looked at it this way.. I guess in our society eating disorders are glorified (to an extent) and people want to be "heros" and help someone with an eating disorder so they automatically assume you have one just because you're skinny. I think it's so wrong but I think you need hold your head and know that you've come a long way!
xo, Rachel
Thank you. Im 12. I weigh 80-85 lbs. I HATE changing in the locker rom. Everyone stares. All the girls look at me andsay ugh youre so lucky. Ihave no boobs. None. All of my friends do, and they weardresses and can shop wherever they want. Im still a size 12 in girls. Every always says omg your so lucky I wish I was as skinny as you!
No, you dont.
Ive been called anorexic, bulimic, E.T. , a "pretty litle skeleton wih hair" . It HURTS. I didnt ask to be this thin, I just am. I eat everything, but have a "super metabolism" I hate it when everyone stares, I never want to wear a bathing suit because I have no boobs, so I still wear little kid ones. Ive never even bought a juniors swimsuit. I cant! I hate it when people tell me "eat more!" I cant. Its absolutely impossible for me to gain weight, ive tried. If you ever say I want to be thin like her! You probably dont. Think about it. Its awful. And so embarrassing. I cant even wear bras. Yeah, im in 7th grade. I have to wear tank tops. K im done.
Thank you. Im 12. I weigh 80-85 lbs. I HATE changing in the locker rom. Everyone stares. All the girls look at me andsay ugh youre so lucky. Ihave no boobs. None. All of my friends do, and they weardresses and can shop wherever they want. Im still a size 12 in girls. Every always says omg your so lucky I wish I was as skinny as you!
No, you dont.
Ive been called anorexic, bulimic, E.T. , a "pretty litle skeleton wih hair" . It HURTS. I didnt ask to be this thin, I just am. I eat everything, but have a "super metabolism" I hate it when everyone stares, I never want to wear a bathing suit because I have no boobs, so I still wear little kid ones. Ive never even bought a juniors swimsuit. I cant! I hate it when people tell me "eat more!" I cant. Its absolutely impossible for me to gain weight, ive tried. If you ever say I want to be thin like her! You probably dont. Think about it. Its awful. And so embarrassing. I cant even wear bras. Yeah, im in 7th grade. I have to wear tank tops. K im done.
Thank you. Im 12. I weigh 80-85 lbs. I HATE changing in the locker rom. Everyone stares. All the girls look at me andsay ugh youre so lucky. Ihave no boobs. None. All of my friends do, and they weardresses and can shop wherever they want. Im still a size 12 in girls. Every always says omg your so lucky I wish I was as skinny as you!
No, you dont.
Ive been called anorexic, bulimic, E.T. , a "pretty litle skeleton wih hair" . It HURTS. I didnt ask to be this thin, I just am. I eat everything, but have a "super metabolism" I hate it when everyone stares, I never want to wear a bathing suit because I have no boobs, so I still wear little kid ones. Ive never even bought a juniors swimsuit. I cant! I hate it when people tell me "eat more!" I cant. Its absolutely impossible for me to gain weight, ive tried. If you ever say I want to be thin like her! You probably dont. Think about it. Its awful. And so embarrassing. I cant even wear bras. Yeah, im in 7th grade. I have to wear tank tops. K im done.
I agree two years ago when i was in year 5 this girl said i had a fat face. She gave me a goal to lose weight in the summer break. I ended up losing 8kg and was then underweight. After then i have kept the same weight and can't gain weight now. But i can't really exercise cos of my weight and vertigo so it kind good that i'm a bit fit. People say i have chicken legs but i don't really care. I have inspired one of my old friends to lose weight and I've learnt to accept my weight and embrace
I couldn't have written this better if I tried. You managed to capture my entire life's struggle in one post haha! I have actually tried taking up exercising to put on muscle weight and it is working, but not quickly by ANY means. I am also 5'4 but STRUGGLING to get past 96 lbs. I also hate my veiny hands and bony legs. I like myself now, but can't wait to get a little more junk in the trunk. I am glad I don't have to give a damn about counting calories though ;)
Hi Zoe, I am Emma and trust me I share the same problem as you. I am African and live in Ghana, a place where being very slim is seen as a sickness. I weigh 49 kg and I am 5'11". Just like you I eat any kind of things and it does nor add any little inch to my body. I am perfectly fine with the way I look, even though I must admit i also tried putting on some weight, but it is just SO IMPOSSIBLE to do! I wanted to find out why I was like this and that's when I saw and read your article. Now I am more relaxed knowing that it is not just me, but there are other people put there which share my same features. Thank you for this article, you are a blessing!
I'm over two years behind the times and only just started reading your blog but this struck a chord!
Totally agree! I went through secondary school being a skinny little beanpole – kids asking me "are you anorexic?" and I was there in the dinner hall thinking, "I'm scoffing a disgusting, greasy school burger and I'm just about to have a slush puppy – what are you on about?" Then it's like "Oh, are you bulimic then?" and I'm there thinking, "how could I be bulimic? I have a general vom-phobia!"
I was always being told I needed to put on weight – then, when I hit about 16 I suddenly found that none of my school uniform fitted – I suddenly had big boobs, a 'ghetto booty' (named Shenaenae by my friend) and hips and thighs. Now, aged 26, I go to the doctors to get my pill. The nurse has to weigh me, obviously – and she tells me that my BMI is just on the 'curvy' side of normal. I need to watch it, apparently. Bearing in mind I am 5ft5, weigh about 9 and a half stone, size 10 (thanks to my trusty bum and boobs!) We literally cannot win. We are naturally slimmer then get told we are too skinny. Then, we fill out and put on weight, so we're a healthy weight and get told we need to 'watch it'. The nurse told me I had to eat smaller portions. It's not as if I pig out, I NEVER eat all my dinner and hardly eat at work because I don't have time. Women in particular are ALWAYS either too skinny or too fat. It's ridiculous. You look fabulous (and yes, I wish I could get away with patterned trousers like I'm sure you can!) and you should just be accepted for that. Brilliant post :)
Hi Zoe,
First of all, I think you're absolutely gorgeous just the way you are. I enjoyed reading this post, and I wanted to share something with you that has really helped me when I feel insecure about my body. The poet and playwright Eve Ensler was subject for an interview for the documentary, "America the Beautiful". In it, she was asked about body image and beauty in women. This is how she responded: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEUsbLNAfW0
Well, that's all!
Sylvia
I have the same metabolism and people have always judged me for it, and I have become very self conscious, even though I know I shouldn't let it get to me.It's hard to let it go, although some people may think they are being complimenting me by saying "Oh, you're so skinny", when all I want it to be a healthy weight. Because of this metabolism, I am VERY flatchested for somebody of my age and it makes me very low when someone comments on it, even if they are my friend.
I just thought I would say this as it made me just think of myself as I read your article. :3
Zoe, you are beautiful just the way you are! Don't let anyone make you think something else. Be proud of what you are honey :)
I don't get why everyone thinks that being skinny is good and when you get too skinny they think you are anorexic. I actually have the same problem as you, I'm to skinny too. The only difference is that I actually had an eating disorder… In elementary I got bullied and called fat even tho I was the skinniest kid in school… I now think they we're just jealous but back then it was a really rough time. So I lost a lot of wait but @some point I switched it all around and now I'm back still slightly underweight but not dangerously anymore. It's still hard when people call me skinny but it's also really hard when people call me fat. I try to put on weight but a little part of me still wants to loose it. It feels like I'm being ripped in two parts… I guess for me it's the best to stay how I am right now. Which is hard 'cause I'm also going trough puberty right now and everyone is getting beautiful woman like bodies wile some people wonder what I'm doing at high school 'cause I look like a 10 year old. But I'll get trough it :) I always survive
I am quite skinny but so is my mum. My dad is quite fat and he always says I'm too skinny and always pokes my ribs. I am a perfectly normal weight it's just I don't have much fat on my belly it's all on my thighs and my cheeks.
I'm now at the stage where everybody say that I need to eat more, that I'm anorexic (even though I'm not) some people hold my arm and jump back when they can feel my bone. I think I might be depressed because of it. In fact I sometimes cry at night because I almost weigh 5 stone but I'm almost 13. Thank you so much for bringing this topic up, it's not your fault if you have a high nationalism or not, hopefully more people can now realise that!
Thank you Zoe, this just made my day. I may be older than how you were when you were having the same issue, but I do experience the same things. Thank you for talking about this. Keep on blogging, youtubing, instagramming, tweeting, and smiling. I love you!
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Zoe you are beautiful, i just revisited this post as I knew it would give me some ideas of how to help my friend who is also like you but still utterly stunning, again exactly like you! You should just be proud of who you are and dont let anybodies words affect you, this is what you tell us so we will support you the way you do us, thank you for the amazing post, more people need to realise their words hurt :)
thank you again<3
I love the way you wrote this! You're so articulate and explained this so well. I've dealt with people telling me I am too skinny to be a singer (this happened in high school when I thought I wanted to study vocal performance in college) and I've had people tell me I am simply too thin in general. I've let the voiced opinions of others just slide off my back but I wish, at times, that people would simply keep those opinions to themselves; why do I need to be someone else's definition of beauty and not my own?
Hi zoe
i'm from france,
and even here, people like you
I know A LOT of people probably said that but : You are beautiful, the way you are.
<3
I totally agree with you, I am like you, skinny but eating much. My friends wonder how I can be skinny because I eat so much. And I have been called all those things, people think it's okay and do not realize it actually hurts. I think it's great that you posted this it's a very lovely post.
And everybody looks lovely in their own body, you to Zoe :)
You stole the words right out of my mouth. I'm not thin, but I know I'm not overweight, and it really frustrates me when I'm trying to eat healthy (I don't mean counting calories, I mean like eating more vegetables and less chips) and people tell me "You're too thin", "You look skinny", "You need to eat a cheeseburger", etc. My sister and I talk about this all the time, like you said, it would be incredibly rude to say "Why are so fat?", "Are you overweight?", "You need to go on a diet", etc. Thank you so much for showing me know I'm not alone :)
this made me feel allot better I am not skinny but not over weight but this just made me feel loved
i go through the same thing as you, and its awful. every day getting called 'anorexic' even after i clearly state im not and people saying 'my goal is to be as skinny as Amy'. it makes me feel really uncomfortable and i never no what to say. nobody cares if some one calls you names like'anorexic' or 'bone bag' (not even the teachers), but everyone cares and its a big deal if some one calls a person 'fat' or 'chubby'. and its just not right and it needs to be changed. i feel uncomfortable wearing some clothing as people always seem to state how skinny i am when wearing things like vest tops and leggings . this needs to be changed so people like me and you can go through one day with out some one saying something or staring at you <3
I've seriously felt like this all my life…
i remember being 10 years old in grade 5 in primary school hanging out on the monkey bars with my friends and each one went across and said something they didn't like about themselves "i hate my legs…. i'm so fat…" you get the drift, and then they looked at me because i hadn't said anything (due to the fact that i was a thin as a stick) and said "well you know what Carli, you're anorexic." It was one of the most traumatising experiences, i remember going home to mum hysterically crying yelling at her saying "you don't feed me enough (which is rubbish) and that's why i'm anorexic.(yep that's right i actually believed i was anorexic) That was pretty much the beginning of my bad relationship with my body, i hated the fact that i was skinny and i can totally relate to not wanting to go swimming, and getting undressed for P.E in front of people, you're on edge wait for someone to make a comment about your knobby knees, or skinny legs. Only now that i'm 17 have i filled out with boobs and a bum, and am finally happy with my weight, it was obviously a natural thing that i needed to wait for. But people don't understand how being called skinny is just as horrible as being called fat. I hate it when i watch my friends go through the most unhealthy diets and fitness regimes to become the one thing i tried so hard not to be (skinny).
Thank you so much for posting this Zoe, i hope there are young 'skinny' girls out there who realise they're normal after reading this.
I have the same problem like you had. :( People look at me and say: "Omg, you're so skinny, are you okay?"
Zoe, now you have beautiful body. I don't think that you are skinny. Your height and weight are plonk now.
Thankyou for this post Zoe – I adore you for this! I am naturally skinny and I too have a super metabolism! I honestly wish I was a littler bigger! I really wish sometimes… wait all the time – that I knew you, and that I could talk to you in person. That is honestly my dream! You are beautiful Zoe – be proud of who you are! xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi Zoe!
I just read through this post and its all so true. I've been the opposite of you all my life — I gain weight really fast and without eating too much really, weight has always been a struggle for me and it still is. My boyfriend however, is just the same as you, he has a high metabolism which makes it impossible for him to gain weight. Personally witnessing him getting teased by just about everyone for being "too skinny" while I'm sitting next to him, overweight and all — without a single person daring to say anything to my face because of how "offensive" it is to mention someone's overweight-ness. Its just so hypocritical of society! If they know its wrong to tease an "overweight" person, they should also know its wrong to tease a slimmer person. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all right? And I feel like people will who say "you need to eat more, you're so skinny" are saying those things with good intentions, but are unaware that their words are hurting someone else's feelings.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts too :D
i have the same problem, and i eat all the time and i never lose or gain and weight from it. i have a friend who is a bit bigger than me and she always talks about how she wishes she was my size, and how she is so fat and hates her body. i never think to comment because i never know what to say to her to make her feel less crappy, and she never lets anyone help her. one day my friend and i were at a restaurant together, and im scarfing down huge bites of my hamburger, while she barley even touches the food in front of her. since im hungry all the time, i ask her if i can eat her food if she wont eat it herself (as a joke, and she knew that) then she started getting really weird with me. she started saying things like "are you anorexic? do you vomit after every meal, or something? how do you stay so skinny? you should get some help if its really an issue. i wish i could be your size, though." as she was asking me these questions, the entire time i was thinking about how i have a high metabolism, and i can't really help my smaller size. i sit there for a minute not really speaking, and she looks at me like i am overreacting. i then explain to her my situation, and how i got bullied in middle school and high school because of my size. she says exactly this "i wish i had a high metabolism! you are so lucky to be skinny." i then payed for my meal and went home without saying anything to her after that.
YES. people have been telling me my whole life "Omg, you're so skinny, you should put up some weight!" and if I respond something like "It's not easy for me to put up weight.." they will just go "Go to McDonalds or something!" NO that's not how it works :c
I actually started to cry, reading this and watching your video. I have had the same problems for like.. forever. I've been lucky though, people haven't said it straight to me, but I can see that they are looking at my skinny legs.. Well, just wanted to say thank you, this actually helped and gave my confident a little boost! Love u Zoe <3
zoe wouldn't be zoe without her pea head, louise wouldn't be louise without her curves
I am sooooo skinny to and I see where you r comming from. Like you I don't have an eating disorder nor can I put on weight.
People are always saying why are you soooooo skinny!? Or Why don't you put on some weight?!
I mean who in there right mind thinks that's okay?!#@!
I always feel alone at school even my best mate comments on my size…
At least i know you got through it and are okay
Xxxxx
Love you I have just watched you vid with Louies 👌👌👌👌
I'm 5"1' and I'm just not feeling normal. The only thing I care about is my height…
I have a broken tooth ZOE and I hate when the children at my school ask me, WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR TOOTH? Whenever I just tell them it is how it is they go in the corner of the room and start making fun. Just to ignore their rude behavior I started writing blogs. :) and I feel it helps me ignore their comments… U inspire me a lot.
Zoe, you have completely opened my eyes thank you. I know what it feels like to be body conscious so i would never dream of walking up to strangers questioning them on their body shape. But i guess i never really realised the term 'skinny' could be offensive, so thank you Zoe, you have given me an eye opener to make me realise how other people with the opposite body shape to mine would and would not like to be treated, thank you x
one time in one of my classes a girl yelled out "JESSICA HOW MUCH DO U WEIGH" and everyone in the class including thee teacher looked up and starred at me waiting for my answer. i replied with "its extremely disrespectful for u to ask me that" and she said "oh i thought it was ok because ur so skinny". that was one of many moments iv encountered cuz of how small i am and its not fair i have feel so awkward and self conscious about my body. thanks for this video and the anxiety one sense i suffer from anxiety as well. means the world to me to know that im not alone and someone else felt the same way i do now. your the best Zoey, thank you.
Zoe :) if u can be little more stronger you can make some exercizes which makes you be more muscular and not skinny smt like bodybuilding but not in that creepy way :D … nice day enjoy life
Hey Zoe! Chances are you won't see this, but I wanted to comment because I've been through this exact thing. The sentence that got me the most was when you said you can't exercise because you'll lose weight. My GOODNESS do I know that feeling! But, in saying that, over the past year I've gotten into exercise (swimming in my case) and I haven't noticed much change in my weight at all (I don't weigh myself either, but I mean just from looking at me haha). What I have noticed is that exercising actually makes me feel better about my size, I can be skinny and be kind of strong in the pool and that feels great! (I don't know about you, but I used to get so upset over the feeling of feeling so weak and tiny and useless). I guess, because you give so much inspiration to everyone else, I wanted to write a comment that might inspire you somehow.
If you don't want to exercise and you're happy with that, of course don't worry about it, but don't be afraid of exercise because of the size you are. I'm tall and skinny and used to eat so much crap in hopes that it would help me gain weight. It took me AGES to start treating my body properly, but I think it's starting to help everything, including my mood, self esteem and studies. You are beautiful and don't be afraid if getting fit is something you want to do! :) I guarantee your body will thank you and not punish you. If anything, your appetite might just increase a little bit, haha!
Lots of love,
Asha
Zoe, I can relate to this so much, I know exactly how it feels. Thank you so much for writing this and posting a video about it. I would love for more people to recognize that calling someone 'too skinny' has the same affect as calling someone 'too fat.' <3
Could not agree more. In middle school and high school, all I ever heard about myself is that I was too skinny. From doctors, from strangers, and I by no means had an eating disorder. My metabolism was crazy, I was in constant movement from cheerleading, and I was just skeletally smaller, not to mention that I was 4 foot 10 inches basically up until 10th grade when I suddenly shot up 7 inches. It made me feel so bad about myself, and yet, I couldn't say anything because people considered it a "compliment."
I really do agree with you zoe. As long as you are happy with the way you look, who cares what a doctors BMI chart says? Love your blog and your videos, they are amazing :) xx
I'm so glad you wrote this, being born with one arm – and being a fellow youtuber it's crazy how people think it's ok to make the comments they do- fair enough if they want to comment on it or ask a question, but they way some people say it really annoys me- especially when they comment on the Darcy Cole's collab with me and my sister- don't spam her account with nasty comments on my arm- it's not fair to anybody. Rant Over haha! But basically I really enjoyed this post!
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This is a wonderful post! And as a naturally born skinny person II can definitely relate to absolutely EVERYTHING you have stated here! When I was younger I was ALWAYS criticized for my weight with the EXACT same rude comments that you have received! Well let me tell you something…..whether you can see it or not, .It is an absolute blessing! I am now older and have had 3 kids and THANK GOODNESS I was once a very skinny girl and young lady because your body is definitely not the same after children ! I have kept 12 pounds since having children and my body has filled out quite well. I will never lose those 12 pounds unless I was foolish enough to create an eating disorder. haha But I love my extra weight and I appreciate that with the extra weight I a still do not look overweight after having children. God Bless you for having the courage to write this post. It touched me how close it is to home. Zoella please know that you are wonderful inside and out!
I'm certainly not happy with my weight, so would anybody else. But, the thing is, be happy with the way you look or do something about it! :) Zoe you are so inspirational! KEEP IT UP!
Hi Zoella! Watching the "why are you so skinny video" that you and sprinkleofglitter made and reading this blog post helped me out soooo much! The past three years I have been asked by many people about my weight. I'm fourteen years old and weigh about 75-80 pounds, but I also have a twin brother who weighs around a hundred pounds and is seen as "healthy" in the eyes of everyone (especially compared to me). I've, like you, have been asked questions such as "are you anorexic", "why don't you eat", "do you starve yourself"? People don't realize how much this hurts. These comments make me feel like the "ugly" one while I'm with friends and I often wish I looked like them. When people ask me those types of questions I also think of myself in a negative way, I have a boy's body, I can't wear bikinis, I will never get a boyfriend. Even some of my closest friends say mean things without thinking about it. People simply just don't understand how much it hurts. I deff. agree with you when you say that being told you are thin isn't always a compliment. I've tried to talk to my friends about it but they just don't understand. I also hear from my mom all the time that I have to eat, and she has even taken me to a nutritionist. They make me do tests to see if there is something wrong and they eventually conclude that I just don't eat enough. But it's not that I decided not to eat a normal portion of food, it's just that I don't get hungry as frequently as some people do. It is hard going through this because not many people understand how comments about a persons weight can be hurtful. Your post and video gave me hope to ignore the comments and look forward to growing both physically and mentally in the future.
Zoe, I know exactly how you feel. Some people don't think before they speak. I absolutely HATE it when people tell me or my friends that we're too skinny. They would clearly not say anything like that to someone who's a bit overweight. Even my family says ridiculous things like that, and they're the ones who should know what to say and how to act. I don't think I'll ever forget half of my family telling me how skinny I was or how boney my ribs were 2-3 years ago. They all told me to eat more, even though I was eating normally and regularly. I just can't believe that someone can even say that to a person. Think before you speak, you may never know how easily you could affect someone and break their self esteem. Great job, Zoe, loved your video with Louise! You're an amazing inspiration :)
Oh God, do grow up! If you want to be treated as an adult than act like an adult and adults aren't shook up when a nurse asks about their BMI being too low. It's a valid question and these are your insecurities talking. To write a blog post all about it is really not something an adult would do. Either you're committed to helping people who struggle with weight either this is rubbish just to make you feel better.
The main problem with this post is she is talking about how you shouldn't judge people for their weight but she clearly would, anyone would. I'm overweight but i still judge people who are heavier than me. I know i shouldn't but that is how people are now trained to think. Also i understand that people are in different situations but personally if someone said to me why are you so skinny, it would be the biggest self esteem boost because skinny is seen as positive compared to fat or overweight as negative. .
Felt I was reading about me here. Drunk strangers come up to me (with a look of disgust and disapproval on their faces) and go "oh my god, you are SO skinny. You need a burger!" and other mindless drivel. Really hurtful. I am 7st 5 too, and very much taller than you at nearly 6ft. I'm also in the same boat with wanting to be fit and healthy but CANNOT exercise or eat more healthily due to the fear I will lose even more weight.
Fuck the haters, you're a gorgeous girl. I too know I'm better than any of these people who have the cheek to comment on my weight – as I don't judge people by whats on the outside and I don't try to hurt them with careless comments either. xx
This really made me think about things. Zoe you are so beautiful! Be strong <3
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You are so right! I completely agree with this post. Why should other judge you on how much you weigh? Its so insensitive! Especially you Zoe as you are so beautiful and have a body people would do anything for. Slim is a much nicer word than skinny and you are perfect just the way you are.
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I've had similar things happen to me and it's horrible, I agree with you completely and I'm so glad you've addressed this problem because people don't understand that just because they're not calling you fat they are still upsetting people. Thank you <3
I decided to read this post after watching your YouTube video on the same subject! I used to get this problem when I was at Secondary School – I was so "skinny" and always remember when one girl said she was "jealous" of my "anorexic" figure! It really upset me as I ate sooo much and was just naturally slim. Everyone is beautiful in their own way – it's unfair how us girls always seem to get judged on our body types not only by men (typical) but by other women too! Us girls need to stick together and be proud of our differences! If we all looked the same the world would be a pretty boring place!
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I loved this. I just started watching your videos a few days ago and absolutely fell in love. I've been "skinny" my entire life and even when I first met my boyfriend he has asked me if I had ever had any type of eating disorder. I'm 5'10" which is pretty tall for a girl around here and I weigh 125lbs. I have always been in that range and I have filled out quite a bit since meeting my boyfriend (2009). Occasionally I'll gain 5lbs but then it's gone within a week. I also try to exercise a lot hoping for maybe muscle weight but that doesn't even work. I'm so glad you posted something about this, it really does wonders for my self esteem regarding my weight. I think you're beautiful and perfect the way you are as well as any other girl. I wish weight wasn't so much of a factor when it came to people.
So thank you so much Zoe, from the bottom of my heart, you are wonderful.
I just saw this and I started loving you even more. Firstly, you are a great writer and your blog is awesome and secondly, I really appreciate your rise against people who judge others about how they look. I am also very skinny and I hate answering questions like that and I think that everybody should read this post. They would certainly learn a lot about making people happy and comfortable about ourselves on this planet. Good job. :)
I've always been made fun of for being "over weight" but the problem is im only 12 and im perfectly normal size I've developed quicker than everyone else and also I have naturally big shoulders coz I am a swimmer and gymnast.im apparently fat even though im not im just well developed and it annoys me when people are like wow do some exercise but I literally never stop exercising and it made me so depressed so reading this blog post really touched me so thank you Zoe x
I completely agree with all of this, and get it every so often from people.. I've gotten used to it but still, it does make you feel bad about yourself…
Sadly I still dont have boobs :( but that's fine cos I actually thought that it would hamper getting a bf but it doesn't…. but I do still want it. And it IS so incredibly hard putting on weight D:
I completely agree with all of this, and get it every so often from people.. I've gotten used to it but still, it does make you feel bad about yourself…
Sadly I still dont have boobs :( but that's fine cos I actually thought that it would hamper getting a bf but it doesn't…. but I do still want it. And it IS so incredibly hard putting on weight D:
I get exactly the same problems with people always commenting on my weight, the other day someone said to me, but you your like on the EXTREME side of skinny" of course I don't really appreciate this, I also have a very fast metabolism and I find it very difficult to gain any weight. However, even my freinds always tell me I need to put on weight.
. It is quite upsetting and especially recently I always see posts on Facebook of guys putting pictures of a skinny shapeless women next to a women who has 'curves' . Then commenting that the skinny women is ugly and the other women, who also happens to have the perfect figure may I add Is better in some way. Then I realise that the skinny shapeless girl, also happens to look a lot like me. I have to agree with you, since when is it okay to say something like this? If he had said that a fat girl was ugly and he liked the normal weight curvy girl more, then all he would get was hate for it, instead he gets praise with countless girls commenting and saying how great he is. All this is doing is increasing teenage girls, like me, self consciousness about their body. I mean I have no figure, almost completely flat chested and very skinny, so why should people comment on this fact, that makes me so insecure.
I loved reading this Zoe! I am in the exact same position and it doesn't make me feel good…I am 14 and just like you were..Thanks for telling me everything will be okay!!
This could be possibly the best article out there. 100% how i feel everyday. People need to stop calling naturally skinny people "too skinny". it pisses me off so much because honestly, you would never tell a fat person they are "too fat". Welll said zoe!
This is an amazing post and I totally agree with it. You probably won't read this but there was a scary moment in my short life that I thought I was fat and tried to lose weight but I've never needed to lose weight but because of your blog post I now know that I am skinny and I need to stop thinking about my weight and just be the happy healthy young girl I am
Zoe,what should I do if people call me "thin" and "anorexic".I'm not THAT thin,but people in my area are chubby and it makes everything much worse.I mean,how should I react on that? you're my the one and only hope.Help me,please! <3
Wow that was just my life in a blogpost!
Thanks soooooo much Zoe. You've made me feel so much better about myself, because I'm very small aswell :)
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You have no idea how much this post means to me. Being a more…curvy person, I got extremely embarrassed doing swimming or any other sport. I am also very tall, which means I get noticed even more, which for 13 year old is too great.
I have always desired to be skinny but reading your post I see it probably isn't really what I want.
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Lots of people ask me why i'm so skinny and i always tell them that its not my fault that i'm skinny. I eat loads of food on a regular basis and i just have high metabolism so all my fat burns of quickly. Its not always the best to look skinny and i try to put on weight but it doesn't always work.
Just don't forget; you're beautiful no matter how much you weigh :)
I have a friend who has an extremely fast metabolism as well, she has tried so hard to put on weight and even been to a dietician to get a meal plan to help, but she also had to go through the exact same questions as you and still does. The only thing that matters is if you are happy.
I am however the exact opposite, I have a really slow metabolism and struggle to keep the excess weight off, as soon as I eat some junk food the weight piles back on. but I too get the comments, You're fat, You're a whale, do you really need those extra calories, why would you eat that cookie, you're too fat you need to go on a diet.
I just wish people, no matter who you are, or how right you think your opinion is, would just keep it to themself. because as soon as they open their mouth and those judgemental words pour out, they have no idea how it can damage someones self confidence. after hearing enough people say it, you start to believe it and then start feeling ugly and not worth it. you feel like dirt, like no one will ever or could ever love you. It then can send you into a state of depression. I have experienced this first hand and am only now starting to regain confidence and not care what people think or say.
thats enough from me, sorry Zoe. just had to get it off my chest..
completely agree with all of this. I just don't get why people are so judgmental and rude. I always used to have people making snide comments about how skinny i am and I have always been insecure about my weight, even as a child. I hid in baggy jumpers and stuff t one point in an attempt to make me look fatter. I don't do that now but still I feel self-conscious and hate any comment about my weight, weather i'm fat or thin. I realy don't understand people sometimes.
I definitely agree. Girls always ask me "why are you so skinny?" and I get quite offended by it. I don't think they realise it, as they think they are giving me a compliment, but they don't know how hard I try to put on weight. I find guys have a different take on my appearance than girls do. Girls say they wish they were as thin as me thinking it's a good thing, but guys have teased me in the past saying I look anorexic. This was equally, if not more offensive. People just don't understand, no matter what I do I will always be "skinny", it's not my fault I look they way I do, and I don't think it's acceptable in any way to make fun of someone because of their appearance.
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Thanks for this post Zoe. I relate to everything you've written. I have people who think its okay to bash skinny people. Its all over now, like facebook shares that say "Men like meat, only dogs like bones" RUDEST THING EVER. I completely despise people with this mentality. Its horrible to insult or call out a fat person but acceptable to do it to someone skinny?
stumbled upon your blog today and am enjoying reading it :) i've always had an overactive metabolism as well – was a stick throughout my teens and well into my 20s. i definitely sympathize with your feelings that people have no tact sometimes – being sensitive about your weight isn't limited to people who are overweight!
i will say that after struggling with feeling gangly for my whole life, i hired a trainer this past summer to show me how to exercise properly, and i love what it's done for my body. i do almost no cardio anymore – it just makes my metabolism go berserk! – and instead focus on free weights and suspension training. i feel so much healthier, stronger, more balanced – and well-proportioned for the first time in my life. bonus: having buff arms makes people think twice about criticizing you ;)
two years late to reply, haha. But this post just made my heart all happy :'). I'm skinny with a fast metabolism too & my friends stare at me in disbelieve when I say I don't like my body. I want more shape, want to be more toned, I have very small boobs and the legs of a stick figure drawn in first grade. To top it all I am incredibly white, I want a little tan. I am only complaining here, sorry, but just this is all the things I don't like and your post made me realize I am fine just the way I am :) thank you x
Zoe you are beautiful! :) xx
and every girl needs to remember that 'they are beautiful just the way they are'
I know what you mean, people always say to me, 'your legs are so skinny' or 'I want your body', I personally dont know how to respond to them, I hate my legs as like you I can't gain muscle and am really weak, I have to go to a physio and do exercises to help build muscle. I have an extremely fast metabolism and am always hungry, people look at me and say 'how can you eat that much and still be a twig' it doesn't help the fact that I feel really self conscious and have been battling an eating disorder. It also makes me feel bad as my anorexic and bolemic friends always compare their weight to mine. I hate being thin quite a lot of the time.
I understand, i'm Just like you i'm small&Thin, i don't put on weight.. i hate it when people are like that with me.. makes me think is there something wrong with me..
So glad you said this because i have the exactly same thing as you.. people always ask me why are u are so skinny? Makes me feel like there something wrong with me… i'm happy the way i am But o do wish i could put on weight because of what people are saying about me.. even after i had my son i still when back very thin i really do hate it :/
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My whole life i've been called all of these things. Most recently I went to a party at a girl friends house. She had invited 2 girls that the other 4 of us havent met before. One of these girls were so mean to all of us, but especially me. We were playing a drinking game and got talking about twerking. This girl didnt know what it was. So I said I cant do it, but i will try to give you an idea of it is. And then she said "Obviously you cant do it because you have no ass!!". I didnt even know what to say. Ive had dinner with this girl that all. I dont know her and she dares to say this to a friking stranger? I geuss she didnt realize what saying that meant to everyone else than her. Because I could have babelled on about her fat ass, but I didnt because you just dont say that kind of stuff. Its been 2 months and it still bugs me that I didnt tell her off for saying that. I should have asked her "why whould you say such a thing?" cause who really benefits from saying that? Its just mean.
In general I dont think people have any idea of what it makes slimmer people feel like. I've had like you people that I know at school questioning me about me having an eating disorder? I mean come on!!! Have ever looked at my lunch bag? Even if my lunch was a whole days food it would still be waaay more than what an anorexic eats.
dear Zoe,
it seems you and i have the same problem. for almost my whole life people has been reacting the same way, sometimes even asking me what i weigh. people i don't know or don't even like. my friends make fun of it, thinking it won't hurt because they are my friends. just recently i have been seeing a dietist to put on weight the healthy way, and even though it is working, it goes really slow. here in Holland we weight with kilo's (2 pounds) and every 3 months i only got on 1 kilo more. i need to eat 7 slices of bread every day and a full plate of dinner but i just simply can't. my stomach needs time to grow. i just entered somewhat the right weight for the BMI and i'm happy but people still tell me i'm too skiny. even my own father. my dad gets mad when he notices an empty spot on my plate or something i have left behind. i eat fruit every day, but now suddenly my dad decided to be a pain, and tells me that even fruit isn't healthy. i am happy to have read your article Zoe, it shows i am not alone with this feeling. i wish you the best of luck.
I completely understand you, but some people might mean it as a compliment.. I mean, you also have people who really don't want to be mean, but words just come out the wrong way…
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i always get called skinny, its kind of in-between because I've been called both skinny and fat, so i don't really don't know what i am. People always ask me why are you so skinny, and Go eat a burger and all that type of stuff, i sort of just stand there, i mean i get it its meant to be a compliment but it sometimes hurts, being a person who gets bullied so much it just seems like they're trying to make you feel horrible about yourself, i guess i never really thought of it the way you did, but now that i do, i guess i could say that i do get offended by them.
I am slightly underweight, and i can't say I'm proud of that but I've heard all sorts of comments on my weight and size. You cannot imagine the amount of times I've heard " Omg why are you so skinny" Wtf you have a thigh gap you skinny bitch" Go eat". and some times i just don't know how to feel about it. They hurt me and make me feel like I'm not normal and theres something wrong with me. I don't have an eating disorder but i do have a migraine that literally kills my stomach, and makes me not eat as much, and i probably do have a high metabolism.
Anyways enough with my depressing shit., I LOVE YOU. xoxo
This is a really good article and I think you put it in words very, very well! Every one should read this just so they will understand. People think ''Skinny'' is a compliment because of the media that we see. Every one who doesn't look like the models on TV or in the magazines is considerd ''fat'' and I think that is why people never think about saying ''Wow, you're so skinny!'' to someone because it seems like a good thing, looking like a model. And that is where the human race is going wrong.
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I understand where you're coming from but in all fairness a nurse would probably warn someone who had a BMI that was over, that they are overweight. Understandably it is annoying that she assumed that you wouldn't want to look at your weight because you are thin and therefore, she thinks, you must take very good care to stay that way. I still think calling someone skinny is much less insulting than calling someone fat, maybe because of the media or maybe because of the association with fat and greed. I don't think you should complain too much or be too offended, plenty of people would love to be in your shoes, although i understand the need to clear things up if people online have also been asking you but you look far too healthy to have an eating disorder!
Really enjoyed ready this post! I am guilty for asking someone how they were so skinny but only out of jealousy. I think it's times like these where it's best to 'think before you speak'. I know I need a different approach if I am trying to compliment someone by using the words 'slim' or 'petite' instead.
If you are happy in your own skin, then who cares what anyone else has to say?
"Do you exercise? You should exercise" / "So… Are you on a diet?" / "You should do some walking more often" … ._. It sucks to hear this. And then I feel like I have to be nice and say something like: "Oh yeah, I have to consider that". But I just want to tell them to fuck off. They are saying that trying to be nice even though it's so rude. <_< I never talk to a lot of my family members and everytime I see them they just offer me freaking diet plans.
I've never really thought of it this way, but I COMPLETELY agree!
I'm only a bit taller than you, and about the same weight. I've always gotten similar comments on how "skinny" I am, and it really bugs me and I never really knew why.. this really pin points it.
My mom actually has a thyroid condition that runs in the family. I've got to take care of myself to make sure that my metabolism doesn't get even higher than it already is, and that I don't develop the same disorder that my mom has.
I do feel that it's really insensitive of people to comment on anyone's weight like that.. they can't tell just by looking at you what the reason may be.
This really makes me wonder if I'VE ever commented on someone's weight in this way! Even if it were meant as a compliment! I'll be sure to carefully word my compliments from now on :)
Thank you so much for this post (although it was quite long ago now..) and the video you made with Louise recently. I enjoyed them very much and they were very uplifting! :)
You're beautiful Zoey and I hope you will always be so happy with yourself and continuing to help make others feel happy about themselves too :)
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I really need a hug right now from you zoe. This is exactly how I feel, I thought I was the only one suffering. Especially today, after a guy said to me I need broader shoulders and need to put weight on. Even my best friends say I need to put meat on me. If only they were me :(
It is amazing that finally someone complained about it, i have NEVER, EVER juged anyone neither for being fat nor skinny, and I think that it is very brave for you to do a blog post about the topic, I am proud that you did that and that you accepted your physical looks, you look as good as anyone could look :D
Thank you so much for posting this. I feel exactly the same. I had to come back to the schooldoctor because I was skinny, a few months ago. I really hate it when people immediately think you are anorexic, when you just don't be hungry that moment.
Actually this is the first thing of you I read, and I'm so happy I've did that.
Thank you for these beautiful and justified words.
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This is literally me, when I walk past sometimes i hear people say 'shes too skinny'
This has helped me to realise that i'm not the only on.
Thank you
I completely agree. As of now I am 13, I weigh 6 1/2 stone anI am 1m 70cm tall. I have really long legs and they are quite thin and i have bony knees and elbows. There is this one girl in my class who calls me anorexic every day and everyone else always questions me about my weight and notifying me that i apparently have a eating disorder. I hate being my weight and i hate being this thin and i hate how everyone thinks i find it a compliment when they call me skinny. Over 2013 i literally ate lots of junk food just to try and be everyone elses weight but now my new years resolution is to eat healthy because idgaf what anyone thinks anymore. I can't say i'll just hang with the people who love me the most because they do it too. even my best friend tells me everyday that i need to 'become fat like her' i've accepted my weight and my height and the fact i don't have boobs or a butt or and of that crap because i'm happy with myself now. And that's all i care about <3 uwu
Well said! This essay just came out in the Globe & Mail, and echoes your analysis quite nicely. Give it a read: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/facts-and-arguments/in-a-culture-obsessed-with-weight-theres-a-downside-to-being-skinny/article16185986/#dashboard/follows/
I can't believe people say this to your face! Manners???
In high school, a friend and I made t-shirts that said "yes we really are this tall & NO we don't play basketball": we are both 6 feet tall and got tired of the stereotypes :)
Just wanted to say, in case you still want to gain weight, that fast foods aren't the way to go. I I'm currently working on gaining weight with a nutrition (like you, I've always been seriously underweight.), and have to stop eating so unhealthy, since it's really not the way to go. Working out is also a big part of gaining weight, since muscles weigh more than fat. Ofc, running a mile a day won't be beneficial, but some muscle training could really help. Other than that, good meat is pretty much the way to go (which I hate, wanting to be a vegetarian if it wasn't for how much harder it would be to gain weight without meat), and nuts as a snacking. It is hard though, and I'm really not sure if I'll be able to do it, since forcing down food really isn't comfortable. I've heard a lot of people successfully gaining weight using those energyshake-thingys that people on diets use as a meal replacer, only instead of replacing meals, they drank it in addition to what they usually ate. I just.. think it's worth a try. I'm getting kinda sick of people thinking I have an eating disorder. It's so tiring always feeling you have something to prove, and every time I get full before I eat whatever I'm eating up, I feel really selfconcious about others thinking it's because I have an eating disorder. It's so crazy and unnecessary. Thank you for writing this post, btw, I really think it's important that people hear about the other side of the issue, since the media generally just covers the side that wants to lose weight.
great post, a lot of my friend think they are fat and compare themselves to me but I am a lot taller than them and have a high metabolism too. one friend in particular is always offering me food and saying "you need to put on some weight" It annoys me but I try to ignore it. tbh I am quite happy to be the way I am. I think everyone needs to accept themselves for who they are :)
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Hey Zoe! I feel like you exactly! I am 5 feet tall and am a teenager. I weigh exactly 72.4 pounds and feel WAY to skinny. I eat so much too. People always tell me, "Omg, I wish I could be skinny like you!" or "I'd gladly switch bodies!" I just keep thinking, 'You don't wanna switch. Being skinny doesn't make life much easier.' Thank you for writing a post like this so I don't feel like i'm the only one.
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I couldn't agree more. When I was a teenager I was also skinny and a lot of people (even friends of mine) would ask me if I suffered from an eating disorder. No, I've never had any kind of eating disorder, I've always eaten whatever I wanted to. Nevertheless, people wouldn't stop asking me that kind of questions, which made me feel a bit down and uncomfortable. That's why I'm so glad you posted this, thank you so much for trying to raise people's awareness =) (Sorry if there is any orthographic or grammatical mistake, English is not my native language)
I just found this blogpost and its all I ever wanted to say. If someone ask me again one of this damn stupid questions, I will send them the link to this post. I have always been really skinny , also im really tall so everyone is asking if I wanna be a model and wont eat because if that. Why the hell should my dreamjob be being a model just because im tall and skinny? Just because of my body I dont have to do what they think all this persons should do. Every school i got, my mom got a school from the director who asked if I would be anorexic or if I would have any problems. No fat girl ever got a call like this… Why me? Just because of my metabolism? We cant do anything against it. Im vegetarian since im 6 years old but I really do not eat healthy , but if someone hears that I do not eat any meat, they all think its because of this and comments like' oh if I look at you,i may shoulf be a vegetarian too haha' i hear very often. I was that skinny even before I got vegetarian ,so they really should stop talking and start thinking. As you said,no adult would say things like this to an overweight person.
I really like this article ,thank you for bringing my thoughts out in the world.
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I think that you are absolutely gorgeous, Zoe! And I think that you are so truly inspirational <3 :*
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My friend has that, and I didn't even realize until recently because boys in school started commenting on it. I understand now how it could be offensive, because at first I didn't understand the big deal of being called skinny or bony. My friend met with a boy she liked on a date and he didn't speak to her again because he said he noticed how skinny she was, which is horrible. She eats loads (it's hilarious) but doesn't put on any weight, and it's seriously annoying when someone comments on how she's too skinny and think it's okay because it could be considered as a compliment.
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I absolutely love this post. You put into words what I have never been able to. It's really comforting to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way! Thankyou so much Zoe, you actually so amazing!!
lots of love, Karine xx
I read this post now at a time in my life where I am constantly suffering from people commenting and assessing my body and everything I eat and do. I am also teeny tiny and always have been. I was bullied in primary school and even called fat when i was CLEARLY the major opposite, but as a kid I didn't understand – I took all these comments to heart. The skinniness and all the judgements continued though high school because I ate healthy and smaller portions to others. I used to be happy and love sport and friends and family and life :) But i was so brought down by these people and their treatment of me that I slowly became depressed and developed many mental and body issues, resulting in several breakdowns. Once I reached the end of your post I was so comforted that someone else understands and realises my struggles and has also been affected by these nasty comments. I know that i will never be the same and these "breakdowns" will keep happening, as will the comments and the stares and the judgements. Reading about your experience, I am reassured that it is possible to overcome these obstacles and that I will be able to love my body and every moment in my life. Seriously, thankyou for posting this – It was life changing.
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Hey Zoe, I know you posted this a while ago but I only just read it and felt the need to say, PREACH IT GIRL. I am very tall, but also very skinny, and I eat like a teenage boy. I could sit on the couch and eat a bag of chips all by myself and wouldn't gain an pound. When I go to the beach, you can see my ribs. I used to like it, to not have to worry about what I ate. I still do, however I am also incredibly unfit. I get people (who think it is a compliment) who say "Quinn, you are so skinny. I am so jealous." What am I supposed to say to that? Thank you? I honestly don't understand how people find it acceptable to put someone on the spot like that. Yea, maybe if I was always working out and ate healthy all the time I would be proud. But I don't, and I'm not. I also have not filled out. I'm honestly wondering if I ever will. I am thin and tall, a beanstalk. No curves to be seen. I think everyone should just be happy with themselves and not worry about being happy with other people.
Xox,
Quinn
P.S. Zoe I think you are beautiful and you should be proud of everything you have (or don't). You are an inspiration to us all.
I feel absoulutley the same I am in my teens I have just started getting boobs(awkward) andi feel like a twig and I am extremely insecure about it I get called anorexic nearly everyday of my life and I absolutely hate it! xxx
I actually get the remarks you did when you were younger. I totally relate to this. A little late to comment haha (just about two years right?) I just started a blog, and I came across yours and love it. You're an inspiration for many. Mind checking out mine? Thanks a bunch :) xo
This post is one of the best I've read. But some people are very stereotypical.
The things you said were very accurate. I also have high metabolism and people look at me like they've seen a ghost sometimes. They ask me, "Why are you so skinny? Oh my god." It's just very disturbing. It's just like asking someone the opposite, like you said. So I definitely, strongly agree by 100% percent. Thanks for telling this to the world.
This post brought tears to my eyes. I feel exactly the same as you. Me and my friends would be talking about sizes and weights and how they need to go on a diet – we are all open about things like that. So, when I say I need to put on weight and express how hard it is to actually put on weight sometimes I feel like they think don't take it the same way. Hopefully one day i'll have a big growth spurt and not be able to feel my own ribs.
your an amazing person stay the way you are and be proud of your self :)
this post is exactly what i think and feel. i am a little taller than you and pretty much the same weight. it gets me so angry when i mention this to my friends and they respond with 'who wouldnt want your height and weight not having to worry about getting fat.' well me actually! comments like that arent compliments, well i dont take them as compliments! people need to be more sensitive to every shape and size
This question is asked to me frequently, but it's why i love zoella so much cause i relate to her. I love her blogs, her vids everything about her! I love a blog you can relate to x x x
I agree Zoe. Im 14 and have a high matabolism just like you. Calling somebody really skinny is just as bad as calling somebody really fat
I completely agree with you Zoe, I am 14 years old and i have a very fast metabolism like you. Calling somebody really skinny is just as offensive as calling somebody really fat.
ZOE!!! I would have to say you are so beautiful regardless of your size, even if you are small because you are quite cute. I feel it fits your personality. Anyway that's not really the point i'm getting at. I wanted to say you are simply amazing and make me feel better about myself every time I read one of your post or watch one of your videos. I think your quite amazing how you are and everything about you makes you the perfect Zoella Sugg :)
I love you bunches!
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You're gorgeous Zoe, be happy with who you are
I'm 5ft4 and weigh a little over 6st I get the same comments as you have, just gotta brush it off and don't let it bother us! x
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I love that you posted this. I am just 16 (i've stopped growing and filling out) I'm 170cm (5'7") and about 60kg, but i have a naturally thin build, but with some weight on me so i have a healthy figure (my thighs and hips aren't great). But this has really changed my perspective on the way others judge and it has taught me to love who i am, even though i'm not perfect. I am who i am, no one is like me: I'm unique. Thanks Zoe <3 love you!
i am on what i would call 'the healthy side of thin' i dont mean that to be disrespectful to anyone. i'm kinda in the middle of thin and fat, pretty much slightly over average average (never did like like BMI tests). the only problem is my chest is larger than most, and i feel super judged when i have to buy larger sized clothes to fit myself in. for the most part what people say doesnt bother me. wheat really gets at me is that my body shape doesnt have a 'size' there are pretty much no clothes made to suit girls like me. all my friends used to be like 'you are so lucky i wish i was that big!!' well you know what i always responded with? 'i wish i was that small' why cant we all just accept we are different and accomidate to everyone without feeling like we're all getting judged?
Zoe, I don't get it. You have a perfect body! And some people including me can't eat whatever they want, and struggle everyday by people calling them fatso, whale, all sorts of horrible names. I'm sad because I can't wear whatever I want because I'm insecure about how I look in them. And I'm scared no boy will ever find me pretty because for most people skinny=perfect, it's sad but it's the world we live in. Some people have to starve themselves to get skinny and make themselves throw up and it's horible, I'm on a diet right now and it's hard being tempted not to eat what I want. Then I see my friends that are skinny and eat more then i do and it's realy hard seeing them so care free about what they eat and then I have to work so hard for it.
Hey Zoella, maybe saw this article a bit late…
i'm french and I took time to read this very interesting article.
I'm a tall 16 teenager who is skinny as well. So I feel so complexed about me. I can't bear to be in swimming costume and go to the beach, it's too difficult for me. I am under my average BMI and i feel so bad when i hear comments about my thinness. One time a boy in my class ask me if I have a disease, isn'it strange and hurtful ?
Anyway, I don't have any forms ( i mean "boobs" or anythings ). So "voilà" I would say that your article and story is completely truth ! People shouldn't denigrate skinny persons, we are as miserable than persons who's "fat".
I expect you will see my comment and thank you !
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I really enjoyed your article Zoe! I had the same problem growing up. Now, my metabolism is slower, and I do need to exercise(not that that matters haha), but I am still on the thin side. My own mother constantly asks me how much I weigh- well I don't know. &i shouldn't have to worry about that as long as I feel content about the way my body is. I think people are more often envious when someone is thin and want to make you feel down because of their own bad feelings about them-self so they reflect that undeservingly back onto you. It's very hurtful& definitely gives you that sinking feeling. if anyone who read this does that, they need to stop. You cannot say that to people especially when you have no sense of their situation. I love this article, thank you for sharing again! ❤️
Je suis dans la même situation que toi, j'ai 14 ans et je suis grande, mais très maigre. Ma meilleure amie est exactement l'opposé de moi, petite et assez "fatty". Elle ne me juge absolument pas, comme je ne la juge jamais, mais au collège lorsque je suis dans les vestiaires, j'entends des fois "Oh, elle est anorexique ? … La pauvre …" mais je ne suis pas ça ! Je mange du "Junky food" quand je veux, je mange à longueur de journée et je suis toujours aussi maigre. J'ai réussi grâce à mon médecin de gagner du poids pour être dans la "norme" à force de manger + de pain, mais physiquement rien n'a changé. Je n'ai pas non plus de "boobies" ou de jolies formes.
Je ne me sens pas spécialement mal, mais je ressent tout à fait ce que tu as vécu. Pleins de personnes me disent "Oh j'aimerai tellement être comme toi !" … Hum, non.
I'm sorry if it's not in English but I'm French and if you want to read this in English you should translate this ^^' I love you so much Zoe, in this post I just feel like you. Bye, ily ♥
~ Jennifer.
Thank you a lot for this post… it just basically explains the whole of me. I eat a whoe lot, but I still don't gain weight, and so now it always gets me into arguments with my parents… I try to make them proud, but I also want to be average… to people who think it's nice being skinny, it's not. It's a whole shitload of crap.
I know I'm way behind on reading this post, but I've only come across it now.
I could not agree more with you on this! I'm constantly being told I am 'too skinny' and I need to eat more, when infact, like you I think my weight is completely normal as I am short and a small build. It upsets me when people make comments because there is nothing I can do about it – I don't lead a strict, health freak diet and I only exercise when I feel like it!
I'm so glad I'm not the only one in this position! :)
I feel like I wrote this blogpost. I recognize myself at 200% (even more than that) in it. I don't know how you succeed to be more selfconfident about your weight and your body. I am 19 years old and I am still not confident with my body. Indeed I am taller than you and skinnier: 92.6 lb for 5ft6.93".
I hope one day I will have the gutts to do and wear anything I want. I hope I'll meet someone like you to chat and share experiences.
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i think calling yourself is sorry but a vain comment some people yes don't like the fact they are skinny. but remembering a lot of people would take that as a compliment yes everyone feels different about there weight and some don't like that it is to small but remembering a lot of people with eating disorders strive for this and when they don't atchevie it hearing others talk of there tiny figure is upsetting. yes this is not your fault but maybe its a good thing to not mention figures for those who cannot deal with people we love reminding us how society is all about it.
Hey zoe! I know this post was a long time ago but im new to your blog and this post really got to me because i can relate to it. Im a little bigger than most people my age(im 13). Im 5'7" and dont know how much i weigh because i dont look at the scale but i know im overweight and i have broad shoulders and big thighs and i really loved this post. Ive always been comfortable with my body but recently people have started to comment on it and when i saw your post it helped lift my spirits. Thank you so much for writing this and i love your blog and youtube channels!! Bye!! :)
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Hey, Zoe!
Your post is so inspiring. I have always adored how you handle the fact that you are genetically skinny in an extremely professional way. Body image is always a hard thing for young girls to deal with, especially with the image the media presents to them. A lot of YouTube Beauty/Fashion gurus are pretty skinny, and this can cause a lot of young viewers to feel pressured to be this skinny. I also like how you explain that it hurts to be called "skinny" as much as it hurts to be called "fat". Many girls deal with this issue on a day to day basis, and with people like you explaining to the world that being skinny is not everything, can make this a much easier thing for girls to handle. Everyone should be proud of the way they look, and know that body fat doesn't define them. Thanks for this inspirational post Zoe!
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I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm 14 years old, am 175cm tall, and weigh 48kg. I'm always told that I am underweight, even when I play games aha. All my friends and everyone I know (even complete strangers) say 'You are soo skinny.' 'How do you eat soo much and not put on any weight' – most mean this as a compliment but they obviously don't realise the damage it is doing on my self esteem. My gym coaches are much worse, 'You are soo skinny I can break you. Go and eat a burger'. Unlike you however, I don't think I'm developing any form of boob aha. So thank you for this post <3 It really made my day :)
im skinny too also because of a "super" metabolism. i try to gain weight but cant and i really hate it . i constantly wear baggy pant and jacket to coverup (i live in a trpoical country so…imagine the heat). my "friend" once said that it was scary and asked if im anorexic, which im not :( this post literally brought tears to my eyes… Love you zoe!!
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my besties of best friend has the same problem you have. super speed metabolism, but she's really optimistic in everything she eats.. and since I'm the opposit, like i'm overweight, she's underweight. and sometimes when we both eat healthy and good and the same things it's like I lose weight and she gains some.
so try to feel optimistic about it and say "I'm going to gain weight" eventhough it may take a while :3
i am just ur opposite…i was born a little too heavy, i had a normal weight during childhood, but when i hit the teens my weight suddenly went over limit…i started feeling insecure all the time and hated standing next to thin girls…however hard i exercised and dieted, i cud not lose weight. i felt hopeless…even now as i write i am 56kg and feel like a broiler animal :(
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Zoe, I hoestly agree so much, but as an "average" weight girl. I feel as if there is no happy medium for me. Honestly, for me, perception is the only thing that is noticed. I am only what other people see, even if I had self-esteem, I would still be a perception.
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People who are 'too skinny' often say that it's exactly the same as being called 'too big', but it's not. And the only reason I have for this is that society has deemed skinny as 'good' and big as 'bad'. Society wants you to be skinny, not average. Being 'too skinny' is only slightly different to 'skinny', whereas 'overweight' is quite different to 'skinny'. So calling someone 'too skinny' is sort of like 'slightly bad' and 'too big' is like 'very bad', at least in the eyes of society. You said that you wish you were a bit bigger. People who ARE overweight wish they were A LOT smaller. Like you said, you can eat all you want and not have to worry. People with slower metabolism don't get this same joy. They HAVE to eat healthily, even if they don't particularly enjoy it, because if they don't, it's much easier for them to get bigger. I know a lot of people won't agree with this, but you really wouldn't understand unless you have been called 'fat' yourself. But apart from that, yes, being called 'too small' and 'too big' are both extremely offensive.
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I just read this post… I totally agree to that! I used to be very skinny, too when I was younger. In 2011 (haha when you wrote that post ;-)) I went to NZ for 3 month and I gained 5 kg (11lb) and I finally had a booty I liked (haha) and hips and I finally looked "like a woman". I was really happy that I gained that weight! Until this year I still got those 5kg on and I was still happy with that but I was unhealthy at the same time. I was weak and didn't have any muscles at all. That's when I decided to do sth so I started doing pilates and eating healthy (you can eat a lot and still be halthy hehe) to gain some muslces (and in that case also to get rid of some of the fat) but I didnt wanna loose weight, just getting fit and healthy. When I told some people they were like: why do you need to do that? you are so skinny anyways…I never really knew what to respond, though it is actually pretty easy: I dont wanna loose weight or I don't wanna get skinnier, I just want to be happy, live healthy and get stronger, what is wrong with that?? So what I am trying to say is, that I really agree with you and I don't know if you have tried that yet, but maybe you could start doing pilates and following a meal plan that will help you gain weight while still eating healthy. Because as you said, you felt tired and miserable by trying to gain weight through eating fast food, so maybe if you eat a lot of proteins and things like that you might gain weight and feel better :) I hope it will help! xx
Thank you for posting this. :) I can completely relate to this article. I always get two reactions from people, either it's "What's your secret? How do you stay so thin?" or "Are you okay? You shouldn't be dieting." Its confusing and infuriating at the same time and I didn't meet anyone who felt the same way as I do until now. :) I've learned to accept the fact that I am beautiful as I am and I don't need to change to fit people's expectations of the 'ideal weight'.
Thank you again and seriously, forget those people. As long as you believe you're beautiful, none of that matters :)
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My own father use to throw insults and criticism at me for being skinny. Wish he never bothered having me. If wanted a fat daughter he should have married a fat woman.
Interesting perspective, I get it from the opposite side of you, being 'overweight'. I was actually into the doctors recently because I know something is wrong with me, and all she seemed to care about was me loosing weight… I have tried recently to just get myself in shape, and forget about weight, if I were you, I'd try it to. I also get out of breath with stairs and know it is not fun, and that isn't a weight issue, no matter what people say.
But the thing I find interesting, is that although you are beautiful, and very skinny, you aren't even as proportionately skinny as a lot of models, which is who a lot of people base beauty on. Hence, if we were all that size, wouldn't everyone wonder if something was wrong with us? Just wrong I think.
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I have a bowel problem too and have taken steroids for about 5 months now. I feel so insecure when I go anywhere. The worst time was when I was going on holiday and the passport control man looked at my picture and said: 'Is this you? You look very different.' The picture was taken before I started steroids and my face was round and fat at the time but he had no right to say that. I know I looked chubbier but it was obvious it was me still. It made me very upset and I continued to have comments about how much I'd changed. The worst part was, for the first 3 or 4 months of taking the steroids I didn't even realise what people were talking about, I hadn't noticed the change myself! Naturally when I found out I was very embarrassed and didn't want anyone else to see my face. I actually secretly stopped taking my steroids for a few weeks because I wanted to go back to my 'normal self'. My mum couldn't believe these people would make me feel this was to go the extremes of risking my illness. Sorry for just rambling about my personal problems, it's just nice to see someone who understands. Zoe that was a great post and I 100% agree.
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I am in exactly the same position you were at school, it's hard but you just have to get on with it. Judging seems to be a way of life now, for whatever reason: 'tall' 'small' 'fat' 'thin'. It's wrong and there needs to be more awareness for this, not just for the negative circulating 'fat' comments but the 'skinny' ones too. We all do it, sometimes not on purpose; but dwelling on the matter won't get you anywhere… walk with your head held high and be you, no matter what anyone says because what they say about you says a lot more about them then you.
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Yes I so agree! I'm a gymnast so I'm not exactly 'skinny' but as part of my gymnastics I do a lot of exercise at home to help me with the gymnastics, and people always say things like 'god who cares' 'you don't need to' or 'you only want to show off' and its really gets me down. Thankyou for this it really helped :) xxx
Thank you so much for writing this post, it makes me feel so much more confident about myself. When I was little I was a normal size, but when I was about 7 everybody seemed to think that being overweight or normal sized was Bad, and so to fit in I started eating less. I have never regretted something so much. I became one of the skinniest and just when I thought I might fit in, people started calling me anorexic, telling me that I should eat more and constantly calling me skinny, I became very self conscious and never talked about my weight. I ignored all comments but sadness and pain just built up inside of me. Since then I have found it almost impossible to gain weight or even grow. I still get comments about my shape and size, but thanks to your posts I can feel better about myself.
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I hate getting bullied because of my weight. Everyone is bootifull and bodysize shouldnt matter as long as you healthy! Love you Zoe, a true Inspiration yo are! xx
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I think there are so many girls who have similar body type as yours in my country, which is Japan,
so I was surprised that you've been asking the same uncomfortable question over and over. It would be tough…
People who ask that question just wish if they also looked like you I think.
Yes, I 100 percent agree with you saying "everyone's different"!
I didn't have any confidence about my appearance (I even hated being Asian), but now I feel comfortable with the way I am. thanks to you! You're really cool.
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all my life i've been called skinny that i'm already used to it, i just hate how comfortable people are when pointing out that someone is skinny. i really want to gain weight but with my fast metabolism its just so hard to do that.
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I'm quite a petite person and recently my bones have become more apparent especially my collar bones despite my eating and physical exercise habits remaining the same. I hate how people can define anorexic as your bones being apparent- it's very insulting. I also hate how people like my mum believe I don't eat when I'm left alone even though I do. It's not something you can always control, especially certain attributes like thigh gaps which some people call disgusting.
I totally understand where you are coming from! I am 5'5" and 105 lbs and it's an awful feeling when people are like "you should eat more" or "are you anorexic?" It makes me feel like I'm unhealthy even though my doctors tell me I'm not! I have always been built like a bean pole. I have awkwardly long limbs (especially my legs!) and sometimes I get embarrassed when I look in the mirror because I think I look like some kind of giant (even though I'm really not that tall). I just wanted to thank you for putting this up because this issue needs to be seen by both points of view! Being skinny is not all it is cracked up to be.
I 100% agree with you! I am also a petite girl and when I was in primary school and now that I am in high school the comments have just gotten worse over time and I don't think people realize how much it actually hurts. It makes people so self conscious about there weight. I don't have an eating disorder and actually eat a lot of food and I think its horrible when someone you hardly know say something about your weight, they have no right to do that and make you feel like you have a problem when you don't.
Today's media plays such a big role in today's society and people especially young people see all these big stars being slim and makes people think it is a good thing. No matter what size you are if you are slim or over weight as long as you feel comfortable then no one should judge you for that.
I think everyone should read this and actually realize that they way they say things can really offend people, even if they do mean it in a nice way it may not seem nice to the other person.
Zoe you are such a beautiful and inspiring person and you should be so proud of how far you have come and who you are! I absolutely love this post and I am honestly so glad that someone has actually said something about this because it is a very big problem! X
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I went through and still go though exactly the same thing. At school the nurse seemed to think I had a problem and everyone had sheets with their medical details and their BMI on the front. We were all holding them waiting to go in and see the doctor and I noticed everyone staring at my sheet. The nurses had highlighted my BMI because it was a little under. I had never been so humiliated and embarrassed. If my BMI had been over would they have highlighted it? NO.
I'm so glad you wrote this, it shows the other side of the story. One people often overlook, thinking that when someone says 'you are sooo skinny, Jealous!!' it is a good thing when all it really does is make people so uncomfortable in their own skin.
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very inspiring posy, i used you to be super thin as a child but now i am a lot less, you have really given me the courage to be proud of my body, and not to feel intimidated by people with a different body shape to me,
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I am 15 now and reading this gave me a lot of hope as you are beautiful! I feel exactly how you felt, it was like you were describing my life! (I know this post is old ;))
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You are very beautiful and your happiness certainly should not depend on weight, so good for you! The one thing I did have a problem with was when you said exercise would make you skinnier. I think this depends on the kind of exercise. I have been lifting weights for about 9 months and have seen my body go through a transformation. You can see my strength (not in a masculine way, a healthy way) however I have not experienced a great fluctuation in my weight. What has happened is that my chub has turned to muscle. I am not saying you need to do this at all! You are super gorg and an incredibly marvelous person! I just wanted to set the record straight that exercise should not be portrayed as a bad thing considering that being active is incredibly great for the body (big or small). Keep on being Zoe <3
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I'm really skinny as well. But, my friends all think they are fat when they are really an average size. We tell them that everyday but they just don't see that. One friend even has become a vegetarian and eats very healthy. I eat crap. Legit. I honestly just have a really high metabolism, like you. The worst thing though is they always compare themselves to me. That makes me feel like I'm the cause of their reasons to think they are fat. I tell them everyday that everybody is different. One of the friends constantly says your so pretty, I wish i was you and all that good stuff. When, honestly it just makes me feel awkward and bad. I'm also extremely tall, which only adds to the problem. They say I weigh 5 pounds more than you and i'm shorter. It's just that im extremely skinny and it is honestly not my fault. I always look at myself and see how scrawny I am and can't help wondering if only I was a pound or 2 heavier. I'm happy with my weight but make other people displeased with their own. It's just a big confusion. But, in conclusion everybody is different. It doesn't matter how skinny, tall, fat, or short it matters how we think of ourselves. Self-esteem is beauty. That's my hypothesis at least.
I get this all the time and it upsets me just as much every time, I'm 5"6ish and weigh about 7st6lb , which i know is underweight and i don't know why everyone feels the need to tell me this, i get told that i don't eat enough, even though like you i eat what i want, when i want, however do have very unusual eating patterns.As well as having a "super metabolism", i dance 3-4 times a week, i would say that i'm lucky with size of my boobs and hips for my size. Another problem with a high metabolism is that my size is either a 4 or 6 meaning it becomes very difficult to shop for and the comments got so bad at one point that i refused to do pe for months on end in fear of simply having to get changed infront of people! we are both in agreement about this!
Well..I am not Slim like you all….I am I am a larger than all of you and I have been called Fat many times
I find that extremely upseting and i feel so damn angry at myslef that i go home and cut…starve my self but nothing really happen i am still a unhealthy person…
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I love reading this blog post, because it's pretty much everything that I am currently experiencing and it's at least a little more comforting to know that there's a chance I will fill out when I'm older. I understand that, just as similar to somebody being called fat, the hurtful comments really stick in your mind. I might start writing a similar post to this Zoe about my experiences, it may help me- yours definitely did so thank you :)
I know! I get called anorexic but I'm not – I'm just naturally thin. And then you try and put on weight… I couldn't have put it better myself. Thank you Zoe :)
I'll be completely honest, I don't agree with some of the things you've said here. In the long run, thin people are are held on a far higher pedestal of worth in society than overweight people. In my opinion, getting told to eat a hamburger or that you need to eat more is nowhere near as upsetting as the stigma larger people experience every day. Of course everyone can have body image issues and no appearance is perfect, but I just don't want to pretend skinny people that constantly get told "I wish I was as skinny as you!" are as inconvenienced as overweight people who get made fun of constantly.
For example, I've had a very slow metabolism my whole life, even as a child when I took like 3 sports. I've always eaten relatively healthy things, always gotten my fruits and vegetables, but I still turned out pretty curvy. And as of now, I'd rather be super skinny and get called anorexic than be this way and have everyone assume I eat fast food every week (which I never do).
I'm not sure if I'm the only one who feels this way, but yeah. That's my two cents. All in all, good post! It's no one's business what your body looks like or how much you weigh.
I get called anorexic on a daily basis, even by my friends! I think it is a stupid question to ask and I agree, you wouldn't just go up and call someone fat…. its just rude….. Love you Zoe, everyday I see you, you make the day 20,000,000,000,000,000x better!
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This post really helped me because I was obsessing over my weight. The first thing I'd do every morning would be to look in the mirror and see if my stomach was 'thin enough'. I knew I wasn't large because people kept saying how skinny I was but it wasn't enough. I still get anxious over it but the fact that you can be so comfortable with your body inspires me to try to do the same so thank you :) x
I think you're right. Commenting on somebodys weight is just NOT acceptable. But today's society thinks that if someone's skinny, it's a good thing… It's just horrible to live in a world like this.:(
How much do you weigh now? If you dont mind me asking…cos I have gone through the same problem as you and I weigh the same as you but im 15 so I still have a lomg way to go anyway I am so proud of you and you are my influence that its okay to be skinny because most people cant help it….like us….ahaha I have like mcdonalds once a week but ohh well I like it…love youu
YOU UNDERSTAND!!!! I'm abnormally tall, which I think is pretty similar, but people tend to a) think its so great to be tall, b) ask me to be at the back all the time and c) ask me why im
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I agree, I am skinny and short.
Recently I was at a friends house with 2 other friends.
I was talking to one about how hurtful it is when someone calls u skinny
And she agreed, however my other friend said sorry
If i ever call u skinny, I mean it as a compliment, I thought that's fine
But also I thought, is it really a compliment….
Very well said and i totally agree! i'm skinny too and a lot of people ask why i'm like that and they always tell me to eat more and take care of my body.
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I absolutely agree. I'm 15 and I'm 5ft7 which is considered tall but I'm quite thin and many people during school would walk up to me and say "Your skinny" and then smile and I'm just thinking"why would you say that" but, I just awkwardly say "thanks". I wish I was bigger and I wish I had a bum and bust but I don't have much at all. Its really annoying. I have huge hands and feet because of my major growth spurts and I wish I could grow tall and wide. My body just isn't proportional (ex. My huge hands and tiny wrists).
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I can relate to this so much. I have always been under weight also not an eating disorder. But I was always very skinny and until the each of 15/16 I didn't gain much weight. In the past 2/3 years I have gained a lot of weight!! I definitely am 15 kilos more then I have been before. I never loved my body and I still don't love it all too much.. it is horrible how people give you a bad look, like they must think we like to be this thin and we should be happy and others are more like we should eat more and do something about our thin bodies. When I was in the first year of primary school the bullying started over how thin I was, it made me hate myself and I didn't feel happy any more. I told my parents and they always said don't worry it will be OK keep you head up. you will get there. Look at me now, I have gained a lot of weight in the past 2/3 years, I have stretch marks and I'm happy about it. I'm still a thin lady but I'm getting happier about my body. That is what everybody should keep in mind though, those who bully you and tell you down all the time are the ones who have the major problems! Zoe I think your body is lovely, it looks great! :)
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I actually have some friends come up to me and say "you're so skinny, I wish I was like you!" I agree with you that it isn't all it's cracked up to be. Having said that, my closer friends understand me when I say I feel uncomfortable in some clothes and that I sometimes get self-conscious when people say the word skinny to me. This is a really helpful blog post so thank you.
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I felt totally the same way. We were measuring ourselves and doing our weight and BMI and whatnot in my science class and I was above 20% below everyone else. I even had less body fat then the really thin girls. There was a girl whose body fat mass or something was at 52 and mine was 22 so she made comments about me being anorexic and freeky and it really upset me especially as I've been going through a tough time recently. She made comments for weeks until I couldnt put up with it any more. I told her to read your blog and I gave her this web address she came in the next day and apologised for what she said! Thanks zoe xxxxxx
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I completey agree with you. I have the same problem except I am a bit chubby.
People sometimes comment on my size( ones that I find offensive) and that brings me down and makes me feel a bit insecure. But after reading this blog post I feel a million times better and I know now those comments won't bring me down.
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I honestly never thought there would be an article I could completely compare to. I really hate it when people say rude stuff. This post is 100% true and 100% amazing. I have a feeling I will turn out like you, and I would be proud to. I really love this post. Thanks Zoe! You don't know how much this helped me. I'm really glad you wrote this because nobody is perfect! I love you, and I hope I turn out as amazing as you. You are one of the only youtubers who has completely changed my life. I am happy to say that! Love you Zoe!!
I have recently watched the video you did on this topic with Louise (a little late I know! Oops!) after watching it I had to find the blog post and give it a read! I have found it very insightful. I wanted to talk about an issue that I have that in some ways is similar to beig called skinny and finding it offensive. Within my friend group I constantly get told I look 'busty' in particular clothing, I do not have a abnormally large bust but I do find it offensive when that is all people have to say to me! It really makes me hate that part of my body, as to me I just feel as though I can't wear certain items of clothing (such as hight necked tops) as I feel too uncomfortable as I can't help thinking about what others think! I have however found both yours and Louise's videos and blogs comforting to read. This has really helped me to be more comfortable in my own skin. Thank you xxx
I was thinking the same thing. It's not okay for people to comment on weight, but I do understand the need for a doctor or someone who wants to help to say something. What if she did have an eating disorder but was too afraid or embarrassed to say something? A nurse or doctor mentioning it could open the lines of communication.
thank you for writing this piece. I am in the exact same shoes as you, and I agree with every word. A woman came up to me in a shop while I was with my two daughters and said "you are very thin." And then went on about how thin I was, in front of my children. A total stranger who doesn't know me, know that I live on good delicious food, I found it completely inappropriate that people feel they have a right to comment on skinny people, it hurts and it is unacceptable.
This is the same for me .,..who said that ' too skinny is horrible ' or 'to fat makes you look bad in clothes ' . I think it is what you as a person thinks , 'oh I love my curvy body in this dress ' or ' this dress shows of my lovely thin body '
I think it might be different in the UK, but I can't count how many times I've been made to feel bad for my size (as someone who is an overweight American). Mind you, I'm 15, and the majority of the comments I'd gotten about my weight happened in childhood, some of them coming from adults. My primary care doctors would always ask me what my favorite food was in sarcastic tones, thinking I'd say french fries or candy. I didn't eat well, but I certainly wasn't packing in the fast food as most people assume when you're an overweight child. Parents didn't know how to censor themselves, either. When I was probably 10 or 11, I was on a carnival ride with one of my friends. This ride was designed to squish the people sitting on the same seat together. I was bigger than she was, but at this point, it couldn't have been by more than 20 or 30 pounds. Her mom quite snarkily suggested that I ride on the inside the second time around so that her daughter didn't get hurt. Her daughter had no problem with the way that we were sitting, and if I remember correctly, she even offered to get on the inside. I should've known that I didn't need to listen to her or her mother's insults (they were both obsessed with weight) as this girl had always bragged about how stick thin she was and told me that I couldn't do the gymnastics that she could because of my chubbier legs. I've always had people in my life who had absolutely no problem making me feel small to boost their self esteem. I'm in a much better environment now and have managed to lose 30 pounds, but for all of those years, I would eat my feelings, much the same way a skinny person trying to put on weight would do. People just don't understand that offensive words won't make an overweight person hop on the treadmill and do a juice cleanse. It's just not the way it works.
I think that everyone needs to stop having an opinion about what everyone else looks like! It's the most awful and destructive type of insult that one could receive to be told that you're 'too skinny' or 'too fat' and too many people are willing to dish it out. Some people even think that they're 'doing you a favor.' I think that a lot of people need to learn some socialization skills!
Nice article. I especially like your vlog. I'm 5ft tall and 100 lbs. Even as an adult it's hard. A little over a year ago I started seriously rock climbing and went from closer to 110 to now being near 100 and freaked out a bit about my weight. Nobody was very sympathetic to my "accidentally losing weight" situation. Yes I'm probably in the best shape of my life. No I don't diet and I was really really self conscious about my size. Lately I've gotten used to it and I like what my body can do physically speaking but damn it's nice to see some sympathy out there.
this one never gets old! Everytime i feel down i read this post. Unfortunately I have been struggling with ED for the best four years. At first i was too fat then when I finally lost weight I was "too skinny" and even "too healthy" for others regarding my habit habits. I have now gained a bunch of weight back being at my highest weight and people are now telling me to lose weight. This is ridiculous. I have finally found out one of the reasons why i gained weight and it's something related to my ovaries. So completely out of control that has nothing to do with being healthy and following a diet. Argh I hate people for caring so much about appearance and making others, like me, feeling like complete s*it!
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I really love this post. Nobody has a right to judge people. Especially when it's only based on their appearance. And especially especially saying it out loud! I think the goal should be that everyone feels happy and comfortable in their own skin, not reaching a stupid number on a scale or the perfect BMI. And whenever you DO want to lose or gain weight there is always as HEALTHY way in doing so. Meaning that you don't have to starve or force eating yourself. But the first step is always to learn to love your body and yourself the way you ate right now. You don't have to be different to be worthy of love. You are perfect the way you are because there's only one of you.
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Its also the same with height aswell, im quite tall around 5 feet 9 (i dont know the units, sorry,) and people say to me 'oh my god, your so tall'. Would you say that to someone shorter than you? No, i dont think so. It makes me feel conscious of my height and even though im quite happy with it, it still makes me feel slightly abnormal.
Sorry about the rant but i think they're similar even though weight is more affecting to people
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I am exactly the same as you! And suffer with the same problem. I'm sixteen and only 5ft and 6 stone, so that means I am not on the same medical 'sentile' as other girls my age. Instead I'm on the same sentile as the average 12/13 year old. I fit a womens size 4 and if I'm lucky I might get a small size 6 garment sometimes, whereas all my friends are anywhere between a size 8-12 in clothes! However I try not to let it get me down! I'm happy and proud to be the way I am. Obviously I have flaws and things I'm not happy about with my body, but what the heck! I dont care anymore as I know there's nothing I can do about it! Plus, all my friends say I'm the perfect height for tall guys, as every tall guy likes a petite girl they can protect! ;) So cyber high-five girlfriend! Here's to not being so-called 'average'! Short and 'skinny' girls unite :D ILY <3 xxx
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I think that so many people comment on skinny peolpe because they think they'll take it as a compliment and they don't understand how hard it may be for those people to put some weight on.
Yes i agree, i used to get this sometimes but sometimes it felt like all the time…people grabbing me by the wrist and showing me the large gap between my wrist and their thumb and middle finger.Luckily i chose to ignore them and say their fingers were just long!haha.Although this was not everyone, most of these people were arrogant and judged people by comparing you to themselves.My friends always supported me and said "you are what you are,it's not looks it's personality"-wise words!
I think you look perfect, whether you're overweight, underweight, average or anything in between. It kills me to see people being bullied because of their weight. I am bullied because of it, and I think that people should back off. I am short and fat, a horrible combo. Because you are small in both ways, you are petite and adorable. I on the other hand, am disgusting and short. At least thats what I am told. On a daily basis. I have never said this in anyway before, but my dad has told me tjis a few times before, most of the times he has been drunk. But not everytime. This has lead me to hate my dad and lose some close friends, including one that I had known since I was three.
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Zoella I understand how you feel completely, i also have a low BMI and am slim. (except im almost 6ft)
People say things like 'you're too skinny' 'eat some cake' etc. and i get so offended by it, even my friends would call me 'skinny bitch'. It isn't nice, and if i try to stand up to them and say that was really offensive, they say that they meant it as a compliment and that i shouldn't complain.
I also think being called anorexic is JUST as offensive and mean as calling someone obese.
Good on you Zoe for writing this and showing people that it is rude to comment on anyone's figure, whether they're curvy or slim. <3
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…and it really hurts my head as well y'know… and then ofcourse you still have to be polite to them even if they just made you feel miserable.
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I 100% agree, I'm super skinny and the matron at my school keeps coming up and squeezing my arms saying 'you go to lunch don't you?' 'Have another biscuit, you need to add to the insulation of your body' 'don't worry about your weight, sometime soon you'll put it all back on…' I hate it, what you say is absolutely true and it was nice to hear it from our side of the story! Thank you so so so much for helping me realise there are other people like me out there, it feels good to know I'm not alone❤️ From Cleo xxxxx
Absolutely agree. I feel the same way
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I'm new to Bloglovin' but I've been a huge fan of Zoella's for awhile now and I just have to comment on the old post. I completely agree with Zoe. I myself have been in her shoes multiple times in my life and still to this day. I have always been skinny. I 20 years old now, I'm 5 ft 6 inches tall and I weigh 108lbs. I have always been called skinny and anorexic and asked if I ever eat anything or I need to get more meat on my bones. I've been called a twig because I look Stick thin. Its not fun. at all. people don't realize that calling someone fat or skinny can have the same affect and it hurts. I have grown to appreciate my body for what it is. I still have my insecurities like everyone else, but Zoe you are absolutely beautiful so don't let anyone take that away from you!!
I completely consider all you said, that skinny problems causing issues of extra-weight, to stop my unhealthy foods usually could possibly get slim skin once i want. fitness
I love this article and i tottaly agree with you Zoe! :)
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I'm tall slim and I eat a lot I'm glad someone is going through the same. One of my friends calls me freakishly skinny but id never thought of it as an insult before
I know exactly how it feels because it happens the same to me. I'm way skinny, went to doctor and nothing helped. I still have no boobs but I'm taking pill for it, it doesn't help… BUT it's making me gaining weight. I'm trying to control it because for me it's perfect I wasn't able to gain weight since I was born but since I gained 10kgs in 2 or 3 months, which is pretty strange in me, I'm looking after my weight. I've been called anorexic, bag of bones, and seriously it made me get panic attacks when I was in front of people or at the beach and I had to get undressed. I still feel like this but now it's the exact opposite: now they call me fat. I don't look fat, and I know that because NOW I'm in a health weight according to my height… But now people, even my own family, call me fat. I don't know where they want to go by saying that. Am I fat, or am I anorexic? Because I don't even know. What I know is that now I'm very happy about my body (except for my little boobs) and I don't care about anything else. I'm doing exercise, keeping fit to be as healthy as I can! And of course, my mum and dad are really happy about it because they have seen me being way skinny for so long even eating like an ordinary teenager. Remember we are all perfect, fat or skinny, and the only thing that matters is that we are happy about it or not x.
such an amazing, powerful post. People forget that everyone has their own stories – we need to be less judgmental of ourselves and others! I really needed to read this, even if for my own reasons <3
I have been 'skinny' all my life. I think it's totally rude and offensive when people think they have the right to ask you why you are the way that you are, can't people just accept you for what you are?!
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Same i agree 100%. i personally am slightly overweight and i have been called fat numerous times and it really hurts. i have also heard people call others skinny and scrawny and i reply to them how would you feel to be called that? shut the hell up!
Zoe, your words mean so much to me and this article especially speaks to me and applies to my life. I adore you and would be so blessed for you or anyone commenting to check out my blog…xx thank you
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Zoe I love this post! I am fourteen years old, and I am probably an average weight, possibly a bit over so I don't personally relate to this post, but I know people who would. I think that everyone should read what you've written because I think a lot of people are oblivious to the fact that what they are saying could actually be hurtful. I think that people shouldn't comment on weight at all, because whether you are thin or wide, tall or short, you are beautiful. Having said that, I think that its whats on the inside that counts.
You are beautiful Zoella, and I know that there are so many people out there who agree with me. And thank you for sharing this with us, it must be difficult because its so personal, so thank you. At the end of every week I will always sit down and watch your videos, because they make me happy :D Its what gets me through the week.
Hi Zoe. I am really worried that my weight doesn’t match my body as I am quite skinny (nobbley knees, boney hips, just yuno..a bit boney), but what I don’t understand is that I weigh 8stone! I don’t feel the need to do much exercise apart from what I do in PE. But I can’t seem to understand why I am fairly skinny but weigh this amount. By the way I am 13. xx
How tall are you? That could be a reason why you feel as though you are fairly slim for your weight.
I am also 13 and quite skinny and weigh 50kg which is aprox 8stone. It really depends on you height or how much muscle you have, i personally do a lot of sport and have quite a lot of muscle and because muscle weighs more than fat, i weigh more than people think i would.
dont wurry gurl u perfect just the weigh you are,
wurds cant bring u down
hi. okay, so i’ve had an Instagram account for a while now, on where i am anonymous so no one knows i’m me. i use it to explain my feelings and let out the emotions and thoughts that i can’t tell anyone in person; but yeah i guess i am one of those quotey accounts. i love going on there and posting and looking through other peoples (like me) posts. However, i have been struck by how negative we all are about ourselves and other people. We are all trying to reach the perfect weight or size; but what is that? What goes through our minds that makes us believe how insecure and so set on it all: the media itself. Most of the time people behave the way the way they think they should and the way they have seen others behave, and sometimes people comment because they are paranoid, paranoid that the person they are talking too will also create the same eating disorder or paranoia, and they would to check and check again that everything is fine. other times people do it to try to get the other person to switch the question and ask them. That last one is me… constantly helping others see better in themselves but hating myself at the same time, with no one to help me. The essence of the media is tricking us and i don’t know what to do… i need someone to ask me for once.
HELLO ZOE!! Everything you have discussed I completely and utterly agree with, it is like you stole those words out of my mouth because that it is what I constantly think. However I am a guy and things work a bit more differently for men that have this issue. I have always been so thin and it hasn’t been easy to live with the constant remarks on my weight from all people including my own parents! You think they wouldn’t care but apperently they do…😒👌. I have been called anorexic and accused of doing drugs by “friends” which really stabs me in the back. As a guy there is a constant feeling to be big and muscular and just to look “manly” in general but it is hard to look and feel like this when it is nearly impossible to gain weight and maintain it. It is quite the struggle you see. So I wish there was just some people in society that would recognise men as feeling this peer pressure to look and feel masculine and the anxiety that comes with it. But I might be ahead of myself. Do you agree with this?
And to the people in the comments you don’t need to change but I completely agree with you if you want to seek change in your appearance because we all should have the right to look like as we please, girl or guy. And thank you zoe for this post and the video you made with Louise, it really helped me in knowing that other people shared these issues. BYE!! 👋👋
Hi Zoe, I’m not skinny (at all haha ) and I worry about my image far too much! I’m trying really hard to lose weight ( by running etc ) but this made me realise how many people who are skinny feel the same way as me – unconvident, insicure etc it’s made me feel like I’m not alone:) thank you xx
Seriously, I bet you are not even that big.
I completely agree with this Zoe, 100%. Well done for standing up against everyone and helping others out with the same thing. This is why your my role model xxxxx
first of all, I wanted to say I completely agree with this article. but I don’t know if it’s because I’m from a different country (I’m french) or for something else, but here no one ever called me names because I was too skinny or anything (1,73m, 50kg). It is true that when I was 14 some boys made fun of me because I had no boobs (and still don’t), but it was only once. It did bothered me a lot back then, but I just know it was because I was such an easy taget to make fun of. Otherwise, people are mostly impresse (well, if they even bother noticing I am skinny) as I can eat as much as I want.
What I want to say is, there will be always people making fun of you, for a reason or an other, but being skinny doesn’t have to be an issue, and personnally I am proud of how I am and accept my body as it is
Hi Zoe,
I am 13, and I past anorexia. I tell you I have very skinny friend Vera. She always want to gain weight and I was jealous that she has so fast metabolism. She is so skinny, so perfect. She is eating more than me even if I am eating normal. (before anorexia and after). And because I want to be like her my restriction started. I weighted (sorry I dont know past tense of word weight :). I dont know english very well) 10s1p and my high is 5´ 7´ or 171cm.
My mom said that: “You wasnt fat, you was pretty skinny.”
Me: “But my friend has faster metabolism than me!”
Mom:” But you are not her!”
But I want to be. So I start with hard sporting, fitness and this whole stuff. I ate less and less and my weight was 7s8p which was BMI: 16.5 for me. I was liing to doctors, parents, granny, auntie that I am fine but I wasnt. I was killing myself and I know hospital is the next step. So I started to eat. I eat pancakes, ice cream, water melon, apples, potatoes….. I started to gain weight. I was so happy cause my bones still looks like I am anorexia girl but I born with it. Now I am happy and healthy ( when I lost weight I lost also period and I colapse for about 4 times plus my breathing was very hard to do that) and I know this is the weight that I should have. Actually it´s 9s0p and my BMI: 19.5. Now I read this and I cried. A lot. I never think about how Vera could feel when I told her skinny skeleton or I want to change with you. I really know how to be skeleton (actually in bad way) and I am telling you. You are not skeleton Zoe. You look healthy and that is that thing that you need to know. I thought that I will be healthy even if I am going to weight so low. But I wasnt. If you feel good with your weight you are fine. And I totally accept your opinion with BMI. It is important when you ´ve got problem like me. But if you are healthy and happy it doesn´t matter how big or how low your BMI is. I know some people just born with fast metabolism and they are very rare. You are very rare Zoe. I love you. :) <3
P.S. I love your book.
P.P.S. I wrote this to you cause this post open my eyes right now. And I past anorexia I could help people who have trouble with loosing weight. I think I was stupid because I could ruined my whole life. Dont do the same wrong that I do.
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Hi Zoe! I am 4 foot 7.5 (every .5 counts :)) and I weight 55.5 lbs. I was born with a growing disorder called Russell Silver Syndrome and I am super short and also super skinny. On my bus ride home from school one day this girl was asking why I was so skinny and if I had an eating disorder. I was upset because it’s not my fault and I try to gain weight just like you did by eating all that crap. I feel like people judge me all the time. Also I’m 13 years old and just starting to show slight a bit of boob (barely anything). I have not yet really grow to much. I have bone hips, super thin legs (I’m very insecure about them) and thin arms. I always feel so small around other people. In pictures I always look so thin and super short compared to my friends. The worst part is that both my parents are really tall ( 5 foot 10 and 6 foot 2 ). I am also a triplet and when I stand next to them I feel like I’m not even the same age as them. Its a terrible feeling. Being so small and fragile limits a ton of sports that I would like to try but my parents don’t want me getting hurt. Also clothing is a big problem. Somethings are so baggy on me. Your blog really helped and I related to you so much!
Hi Zoe,
I am really short and more than a head shorter than most of my friends! I always feel selfconscious because I’m so short and i don’t have any boobs where as most of my friends do.I have been trying to put on lots of weight because my BMI is apparently too low (according to my doctor), but my weight always goes on my hips making my body look uneven. I am saying this as i know that there are other people who are self-conscious about their body need to know that they are beautifull! Thank you so much Zoe for making this post! I think it is really nice to know that you when through the tough times as well as many of other people!
Thanks again, Pinky, xx( Im 13)
P.s- keep a look out for a letter that i am about to send you!
Hi Zoe, me and one of my very best friends feel the exact same way all the time. Some comments are really nice but calling some one skinny is an insult. Finally some one feels the same as what we have been saying through the whole of high school. 😊 xxxx
Hi Zoe, I just wanted to say I understand most of what you say I’m 13 and just entered year 9 I’m 5ft5-6 and I weigh 7st and a bit, to me honesty hips are slightly wider than some other skinny girls but not much because I have quite a small waist I have different weight proportions to though my thighs and legs have a nice is curve shape and thin ankles, sadly I have shortish legs and a longish torso. Because I’m mixed race I have naturally light tan skin and curly hair but I still have long piano hands, I have a strong super metabolisms and I get offended slot when some girls try to pinch skin on my back then say I need to gain weight… It’s my life and you inspire me to look at myself and say “I’m okay” I might have smaller boob’s than my friends and I’m in a situation where I don’t fit in an A but a B cup is slightly to big I have a bubble butt and people always say they envy me… But I always say if I could I would swap because you’re perfect and trust me your gonna miss it. (σ≧▽≦)σ
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I promise you’re very healthy. You’re only 13 which means you have a lot more growing and developing to do so you will get curves don’t worry(I weighed exactly the same at your age) I now weigh 7.11 stone but I’m a lot shorter than you and 17 but trust me you are very healthy :) xx
Hi Zoe I’m 15 years old and I have a low BMI and I’m so glad to hear someone knows how I feel in class the boys call out who has the figure of a twig and then look at me and laugh and the same as you I probably eat more rubbish than most people I am 5.8 and I have long legs so it looks worse! Today one of the boys pushed another one of his friends into me and I bump my head they don’t realise that I am much weaker than them and it realy hurt I wanted to cry! But I just want to say thank you for helping me to reply to them horrible questions and I adore your blog and YouTube channels xxxx
I know you’re unlikely to see this, but I wanted to sincerely thank you for this post an the video you made on the subject. I’m 15 and going through the same thing. I’ve always been super slim. I’m 5’4, and tiny everywhere. I can never find shoes that fit (I finally was able to get my first pair of heels, but had to put things in them so they wouldn’t slip off) and clothes shopping is awful. Thankfully, my mom knows how to alter clothing.
But the things people have said to me ring in my ears every time I look in the mirror or wear a swimsuit. When people imply, or even just plain ask if I’m anorexic, it hurts more than they seem to think. I mean I get that they mean well, but it’s uncomfortable and just confirms how I think I look to others. I’m beginning to fill out a tiny bit, but my body is certainly taking its time. Reassurance that I will fill out, knowing I’m not alone, and a reminder that everyone is built differently is extremely helpful. :)
OMG!!!!!! I get the same questions from people and feel the same way xxx
Me too! Sadly, the people don’t think before they speak. Hopefully that changes soon. Every size is the right size, if you’re not dealing with some health issues. Have a nice day, ladies! ;)
Hi Zoe, I am 15 and I get asked this question by many people…including one of my so called “best friends” who always points out my small bum and boobs by making fun of them constantly. I was a sort of chubby child when I was in primary, not over weight but slightly bigger than most of the girls in my class. When I moved to secondary school I had a growth spurt, like any normal teenage girl would and naturally that ‘chub’ distributed evenly across my body. I was happy with my figure even though my boobs where small and I didn’t have much of a bum. All my friends would say things like “I would love to have your figure” “your figure is amazing” etc. Then when I was 14 I noticed that I started to get a bit more weight on the bottom of my stomach. For some reason this really bothered me so I started to cut down on my portion sizes…unfortunately because I was quite a sporty person and did a lot of exercise (and still am) so I dropped a lot of weight. Luckily my mum and athletics coach noticed because I looked hollow and sickly in the face. I got back on track and fortunately I wasn’t anorexic. Like you, I have a fast metabolism which meant it has been quite difficult to put the weight back on. I am now back to my normal weight but still don’t have big boobs haha. But even though I’m my normal weight and is healthy some people still seem to think I’m under weight, even though my doctor has proven otherwise. It really bothers me when people call me “skinny” because I feel like I’m not ‘womanly.’ Especially now in the media everyone seems to like curvy. I feel like people look at me and think that I don’t look like a girly girl because of my small boobs and bum. It never used to bother me but recently I’ve been self conscious of my appearance because people point things out that I never thought about before. You probably won’t see this but I just wanted you to hear my story and how I can relate to your blog post. No one should have to feel ashamed of their body, whatever shape or size they are! xxxx
PS: your videos always cheer me up when I feel like this :)
same here ;)
Hi Zoe! I just wanted to let you know how inspirational this is to people of all sizes :). I’m on the taller side (5’8″) and I always used to feel uncomfortable with my weight. I don’t weight much for my height (120lbs) but always significantly more than my shorter friends. Reading through this really helped me see everything from a different perspective! Kudos on everything, keep up the good work :)
I love this post because I can totally relate I’m 14 and I’m not even 5 foot yet and I have size 3 feet. Reading this post always makes me happy and makes me realise that I’m not the only one feeling this way and that there are others who are small and slim(not skinny)like me. Thankyou Zoe!!!!! You have made a massive difference in my life and I’m so glad I found your video with Darcy on my recommend section. Love you and never change xxxxx
dear zoe,
i get picked on at school because i am a bit fat i am only 9 years of age i also suffer from anxiety
It’s OK, don’t listen to any of them who insult or pick on you. The only reason they do this is because they are jelous of something you have that they haven’t. There is not an ‘average size’ and therefore it is important that you are who you are don’t try and change that. I hope this helps x
Poor you. I am 11 and I used to have that problem until recently (like November time), but luckily I didn’t get anxiety. But magically, I had a few massive growth spurts: one in May time (I grew two inches in a month), and one in November time (I also grew alot then!) I understand how you feel; it is really horrid. I hope those bullies stop. Now, I am having another growth spurt (it aches my arms so much -even carrying a book hurts them) Just ignore the bullies! They’ll soon stop!!
I feel exactly the same way. I want to really thank you so much for this post as I am 15 nearly 16 and have the height and weight of a 9 to 10 year old (my 10 year old brother is nearly the same height and weight as me!!) My height is 4″10′ and my weight is 6 Stone 3 . When I was younger it didn’t find it so bad, but now being a teenager with all my friends going through puberty, and me well still looking like I’ve just stepped out of primary school it’s very difficult for me. I was very insecure about my body, I never have liked to go swimming or do any sport really because it means that people will have to see me in skin tight clothing or see me in a way i don’t want them to. I also suffer with several health conditions that limit what i can do and how i go about doing day to day activities, these conditions mean that i can’t do certain sports, therfore meaning that i can’t put on weight.
This has really made me feel better about who I am and has made me realise that it’s not how we look, it’s who we are on the inside. 😊 . Thank you again Zoe this has helped me so much. Love you Xxxxx
Hi Zoe, I realise that this is a very old post so I’m a bit late to the discussion but I thought I’d add my two pennies worth anyway. Obviously it is unacceptable for people to cast judgment on anyone based on their physical appearance and I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had such negative experiences in the past. I clearly don’t know the exact circumstances of the interaction, or the tone in which things were said but I do feel perhaps in the case of the nurse you may have taken it the wrong way. As a medical student I have some experience of how health care professionals are taught to handle certain procedures. Rightly or wrongly, we are taught, and the media unfortunately seems to perpetuate, that weight is a sensitive issue that can make some people very uncomfortable. This, coupled with your comment about never weighing yourself, is probably what caused the nurse to react in the way she did. Instead of not weighing yourself because you don’t particularly care, she may have thought that you didn’t want to know so was trying to make you more comfortable about the situation. I have had the exact same thing said to me at the doctors and I’m definitely not “skinny”! I think it’s just one of their routine phrases. In terms of asking about your parents, I think she just wanted to make sure that there was unlikely to be underlying pathology to cause a lower weight, since it could be accounted for by your genetics. Finally, being advised to “keep an eye” on a measurement that is on the borderline of an expected range is not uncommon at all. Whilst you are unlikely to do so, if you happened to suddenly lose enough weight (perhaps through illness) it could have serious knock-on effects, e.g. dampen down your immune system (more prone to getting infections and wounds taking longer to heal), thinning of bones (more brittle and prone to fracture) and even stopping your menstrual cycle/infertility – obviously these are not nice things to happen so it would be almost irresponsible of her not to mention it. I hope this makes you feel a bit better – I wouldn’t take it so personally next time, although I know that’s easier said than done when it’s concerning an issue that you’re/”one is” sensitive about. I’d say, when it comes to size it doesn’t matter what number it is so long as you’re healthy and happy! Anyway sorry for the long comment and thank you to anyone who actually read down this far, I hope you’ve found it useful! Best wishes
OMG! I know just how you feel I am crazy thin and I am literally scared of myself I mean I have Pizza twice a week I eat chicken etc. But I am still stick thin. At least I now Know I am not the only one…
I’m 5’9 and 9st but as soon as I do any exercise I drop down to 8.5st. I’ve been between this 8.5-9st for at least six years now. At the age of 22, I find it hard to believe I’ll ever change. :( Most people don’t say anything but every so often, the same people will comment how I’m not eating enough. At the moment, I’m on a really healthy diet because I was really sick for a while and I also found out I was allergic to a lot of foods. I had hoped that my allergies might have been the reason why I couldn’t put on weight but unfortunately, it didn’t seem to make any difference. Before that however, while I was in school, I drank coke and some form of chocolate every single day. I also went home and had four or five biscuits with tea. Every day. Besides that, I seemed to eat more than any of my friends, yet while I stayed skinny they all got curvier. Sometimes I really hate myself, but other times I try to love the way I am and most likely, will always be. People act like we’re lucky but whenever I go out on nights out with my friends, most of whom would be shorter and usually a size 12-16, they are the ones who get noticed by lads. They’re the type of people that clothes are designed for. So it’s not like there are any advantages to being skinny. I would never comment on someone else’s weight because I know how hurtful it can be. My own brother, who knows me, feels the need to tell me I’m too thin on a regular basis. :'( I too hated swimming in school because everyone would look at me in disgust…actual disgust!
I’m 24 and this is everything I’ve always felt and never known how to put into words. Thanks so much, Zoe! <3
Zoella, I know this is from a while back. But I was watching some of yours and Louise’s old videos. And, I absolutely related to this as well as I’m underweight and I feel very self-conscious because everyone says “You’re so small”, “You’re so skinny”, “Are you anorexic?”. And this to me is offensive and it makes me feel horrible because even my family does it, and tells me that I’m starving myself, when in reality I just have a greatly high metabolism. Let me just tell you that I’m 14, I’m 5’0″ and I only weigh around 83lbs. I don’t really have curves or boobs, nor a “great” bottom. I really try to gain weight though, but whilst I do this I still gain nothing. It feels better knowing I’m not the only one who struggles with this. I am trying to work towards a weight that I’m happy with. Thanks everyone for sharing your stories and showing your support. I hope everyone has a very nice day!
Seriously…. I’m way younger than you and the same height and a similar weight and they say I’m healthy.
I know right? Its so difficult! :( <3
Hi Zoe I think the people that comment on people’s weight are bullies. They judge you by the way people look, and that is really nasty. So you haters just back off, ok.(btw I’m 11)
I think the same being fat. I can’t help it as I am disabled. I have Asperger’s Syndrome (a type of Autism) and I am missing something in my brain that tells us we are full so I over-eat without relising.
You look pretty tho :) <3
Zoe, you are such an inspiration for me. I often feel insecure because of my weight and people at my class often make fun of me for having a skinny body. But I feel way better now because of this post:)<3
Zoe, I know this is a fairly old post, but I really would like to make a comment.
I am 14, and for years I went through exactly the same thing. It was more prominent when I was around 9 or 10. My ribs protruded inches out from my body, I was completely flat chested, and I looked very pale and ill 24-7. My own sister would say things to me like “you look anorexic.” and I didn’t understand why. I also have a very fast metabolism, and I still don’t eat very much- which isn’t by choice, I simply get full very fast.
The kids in my class would throw me around and toss me from person to person, just because I was so tiny. It wasn’t that I didn’t work out either. I was (and still am) a competitive dancer, and I danced around 7 hours a week. I was (and still am) also an intensive ski racer, and trained every weekend from Christmas to March.
I am trying to make a change. I don’t want to get “big”, i want to get fit. I now do upwards of 14 hours a week of very hardcore dancing, and as I already mentioned I am skiing. I am so happy that I’m not just that sickly little girl anymore. I’m tall (i’m 5 foot 7), and still lanky, but I have lean, strong muscles. I’m proud to say that I can challenge every boy in an arm wrestling competition ;).
If you are reading this, I just want to make sure you know how much better I feel about myself now that I am able to call my self strong and powerful. I hope you feel this way as well :)
I know you probably are not going to see this but I can’t help but comment, I have just spent ages reading and rereading this blog and I am amazed that anyone else can feel the way I do. I am the skinniest in my year group and at Primary I used to get bullied about it. I’m 12 and tall for my age too, sometimes I find this even worse because I have to get clothes for thirteen to fourteen year olds and they’re far too baggy. This blog has made me see that I’m not alone and I am so thankful for you putting it on. I have been shopping and my friends always say I have anorexia or diabetes type 3 (which doesn’t even exist) and although they don’t know it but it does hurt.
Can’t thank you enough for this! xx
hi zoe, my name is Ashleigh, im 13 and i live in wiltshire. Im am definitley not underweight, in fact, im a little bit overweight, not that much, i fit into most 13-14 size clothes (childrens size) i dont look that overweight but i certainly am.
There was a time when i was extremely unhappy about it. i was so ashamed i wouldnt go outside, or even get dressed because i just didnt want to look at my body. i was even considering suicide at one point. im very lucky i didnt go ahead with that one, or i wouldnt be here right now, writing this. i used to envy pretty, slim girls so much, and i just thought that being called “skinny” was a compliment.i just thought that skinny=good. fat=bad. i didnt even think about what it must be like for girls that are being called skinny by people like me.there are people experiencing exactly the same things as i did, slim and curvy.
i remember dreaming that if i had 1 wish, it would be to have a flat stomach and look “skinny” i just used to watch your videos all the time just thinking and thinking of ways i could loose weight and look like you. i tried diets, juice cleanses, only eating kale and even starving myself. i starved my self for 9 days only living on 5 pieces of kale a day before i passed out and went into intensive care. i had anorexia. i thought anorexia only happened to “skinny” girls and i thought it couldnt be right. “im not skinny, how could i have anorexia?” i thought. maybe while i was unconscious i had lost weight and become “skinny” but that was not the case. i was exactly the same weight as before. i realised being “skinny” isnt the answer to happiness, being comfortable and proud of your body is.
i still think sometimes i need to loose weight. i even have family telling me i need to. i sometimes think to myself, what even goes through their minds when they say stuff like that? when they know what i put myself through to try and loose weight. they are my family for goodness sake. why do they even care about my weight? why cant they just love me for me? i would understand if they said that to me if i was extremely obese, and had not tried to do anything about it. But i just got so angry i didnt talk to them for 7 months until they apologised. Even my mum once called me obese on my birthday infront of all my friends. i just had enough. i decided to go and live with my dad because he experienced weight issues before, he doesnt mind my weight, that im a little bigger than the other kids. he still loves me unconditionally. Even though i am only young and still exactly the same weight now, i have found my happiness. And if your an unhappy person reading this, if the answer is so simple, stop putting yourself down. why make yourself so unhappy when the answer is easily fixable. you are beautiful no matter what anyone thinks. the only thing that matters is if you love yourself. once you do start to love yourself, you instantly feel better. happiness is different to everyone, you just need to find what yours is. i
if you have read this really long paragraph, then first of all, thank you, and second of all well done. it was really long! i hope you have found my story helpful in anyway, if so, im glad to have helped. there are lots of people suffering the same sort of thing i did, and usually the answer is very simple. Find your own happiness. Love Ashleigh xxxxx
Hi Zoe
I’m super skinny and worry about it quite a lot. One time I was trying on some clothes and I came out to show my friend but she was picking up some more things to try on so I just waited outside the dressing room. While I was waiting a complete stranger came over and said “are you okay”. I didn’t know what she meant but before I had time to reply she said “you should get help”. i just stared at her with my mouth open. I turned around and went into the dressing room. Now I never go into dressing rooms anymore.
Oh Zoe , just read this post for the first time and I can relate to you so much! Family gatherings are terrible. And, once in my 15’s (now I’m 22) I went to the hospital , I don’t remember why exactly, and they measured me. My measures are like yours. So they asked me how I eat, and I said about everything, normal amount, and my mum complemented me saying that I did enjoy lettuce (I do. It’s a family thing) . They sent me to a psychiatrist, with eating disorder suspition. Found out later, because other symptoms, all I ever had that time was mononucleosis. Oh, and the psychiatrist told me , “you’re fine, why did they even sent you here?”.
These days, I think of the amount of food I eat, and the pizzas, burguers and fatty stuff without putting on weight and I kind of feel good about that . But as you say, my skin and organs must be mad at me sometimes. And my female friends hate me.
I reached a point where I feel comfortable about my body, and I do enjoy wearing tiny stuff and having tiny feet, and when people reach me about my weight , I just say to them “metabolism” and “It’s great isn’t it?”
You are beautiful the way you are! In fact, I am soooo jealous of your body. I am 13, (btw, I come from a tall family) and weigh 67kg. I keep going through phases where I say, “Ok, I am going to loose however many kg in however many months.” But then I can’t stop eating fatty foods every now and then. So anyway, you are perfect the way you are, so stay that way xxxx
I was the girl who was slightly above normal weight and everyone wanted to be my size. then i gained 40 pounds and have stretch marks.. everyone says ‘what happened to you?’ i feel ashamed, so i work nights to hide from people.. words like that stick with me.. now i know im not alone.. thank you zoë.
Zoe It’s horrible people can be so inconsiderate..but what you MUST understand is that most people would KILL to have your figure. Being skinny is way more socially acceptable than being fat. That’s why people don’t realize that they may be upsetting you. We have been brainwashed into thinking that skinny=good and fat=bad. So you can always be sure that the people who insult you are just jealous. Really, you are very lucky. Being a bit underweight is NOTHING compared to being fat.
Not trying to be offensive, but being underweight is not healthy. I went through a eating disorder and I’m still really skinny and bony from it. Everyone goes “oh you have such a great figure I’m so jealous!” It’s not like that.
Being underweight is actually really stressful :(
i totally agree! X
No. Just, no. Being skinny is NEVER that socially acceptable. On which part, exactly? Looking like a sick person? Having said that you’re malnourished, while you’re eating like crazy? Being seen like some pathetic person with eating disorder or anorexic? Getting comments like, “What’s interesting from you? You have no assets whatsoever”? I wanna know how far exactly that “we” has been brainwashed to think that being skinny is “good”. To the point where “skinny” means “super models”? Seriously? I’ve been skinny my whole life and people have never said anything good on that, except the ones who are just being pointlessly envious or jealous. So, what I can never understand is why the hell that most people would literally kill to have a figure like mine? Even if it’s being “a bit” underweight, still, it is as wrong and unhealthy as being overweight. You’re just being seen to have problems on your diet or way of eating.
Yes, overweight is not good, but so is underweight. As a skinny person, I think being fairly curvy and looking well-fed are way more better. And that’s what deserves to be called “lucky”. Why would people love to see a bony and flat underweight person, while a person with enough fats on their body would look more healthy (nutrition-wise), nourished, and alive? I understand that people who said I’m lucky to be never gotten fat are just jealous. But, really, jealous to what? My body figure, or the fact that I can eat anything I want without caring about my weight? No, you MUST understand this: every time I eat a lot, I feel sad because it just does nothing to my body. I always care A LOT about my weight whenever I eat: does this meal has enough calories, have I already get enough calories today, or how many more will I have to eat?
I’ve dedicated so much money for more meals and bigger portions, weight-gaining diet programs, and etc, but nothing happened. While people who think that they’re fat busy working on things that are actually able to work on their body–like figuring out what to and not to eat, what body exercises to do–I have nothing to do to fix my body! People have been telling me to eat and sleep more, and I do (did and have done), but nothing happened. So, yes, it’s really stressful and, no, it cannot to be underestimated as “NOTHING” compared to being fat. Believe me, it’s EVERYTHING. You name it: being called names, yes; being insecure of your appearance (as simple as while so-called “fat” people have chubby cheeks, us skinny people have sunken cheeks), yes; having difficulties with outfits (like even small-sized outfits look over-sized and no to outfits that show so much skin), yes; hating yourself to look at body scales or mirrors, yes.
Be grateful even if you have fats, because, trust me, you can work on that and that’s the way you will have the control on your body. Most of us skinny people have NOTHING to work on and therefore almost can do nothing about our body. And that’s sad. And saying the things that you’ve said is just making it worse, sorry. Thinking “skinny” is “good” is just plainly stupid. For girls out there thinking that they’re fat just because they have those bits of fat on the hips, arms, upper thighs, or butt… just thank God that you’re gonna have to work only on those parts, while us skinny people have to figure how to work on our whole freaking body.
I’m not even fat but I’m so heavy. Its soooooo annoying!
Hi Zoe, I am going through exactly what you have been through. I don’t have any friends because of my skinniness ( don’t know if that’s a word). Constantly having people ring in your ear ”why do you nearly look like a skeleton” ”Are you anorexic?” ”do you have an eating disorder?” Every day I would go home and cry, cry and cry because of my appearance. I am 15 now and still have no hips or boobies. And for me to got to school and be stared at and whispered about is a really hard thing. Even if I eat a burger king, KFC or McDonalds I stay skinny, and I know it is good to be skinny but not as skinny as me. Especially because I have scared kidneys I have to got to hospital 24/7 and even the nurses and doctors say ”are you really that skinny?” ”your bones stick out” it’s not nice to have that as your life. You should not be treated like dirt because of your appearance. To have negative experiences now is Crap but as I get older I hope to sprout boobies and get hips and also friends :).
You’re not alone you can always have someone to chat to
Lot’s of hugs
Kat xxx
I to face the same problem, I’m 14 years old and I have such bony wrists, knees, elbows and back. I hate wearing t -shirts as it shows it off, I feel so insecure about it but it’s impossible for me to gain weight. I always get family coming up to me and asking me to eat more. I love eating and it’s all I pretty much do but my mum complains that I need to gain weight. It’s horrible, I’m also very short. If I got £1 every time someone called me small I’d be rich. I mean I guess it’s something I have to live with.
Oh my goodness Zoe! I agree with you 100%. This blog post touches me deep inside because i have always struggled with body image. I’m 14 and I’m quite comfortable in my own skin. But there where some years in my life where i was not comfortable in my own skin at all! I used to wear clothes that would cover every part of my body up. I used to be flat chested and had a “bony bum” as my gran would say. I used to be scared of clothes that would show off how thin i was, and if someone would bring up the topic of being thin, i would some how squeeze my way out of it.
I still struggle with body image today (as does everyone) but i have grown to get somewhat used to it. I’m a bit curvier now, and have hips, i still have a tiny waist and bony bum, and I’m still super skinny. But if i look in the mirror and see all bad things at first, i look closer to try and see the good things. Like i have a thigh gap, and have pretty eyes with long lashes etc.
So if anyone has taken the time to read this, all i have to say is, if at first you only see yourself, look closer because you will soon see how beautiful you really are, and don’t ever try to change your image for society. You do you. <3
Hi Zoe, I know you are probably not going to see this but still…, anyway I’m almost 12 years old and I’m the tallest in my class and I’m not the fittest person in the world now I know most people are going to be like your 11 don’t worry about your weight but I don’t worry about it but I don’t understand why I get called a pig or fattest person alive and I’m not really the biggest person in my class but i think its because I have hit puberty early and it annoys me that the boys don’t get picked on for weight its just the girls. if anyone else has some advise please reply xxx
im not saying u r chubby but i found when i hit puberty i had a huge growth spurt and lost weight, but with some ppl its different my advise is just to quit snacking (to an extent) but don’t take it personally it reflects on them more than u xx
I absolutely love this post, I’m skinny and I eat a lot, yet my friends stepmum thinks it’s okay to say I have an eating disorder?! I most certainly don’t, I eat more food than all of my friends, it’s just silly how people think that calling people anorexic is an okay thing.
Zoe, I’m 13 and I’m so glad I’m not the only one. Everyday people ask me why am I so skinny and when I’m eating where does it all go. People don’t release how much it hurts when they comment on my body and because of this I have some anxiety about what I look like. I feel different from others especially in dance.
Thank you for writing about this it has inspired me and it was great knowing that I’m not the only one, there’s other people like me.
It would be really good if you could do a video on this.
-Ocean
Hi Zoë
I’m Carmen and live in the Netherlands. I’m 158 cm and thats is a thing that i really dont like. What i also dont like is that i have got short legs and thick upper legs but since i was young i always have these legs. My upper body is just normal but the thing is people think that I’m fat and i hate that because i know that that Is not richt. I’m running and i watch my food ( i’m also rating fat things domeinen ) .People draw to quickly aan opinion and nowadays by the internet we have “rules” for the perfect body. For example: you need a big ass, big boobs, skinny long legs. I think that the internet is just make us uncertain but we make each other also certain. And how cliché this sounds we need to accept each other for inner. Every single person is built different, i have got short legs, thick upper legs, skinny upper body. But you got skinny legs and all those things and i think thats beauty starts with to accept yourself and let the world know that they are need to accept you like how you are. Zoë i also want to say keep up with YouTube, i love your videos.
Lots of love from The Netherlands
Xoxo Carmen
i am the same as u carmen and i completely agree xx :)
I agree with you. It’s the society and Internet that makes these ‘rules’.
I do not have the same thing, but I have gone through a pretty hard time with weight. When I was in primary 6, my belly inflated. The rest of me was skinny, but my stomach seems to have grown. I was embarrassed and went through an eating disorder. I would eat almost nothing throughout the day. But the worrying thing is, I’m moving on to high school now, and it hasn’t gotten much better. My stomach has caved in completely and you can see my ribs. My best friend is really jealous and says she wishes she was more like me. I don’t agree and find this torture. I’m filling out a little more and eating more often, but my body hasn’t recovered yet.
A TIP FOR ANYONE WITH EATING DISORDERS:
I find that taking lots of snacks I love around with me encourages me to eat more. I take relatively healthy (but very tasty) snacks around, eat one, and find that I really want more. Just remember to limit yourself or you will got obese.
I understand how awful being skinny can be.I am so skinny and I really hate it.One day,I was at school and my teacher started asking me things like ”Why are you so skinny?” ” What do you usually it?” ”Have you been anorexic?” and then my friends started talking about how skinny i am like ”Wow you’re right”.
I am 15 and I am afraid of going to the beach because bikinis look weird on my body because of how skinny I am.
This blog really helped me realize that it doesn’t matter how I am if I am healthy.And I do feel healthy.
don’t worry that ppl judge u, they can think what they want. you are at your prime age and when ur like 35 u will think ‘i wish i wore that bikini’ cuz I am and was perfect the way am am. x
Omg this is the same as me I’m 13 and I’m asking myself all these questions X
i am also facing the same situation even worse than your case zoella. i am 23 year old .i never attend any party because i feel people will look at me they will comment on me.they will say bad things about my body (as am very thin)i and actually they do all the time . i have tried all the time all the things required to gain weight but all in vain . this issue spoiled my career. every night i dream one day this will change but it is not happening. know i have only one option left in the bank to die die and die ……………….i will commit suicide . i got nothing in the world . no reason to live more….
I feel you so much. Im 21.
I’ve always been slightly above average on weight and I have been bullied about it so much…I would rather be skinny and self conscious because I was skinny than fat…Zoe you are so lucky, your gorgeous, your like a model…id give anything to look like you, you look amazing in all the clothes you try on/wear whereas when I try something on and I think it looks bad I literally break down and cry so much about it..I just want to be skinny, i know I’m not obese but I’d rather be anorexic than how I am…I have tried almost everything, like you but opposite, I want to lose it so badly I could die…I often think if I had 3 wishes I would wish to be skinny and beautiful first. Then I’d wish to stop poverty and so on…I don’t even know why I’m posting this comment, but whatever you probably won’t read it but if you do, if anyone does, just know that your absolutely beautiful inside and out..no matter what: Zoe you should be grateful for your incredible beauty, talent and personality as should everyone else🙂 Ps: love girl online-I can really relate to penny xx
Bella 13
I’m sure your beautiful the way you are, its not fun being under weight or over weight, but you CAN rock you! If your skinny, take advantage of it and be happy, if you a bit on the bigger side, trust me, LOTS of people love that, as long as YOU are confide t!! <3
thanks so much you’ve really helped! xx <3
I’m 13 I’m 5’3 and I’m almost 9 stone. I feel so fat
I get called names like sheet of paper ( I’m also super pale) and pancake. 😞
I totally agree Zoe! It’s so rude when people call you skinny! I have been ‘skinny’ all my life and no matter what I do, putting on weight is a major mission. It just doesn’t go on. If I get sick (like the summer I got a wicked stomach bug and lost 4kg) it takes months to get anywhere near where I was. My Mum is the same, my daughter is the same. If we all just stopped commenting on other people’s weight, the world would be much nicer! Such a great post from a perspective that isn’t often talked about (My daughter and I LOVE watching Zoella and ‘Zalfie’ videos. Thank you for making the world a friendlier and more positive place )
i am 15 and 5ft 1 and this happens on a daily basis that even teachers say stuff now.I swear they think im anorexic but i eat probably more than most people, i have never been on a diet and i don’t even have a scale in my house! i went on a school trip and the teacher kept saying “OMG i have never seen a waist that tiny” like in a concerned way! Then the teachers assistant came up to me and started saying “Lets hope you don’t faint on us” and when i asked why I would faint, she just replied with “because you know, when you don’t eat enough you faint” and i was just like oh shut the f up i eat perfectly fine thank you! then over the next few days she kept coming up to me to check if i was eating and said, “if you need any more food there’s a sad bar over there” and when i said no im fine because hell no i dont eat like a rabbit, she said “this is why you are so small” OMFG how in the world is the acceptable! You don’t go up to a fat person and say “this is why you are so fat!” Like wtf! then why i always go to my friends house they always say omfg you’re so skinny” or “skinny bitch” or if the are complaining about their body and i say something they just say “you can’t complain you are skinny” or “don’t stand right next to me, you’re making me look fat” im just like OH sorry that i’m your friend and want to stand next to you! ugh it’s so infuriating
I’m 13 and I’m 5ft5 and weigh 6stone12. My hip bones stick out and so do my ribs and also my shoulder blades. I’ve been trying to put on weight for the past 5-6 weeks but nothing’s happened. I am fairly tall and have size 6-6.5 feet. I would really want to talk about it with my friends but I don’t want it to seem like I’m bragging about being skinny. The thing is I eat more than most of my family. I just wanted to tell you your not alone and I would love to have a figure like yours xxxx
Hi Zoe! I’ve been a fan of yours for about 1-2 years, and I’ve read this post many, many, times but never had the courage to comment something. I am a 12 year old girl (turning 13 soon) and I am 5’4″ (pretty tall for my age) I am currently going through a growth spurt and I am estimated to be around 5’8″ when i am a full grown adult. Right now I weigh 124 lbs (8.85 stones approx.) and I have a lot of fat around my middle area. I am working out, and I do try to ration my food. However, sometimes I get a bit carried away and cannot stop myself, it is like my body takes control, not my brain (which is telling me “you’re too fat, stop eating you pig”) but I just cannot seem to stop. Everywhere else I am pretty normal, my breasts are not too big, and my legs are pretty normal sized, but it is a big problem. I hate looking at myself in the mirror and I try to suck in my stomach when wearing skin tight dresses. When i do this i look fine but it is very painful. Sometimes in the night I have to cry myself to sleep since i hate my body so much. no one at school makes fun of me because i am constantly being conscious of my body and trying to hide myself. What’s worse is that my whole family is skinny, except for my cousin so she is the only one who understands my struggle. if anyone out there in the comment section, please offer any advice by replying to my comment thanks so much :)
I know what you mean because I always used to be skinny but when I was about 12 or 13 I started putting on weight (I’m 15 now). I’m now 5’5″ and about 130 pounds. All of my family are skinny, especially my cousins(one’s 14 and about 90 pounds- but she’s quite short- 5′ ish). As you’re still growing, I would say that what helps me most is to not focus on your weight too much, be aware of it and still do exercise you enjoy. If something goes a bit wrong, and it does for everyone, you’re definitely not alone, just try not to worry about it too much and try to move on. Remember everyone has bad days and you just need to try to keep going even if you think nothing will ever get better(I promise, I’ve definitely been there). You’re completely normal, and a lot of people gain weight at about your age. But the most important thing is to look more at the big picture, even if it seems difficult. Don’t get too strict about food as it usually makes you end up eating loads of unhealthy stuff- believe me, no skinny people spend their whole life eating salad, even if they look like they do!
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I’m 12, 5ft 5 and battling anorexia, I used to be bullied because I was overweight. Now people call me skinny, boney and other things. Anorexia always gets in my head and tells me they are compliments. I wish I hadn’t got this far with my eating disorder. Xx
I am 13 and weigh 35 kg ( 5 stone ) but im 5 foot 1 and so I guess im just small. I eat the same as everyone else I guess I just do a lot of exercise but idk^.^
Hey Zoe. I only read this recently after watching your video with Louise and it made me think about how I often want to be, as you put it, of average size. I am basically the opposite to you in the fact that instead of being slimmer than most people, (Sorry, I put that as nicely as possible) I am larger and people seem to think that being even a tiny bit larger than someone makes them think that it is acceptable to ask them why they are the size they are. I always try to ignore them and just accept this but when even people that you’ve known for a while subtly hint for you to exercise, it gets really hard. In my opinion, every size is the right size and it doesn’t matter! Does anyone have any advice?
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I’m 5’7, weight 111 pounds and i’m 13. Being tall and skinny makes you look even skinnier, and i get 5 people a day asking “are you ill?” “do you need help?” “have you gone to the doctor?” and i’m tired of that. I’m reaaally thankful for this post because I finally feel like someone gets it. My metabolism is super high also and i’m currently on a diet to gain weight (not working though, hehe), I also have really bad knee problems as I dont workout bc that would make me even skinnier.
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I am almost 13 (so I am 12). This firstly may seem ridiculous to be saying this as I am not even a teenager yet but I look at other girls in my year (year 8) and they are developing so much faster than me. My best friend (who I will not mention) is pretty mature (physically) and I’m not as much, sure I do have the ‘padding’ but I barely need it. Is this different for all girls? because I feel like a 10 year old compared to others…this is probably me being ridiculous but does anyone else see where I’m coming from? Let me know xx -Izzy
I’m 13, around 5 feet tall and 5.0-5.1 stone (about 32-33 kg) I eat everything, I’ve tried to gain weight but NOTHING works!
Hi Zoe!
I love this post! I think you are absolutely right, people just view other people in such weird ways. I think it’s also really important for people to realise that different people develop in different ways and at different times. When I was little I was really really sick and my immune system was terrible, I would just get over one bug and then come down with something else even worse straight away. At the worst point, I had the flu, glandular fever, and toxoplasmosis at the same time. I was admitted to hospital and placed in a room of my own so that I wouldn’t infect anyone else. I had a terrible fever the first night in and my body started heating up so much that my brain started to heat up too. The first (and only thank god!) part was the bit that controlled my eyes. I sat up in the bed and I was having some kind of optical seizure. It didn’t get any worse than that but my immune system took years to recover and I was on nutrition supplements for a several months. Since then my immune system has completely recovered and I barely get sick. A few months ago, I went to the doctor (because of something that was going on with my lungs (prechordial catch syndrome)) and they did a bone age scan. Turns out my development and growth is 2 years behind the average. I have really noticed the difference. All my friends are C and D cups and have hips and butts and are tall, but I fit in-between an A cup and a B cup, I have no hips or butt, and I am quite a bit shorter. It is a really weird feeling but that’s just who I am and my body will develop when it is ready. You are so incredible to speak out about a stereotype that people often don’t realise is there. Thank you!
From Holly
Hi zoe I have come from your youtube curious about your blogs. I am nearly 14 and have the same trouble you did… recently I have been going through a time of just feeling horrible as I cant put on weight eith as I also have a high metabolism. I do a lot of exercise but have a very balanced diet. Thank you soo much this has shown me it is okay to be skinny and other people are/ have been in the same boat. Thanks I love ur product and youtube, you are inspiring <3
I am 12 3/4 yrs but I’m quite small (round 5ft) and I weigh about 6stone. Is that normal ? Xxx
Not sure if you know this but bmi is actually quite important for doctors. It helps them know the overall fitness of a patient and the risk of developing chronic diseases later on in life. So BMI is actually quite an important thing and should exist.
Hi Zoe I felt the exact same as you a couple of years ago I would eat so much crap just to try and gain weight I remember I was wearing a skirt one day and a girl came up to me and said your legs are so skinny it looks creepy……. I spirelled after that and after reading this post it has made me feel so much better and that I’m not alone. Usually people will talk about being overweight and I feel being skinny is not talked about to much so thank you so much xx
Hi Zoe, this post has really helped me to know that you have the same ‘problem’ as me and that i am not alone. (I think you also mentioned it in a vlog which was also great!)
I have the same problem as you… I am 14 going on 15 this year and throughout my whole life I have been in the ‘underweight’ category for BMI. I am 166cm and 48 kg which gives me a BMI of 17.4. People, doctors, strangers, EVEN my aunt have commented on my weight, normally saying that I am just skin and bones or need to put some meat on my bones which makes me very uncomfortable and can get to me sometimes. I play basketball but to maintain a bigger size/weight I eat chocolate most days which cannot be good for me. I feel that if i stop people will just comment more.
How did you become sort of comfortable with your weight?
Anyway love you Zoe!
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Thanks for writing this!
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hi zoe I’m sorry this is really late. I’m a huge fan of yours and just came across this post now for some reason :) I loved what you said. Youre perfect just the way you are no matter who big or small someone is no one should be commenting on someones appearance . Even though I say people should love themselves and that everyones beautiful just the way they are I hate My self and my body. I’m a 13 year old girl and I’m always being commented on my height which I’m around the average height I think ;) I’m also always being commented on my nose shape since the beginning of high school my nose has always been small and button shaped then all of a sudden 3/4 of the way through year 7 my nose got bigger and the shape changed. I also hate my weight. No one ever comments about my weight except from my grandma , she makes me feel like a piece of worthless shit. I’ve recently tried to lose weight but I just gave up I am a bit fit I can almost sprint 1 lap of my school field wich is over 8000 M and I can do press-ups for a long time but I just gave up. I’m also very so self conscious, whenever I get changed in the PE rooms I just suck a bit in. I always have a tiny bit of 0% fat yogurt and berrys for breakfast every morning and just a sandwich for lunch then something for dinner of course all at different times of day. I just hate myself MY friends now normally go to the gym but my parents cant afford to get me gym membership or anything especially as my mum has lost her job :( but I really want to go . I’ve been wearing make up such as foundation consealers etc. since 10 or 11 because I hate my face and skin sometimes I wish to be a different person or choose how I look but thatll never happen. I try to do youtube because it sort of calms me a bit , but I’m just worried of comments like the ones in the past on my oldest youtube channel where I was tolled by some retard I looked like a pinecone and smelt like doritos cause I eat them all day even though I don’t ever norally eat them , I just suppose I wasn’t prepared for such comments as I was 10 at that time . Sometimes I dream of meeting you and I get your phone number and we become bestfriends and one day I’m a youtuber but then ill be told I’m copying you and Tanya burr and other beauty bloggers. I love you soooo much Its my dream to meet you , Alfie , Tanya , jim , joe, Marcus , everyone!!!! oh and Nala ! :)
hey zoee im actually super over/under weightand i dont know wat 2 do!!!!!! SHOULD I GO TO DOCTOR ??? OR SURGEON??? IDK HELPP PLZZ
hey zoee im actually super over/under weightand i dont know wat 2 do!!!!!! SHOULD I GO TO DOCTOR ??? OR SURGEON??? IDK HELPP PLZZ https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/36d71bba4c2561cf76cb6db896d2df76bbed11bcaf33dd7882ccae2757062fb9.jpg
I’m
so happy that someone has same opinions as me. You really made my day. I
am also skinny and was bullied in kindergarten (yes) and my whole life I
was called too skinny and anorexic, of course stupid insults like
stick, skeleton etc. It broke me as a person because it started at very
young age (the time your personality is developing), as I said, in
stupid kindergarten. And even now some people are telling me those
things. I gained some weight but it was very hard and I’m still skinny.
Sometimes I feel good about myself even though my childhood had the
worst impact possible on me because of mean kids. Now, people who are
suppose to be smart enough to not say everything they have in their
mind, are telling me things like: “Oh, you are so skinny!” Whaaaat,
really? Because I don’t see my fu**ing self in mirror. It IS extremely
insulting and I can’t understand that someone doesn’t see it the same
way as an insult aimed at fat people. It is the same hurting feeling and
it’s absolutely inappropriate. And what makes me angry the most is,
that someone thinks I am ill. Or I will be in future because of my
weight, even though I know I’m healthy and if there will be day when I’m
not healthy, it’s because I eat junk food! And I love it! Yes! I love
food, I love eating, I love McDonald’s. Get over my weight. I don’t get
why some people ALWAYS have to say something about my skinny body. For
some reason it’s not enough to say something once. I know that they are
not trying to hurt me (not everyone) but they are fu**ing wrong. Even
boyfriend’s mother and grandma said to him they think I can be
potentially ill. That is so hurting. I cried that day he told me. No
matter how I renovate my soul from past and see myself looking okay,
there will be always someone to ruin that fragile wall. Thank you for
reading this. I am a crybaby. Have a nice day everyone and remember, you
are beautiful the way you look. And you look amazing.
Zoella,
In my country, Japan, you are considered as normal. Nobody would call you skinny because many girls are just like you. So i don’t even know why someone tells you you should gain weight, you are pretty much normal.
Only alfie deserves the money earn’t
Hey Zoë, I am so glad I read this. I am 13 years old and everything that you said about yourself when you were younger is exactly the same as me right now! I always get asked why I am so skinny and sometimes even get told by my friends to put some weight on but I really can’t, I also have a very high metabolism, not an eating disorder. So glad to know that I am not the only one xxxxx
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Hey Zoe, i love watching ur vids, i’ve been watching them since 2012 when i was in year 5 and i just wanted 2 say thank you so much 4 writing this!!!!!!!!!!! In year primary i was realllllyyyyy skinny (still am) and ppl always commented on me saying why u so skinny? why are you so boney? and i didnt know how to respond and ppl wasnt say it much until i moved to secondary. Now im in secondary, 14 years old and ppl are always making fun of me and it hurts. They compare me wiv others who apparently look more “sexier” since i dont have much of a boob or butt thing going on. Especially the guys around me who judge me alot!!! They make fun of my fingers on how boney and granny like they look and say i look like a stick and so on. I am very underweight and it sucks. My arms are super skinny, bones stick out on parts of my body, my legs doesnt have enough flesh, my body doesnt have any “shape” but what u have written made me feel different. I have been watching ur makeup videos and vlogs 4 so long and always seen u as perfect. I never knew u struggled 2 put on weight i mean i know u had anxiety and other problems from watching ur vids and u saying things about urself cuz i have anxiety too which makes everything worse but i realise that no one is perfect and i knew that for a very long time but never really looked into it and believed it. I just want 2 thank you so much Zoe 4 making me smile everytime u make videos and not only that but posting pics on Instagram and u vlogging wiv Alfie, Mark and man other ppl ( not forgetting Nala). You are so kind and seem so happy but i understand now that everyone gets hard times at some point in their life and hate from ppl and within ourselves happen at some points too. I aspire you so much and i hope u r feeling the most happiest person ever!!!!!
Thank you so much Zoe xxx
Love you
By the way im from London ( :
I needed this so bad. I have the same problem and for quite a long time I didn’t like my body as well but for some time now I am really okay being skinny and whenever I get asked the same questions, I really didn’t know what to say so I just laughed it off but it affected me very much but recently I’ve become quite confident about my body and now reading this has made me feel way better than it did before. So thank you for this wonderful point of view of yours. It’s good to know I’m not the only one dealing with this problem and there’s someone like you who inspire so many people like yourself and me. Thank you very much. Love you so much.x
I’m 7 stone and yet I’m only 12!!!!
All of my friends in middle school didn’t appreciate what I looked like. I’m embarrassed to wear a T-shirt or go out swimming. One of them even said, ”She’s an anorexic.” My father kept saying I look like a E.T meaning extra-terrestrial which refers to those aliens scientists have been trying to figure out. According to what he saw online, he call me that because my ribs stuck out from my body, and extremely thin arms. My family has scolded to me about eating more and feel more pride about themselves because they’re ”normal and right”. I afraid it’s getting worst, and the fact I can feel my entire arm bone under my skin. It’s scary to imagine this. Not only is the torture of teasing and bullying is hurting me, I feel as though my immune system and how my body functions are not useful to me anymore.
I believe it’s either genetics or because I was especially picky as a kid.
It’s more than just words, it’s reality.
Also, you can just tell by looking at my profile picture that I’m hideous and ugly just trying to wear a sleeveless dress.
I can tell by your picture that you are beautiful.
I have had, unlike Zoe or other people in these comments, an eating disorder, that at the time I wouldn’t have admitted to be having.
If you still feel that insecure about your weight or what your body looks like and if you want to put on some weight, you could try talking about it to a person with more expertise that could give you good advice on how to get into good shape in a hppy way.
The people around you probably don’t understand how much it means to you, but a lot of people can, I can guarantee.
Living a happy life while eating food as you wish is wonderful, it really is. I can talk from experience as I know how much cutting back from it had me going sad from morning to evening.
My advice, if you’ll take it, is to take example of those people you see that know how to feed themselves happily and use food to live a better life, healthy and content. Whatever you decide to do, make sure tht it wille make you happy not only today but also on the long term.